Thematic Study of Quran – Surah Nisaa – Class 8

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So someone tells me

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orphans are already well actually let me start properly smilla rahmanir rahim al hamdu Lillah wa Salatu was Salam ala rasulillah. While early he was happy woman while

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someone give us a quick review of when Allah subhanho wa Taala tells us to speak to orphans with mouth off.

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Why does he do that with orphans? Because ensure that the word of mouth off was usually used in relationships and in marriages. Okay, so kids and their parents and their uncles and relatives, and also between husband and wife, Allah says this is the basic principle of all close relationships. But when it came to orphans, the exact same word was used for them,

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and how we should speak and treat them why

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someone talked to me. Why was that so important? When you were dealing or where you were interacting with orphans in particular, should be very obvious.

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should be very obvious.

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No one knows.

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Less says Well, kulula, who column meroofer say to them words of marital.

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In other words, you're supposed to talk to orphans the same way you talk to your own spouses and your own family and relatives.

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Yes, that's the way to treat them. You're supposed to treat these children exactly the way you would treat your own children and your own family and relatives. That's the general basic principle of poor and when you're dealing with kids. So we took from that the benefit was that you don't just treat less fortunate kids this way. But the overall universal lesson for all of us is generally this is the way you treat all children. Our Prophet alayhi salatu salam had a habit of whenever he saw children, he would sometimes play with them. There are narrations of him, he would take kids, I kind of throw them up in the air and catch them be very playful. There are narrations of him even kissing

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children on their head, and making dua for them that Allah protects them from evil eye and things like that. So there was always this natural connection of mercy, respect, kindness, all of those things fall under the principle of mauto

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So far,

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we had started part two

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of Sudeten nissa.

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And part two actually started off with a very harsh, somewhat aggressive verse of the Quran.

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Before we even look at that, what was part one then generally speaking all about insert attendees. Now this is particularly important for the students that have been with us since day one. So, quick recap. We have looked at certain Nisa as being one himself as being one of those sutras where Allah speaks to all of mankind general principles for all of mankind. In what sense? Can anyone share some thought on that? Your hint would be the first a in sort of denisa What were some of the subjects that it captured and addressed?

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Yeah, you oneness, a takota. Back home.

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So somebody asked you, what's this chapter of women all about? Your first response to that will be part one of the entire sorter, which led up to verse 10. So the first 10 verses all were connected. They were intertwined between between one another they, they were all giving somewhat a similar message. What was that?

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Your your clue is the very first verse.

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Someone told me something.

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Anything

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that happened to you guys today? Usually you guys are very responsive. Ah.

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Yes, go ahead.

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Okay, so.

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Uh huh. Okay. So taqwa was a major subject in part one.

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Was it something very generic, or was it a call just to Muslims?

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Yeah, Johann NASS,

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who's allowed talking to

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all of us. So all of mankind, there was a general message to all of mankind, that you all come from the same father,

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Allah, the hakomi, neffs. In wahida, He created you from oneness from one soul, meaning you're all children or sons of Adam, right? You were all part of that same family. That's one of many ways where it kind of denounces any form of racism, tribalism, discrimination, things like that. From that subject, it captured or introduced to us orphans. And part one of this pseudo was all about respect for the orphans. It was about tolerance. It was about

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being very, what's the word responsible, in terms of their wealth, making sure that everything that these orphans had inherited, was actually used, and it belonged to them, that the caregivers of these orphans did not in any way, shape or form, use or abuse any of that wealth. Even if they were using some of that wealth, to care for these orphans. You still had a limitation of how much you could spend on them. So one of the things that we said was one of the verses captured was that if you're going to spend on orphans, didn't you spend the bare minimum that they need and require to you know, achieve the basic necessities for day to day living? Alone? So Adele says,

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in a Latina coluna and Wallonia Tamar volman so no doubt those who consume the wealth of orphans wrongfully in ma Kaduna, feeble totally him now All right, they're only consuming into their stomach. So their bellies, nothing but fire and cast into Satya we said that Satya is the kind of fire that is bursting with flame. Lots of flames very aggressive type of fire. Last question and then we'll start today's journey inshallah. peice Smith.

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This word came in this particular or this first section kosma.

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Allah says what either held load or placement will quarterback Walia Tamar Will my second if they were present at a FISMA whether they be the orphans, whether they be

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the miskeen the needy,

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Allah says to Georgia home, give them a portion. What's all of this about? What's up this man

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huh?

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What was the Christmas all about? So, so think in context now that these orphans, there was some kind of gathering that happened.

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And all the orphans and the poor, they came to this gathering was this gathering all about.

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So these are important, important subjects that are captured only in the suta. You'll never hear FISMA in another surah, for the rest of the horror end. So it's unique to this sort of sort of denisa.

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What's, what was the pixma olive oil? And LS says that all the kids that are there at the FISMA need to get a portion of what's being handed out. So what's this FISMA thing all about?

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It's a division of inheritance, to whom maybe a selected few.

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Yeah, this was just the selected few that gathered, and they were going to get some of the wealth that was rightfully theirs. But the only thing is, Will who was also invited, or who also came, and was part of that get together, or that gathering was some of the poor and the nice, some of the kids who basically had no inheritance and nothing. So they also attended that gathering. What does the law say to do with them? That Allah say, oh, anybody who didn't belong in that gathering? just kicked them out? Be like, oh, you're not supposed to be here out? What did LSA to do?

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You must, must provide something fair and decent for them? Again, they're not even under your care.

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Right? They're not even under your care. They're just random street kids that sort of popped in and be like, well, what's going on here? Oh, my god, they're giving out food. They're giving out money. Wow, okay, let's just stay here, maybe we'll get something.

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Allah says all those kids, yeah, they have a health now, if they come to this FISMA gathering where wealth is divided, they need to and you should, I must give them something, again,

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showing you how important color and pays attention to the needs of children.

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them being your kids or not them being Muslim or not, is completely irrelevant. None of that is talked about here.

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Nothing, nothing to do with their culture, or their background, or their religion is mentioned at all. So there's a general principle that Muslims in particular are getting in the suta, in the introduction of the suta. When it comes to children in America and wherever they may be in whatever circumstance, you and I just by default being people of IE men are required to show a basic level of respect and care to children.

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Okay, so how does that look like in 2019? So let's put aside orphans for a minute because our interaction with orphans is minimal, if not, doesn't even exist. So when we see young kids running around to domesticate or running around in the hallways, right?

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How do we implement some of the principles that are taught to us in the sorta now in a practical way, with kids just all over the place in our homes? And in our messages? What do we do?

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And please don't think about what messages say and do with them.

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Right? Because that that's the reason why we're talking about this. Because usually, it sounds like this doesn't mean kids are running. Where's your parents? Get out of here, go downstairs.

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Or sometimes, dude will pick up the microphone. All these kids here? Where are your parents? Right, none of them are allowed to pray with us or something like that.

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I heard with my own ears once that he met him. Before he started prayer, he heard a child coughing, coughing all the time child was with his dad. And he actually asked the father to remove the kid out of the line.

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So

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what are we supposed to do? How do we practice some of this stuff?

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Respect, does that mean letting them do what they want to do? So we can still enforce rules? Which of course all kids need anyway. Right? How do you do that? So and you still stay within the framework of these verses? How do you do that?

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First of all, our Dean is very clear that children

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are not inherently corrupt, in any way, shape, or form. There are normal, regular day to day human beings that we appreciate that we should respect that we should treat with kindness like our own kids. Why? Because when you're a child, that is the only thing that really speaks loudly and clearly to you. It's not

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Probably instruction, but it's the way that instruction is disseminated to these kids. It's not, maybe they don't get what you're saying. But if you're nice about it, even they don't, they don't have a clue what you're saying, there's a good chance that that kid will do what they'll kind of stand there and listen, even if you'll have to repeat yourself, like 17 times, if you do that, respectively. That's the point, these two are not trying to tell you an AI, how we can keep kids under control.

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It's teaching us how to stay consistent as part of our respect with young children, that you never lose it, you don't lose your cool with kids, even as a parent, you can get frustrated, you can get upset, which you never could allow those feelings or those emotions to lose control. Because when you lose control, then guess what you start seeing and doing things that you know, are fundamentally wrong as a parent, and that always always has its consequences. Always. That's where those like talk shows like Dr. Phil, and all of those guys come out, right? Those troubled kids that come from homes where they can't communicate and can't seem to connect with their mom and dad. And the parents are

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sitting right there on the show. And they're talking back over and literally like cursing one another front of the whole world. So polar n seeks to

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prevent all of that from being born or sprouting in the relationship at a very early age. So to conclude this,

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our attitude with young people is always and will end begins with respect. treat them like human beings. And I think I don't think we need to be taught how to do that. You know, us as parents and adults here, I don't think we need to be taught to do that. Maybe there are some who need that. But at least for you, and I especially you and I who have children, or around kids, we know very well, when we keep our cool. So sometimes you're like, Oh, so frustrating. This is the 10th time I have to tell them this, would you keep your cool. And you can let out your frustration but in a way that's controlled, and a lesson is going to come out from that, then these are all the basic fundamentals

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of parenting. But in this sutra, these are the basic principles of how you communicate and treat children all over the planet. So May Allah make us from amongst them?

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A lot of them. I mean,

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orphans, by the way, are the most vulnerable of all children, right?

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So they're the ones of course, you know, no family.

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You know, no, no parents are the most vulnerable. So extra care, patience and tolerance, and all of those things have to be shown to them more so than others.

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Okay.

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In a Latina Yep. coluna. Um, while it was a great time for this computer to do that.

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Out of all the days of the week, you chose to update yourself now.

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What's even more sad is I'm talking to the computer.

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So we're gonna have to

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I guess we'll have to wait for a bit until it does, what it's what it's doing.

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Okay.

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Can we continue at least with some review in the meantime?

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Okay.

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Elliot topo la

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Wali Apolo Polin sadita. So, this particular verse,

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Allah subhanho wa Taala This is one of the last verses I believe we took

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in last week's session.

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Allah says,

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They better seek protection from Allah philea tapachula. So, in other words, the context of this verse is very simple right? Or left well yaksha levina lautaro kuhlmann holofil him the Ria Tumblr I often call for Allah him. So then those who possibly left behind weak children

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so imagine the inheritors are a little are a little well off and they got children or they adopted kids or they were in charge of kids who were very weak in the sense inheritance why wealth wise, they didn't inherit much. Just a few coins, a few dollars here and there, that's it.

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Allah says how for I lay him, right you better be fearful of them. selia takala and have Taqwa of Allah well, while you're kulu, Poland sadita and speak with to them with the most clear

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And upright speech.

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What's this verse highlighting?

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This verse is talking about a specific group of orphans now, the week who didn't have much Allah gave this specific instruction for them.

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So you said how for I lay him, right to be fearful of them? In what sense? How are you fearful of these particular orphans that you know are weak in terms of inheritance are less fortunate in terms of inheritance? What is a love saying to hear?

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Okay? So be concerned about their welfare. Okay, that's with all of these kids, but specifically with this group, you take what an extra stance you you go above and beyond the norm now,

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even if they don't deserve it, right. So then Allah says, there's two things you need to be very cautious about when you're dealing with weak and vulnerable kids. Okay, let's look at it from a generic point of view, right? ls says number one failure takala. Let me ask you what, what does taqwa of Allah, how is that manifested through our treatment of kids?

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because surely ethical law is usually set to us. When it comes to obedience when it comes to devotion, worship, all of those things, marriage and being right, righteous and fulfilling one another's rights when it comes to individual responsibilities. All throughout the Quran, were told to have tequila, tequila, tequila, but now in this area, Allah finished talking about kids and says philia, tequila and all of you that are have Taqwa of Allah.

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How do we see taqwa of Allah in the way that we treat kids? How do we see that?

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to us?

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Okay, okay, good, good. Anybody want to add to that?

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Yep.

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Good.

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So the way our authority as parents, it's very easy for us to have control, dictate, instruct control?

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Doesn't that tell us something about authority? power? What is the number one ingredient for anyone who has authority or power over whether it be your family, a community, a country, what's the one thing Allah says is universal that all of you must have? Fairly a topple.

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If you learn nothing about authority and leadership, this is the one thing you should have.

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You need to have Taqwa of Allah, you need to watch out because everything you think you can or cannot do, a lot can make it happen. So that's actually a warning, a very serious warning for all of us, because all of us as adults have some level and some form of authority and leadership over something.

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So Allah is basically saying, taco hears Watch out, because I'm watching you. So don't you can fool these kids, you can fool the people you're in charge of. But Don't try to fool me. I am eligible, one of his names is eligible. Jet belt from jablotron means Allah can force you to be something or to do something. So Allah can forcibly do that. While you're Paulo Poland said either we talked about Colin studied already, which means to ensure that your speech is clear, there is no ambiguity in it. Whatever you need to say whatever you need to instruct whatever you need to get across, make sure you do so in a clear cut fashion. It's explicit.

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Okay.

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So we want to get into so you know, in the meantime, as this computer is doing that, it looks like it's going to take a while.

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So I'm going to go into your booklets

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which is unfortunate because I have a lot of additional notes on that slide.

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Okay, if I remember correctly, we had stopped at

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15. To look at who doodle Ah, good. We did that.

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Well, mainly out of solar power of solar orientada, who Duda to fill out on holiday. Okay.

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We'll look at teen alpha heisha terminal.

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So, yeah, okay.

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So this is the next. So verse number 15 students is where we will pick up today's discussion.

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Okay.

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fascia, this tissue will lead to t and alpha heisha. Okay. So from this particular verse, so we're going to now verse number 15. Everybody with me? What's on page 19? That's where we're at. So I'm gonna rely on my handwritten notes here.

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Okay?

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What a humara xapo. Mohini is the previous verse, and for them is a humiliating punishment Mohini you were alone, at least no one sees you're being punished, but it still ends up happening. So our last sentence or subject is we were talking about one of the description of the punishment in the fire. And one of those ways One of the ways that poor and describes that punishment is he calls it morphine. And we mentioned that the word morphine is in addition to the punishment itself, that person is left alone, isolated, so not only do they suffer, but they suffer by themselves, so whoever they scream out for, or they yell for help, or any kind of relief, none of that is heard.

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And so this is part of the punishment of Abu jahannam. And may Allah protect us from that will lead to teen alpha, he shot them in nissa equipment, this is verse number 15. And as for the women that commit any sort of shamelessness, or rudeness, now, a look called here in this area scholars had different what the word fascia meant in this area. But in before we translate that, we need to understand this word fascia. fascia is a very common word found throughout the Quran. And it usually refers to acts that are shameful, that are looked down upon upon, that even society and culture frowns upon that no matter what it is, if where you live, this is considered to be something

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inappropriate or unacceptable. That usually falls under the the subject of Fantasia. And so Allah says now particularly for those who came with this kind of attribute, or with this kind of behavior, now some of the elements specifically called phakisa, here called Xena.

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Others call it just whatever shamelessness that was known in that culture or society. Allah azza wa jal continues, and he says, we'll let e tn In fact, a Shadow Minister, he confessed to either hidden or barter minkow and seek to seek witnesses against them, four out of four out of mink home yourselves. So in other words, there had to be at least four witnesses seeing this, and and watching this unfold. The idea behind that is it's almost impossible for this to happen.

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And even though that it is not possible for four people to be at the same place, at the same time to observe the same thing.

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There is actually a hidden clause behind that. And that is, when these kinds of acts happen behind closed doors, and you leave them unattended in the sense that if you know it's happening, and you're not addressing some of these issues, then it eventually becomes the norm in public and society.

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That that's the idea here, right? In terms of when Allah says, Okay, I want the impossible to happen, which is for people to witness this, we know for a fact, that would almost never happen. Right? The idea is that this act is such it's such a grave sin, and it's so important for you and I as culture in society to be aware that if some of these things are happening behind closed doors, then you and I are going to have to figure out a way to talk about them. And of course, to try to stop them from happening. Right. So it's a call, it's a call for you and I to acknowledge shameful behavior at all levels, but specifically that which is happening behind closed doors and behind

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closed walls.

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And the fear is that you don't want it to be a public norm. And that's what the fitness of the evil in society comes from. Right eventually when something becomes so normal. Eventually what ends up happening

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People don't see a problem with it anymore. Right? If you take, you know, I had a student A long time ago, that was part of a committee in a really, really famous, you know, clothing store here. And she was part of the design committee that every year they would get together and talk about new designs that they would, you know, put together and release. And one of the things that they look at one of the subjects that they talk about is where what part of the body could we sort of tighten up and expose when the when the new summer comes along, so actually one of the subjects or one of the things they really look at, so they'll have designs in front of them and samples, and they will

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actually look okay, if we tighten up here, if we cut this piece off. The point is, is that you and I, or other cultures may look at that and be like, Wow, I can't believe that they're actually doing that. But to other cultures, that's actually the norm. And so well, that's the way we are, that's the way we dress and that's perfectly fine. So the Quran is seeking to protect all of that from happening. It's the normality behind some of this shamelessness, the shameful acts will always be there, do we agree? It's always going to happen. And it has happened even at the time of our messenger RNA slots with Salaam stinner, Mt normality behavior behavior behind it is what you try

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your very best to keep under control. And for you, and I, that's a really tough thing to do. Right.

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So what other? What are the points here? Can we look at in terms of what we need to capture as one of the main and most important lessons in this area, is we certainly need to rethink some of the things that we might consider to be right, that are actually wrong. So sometimes culture adds to shameful behavior. Do we agree? Sometimes there are some cultures out there.

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I'll even go as far as saying, some so called Muslim cultures that really do some really crazy stuff. And it may not be even be actual behavior. It could just be the the tone and speech and the way, you know, you see your child a you and you call your child like an animal or something, right. I don't have to give you examples. But sometimes, you know, parents would do that with their own kids, we'll call them certain things and give certain labels to them. Even called some sometimes you hear some parents will call their kids shake on,

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you know, and that's perfectly fine. At least for them. Yeah, I'm sure you I'm sure some of us we hear that from time to time, right? So all of this stuff is all under fat Asia. So in essence, what ends up happening, here's the point. Here's why we get this warning in this idea is that if you leave

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shamelessness,

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you know, you start to ignore it, and you don't take it seriously anymore. Then we end up in essence, start living like animals.

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Alright, this is captured in another verse and sorted out off, right? Allah describes certain things, characteristics about people who've reached this point, learn polu bhulaiyaa Kahuna beha. What are you know, Liebe, zerona, beha waala? home? Yes, merona beha. So three things that are highlighted of some of the characteristics of those who fall and get adapted to this type of behavior. They have hearts that can't comprehend anything. Does this sound familiar? You ever hear see or talk to people that are like this? You talk to them and you're like, the way you talk? That's that's really bad. Why would you say those things? Well, I don't think it's bad. I think it's

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perfectly fine. calling somebody an idiot is like, perfectly normal to me. As a matter of fact, you're an idiot. You know, this is just and they have no problem with that.

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And then you're trying to give them some advice. Maybe some of us who are parents here we we try to advise our kids, give them some instruction. Try to teach them some lessons about our Deen and they're looking at you like mom dad was so strict. All I'm asking you to do is to pray get up in the morning and pray your future

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you know and they're looking at you like something's wrong with you really get up early in the morning and wet myself with my limbs and go and pray. That's crazy. Yeah, love Hulu live Coronavirus, so you're trying to advise them you bring them to the classes but they get the best sleep of their lives.

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Living kulu they have hearts but they just kind of sit there the camp comprehend understand and internalize anything. Then unless continues these are laws words not me. What are then what are you gonna do? They have eyes, but they're spiritually blind.

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spiritually blind, they see a lot of that shameful behavior around them. But at the same time, they kind of don't see it. You know why? Because they started adapting some of it.

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You know, Mom, Dad, I love when my jeans are ripped over here and ripped over here. style. Now it's okay.

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You know where along top and we'll cover everything. You're missing the point. Right? You're missing the point. And I've seen this before as well, where some young people walked into mustards with like, t shirts that had like, swear words on them. I've seen it with my own eyes. Right? And they saw nothing wrong with that. As a matter of fact, one of the this one brothers A long time ago, he had a really, really explicit word, like four letter word across his shirt. And he came in and he started praying.

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So the Imam actually, when he was done, he was praying his son so the Imam walked up to him. I was younger. So I was just kind of sitting watching all the action unfold, right? So I had courtside seats if you'd like, right, so I'm like, oh, man, he's gonna go up to him. So he came and went up to the kid and told him something. And the kid says, it's in my heart. But let's see is my heart not this?

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That was it. He just went to his quarter and continue doing what he needed to do. So I, you know, they have eyes, but they just can't really see anything wrong with it, then I'll look adds to it. If you think it's bad enough, already adds to what a home as an ally, your smile will never be here, then they have ears that just don't hear anything at all. Same idea. Listen to how Allah described them. We learn he could kill an arm. These people are like cattle. We talked about cattle, I think earlier on, right? So the whole idea of what kettles are, you know, especially cows in particular, you know, so Allah says they're like cattle, they're not getting the message, but you still keep

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trying trying to just sit there. Balham although this is the part of the area that really frightens me, is that despite Allah compares us or this group, to these kinds of animals, Allah says Actually, no, all of that group, they're far worse and more despicable than the animals themselves, or that he came home with alone. And then Allah says they are heedless, you know, when Allah uses the word of Hafiz hoffler,

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it's kind of like the last resort. If somebody reaches the state of hoffler. When Allah says, Okay, this person's heedless from head to toe.

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That's when you just have to pray and hope for the best. So we ask Allah to protect us from that. Because that verse in suited to our office actually describing the three characteristics that are known and highlighted of the people of jahannam, they have hearts that don't comprehend eyes that don't see an ears that don't hear those three characteristics are some of the few that a lot talks about that these are the characteristics of the inhabitants of the fire. So May Allah protect us from them. So we talked about wild behavior. We also one thing I also want to mention to you about Fantasia, it's very similar to the word wash, which is a wild animal. So if you put these two

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together, because they look similar, they're scaled similar as well. That really matter. They say that when we're talking about shamelessness, and we use the word fat fish, it's compared to the word wash or wash, which is the animal that's out of control. So put it together, the shamelessness that's captured using this word is the kind of behavior that's really crazy. It's wild and crazy behavior.

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The second or the last benefit that I want to share with you with respect to this

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is that we don't want at the end of the day to have any scandal out of this verse or out of what is being captured in this verse. So in other words, going back to the beginning of verse number 15, right? Is that when Ally's talking about these particular individuals that were involved in something? Right, and he describes that it was faddish? It's not a time where the people of Medina would get to gather around and be like, Did you hear what happened to so and so could you believe that and it becomes like, you know, a scandal around the community and around the city of Medina. You know, this is a big problem in our communities. Like if somebody hears a divorce happens in in a

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home chair, and she got married three times, and that one broke too. Like you're entitled to some sort of intelligence report of what is happening in someone's home. And you have no right to comment on the affairs of what is happening in people's private lives.

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Even if it's fish, we have no right to comment about it. So even if you know something about someone, the Sunnah and the message of the Quran is remember just prior to this idea we were talking about taqwa. So part of that is what you know, is kept to you. And it should never be the subject of, you know, juicy conversation. And it should never reach to the point where others are also inquiring and said, I heard this, I heard that, even if you know,

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this, it's nothing important forget about that. Imagine was if we, as a culture, and community could do that, every time we heard about something serious happening in someone else's life or someone else's home, imagine that was our attitude. You know, how quickly, communities would prosper. Just because of this one trait was either pushed aside or under control, it would be an incredible thing for us to see male love Give us strength. So we know not to spread these things we know not to assume about people.

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I actually wrote here in my notes, so I wrote this about five years ago, and I wrote a note to myself that sometimes thieves like to use juicy details to make their hookless more interesting, which, of course doesn't help either. I don't know why I wrote that. But it's here.

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So explicit details that should be discussed in private.

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So the point is, at the end of the day, Allah made something private. And so we should also when we discuss it, also make that private too. And the last thing, this I think, is important for the the young students that are here.

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Sometimes, you know, we get engaged with jokes and humor that are shameful as well. Right, which is also something looked down upon and criticized for as well, even just joking about this stuff isn't right. So even if you get yourself in a circle, where either you or somebody else is just talking about anything, you know, whether they're talking about another person or their behavior or anything like that, in and of itself is something pretty serious, important. And it's captured under this word of Fantasia.

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Okay, I think we're getting somewhere here. Now.

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let's just, let's just see if our slides will

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make sometimes

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when we start talking about talking about

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high schools, this can literally make it feel as if this is the new normal. Yeah. Yeah.

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Which is a, which is a problem in and of itself, because sometimes the hottie would not realize that he's actually contributing to it by doing that. Right. And

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it's, it's unfortunate, it's unfortunate that sometimes that happens.

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Let's get to

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because I have a lot of stuff prepared for today.

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By the way,

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for next week, what are we doing? It's the March Break. So usually, the norm here at IIT is all the classes are paused during the March Break. So the assumption is that we don't have class next week. So is, that'd be okay with all of you. Unless you are determined that you want to be here, then we can still make that happen. But for the most part, all the classes here are suspended for next week.

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How many of you are okay with taking the break?

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Oh, wow.

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So are you saying that the rest of you who didn't raise your hands

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want to be here next week?

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Okay.

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That's um, I didn't see coming. Okay. Let's see. Let me let me ask that question again at the end of today's class, okay.

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Okay.

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Let's go on to let's let's continue with verse number 15. Okay, well let t t alpha, he should have vironment for inshallah you do for mc cohoon nephele booth. And in fact, if there is a witness to the act, keep them under house arrest until death come to take them away, or alum makes another way out of them. So, a couple of things as you see in front of you, this is like I get like this aim to keep this behavior behind closed doors, which we've touched on what he means while behavior and wild animals are called washi, which was already touched on, there should be no scandal against these women and sometimes in our gatherings, as we mentioned. So a lot of these things. We've we've

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Cut through already.

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Nothing that I want to

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highlight, you have on page 20.

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A couple paragraphs there about just adding more towards explaining the word, faction faction.

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Nothing that I really want to,

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to highlight except the end of the verse for MC equal one. So when a lot so the genesis for mssql when a field booty head to toe or foot weight or foul mouth, this is poor ends way of saying to

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keep them in a secluded area that is protected until either revelation or some other tight kind of injunction is revealed of what exactly is to be done here. So the women that got into faulted this and made this mistake them. So a lot. So a gel is saying that, at least for now, that they should be protected from the public, right to an extent, until more verses and as because why are revealed, because we are still at the very early stages of the outcome and rulings of what to do when something like this happens within that community. So those verses of how to deal with this sort of thing have not been revealed yet. So that is why it ends up saying keep them under house arrest, you

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know, as long as it needs to be now that it in and of itself has its own flip, you know of what is what it means under you know, Islamic law for house arrest and so on. It's a long, massive discussion, as a matter of fact, emammal to be has, like chunks of his volume devoted to just talking about these different outcome, which is really something I don't want to I don't want to address. We don't need to get into that. Yeah.

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First part of the I just

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but is this

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behavior before the influence? So like, basically,

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the opposite action very broad. So just wanted to clarify that. You see, the thing is, it still is and we had mentioned that the lewdness behavior here, although they may differ on it. Some said it was in some said it was the things that led up to that behavior afterwards, etc. So what we say is that it is a combination of all of this, you're gonna see some new system.

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They do, they do to an extent. And of course, as you know that that sort of comes much later, right. So for now, we're just going to keep this in context, right? But yes, there are verses in other sources as well, some of which is found in sort of the newer service found in parts of Bukhara as well, that actually add to what is the responsibility afterwards when this kind of behavior takes place? Okay, head to toe a phone. Oh, yeah. geog Allahu la luna, Sabina. I in number 16 well as any tea any ham income for the woman in turbo, what masilela have to do on Homer, and the two who committed among you. So

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dishonor them both, but if they repent and correct themselves, leave them alone. Indeed, Allah is Ever Accepting of repentance and merciful. You see this verse?

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This verse is one of those verses that it's very easy to read in a poor end. So if one of these like so if the two parties come and say, You know what, we have done something wrong, but we, you know, repent to Allah. So this is what's happening. In a Islamic court in front of the judges, the judge will ask these two individuals, okay, what do you have to say about your behavior? If at that very moment, they say that we have done something wrong and we repent to Allah for it Case Closed.

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It's that simple case closed. Because why? Allah is, is the one that accepts repentance and He is the Most Merciful. You remember how back in the days in our other classes we always used to say that we will never truly understand the level of compassion and mercy that Allah has over his creation. This is an example of one of them. But we will never truly understand the capacity of Allah's mercy over his creation. Why? Because human beings with one another we have a certain limit or level of how much mercy we're willing to show someone

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You know, eventually if somebody has wronged us in any way, there's a good chance that in some families and cultures, that relationship is done. Others if you say one word that's offensive, it's done. Others they'll give and take, you know, a year or two blah blah blah, Okay, you know what I'm done with you. But in poor end, a legend says one sentence and the case is closed. So this here is basically these two individuals came in front and had a trial, because of their behavior. And of course, in our context, in our culture and society, this is not applicable. What is applicable in our society is more or less, that repentance and Toba. And of course, to change your life, do the

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things that you and I would know and we need to do in order to protect ourselves from falling into any kind of facia behavior. Any kind of Beaver that falls within that category is the thing that's obligated under you and I and this is a fatwah that many of the elements they give us with respect to people who live in societies where there is no Islamic court, etc. Then this is the last and only option make Toba to Allah subhanho wa Taala be sincere in your Toba change your life do what needs to be done Bismillah Leave the rest to him. subhanho wa Taala right here is being snatched away from all of us at an early age from all we are exposed to do you agree?

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What's higher?

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How's it usually translated?

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Higher?

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Higher.

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When I say to you need to have higher

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modesty. Right? modesty, right?

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What's modesty? Don't say higher? With modesty? Yeah.

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narrowed down.

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More.

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You're right, but more specific, what's when we say you need to be modest? Are we you know, Islam encourages us to be modest and have higher, it's such a broad term.

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So what is what what are you supposed to do or have if we're saying that you should have you should be modest?

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Still too broad?

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Do you see why I asked this question. See why I asked this question. Right. It's because it's a broad term. modesty. Islamic ILA from an Islamic perspective is all of the qualities in you as a human being that keeps you under control. So your shyness, your taqwa, all of these little things, your kindness, your gentleness, with people, your patience.

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Anything that you can think of, that keeps your behavior and your attitude from going out of control, and acting and behaving in a way that you yourself can recognize and no, that's not me. All of this falls under this massive subject of higher and the messenger alayhi salatu wa sallam told us that higher is from what it's from, amen. So when you have that kind of control over all of these beautiful qualities within it is a sign that you have true faith and Amen. with Allah subhanho wa Taala, somebody who can keep themself, you know, their anger and their frustration intact. You know, you want to curse but you don't, you hold back. Instead, you're like, hold the laminator to

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interview. Whatever it is, if you go for a walk, if you're really upset about something that's all part of higher, because that's you, that's you attacking and keeping control of the steering wheel, it doesn't go all over the place, all of that control is part of higher, okay?

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Then our luck continues, and he says in a matoba to Allah.

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Repentance only is mandated on Allah for those who knowingly did a wrong deed. This is interesting.

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In a matoba to either la halal Latina, Athena meluna suit. Now, those of you who study Arabic, you're going to you're going to certainly appreciate and love this.

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Because Allah now mentions here

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in the matoba to indeed Toba is mandated on Allah.

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In a moto first of all what's Toba? When we say repentance, what do we mean by that?

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What is Toba in the Sharia?

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What's that?

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So it's kind of like an attitude or feeling.

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Okay

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to want to go back to the sun again.

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Okay, Okay, go ahead.

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Okay. So, so towba then is some kind of physical change,

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which is sprouted through this attitude of remorse and regret, right. So when you do something wrong and you feel, you know, horrible. You feel the regret Oh my god, I can't believe I just did that. I can't believe I said that. I can't believe I acted this way.

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That's not Toba.

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That's you feeling remorse and regret.

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Toba is now you take those feelings and it manifest into actual physical change. So the heroin picture that you had hanging on the wall, guess what you do with it? You put it down. If you have a problem clicking the wrong website, what do you do with the computer? You shut it down and you put it away for a while. I can't be around this thing right now. You have a problem being alone.

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Then you try not to be alone. Be with friends be with people. And if you have problems controlling what you say and how you address people, then those are the things that you're always conscious of the next time you do talk to somebody, you're talking to yourself. Keep yourself in control. Don't get upset. Don't curse. Don't say this. Don't say that. That's the first step towards repentance. A lot of people confuse this. They think this is the final part of it all the Toba once you feel regret, and you say a lot of stuff, a lot of stuff that I've made Toba? Actually, no, you're not even close to it yet. So Toba, the first stage of repenting to Allah is you physically have to look

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at what are the things around you that has encouraged you or influenced you to fall into that mistake to begin with. So you start what an overall assessment of yourself and your surroundings, that's called Toba. When you do that, then it starts to lead to some other things which we're going to see here in this a in a minute. So repentance is mandated on a law for those who knowingly did a wrong deed. Now, the wrong deed that is mentioned in this area is called Sue. Okay. lilla Xena Yeah, meluna. Sue.

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Sue is what? It's one of the names of sin and mistaken the poor and you have vembu you have mera sia and you have sayur or Sue. Sue literally means a face that is hard to look at. It's despicable. It's like a monster. So if you ever if you ever find yourself you look at something and you're like this, you're like, Oh, my God. That's called Sue. Say you are in Arabic, you use this word to describe, you know, so someone's face was hard to look at. That's pretty much how you use this term. Now Allah says he describes and he calls sin soup. Why?

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Why does a look call sins? Say it or soup?

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It's despicable behavior, but more so how should the one who's committed the sin feel?

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The kind of remorse that you feel is what you're like. so uncomfortable and disgusted by what you just said? Or did? Now let me ask you, how often do you ever hear that someone who's done the simplest, you know, evil or sin, whatever it might be? That they actually walk out of it feeling that way? Oh, my God. I can't believe I just said a bad word.

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feel awful. So Pamela, how could I say that sentence I hate her. That's a such a horrible sentence to say. Or they talk back in a in a rude manner. They responded in a rude way. You know, some people they feel safe, when they don't say thank you to someone.

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And some people like oh my god, that was so rude of me. I didn't even say thank you to them and they went all out and they've done all of that for me and equity, some handle out. That's called saying, that's how Allah wants us to feel every time we make a mistake. You're supposed to feel really uncomfortable with yourself. You know, some of our lemmas they said that say it is also you have a tough time looking in the mirror after sin. Because why you're ashamed of yourself. Like how could you do that? How could you disobeyed to that degree?

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All of this is supposed to lead to somewhere you know you there are some psychologists that denounced this kind of attitude, and say it's, it's actually unhealthy for you to to do this to talk yourself down or make

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yourself feel safe or miserable. Some psychologists have dug into it to such a degree where they've completely revoked and, you know, dispel this whole idea of feeling miserable. So when you do fall into a mistake or you've done something, regrettably, then you should just feel confident to get out of it and walk away. But Koreans message is very different. A love wants us to feel a bit of the spiritual pain behind the sins that we do. You know, when you don't feel safe,

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and commit the sin? Do you know when that doesn't happen?

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There is a there is a situation where if you do something wrong, you won't always necessarily feel safe afterwards? What What, what kind of sin is that?

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Okay, we're gonna set

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your heart to see now

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you're looking at it the wrong way.

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If I commit something, and I do something wrong.

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And it's actually good for me that I don't feel safe, and I could still recover out of that mistake. What kind of sin is that? It's the sin that is done, unintentional. Okay. So you fall into something unintentional, you didn't expect that you were going to say or do the thing that happened, say is not applied to you now. Because why?

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Some of the elements added to this that, say it or Sue is usually connected to people who now this is what some of you mentioned, where you've become desensitized, you stopped caring, you stopped, you know it, you start seeing the ramifications of your mistake, it started to disrupt your relationships with your family, your children, your parents, everyone around you, everything's been flipped upside down.

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Now, in turn, you're supposed to feel this way. The problem with this concept of SEO,

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it's a really hard subject to teach in 2019.

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It's really hard to teach this.

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For obvious reasons, right? We're so exposed to things that are the complete opposite of what we're trying to do and live by that it is very common and very normal for someone to be desensitized to sin.

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And that's the challenge. And that's how we tackled. When we first started this class, we looked at the conclusion of sulit. earlier and Ron, remember that, remember, the concept of Al Bab?

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Who remembers what Alabama was?

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Good, the ones who they think clearly about anything. So the people of Alabama when they fall into mistake, they see it right away? They can recognize when it happened, and they don't get this same feeling anymore. They know exactly what to do, and they recover immediately.

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Can I ask you something? How do you get there?

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How do you get to that stage?

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There's something you're supposed to do or not do so that even when you do fall into say that you you see it? And you're like, God, I can't believe that's me. Okay, I don't want that anymore. How do you get to that stage?

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So you have to be aware if to be conscious of your surroundings Anything else?

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You have to be conscious of a law so there should be some kind of connection. Good.

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Brothers.

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How do you get there? I think get there where when you do fall into this, you have control over it, you recognize and you recover. This is the one thing that every young person on earth.

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Good. Okay. So staying hopeful that Allah is always there and he's always going to accept and forgive us. Okay, anything else?

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Okay, so just focus on yourself. Don't compare yourself to anything else. Is there anything else? Yeah.

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Mm hmm.

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Part of becoming someone who's able to see us in different state is actually taking onus and responsibility for good

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good

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Good, everybody hear that? I think that there for me, there's one thing if you have it, there isn't a sin or mistake on Earth, except you'll recover from it, you'll recognize it. You'll get through all of these feelings of failure and feeling miserable, you'll get over all of that. And that's confidence.

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If you're confident that you can live with mistakes, and recover from them, B is the letter to you there is nothing in this world, except you will confront it and then you will overcome it. And I don't get that just I don't pull that out of nothing. I actually get that from the conclusion of sorts of Bukhara because it's only that sutra that Allah did something with his prophet alayhi salatu was Salam he it never happened anywhere else in Quran.

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Allah said to his prophet, now remember, swittel Bukhara is a medini surah. Right. So you're talking about at least 13 years of Islam is done. It's already been in Mecca and meccan period, soon as they got to Medina, luggages, and swittel buckler, but then at the end of the sutra, what does Allah say to him, I'm in

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the mountains in LA, him or Robbie, he will let me know, he tells his prophet that already has Amen You, my Prophet amadora. So you need to also be believe, you need to have Amen, he already has it, what does Allah really saying here, you need to be confident in yourself, and in this message.

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And if you can do that, then when you teach the world, they'll listen to you, if you're not confident in this message, then how are you going to project it to others. So if you're not confident in yourself, that you have the strength to overcome these things,

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then that's a really, really difficult journey ahead of you. And this is something that is that our core and does really, really well is to how to, you know, really capture the moment and strengthen his or her confidence within themselves. And sahabas all of them that this, you know, there are many sahabas that committed Zener pre slump.

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And those same sahabas the process I looked into your agenda, how they do that, how they go from that to this, because they really had faith, confidence in their message they and this is what some of you have mentioned that you study this stuff, you take it seriously. And then Allah will show you the fruits of this Deen. So when you fall and you're at your lowest in your life, that is when Allah subhanaw taala will allow the strength in confidence and you being positive, you trusting his message, all of those things will manifest and you're able to get through. It's easier said than done. Of course, it's a hard thing to teach as well. So let's continue. By the way, Arabic students

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Allah said here in the matoba to Allah, Laila, Xena Yama Loon. A Su, Allah didn't say yes, our Luna zoo.

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Iman is different from ferragudo. What's the difference?

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When you say Fairlawn if Allah said yes alone, they're randomly doing craziness, randomly falling into sin.

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Yama loon,

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they know exactly what they're doing.

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We're gonna come to it right? Even though they're so put this together, this is really important because no translation can capture this. This is why we're spending some time on this verse because it's very important to every one of us. Right? We can all relate to this, because we all commit mistakes and sins. But then the language here that's used is capturing something very particular about the sinner. Allah said Yama loon, they are conscious of the wrong they're doing. And they still keep doing it. So after Sue, you see the word be Johanna. Jacqueline, have you heard that word before? Jasmine? What does that mean?

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When you say ignorant, what are you saying about that person?

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Because that's a common translation. So but it's not very clear. What What do you mean when you say that somebody's ignorant? You're saying that they're what?

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They have no control over them or their behavior, their attitude, their feelings, whatever they feel like saying they just blurted out. That's called jaha jehlen. When you don't have control over your emotions, whatever you feel, you just don't care. So what I'll say what I want to say, I'll act the way I want to act, or behave the way I want to behave. So what let's call gentlemen, so put it together. Allah said that even though the people

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Who did these kinds of sins actually knew what they were doing to Allah? That's a very genteel behavior. So despite you being conscious of your behavior to Allah is looking at it like you're a wild out of control animal. Stop that. Do you see that? It's unbelievable. It's extremely powerful. Because this is going to address the people who say things like, Yeah, I know what I was doing. Don't worry about it. I'm I'm good. No.

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Yeah. You towards each other. Yeah. Okay. If I know I don't need counseling, I don't need no advice. Mom, he doesn't need to read or act on me, I'm fine.

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To Allah. That kind of behavior. When you fall into sins, that you're aware, you know what's wrong, and you still do it? Allah still calls you jail, just like the person who has no Islam and no control over themselves. So heinola It's unbelievable. That's how that's the imagery that Allah gives us about people who constantly sin. And I say constantly because why Yama loon is in the present tense. Didn't say Emmylou. Said Yama don't present tense means it's continuous. And it's continuing even forward tomorrow and the next day to keep doing the same thing. So that continuous pneus of the of these particular actions, Allah says, it's become now a bad habit, and that's jail

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to him stop doing that.

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Really, really powerful. And I hope that the end of the day that when you look at this verse, the point behind it is and let's all you know, be real with ourselves, right? We want to think about us when we look at this verse, we want to right now at this very moment, see our faces all over this verse. If there's something within us in our own lives, that's happening, that's out of control.

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And somehow we need to stop it because why Allah has counted us amongst the most ignorant of people if we don't be Jehovah.

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But then they does take a shift from mania to boon, I mean, corrib, then they repent soon after, for Allah, aka tubal lahari lay him, then those are the people Allah will accept the repentance of what's happened here, students, they, then they repent soon after, what's happened here.

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They realize they're wrong be able to turn back to Allah. When

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exactly how much? How often do you hear about repentance done that way.

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As soon as they fell into the mistake, they said a stop at Allah and started ripping Oh my God, we can't let that happen again.

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It almost sounds like when a lot talks about sin in Portland.

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He wants us to have the attitude that we are in the state of spiritual emergency right away.

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As soon as it happens, there's these alarm bells that are going off in your heart. Everything is going wild, because of one sin.

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It's unbelievable. How many times have you ever heard or seen people talk about sin this way?

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That's the tragedy that we're living in. Because people don't look at the stuff like this anymore. It's really hard. As a matter of fact, every time I teach stuff like this, sometimes people will say, you know, that's real extreme. like God, Who does that? We can keep track of everything we say and do.

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And that's the problem. This is Allah, really telling you and I, you know, you can't lose focus on the most important thing, which is what you see in the mirror every day, can't lose focus on that, you know, sometimes I'll give a hoot about somewhere, and then there'll be console random. And it'll be about something totally out of this world. No matter what's happening around us. I'll just be like, you know what, I want to talk about the Day of Judgment, and how you know, we are going to be accountable, etc, and all of that stuff. And I will do my thing. And when I'm done, somebody will still come up to me almost every time and say,

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you know, I appreciate what you said, but there's so many problems happening in the world while you're talking about that.

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Another time I'll talk about the description of gender when you walk into general what's the first things you'll start to see and I'll do my thing and after be like, Okay, thanks, but we're not there yet. You know, we have this is happening in this country that has happened that country.

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You know, like I'm supposed to be the world's problem solver in 20 minutes of

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Hold about right like, what do you want from me? right?

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Exactly. And to be conscious of these things, who do you have to focus on?

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This is the thing that we're losing more and more day by day. This we're losing ourselves as we journey day by day we're forgetting these little things in between. So what ends up happening, somebody will back bite but they don't see no problem with it. Until you say you're on Oh my god, Okay, stop talking about them. Then they'll look at you think something's wrong with you. What's wrong with you? We don't want to talk about them. You know,

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they'll think you're the one that's messed up. This a really talks to us in a very deep and personal way. And then let me just finish this up, footballer aka tubal Lavalle him and a lot

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it mentions here, then those are the people Allah will accept the repentance from right.

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So when you so put this together or comment on this, by the way,

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when you follow a sin with immediate repentance, it will almost always be in a lag guarantee acceptance from Allah. When you delay your repentance, and you delayed for you know, just being irresponsible about it, not taking it seriously losing sight of it, etc. This is where you risk the acceptance of Allah being farther farther away. So one of the secret ingredients in sha Allah to always guarantee your Toba is accepted is you do it when immediately after the mistake, you don't delay if that is your attitude with sin be isn't too late Allah.

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People will see and notice this from you.

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It is a characteristic that Allah will allow others to see and appreciate in you. This person is always conscious of themselves. That's how we have to be okay. What can

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What can a lot more I Lehman hakima Can I ask you why does this a in this way?

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Okay.

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Allah has knowledge of everything. And he has wisdom. He has knowledge of your heart. Good, good. Anything else?

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We're talking about Toba, Toba, Toba sin, sin, sin, recover with all these things that we just ended off with. Allah has knowledge over everything, and he is the old Weiss. What's the connection here? Anything else anyone wants to add to that?

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A person who doesn't have faith,

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turning their back fears who's going to accept their repentance? But as a Muslim, even if it's telling you to have hope that your repentance will be accepted? And then furthermore,

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we actually don't know

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who the one who knows about

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us and it's none of our business to double check. Yeah, good.

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Good. Everybody got that? When you repent. It's between you and Allah Case Closed.

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When you repent, and how you repent is no one's business. But you and Allah. You know, sometimes I get asked the question from brothers and sisters, both when they have made past mistakes, and they want to get married. And their potential asks them, okay, have you ever done this? Or that? Or have you involved with anyone else and you've done this or that? They're very hesitant and reluctant to respond and expose at least that past behavior to them.

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What would you say here?

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So,

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if you have repented, then it's none of that person's business, your potential husband or wife? None. They don't need to know.

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Is it like that across the board for all of your mistakes? And since

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I argue that

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anything that could potentially harm or get or involve itself in the relationship should be something talked about, and how to what extent you talk about that is up to you. The least you mentioned about that. It's up to you. If you want to go into more detail, it's up to you but at the end of the day, judgment

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That's no one's business that's between you on. So I will say something to you. Because we if we get married, this might come up later on. So this is what it is. But I've already repented to all of us. So

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it's up to you if you like that or not. That's what I would say.

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So the idea is with Eileen and Hakeem here,

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Allah has knowledge of all the things you've done, even when you don't you forget, which is very normal. We will always forget a lot of the things we've said and done.

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But you're still making Toba. So sometimes you're told what sounds like this, oh, Allah, forgive me, forgive me of my past sins. You know, these sentences sounds so generic, it's just like so repetitive. But every sentence is meaningful to Allah because he is it.

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You don't take that for granted. You know, sometimes, you know, some of my camera group is here. One of the things I used to say to them was, don't take your repentance for granted. Don't take any istockphoto like you say for granted. And he said had any test be nothing. Because when you're there

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the feeling that you get when you go to Alice house is that you feel he's watching you alone, and he's forgotten everyone else. You feel like you've the spotlight has just been put on you. So don't take every victory or dog for granted because you don't know one stock federal law you set from the heart and you cried about it. Man, your whole life is set at a low will guarantee you will be from an agenda for that one is stuff that Allah It's amazing. It's amazing. Because just how we don't know our sins, we we also don't know how many STL federal laws and test vehicle we've made. So all of that Allah says I'm Allium I've got it all recorded you don't worry about it. My sort of alien

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moron students do you remember a verse that sounds like this?

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Yo Mataji Dooku Neff sim mera amulet been hiring martial law, Walmart me, let me Sue.

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On the day of judgment, your scale is brought in front of you. And it will be more law. My law means when something is present in front of you, and you can see all corners of it. You can see the back the side this side everything without turning it that's more

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or less said your scale of good deeds are going to be placed right in front of you as much data. So you know what that means. That means that when you look at your scale, you're going to be like oh my god, every stuff in Allah is there.

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Every Salaam I've ever given my god it actually made it on the same scale. Even that regnum salam I gave at the grocery store to another Muslim it actually Allah counted it for something.

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That's the most amazing thing about deeds, good deeds.

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You know, it's it's incredible to see that every eight Mubarak I've ever given Oh my god, they all got counted. The same as also captures the opposite as well than the scale of bad deeds. And when good is the one time I swore

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it's their luck counted.

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So now he's gonna ask me about all of this stuff. The one time I shrugged, you know, against my mom, she asked me for something, they just said, whatever. You know, it's the first bad deed on top of that scale.

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You know, the one thing I uttered I was awful to my parents were I disobeyed this, all of that. That's called model. So Allah is saying that I have all the knowledge and it's going to be much thought out right in front of your face. But here, it's all about your Toba then hakima. What is wisdom have to do with Toba in this area?

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That allows the old wise

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it's safe to say that the average Muslim, when they do commit a mistake, you know, you hope that they would make Toba immediately, but a lot of the time perhaps maybe most of the time it doesn't happen that way.

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Would it be safe to say that Allah knows when is when is the right time but this is going to happen.

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Allah knows that okay, that rumor that had you been longing for because you want Toba out of it. Just you gotta trust him. He'll he'll make this happen at the right moment. So Hakeem here the wisdom captured from Allah subhanho wa Taala is the right time for all of this to happen and recover from is still under his control as well. So you might walk out of here with the intention, man, every time I do something wrong. I'm going to make sure a stock throttle lung pre tool rocker is out or something to just make Toba? A less thing I don't not so fast. I'm still in charge. So what do you have to do to achieve the lesson of this? We have to do

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So you do your part, but trusting Eliza, ultimate control over everything, anything else.

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That's it.

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You have to be sincere about your relationship with Allah.

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I cannot tell you enough. Sincerity is the open door to all hire every ounce of goodness in your life. Not even the Islamic stuff, only the religious stuff. every ounce of goodness in your life is manifested through sincerity. How you talk and how you treat and how you are accepted by people around you will all sprout of how sincere you are as a human being.

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That is, that is the that is the heart of all of this. None of this works if you don't have that. That's why every book of every scholar of every subject starts off with what chapter, the chapter of what? sincerity of loss. Everything starts this way. Why? Because there's no point of continuing the book if you don't master that to begin with.

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That's what we did when we started this program, right? We briefly reminded everybody, make sure you know why you're here. Or else you're going to have something to talk about between you and Allah. Make sure you know why you drive here and get here every day. Right. So this all could count for something. But one of these verses is Hoda to Lenin not Pooja tonight, Elena like it's going to be something that will uplift us. And not something that would bring us down or punish. punish us And may Allah protect us from that. Okay. So number seven, number 18.

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I don't know if you have this in your book. There it is.

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I really apologize. I don't know why.

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It's missing so many different things. But by the way, there is an updated version of this that's being posted online. So you have access to two new booklets, the exact same, but all of the missing spaces and grammar error errors and so on have been corrected. One of the students in this program, I believe she's online was gracious enough to go through all of this and have Hamidullah she's corrected everything. So you're welcome to if you'd like to have that with you or at least to refer to that.

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The way I look at these things when there's gaps like this, like now you're going to write down this by hand right? Oh my god, I just realized how read that looks.

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Oh my god. That's hard to look at even.

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My gosh.

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So as you're writing

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this is verse number 18.

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When I said to Toba to little Athena madona say he had either hot or cold melt your pilot in the tutorial and

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while it Lila Xena yamu tune our home Kufa, Willa edited in aloha Martha and a Lima

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Kosh needle verses like this are just are are really heavy. So in this verse Now,

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Allah says but repentance is not accepted of those who continue to do evil right up till the last minute.

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Remember the word the key word in this area here is continue

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lilla Dena Edina er I met all wanna see again, right present tense there's constantly doing. So repentance is not for the person who's just continuing on the same path never reflecting, never trying. Never conscious of anything. It is cruise control all the way. Until What? until death comes to them.

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I can't tell you how many times I get asked to visit someone in the hospital, right? Sometimes I'll go and sometimes if I don't have the time, I don't. When I do go sometimes I find myself in a really uncomfortable predicament. I'll walk in and I'll see the patient there. And the family are all in tears, you know, they're on life support or what have you. And then they will ask me to do things that I really uncomfortable doing, which is like, you know, just read something, read something over him or her or dual role pa or something so that all of their sins are forgiven. So I say to them, I was like,

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this person, did they, you know, practice, pray or so do all the basic things. No, no. But you know, now that they're in this state and they're dying, you know, in sha Allah, Allah forgives them, blah, blah, blah. And it's just like, really? And you called me to facilitate the shortcut? Seriously.

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And his is like men

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You know, don't get me wrong I don't just walk I'd be like look I'm not doing anything here I'll do something you know hope perhaps something would help. But the this area is for situations like that. You cannot cop out the last minute with a law doesn't work. Some of the polish them had this attitude what in Islamic history even from day one fear around his repentance At what point when he saw all of his people drown then he's you know it's crazy he doesn't even say the Shahada

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You didn't even go that far. He goes La ilaha illa Allah the eminent be Hebrew Israel Isla and Amina muslimeen. He just said, you know, there is no god except whatever Benny Israel is saying,

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what a guy. He's standing by the sea, he watched all of his army drown. And then he's like, yeah, there's no God, except for whatever they're saying.

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He couldn't even say the Shahada completely. So, last minute, it was useless.

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So his repentance at this point was no help. And this was the By the way, this Trent this tfci giving you his Ivanov s and the majority of the Parliament of tafsir. You know, say that this is the conclusion of this area is that at the last minute, you cannot cop out and say okay, I'll say my Shahada now, because whoever says it at the time of death, what is the reward? de la gente? All right, I'll go and paradise No, it doesn't really work. It's not that easy. Because if it was, there's no point of us even being here. Right?

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There's no point of us doing all of this. So our equivalent to this as as you see there's someone dying in a hospital but never took associate committed sins and never repented. Can't do that. So Allah continues and he says in the motto bitwala

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What am I saying? What he said totally they are willing to say Hector either How about a dead Homewood remote

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till death comes to them?

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Paula in need to be to end

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you know, what's amazing?

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The wording, it's it says if as long as actually quoting someone here, they say, Oh, I am ready to repent. Now. That it's almost there's a little bit of sarcasm here. Because Allah is not saying oh, this is what they may say. Or they may say a phrase similar to he actually, you know, puts together a sentence that somebody it sounds like somebody is even saying it, but there's nobody here. So there's a bit of sarcasm is like all really now they're gonna say, Okay, I'm going to repent and now, all you need to be told and Well, unless either you go to our home Kufa, neither those who died in the state of disbelief or in gratitude, Allah, he can love him, either, but ilima those are the

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people we've prepared a painful punishment. In other words, people intentionally sing knowing that Toba will always be there for them. Those are the people that this punishment is prepared for. They're intentionally sinning, because they know that tomorrow, you know, we're going through the question anyway. So we'll we'll take care of things.

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I've had some some people who I've, I've I've gotten to known who before going to hygiene ombre, they were up to no good even the night before the flight.

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Yeah, trying to enjoy as much of wedding thing that they can. Yeah. I've even had, you know, really crazy things. You know, you meet when you do this kind of job, you know, you really think it'll blow your mind. And I've had even someone come up to me, just after they had committed Zina. They came straight to the masjid. And, you know, they said, Look, I'm coming from somebody's house, and I'm married, and I have all these children, etc. And I had been cheating on my elbow, and I've done this and now the other person is pregnant.

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You know, like,

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all of that rain. My point is this, right? You know, we already talked about making the mistakes and sin so you know what you've done. You've done it. But this area here is giving you an eye a clear warning. Don't do that stuff with the intention that you think, you know, this is the last time and in showing this repent now I'm gonna change my life forever. No, no, no, no. You know, you're still left with a big massive question mark in front of Allah where you're going to end up on what you're going to do. So my question to you is this. How do we protect ourselves from being part of this?

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What do we do?

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Because if we do fall into a sin and conscience

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We're aware of it. But, you know, let's just give the benefit of the doubt our faith is weak at that moment, you know, we all go through that, we'll have weak Amen, and weak faith at some point. And it happens spontaneously, a lot of the times, somebody cuts you off, and you know, you're just so angry. So you try to do the same thing to them, or, you know, give them the finger or you say something to them. And that's not you, and you recognize it, but you're like, Oh, my God, when this is all over, I'm going straight to the best shoe, or something like that. How do you protect yourself from falling into this category?

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So, okay, you're right. This is like, this is like, it's the fall boot camp, right? So you go into istikhara, 70 100 times a day, just like prompts I tell them

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I totally, totally, I can't disagree with that. My problem with it is you need to have some level of strong faith to even do that. Let's let's make it the worst case scenario that that person can't even get themselves to say a stuff at all even once or twice, but they're a good person.

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How do you exempt yourself from this?

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So the point is, at the end of the day, you say something, you curse or you do something and you're conscious of what you did was wrong, but you did it anyway with the idea. Okay, I'm gonna say something to this guy cuz he really cut me off bad. But I once after this is done, I'm never gonna do this again.

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So much going on.

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Okay, okay. So so you rely on some of the additional acts of worship that could perhaps protect you in cases like this. Okay. That's good. This person has none of them. They're there. They're on just the basics. The fundamental stuff, they'll there soon as only exists maybe on July day.

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Huh?

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What was the key word that we said earlier?

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Make sure that the Toba you do is sincere. So how you exempt yourself from this even though you do a sin with the same attitude is that Toba has got to have sincerity attached to it and perhaps be is Neela allow me accepted from you. Despite you knew what you were doing, but you really were like, yeah, it'll be a lot protect me from even intentionally doing something like that. That is a mistake as well for me all. I did the sin, but I knew what I was doing was wrong out I'll be erased that from my heart. You know, when you start even attacking all of the things that lead you up to the sin men. That is where all of us want to be if we're not already there, right? It's everything is all

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about sincerity. So you see the question I wrote at the bottom there on the screen. What helps you make Toba on a consistent basis basis? What else do you do that?

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That you stay on cruise control Toba all the way? How do you how do you get their

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sincerity? And then they'll give me something a bit more practical. Now what do you do to make sure you are there? So we have one about all of the sudden acts of worship, not suiting the prayers only but even those doors of entering the home, entering the masjid entering the bathroom, putting getting dressed, going to bed, all of that stuff? Do you know why they're there? Do you know why we have a dog for everything we do?

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You're always thinking about him. That's the secret. That's the secret blessing behind it all. It's to make you never forget him. subhanho wa Taala when you live your life like that. Oh my god. There is no human being that compares to you on Earth. There's no creature on earth in comparison to you. That's what the demented if you ever want to know the secret some of the secret ingredients how early a man got to the stage they were they were praying to God for him mo hanifa Rahim Allah pray to hedge it for 40 years with the same will do from Asia.

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What does that tell you? He did. The same will do from Asia. He prayed that I had good with until federal

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for 40 years, which means he after Isha would be praying all night until fudger.

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How do you get to that level? There are some older man even today that do some, some things that are very similar. And they reach these high this high level of knowledge and discipline.

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They do this with what?

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Just make it count. Make the tobacco count when you do it.

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And you know what, you know what you got to really love about the subject of Toba. There is never ever one way to do it.

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So it appeals to all of us at every level we're at with respect to devotion. You don't know nothing about Islam, but you know, there you got to feel some kind of remorse and regret Oh, that's part of tell what to your good. That's a starting point. If you only know the only Arabic word you've ever learned was a stuff that Allah Okay, that's the starting point. It counts. So it's the one of the only subjects of Islam no matter where you are, you can still fall into and be part of that. Let's take one more verse.

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Yeah, you wonder Xena Amano, La Jolla come and Teresa Nisa

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a cow her.

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Yo yo Latina M No, it is not permitted for you to inherit.

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Women forcibly Oh, wow, this brings up a different subject here now. Okay. So now you hit the locum and telethon nissa akata. So basically, what would happen back in the days is that if a tribal leader passes away, they leave behind their wife or wives.

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And whatever children that he had from any of these women, they would not want that particular wife or IE mother to leave the family because now the husband has passed away and marry someone else. So one disgusting practice that they had was even sometimes, the kids or the step sons would marry their stepmom, to force them to stay in the family and not go off with anyone else. Or they would have other people within the city to say, hey,

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my dad passed away. But these are his wives, just choose one marry them. So you'll be my family. And they'll stay here too. And we all live together. In other words, create a circumstance where it forces these women to stay and not get out of that situation. There's no no way out. So this is where Allah again, this is another thing that a lot eradicated from the evil practices pre Islam. So we already talked about inheritance. We already talked about rights of orphans. Well, here's another one that women did not have, that Allah gave them know that they will now have the power to say no. And any forced marriages is now completely abrogated. And our messenger RNA subtle sub told us that

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the marriage that is forceful, that is coherent, is unacceptable, meaning it is an invalid, Nick, at

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the moment to she, even if she doesn't say anything, but she expresses, you know, emotion and feelings and actions, it's very apparent to her that she's totally against all of this. All of that counts as something, it counts as part of her voice. You know, in some cultures, it's really scary for her to speak out and say, I don't want to marry him. She could she could be she could put herself in a very dangerous situation. So a lot of cultures even till this day, just the culture itself is so intimidating for her that she kind of just goes with it and be like, I guess so. I guess I have to do it. Because if I say anything, things can happen to me. Well, Islam said, okay,

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all of that, throw it out the window now. Now she has this right. This was a big deal. By the way. The idea of women having a voice is like, just non existent

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in pre Islam, so now they have rights to inherit.

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Men, the children than them have rights. And now Oh my god, now they can actually say no to the tribal leader. I don't want to marry you. This happened with automotive no haute-savoie the lower end as well. He proposed to a woman and she said to him, I don't want to marry you because you're too strict.

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You know what our model de la Han did?

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said okay.

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He will

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Actually refused marriage from this woman.

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Imagine that's a mural, meaning, you're intimidating that is to do. That's the that's the leader of the Muslim world. That's one of the best companions to touch the ground. He just asked for marriage to you, out of all the people he could have had. And you said no rate up to his face. And you told him why you're too strict man, you're too harsh with people, I don't want to marry you.

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Oh, my God, Allah when, eventually, you know, he accepted it, of course. But he also learned from that to come down and to soften up. Those are some of the experience that just happened several times with him. Right several times, there were different women. Some of them were the elderly women as well, that would meet him. And all of a sudden, you know, Hawaii live in Florida, or the Aloha. She'll see her online when she was an old old woman and role model had just started growing. She'll see her on board or the alumni in the marketplace and be like, I'm gonna

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stand here. And the way she would call him some of our motto, the Aloha friends, his companions will be like, yeah, you let an old lady talk to you like that. You know what he would say? He said her.

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When she spoke a lot, listen to her and revealed versus because of her. So if she wants to talk to me, throughout the whole night, until tomorrow, I will stand here and not interrupt her. He learned how to calm down and respect.

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Respect, especially women, see these little instances? All of this was unheard of. So it's a big deal. Verse number 19. is a big deal in the Muslim world. Okay, then a lot adds to it.

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He says, He adds to it is and he says,

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well, Terrell do one and do not force them. Well, that's our little one from the word albala.

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To restrict, don't force them. So don't compel them. They're saying no, no, no. It also means to scold someone until hold them back. So they're trying to run away from this contract.

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That's called admin analyst says, Don't do that. So two things. First is you cannot it is not permissible for any of you that you inherit women forcibly. So two things have happened here, number one. So in context, remember, I said to you that women used to be the product of inheritance as well.

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So like, when when he passes away, he actually put a value on his wife and said, okay, use kids, if you want to sell your mom, this is how much he's worth. Right? So that's the disgusting and despicable practice of many that happened. Right. So that was eradicated right? Then the second thing was the force of forcible marriages. So let's do one. Don't force them to get into relationships like that. The 10th hub will be Baldy Matt Tatum or hoonah illa. Tina, before he showed him movie, you know, and then it continues on, don't hold back from them that you remove some of the things you've given to them. So don't take back what you've given to them. So what is this

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talking about? It's talking about the makeup. It's also talking about any gifts and items that you've given her at the time of marriage. If a divorce or something happens and the marriage is broken, you don't get to say Well, you know what, the carpet that I bought for the room, it's mine, give it to me. Your bed Give it to me. I bought the couch Give that to me too. You don't get to do that.

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Even like smaller items like her jewelry, her watch her car, you don't get to say all of that it's mine because I bought it for you.

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That even till this day in a Islamic divorce. No party has the right to do that. There are some exceptions actually, where the you are required to leave those things behind or you're required to even provide some of those things. Post post marriage, post divorce. Right? So after the divorce, you have to leave certain things behind. There are some cases like that. Like it's really just, what's hers is hers CASE CLOSED, whether you like it or not you when you bought it, you bought it for her. You don't get to take it back. Just because you things didn't work out. So Allah says don't hold back from them that you remove some of the things that you've given them. Yeah.

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Yeah.

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I knew this. This question would

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Come up. And so for the online students, right, so what happens if a forcible marriage had occurred? Believe it or not, I wouldn't be surprised at some of the classes I teach that their students in here that actually have a marriage similar to that. Right. That's how common This is. And the only thing I can say to you is that that is a situation that has to be judged case by case. There isn't a rule, general rule that goes across the board for all of those types of marriages. Right. It requires some, some research, it requires conversation, and a lot of things have to talk about what led to a marriage like that to begin with, who was involved. A lot of the times, even marriages like

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that don't even happen here. They happen abroad and other places where a lot of the rights for her are restricted to begin with. So I can't, I can't really give.

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Yeah, well, yeah, no, no doubt, you know, I don't deny for a moment that it doesn't happen here. Right. So my point is, is that at the end of the day, wherever this occurs, it is treated by case by case scenario. And it usually has to involve someone in the middle like, you know, an Imam or a scholar, to kind of look and judge what the situation is, and he can decide right then and there. Whether this marriage is nullified, or it's still a valid marriage, or it can continue etc, or there's a penalty, there are a lot of things that can still make that kind of marriage that if it does turn out to be a good one. There are a lot of things that can still happen to keep that

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marriage intact. But if it breaks that it has to be done officially by someone like that.

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So the general rule is no The only time you the man gets the Mahara back after a divorce as if the marriage was consummated.

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Yeah, and one one opinion is even half Imam Malik Rahim, Allah His opinion was just half the Maha she still gets something. So again, when a situation like that happens, it is must be judged. I will never ever give a federal on a marriage just like that openly, you know, generic for everyone. Because I've learned over the years that everybody's situation is very unique. So they must must sit with someone in order to have their their case judged. Okay. Let's pause here in sha Allah.

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Next week,

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maybe I need to get permission from my wife if I should come here next week or not talk.

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Yeah.

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I would like to take the week off, if that's okay.

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Okay.

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Not all my classes are canceled, but at least the heavy ones like this. I would like to keep that so we will see you the following week in sha Allah Thursday. Please, please. If you know that there are students who are in this class that are not here, and you have contact with them, please remind them because you have something