Muslema Purmul – If A Muslim Man Is Serious About You, He Will DO THIS

			If a man is actually serious about
wanting to get married, he will
		

			want to approach your Wali, your
father,
		

			early on in the whole
conversation. And if you find that
		

			he is absolutely hesitant about
that, that step, then he may be a
		

			chit chatter and
		

			ain't nobody got time for chit
chatters, I promise you.
		

			And so what I'll say to you is,
please save yourself a lot of
		

			headache and heartache and time,
and don't even go down that road.
		

			All right. So one is, are you at a
stage where you can get married?
		

			That's very important, obviously.
But the other is, is this person
		

			actually serious about getting
married, or are they just looking
		

			to fill up some time because it's
fun, and this whole idea, let's
		

			just be friends? No,
		

			okay, I'm very serious, and I'm
looking for marriage, and I'm not
		

			interested in just chit chatting,
so make sure that you have you
		

			know, one of the best like
indicators is, okay, can you talk
		

			to my dad and realize talking to
someone's dad doesn't mean you're
		

			gonna do Nikkei the next day in 24
hours, talking to someone's dad is
		

			Just, just means I'm serious about
the intention of marriage. It
		

			doesn't mean that now you you're
coloss, that's it. You're commit.
		

			You're stuck talking to someone.
That doesn't mean you're stuck. It
		

			just means that I am serious about
this process, and that's that mean
		

			we need to reinstitute that, that
you know that that tradition,
		

			please, please, God, let's go back
to that. But we as women have to
		

			kind of have boundaries, not kind
of, we really have to have
		

			boundaries. And men too, brothers
too. A nice indication that one of
		

			the scholars mentioned about our
overall place with Allah, subhanaw
		

			taala, because this is where Hayat
comes from, is when we are making
		

			mistakes in the way we deal with
the creation of Allah and in the
		

			way that we're dealing with Allah
Himself, we actually start to see
		

			prayer and worship as being more
difficult. But when we're dealing
		

			with the creation of Allah,
subhana wa taala, really, from a
		

			paradigm of loving Allah and being
considerate for His creation, then
		

			we yearn to worship. We love to
pray. We love to go to prayer. So
		

			a good sort of overall measurement
of like is the way I'm dealing
		

			with people, okay, is, well, do I
want to love Do I want to worship
		

			my Lord? Do I love the idea that
it's time to pray, or is it
		

			something I'm turning away from,
or I feel like it's heavy right
		

			now, if it's heavy, then maybe
there's something in our behavior
		

			that lacks. Viktor of Allah
subhanahu wa.