Muslema Purmul – How To Forgive And Heal The Past

It's natural for people to experience difficult trials and to

feel their heartbreak in the midst of those trials, especially things

that include,

you know, feeling betrayed by someone else or let down by

someone else. And in these situations, it's easy to be shaped

in a bad way. Someone has a bad marriage experience, then they go

and hate all men, or someone has a bad experience with a woman, and

they start to see all women in a bad way, whatever the case is. And

we ask that Allah doesn't let us walk away from those experiences

scarred and crooked. We want to come back whole and better. This

life was not meant to be easy. Allah Tara mentioned the Quran.

Verily, We created man in toil, in struggle, in trial. You know, this

is something that we expect from this life, but at the same time,

we're supposed to face those struggles and trials with faith

and in such a way that we can walk away from them even gracefully,

with compassion, with becoming a better person, instead of instead

of becoming worse. So the first thing that I want us to think

about in regards to this is to forgive yourself and to forgive

others. And I say to forgive yourself, because sometimes the

problem we think is with others, but in reality, it's a strong

level of discontentment with one's own self

that is nagging the person and causing the person to feel of

pain. So realize that you have the ability to forgive yourself, and

Allah mentions the Quran, to never despair from the mercy of Allah.

Whatever it is that you've done or that you've gone through, don't

despair from his mercy. The other thing is, sometimes the person has

been traumatized by what someone else has done to them.

Forgive them as well. This is the time for forgiveness. And the

Prophet saw him. He told us that if that, if a person ever suffers

an injury from someone else and they forgive that person, then

Allah will raise that person's rank and will forgive that the

forgiver's own sins. So, subhanAllah, your forgiveness is a

reason to be forgiven. Sometimes the problems are bigger than just,

you know, praying and going back to the in terms of worship, but we

actually have to go and get professional help. And

professional help should not be seen as a taboo. It's not seen as

you know you're crazy or something. It's something that you

should see as a means of tezkiyya, of purifying your heart from ills,

purifying your mind from ills. So go and get professional help if

that's the next step for you, if you've experienced something

that's traumatizing or something that you feel would affect you

later on in life, in terms of marriage or family, this is a time

to recover and heal. So go and get professional help. You've taken

the first step by watching a video. And we know the Hadith of

the Prophet Muhammad, saw that someone who takes a step towards

Allah, Allah comes to them in arm's length. And if you go to him

in arm's length. He comes to you a fathoms length. And if you go to

him walking, and he comes to you rushing, so be happy that you've

taken the first step now take the second and third and fourth and

fifth step to really try to recover and heal from whatever

you've experienced, and remember that you're worth it and that

you're not beyond recovery. Don't think I'm so screwed up right now,

nothing can help me. That's not true. It's the shaytan, and it

says West Wasa, you can easily get out of whatever situation that

you're in. You just have to be willing to struggle a little bit

longer, a little bit harder to get through it. You.