Muslema Purmul – Interaction With Opposite Sex In Islam
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The speaker discusses the negative impact of social interaction on reputation and reputation on a public level. They explain that while it is not a complete free, it is important to avoid being secluded and not showing up in public. They also mention a recent event where a woman was faced with a shapesholation and her reputation was damaged.
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Also when we're dealing with the opposite gender to that we should
have a reason to interact. It's not a complete free for all that
we lower our gaze from from two things we you lower your gaze when
what you're looking upon is attractive to you, even if the
aura is covered. And you also lower your gaze from the outer
that's uncovered to keep the interaction public, so to make
sure that we're that you're not secluded
in some place, you know, there's sometimes MSA people sister will
be like, Oh, I'll go pick up my books from your apartment. No,
don't do that,
because that, even if it's like, somewhat public, you know, it has,
it has, like, a question mark over it, because there's not, it's not
so public, like this conference is public on campus, at a restaurant
or in the library is public. But sometimes, you know, if you find
yourself, and this is what a sister had mentioned to me, she
was getting notes from her brother, and he was like, Oh yeah,
that's in the trunk of my car. She goes out to the parking lot.
They're the only two people in the parking lot in her university,
because everyone else was gone, and that was, it's technically an
outside space. You didn't technically, you know, break a
brule, but it's one of those things that it's like a, you know,
if we avoid the shubhu hat, we avoid these, the doubtful things.
There should be purposes, right? So we're organizing an event. This
is a purpose to come together around.
We are discussing a chapter that for our Halakha that we're going
to cover together. This is a positive purpose to come around,
even, you know, interacting with one another, saying, you know, how
are you? How's your family? This is all okay, you know, it's Islam
is there's if you look at the interactions of the companions
Pamela, you would find that they're much more fluid and
organic, but you do have this quality of goodwill, that people
know their boundaries when they're talking to each other, and because
it's coming from a place of actual consideration, subhanAllah, that
there's not like, there's not a need to to be so, you know,
scared or paranoid in the interaction, we're scared and
we're paranoid usually because we don't know we're speaking to
people of different backgrounds, and we're so afraid of being
misperceived As too friendly, right? Or I don't want the sister
to think I want to marry her. I don't want the brother to think I
want to marry him, but I just want to ask him, How was your exam, you
know? So
just if you understand the shaniya, you can ask him, How is
your exam, and if you do it with the right intentions, subhanAllah,
I don't this is another thing. I've noticed, even some of the
most shy people, when you deal with them with a good intention
and a good manner, they are welcoming of that interaction, and
they don't feel that someone has invaded their personal space. So
there are certain things in this society that are not
considered shameful or taboo, but in the east, they're considered
shameful and taboo, and those particular things are not
necessarily haram. Okay, so I'll give you an example. In
Afghanistan, the idea of young people going to a cinema was like
the most taboo thing ever. Like it was so taboo, it was so bad. And
in kindergarten, we had a field trip. They wanted to take us, all
the five year olds, to go and watch Pinocchio in the movie
theater. And my mom was like, over my dead body, my five year old
will never step foot in a movie theater watching Pinocchio because
of this, you know, thing that was in Afghanistan. She had in
Afghanistan, it was a completely different scenario. People would
use the dark theater to do bad things, you know. So she just, she
it was a misperception, I guess, of the context. So that was not
necessarily something that was going to ruin my reputation as a
five year old, but there are definitely things that it would
right. So when the Prophet Muhammad SAW was speaking to one
of his wives, and it was dark, and a man is walking one of the
companions is walking by, he actually clarifies to the
companion, this is my wife. And they're like, how could we ever
think anything bad of you? And the Prophet says, because the shaytaan
runs through every vein you know, meaning that even the Prophet
protected his reputation and protected the reputation of his
wife. So sometimes, if you hear your parents say, you have to
protect your reputation, it's not all wrong, because the Prophet SAW
Salam did it. But there are extremes. Sometimes a person can
take that to an extreme where they distort what Islam
is a.