Musleh Khan – The True Slaves of Allah Class #4 The Slaves of ArRahman
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The importance of balancing personalities and their expectations in relationships is discussed, including the need for consistency in prayer and finding a balance in relationships. The speakers emphasize the importance of protecting loved ones and finding a balance in relationships, while also emphasizing caution in behavior. The speakers also touch on the three major sins of Islam, including smoking, drinking cigarette, and drinking alcohol, and provide guidance on how to navigate punishment for those who commit crimes.
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Life stays very it's on autopilot. Your a bad debt is very consistent. You never feel the burden and the weight, and it never feels trivial to
anything else.
So if if a bed ever feels light and trivial, what do you do?
You add, you add more. So if the five Salawat are such a routine you're accustomed to it, what do you what should you do? So that you keep the flavor of Salah sweet, or each and every time? What should you do?
You add the Sunnah prayers. And when that becomes a habit, what do you do? You add some natural prayers. And if all of that is your routine, what do you end up doing? You end up doing your best to perfect every prayer, that's hard, you will never we will never be on a path where our prayers are 100% Perfect each and every time. So that consistent attention and concentration in perfecting your salon each and every time is a lifelong training. You never ever get there. And that's it, your salon is just perfect all the time. No, you're gonna have that the root core that's just not really out of core, you're gonna have that subsidy that's literally like one second long is enough Subhan
Ruby.
And then when that happens, you should like kind of remind yourself, man, I know I was in a rush when I shouldn't have prayed like that. Next time, I got to do that better. That's how your mind is always thinking solid, even when you're not praying. So when you get to a place like that, where you can
assess and monitor your iba debt, your lifestyle, your worship everything. And, you know, you're not feeling overwhelmed and you're not getting bored, you know, you're in a good place. I don't know how to describe that except to tell you that you just know when it when you're there, you know that you can feel it and you understand when you're there. Another thing that scholars say when you know you have balance is that you're able to get along with everyone.
Okay, the most religious and the least you know how to talk to all of them. You can get along you can sit with them, you can have a conversation you can teach you can do anything. You can get along with anybody really your personalities just like that.
So do you see the problem? Why in our society today, when you have messages that are catered to a particular culture or group? Do you see why that's a problem? Because you're splitting this balance. Now it's impossible for it to happen. Because why one group is just gonna get accustomed to their culture and their local message. And that's, they'll drive as long as they need to just to feel that and never balanced that experience by being in another local Masjid elsewhere. So the people who build a lot of these massages have that same attitude. So they just add to the problem in splitting the community more and more and more in this regard. Right? So this subject of balance is massive.
It's really comprehensive and the shittier and the scholars have tipsy or they spend like pages upon pages on just talking about finding balance. Like it's a very, very intense subject. Yep. So this is the same word using as well. Yeah. So how to how does that how does it really to balance their verses? Oh, it's so beautiful. You're talking about verse 34, and Sudetenland he said the famous verse that every man has memorized.
Every brothers memorized out and even somebody who's never read the Quran, you know, it's already chatted why Munna Allah Nisa. Right. So the word that is used poem in this area is that he has an additional layer of responsibility, okay. Now, how do you apply a similar definition to the same word, it's part of his balance of his marriage. So he's not providing more than he needs to. And he's not counting every footstep of effort he's putting towards the marriage. He's doing the extra that is just right and comfortable and needed based on his ability to provide. So Calum in that area means that he is the protector in the caregiver for his wife. That's the first priority. Now, some
like it's very normal that some marriages look at this responsibility from him very different to the next marriage. Right? Her expectations might be a certain level, his expectations and what he's able to provide might be a certain level, whatever that is, whatever is required from him, and whatever she is satisfied with. He has to find that medium and stick to it. It can't just be like you don't when we first got married, you know?
I bought your car. So you had your own car. I had my own
Only was great. But I just think that now after 20 years, you know, you should have rollerblades.
I don't want to pay another insurance, when she says, So how am I gonna get to work? Like, how am I going to continue to do what I'm doing? I've had this car forever. Like, no, gas is too expensive. So like, he just comes up with some reasons that he feels are valid. But what does he do? He takes away it's something that he can maintain and provide that she needs. It's, it's, it's necessary, especially when you live here. Like, you can almost argue that having a vehicle here is almost necessary specially for HIV, right? For obvious reasons, right? So what he argues No, I just need to save some money, because everything is so expensive, I just need to save. So I'm gonna get you like
a bus pass.
Yeah, that's now you fall off of colon, see the balance. So in one on one hand, he might still say, Well, I'm still gonna pay for it. I'll give you bust my butt, bust her every single month. So you got nothing to worry about. But the imbalance is, now you're putting her in a situation that she doesn't know it's foreign to her. She doesn't need to be in there, you can afford to give her something better. That's the lifestyle she grew up with before she married us has never gone on transit before. And she's a hijabi. And it comes only and it's dangerous n n n n n n. So the balance is lost. So you seek polam in that A is far more than just providing and being a protector. It's how
you provide and how you're protecting that also counts and it's captured in the same wording.
But what about under protection? What is the protection?
It's very similar.
And
one might consider protecting to another duck meow, that might be a little extreme, you're going a little too far. Right? She can't talk to nobody, she can't answer her phone for everyone. So his quote unquote, idea and vision of what protecting his wife is, could be very extreme for what scholars say in a situation like that when it comes to like protection in general, that he should try to fulfill what is considered a normal level of protection for his wife.
Unfortunately,
because marriages like you know, they differ from one to the other. It's just not it's not consistent across the board that way, unfortunately. Right. So I kind of glad you asked that. Like, it's a very common scenario where one marriage interprets what his role is, and to what extent he can fulfill that role is, as opposed to another marriage, it's complete, it's very different. And sometimes she might feel like she's restricted or trapped. And that's a form of, you know, abuse, do like literally restricting and trap her to, to the point where she doesn't have a phone. And if she does, it's monitored 24/7 She can't receive a text, she can go out and work she can't put on
anything unless it's confirmed by him. It also every footstep is monitored, who she says send them to how she responds, why did you look at him that way? When he said, Son, I'm calling like all of that. That's not poem. That's something else.
In the Koran, one of the words that that's called is new shoes, where it's like a form of abuse, like it's mental torture. And that's not normal. Right. So it's kind of just basically, as we mentioned, sort of fulfilling a standard that is considered to be a norm for Muslim families in that part of the world or city that they live in.
Yeah.
When you mentioned about balancing in worship.
When you're, there's always like this, it's not enough, even though then you feel like you're not doing enough. That feeling is it's not a permanent feeling.
You should have done better you should do if you can do this, why not? Why are you not doing that? That's great. And that's a great place to be because it's very encouraging, if you're never settled where you are. So another sign that you're you're on the right track, you're never you never get comfortable with what you're doing. You always feel the need to do more. That was the balance of like,
you see, in cases like that, it probably I would say would it apply? Because this is more of an individual experience. Some people have the ability to push themselves more than others. And if you can, all power to you, Allah will reward you for that and Allah says himself, that he will reward you for that the extra that you do, the more that you do. The person that goes that extra mile that's what the rebuttal ramen is all of us remember what we said at the bed. All right, man is not your average layman Muslim out there. These are the people that got uncomfortable with just on cruise control.
You know, they're very bad debt and all the good that they were doing was just very average in comparison to the people around them. But then they read the biography of one little sahab still read a biography of one of the great scholars and saw how they prayed. You know how Imam Rahim Allah prayed 300 rakaats have nothing in one day. And he did that for more than 10 years. And under years that are the days that he was sick. He would only pray and he would literally say this, like use a cow. I'm not feeling well today. I'll just pray 150 rakaats instead. It's a bad day for me today. You kidding me? Let's see ma'am. achmad.
You know, I'm a chef at Rahim Allah had a brilliant memory. Like he'll open a book and he will look at it once and memorize it, and then turn the page. So he has his sitting in front of his chef will appear and he's reading then the chef expects a certain level of memorization from the mammoth Shafi. And he notices that mmm a chef at his students is sitting there. And remember chef, it had to look at the page twice or three times then memorized it. So the chef asked them what's wrong? You're you're a little bit off today what happened?
Are you kidding? Three times you have to look at their faces a bad day for him, even me, Chevy. So when you read and you look at how scholars are, that's encouraging, but that's more of an individual or a journey. And you know, when it comes to the balance here, you don't have anything to compare it to so that's more of an individual thing and you're just rewarded accordingly. Insha Allah
okay, this is the area that will take us to the end of today.
Will Latina Allah de Runa mera la isla? Aha. So this is the title of this idea, three major sins. These are the three biggest and major sins of Islam. That first is, they are those who do not invoke other any other God besides Allah, in other words shook. So the first of the major sin is that the believers are you Berto rochman,
do not call or associate anything with Allah. Isla Han AHA Isla Han, the sword Isla literally means like a deity. So they don't associate any deity or thing or object or person, worthy of any rights of Allah. They don't take any rights to belong to Allah and attach or associate that to anything else. It's all exclusive to him somehow without it. So remember, Shiva is when you take a write that belongs to Allah, and you give that right or share it with something else. That's literally what shirk is. So Allah has, he describes to us all of his names and attributes and each name and accurately describes a part of what Allah does, and what he's able to do and his level of power and
authority over his creation. If you associate that with any of Allah's creations, that's immediate choke right there. So if somebody says that, um,
you know,
I know when the day of judgment will be.
Okay.
I believe the pope claims the same thing, right. And part of his knowledge is that he claims he knows what this Day of Judgment will be right?
That sure kawaii the obvious reason is because who knows what the Day of Judgment is? Only Allah right? And Allah says that he will not give this knowledge to anybody. Right? That it's a knowledge that it will remain with him. So just the fact that one question and its answer that's it everything else you leave with Allah. But this one question that is exclusive and it's solely with Allah, you take that one question and you attach it to a person that's immediate show to create their major ship by the way. There are also different forms of ship. There's also like, a lot of subtleties in Schilke. There's a category of sciatica that I personally refer to I call it inner Schilke
inner sciatic is really common amongst Muslims. And a lot of them may not realize or even know, inner Schilke it's that shake, where
the It's the feeling inside of hope or depending on perhaps maybe the doctor is going to perform some treatment and you're just hoping this doctor can just perform this miracle and make this happen. And you depended you hold on to the doctor for every footstep forward. And if the doctor makes a mistake,
you let them have it.
That is you're not cautious, right if you can
not separate accountability of your dependency on that could be a form of inertia. Because you're depending way more, you're depending on this individual to do more than what their ability is, as a human being. They can't quote unquote, cure you. That's Allah's job.
They may have some knowledge to get you towards a cure but for anything Torah that's from Allah.
By we all know that, that's from him. Allah even tells us that and he doesn't tell us that he'll cure you. Allah tells us in a completely different way. Allah says
falam Mecca chef Anna and her daughter, so like a pain came on them. And Allah lifted the pain.
He lifted, it doesn't say that Allah cured this and that it just somehow they got some relief.
Mara lemmya Dona Isla Doreen nessa you the ISS that then they just went back to their life as though they were never sick, and they were never in pain.
This scenario here, if you're not cautious, could be a form of shock. Because if you depend on going back to the doctor, or the specialist for the cure, and you say to yourself, well, as long as you know, the same thing happens to me, I can always go back to where I got the cure, and they'll take care of me. If you're not cautious with speaking like that, and thinking that way, you can easily fall into this inner ship that you are within without even noticing and recognizing it. And this is based on a hadith of our Prophet, I thought was salam. Right, the Prophet that he said to Simon said, There will come a time one of the signs of the Day of Judgment is that people would commit
shirk, and not know or realize that they're doing it, because it'll become such a norm, it'll become such a habit. And they would follow this shark behavior, they would follow this belief or this behavior, even if it was down a dark hole, they would still go and follow it because why? It just became a norm to them. So you have to be really cautious of where your heart is, where your dependency is, where your intentions are, is to constantly think about these things. And I just through you know, this whole example of going to a doctor and trying to get medicine things like at the end of the day, just remember who is really curing you. The ability for you to have the
privilege of buying medicine and utilizing medicine in and of itself is an honor that that that comes from Allah. There's a lot of people sick in this world that will never see an Advil or Tylenol. They'll never see that. They'll never know what it is. So well Alina Allah Tarun Amara la isla and Ahana don't just think of it of like practically what's obvious, okay, worshiping a tree or a statue. There are much more other nuances and subtleties in show besides just the obvious bending and bowing down towards another object. Number two, while Jakob Toluna nests and they don't commit murder, they don't take the light they don't nor do they take a human life that was made sacred by
Allah Allah to help him Allah Allah will help except with legal right shouldn't be this one here why sir why? Okay.
So they don't commit murder. They don't take the life of another human being unless there is reason to do so. Right. So like capital punishment, or they go through, you know, a judicial process. And then the verdict is that they were sentenced to death or something like that. That's what Elavil health is right?
Otherwise, it's considered jakotsu. They took they took a life wrongfully and number three what is noon? So number three is obviously Zina.
Now look at the order what came first shook. Number two is murder. A number three is Xena in Sudeten. sootel is surah. Allah mentions Schilke but then he mentions number two, what is noon
while I talk caribou, Xena, so Xin, as mentioned number two, and then number three, Allah mentions murder. So in pseudotyped, is surah. It's inverted, you have Zina first then murder and this one you have murder than Zina which one is before which in terms of order.
So which one is more serious? Is that the murder? Or is it Zina? Or is it Xena then murder? Which one is we know that chick is always number one, so that nothing to worry about there?
So why is it in one order in this surah and it's the opposite order and another sorta show the significance of both kind of,
in what sense? So yeah, you're right there equaling what sounds
like committing either or is just as bad as doing the good. So one is physical murder. Zina is a
Spiritual murder.
Anybody who commits or any form of Zina
that's the easiest quickest way to delete your iman. You will lose your deen
you will lose everything. You will not only lose your deen
you will lose self respect. You will lose respect for others. You literally become like an animal.
You wouldn't be able to watch like a poster and if it has like a flight attendant, okay, she's wearing a full fledge, you know, suit as a flight attendant of a particular airline. If you if this individual becomes somebody that is constantly exposed to all forms of Zina, even looking at that poster, they can't help themselves picturing that poster of that individual without clothing on, you become like this perverted machine. Anywhere you go. You just can't help but seeing and picturing, and when you're talking to somebody you just see through them see through their clothing. That's what is new. And that's the spiritual murder we're talking about. So it's not just the Islam, it's
the respect, it's the character, the quality in you, as a human, all of that is lost, you literally become like an animal, maybe even worse, because even animals know their limits to an extent. So don't trivialize and look at the society that we live in. Look at a not even to say, look at a world we live in today. Prophet alayhi salatu salam told us there will come a time where people will walk the streets closed, and they will still be naked.
No, they will be closed but still naked.
I don't have to give you a Tafseer of that is very obvious.
Like somebody would be wearing clothing, but you could still see everything. That kind of image. Look at where we live. Look at look at the world we live in today. You don't need somebody to have nothing on to know the shape and size or all of that you don't need that. And it's all one of the signs of Day of Judgment and profit. I just thought well, someone even told us another Hadith that
the person who makes Zina a habit even their life is shortened.
Some believers is authentic hadith in the student of libido, like their life is shortened.
How, like does that mean literally if there were supposed to live to like at the end up dying wonder 50 Allahu Arlin. There are several like Tafseer like explanations of this hadith, but London was best. Either it could, it could just be a phrase that when your life is short, meaning you won't find meaning in your life after a certain period. So like your life becomes meaningful to a certain age. And then after that the last 10 years of your life, you just hate everything you hate yourself, you want to die, you're just waiting to get sick and go. So it starts losing its purpose that way that can be a form of death. It's like It's like any emotional psychological death you experienced
the last few years of your life. Why? Because of the exposure of this quick question when Allah says, Well, are you as noon?
Is it talking about actual fornication or
the act of fornicating and everything that leads to it?
Like what is it focused on here? When it says well, it is noon, just the actual act of fornicating or everything that leads to it as well.
Everything that leads to
Well, as soon as also if you can't control the eye gaze can control the hands can control the action. That's all part of this noon. The Prophet Alayhi Salatu was Salam Tolis I Nan Yes, near
the eyes, decoded Zina. It tells us the ears also can add Zina and the hands also can exhibit how do these things can exhibit? It's obvious when you ear when you look at an you don't control the eyes. You don't control the gaze. It's a form of Zina then if you don't control the ears Allah who I think it's for me personally, I think that one major example for us to relate to of Xena of the IRS is like music, like really pathetic music, shameful lyrics talking about women, this what they're going to do blah, blah, blah. You know what I'm talking about? Right? very explicit. Lyrics. And they're beautified with instruments and they become a song or music and it sounds amazing. Not realizing,
whoa, if you really just sat there and listened to the lyrics you're like, Oh my god.
This is just This is just as bad as if I saw this unfolding on a screen in front of you. All of that says noon. Okay.
So now you have these three major crimes.
Well many ephrins le que el corte thermal Cordova, whoever does any of this will face the penalty, you know what a thumb is a thumb is also a word, it's another word for sin, if them.
If them is like,
you know, when you're speeding, and you get a ticket, it's like a violation.
So you get pulled over. So it's like, if they're driving in any of these lanes, they get pulled over, and they're given this sinful ticket, you have been caught. Now this ticket of sin is on you, it's on your name, you're now you've got this thumbprint on you. Just not a thing to be proud of.
So you know,
what the three major sins are, you know what the thumb is? Right? So it's literally like a penalty or a thumb, moves, thumbprint of sin.
How does this look like in like real life terms? You know, if somebody was smoking, okay.
And they, when they're done their cigarette, they walk into your house.
Even if you've never seen them smoke, how do you know they still smoked, because of the smell. That's it. So we still have like, layer of like a layer or sun sign of this sin is still attached to them. Even if you can't see it, or you you never actually saw them do it. You could see it in them on as it's either could be older, it could be a certain habit that they have. You know how like, if you get some people angry, like you know, you might know somebody, you can have good conversations with them, no big deal until they get angry. Then you see, like the wolf come out of them. Like you see the devil come out. And then their tongue will just, there's no limit. That's if that's when
they're doing that's the kind of sin where when it comes out, you didn't know it was there to personal delight empathic. I know lots of people like that Subhan Allah men, just such great people, but when they get upset, they're the last people you want to be around. Right? So that's so you will die for love will either we will try to defeat him. I love what Allah said that he's going to do these people, their punishment will be multiplied. Why? So you don't have to multiply. Why students? Why did this group
if they committed one or all of those three major crimes, Why did Allah say I'm going to multiply their punishment? Why?
Why specifically this group? Think about what Rebadow Rockman is?
Don't they know better?
Not like the average layman. Muslim out No, a bad man went to classes. They went to conferences. They went for Hajj and Umrah. They've been practicing the deen for years. Then Allah decided to test them.
This incredibly handsome dude came in front of her this beautiful woman came in front of him. He or she got tested. And they fell right into that test carelessly, without any caution without any thought. Just let it happen. And one step led to another. This is a less saying. I laid everything out in front of you to protect yourself. And you still carelessly made the decision to just waltz right and do it all over again. You know what? You're not taking my Deen? Seriously?
See, there's no you can't fool you can't play around with a lesbian. You know, there was a men that came to ignore at best for the alumni and hold them
and said, Yeah, ignore you ignore Ibis. I have divorced my wife. The amount of times equal to the amount of stars in the sky.
This is how many times I divorced her. And then he asks he's like, am I divorced from her? Because you know the storm calm down. Then he realized he was being a fool. And he was playing around with a lesbian. I don't foresee a divorce. Oh my god, a divorce. That kind of thing.
So what do you think? No. I Bess says to this man. says you are divorced and don't play around with allez Deen again. That's because why, you know better. You should have known to control that. Like there's some things there's no excuse. You got to take the heat now. That's what Allah is saying here. These three areas. You lived your whole life. No
going there right now I test you do with it. And you didn't even try you just let yourself go? No, you're going to take the heat. And on top of that, I'm going to double down on you with the punishment on the Day of Judgment. You notice the idea does not say in jahannam? Where does the punishment start for them?
On the Day of Judgment itself, they're not even in Jahannam, while Hulu fee and they will remain in it forever in disgrace. So this alludes to jahannam. But like it starts on the Day of Judgment. So their resurrection is a form of punishment. Some scholars say that double down or the multiplying of punishment starts in the grave. So they're getting punched in the grave then on the day of judgment, and then remain forever in the fire when I have to be loud, right. Mohana is embarrassment, public embarrassment or disgrace? That's Mohana here.
Okay, it's pretty, pretty depressing so far. So let's conclude with this last dollar 11 Turbo Minoa emila. I'm an on site. Here's a step by step guide How to repent to Allah. How to make a Toba to Allah that is accepted in sha Allah.
This is a number 69 Right? Yeah.
Oh, I just realized I don't have the name is
no, this should be 70 Right?
Yeah, no, okay. Okay. So let's just put that there just so we don't.
Okay. So this is a number 70. Okay.
Number one
says tab, which is also
this word that you all know right Toba.
But it's in a different form. Tabgha is the doer. It's, it's referring to the doer of the action. Okay. So Allah says that Who amongst you is going to take on Toba and make it a part of yourself like it's going to be this is you. It's not just going to be the action it's going to be your life as participated in this Toba. So, take a look at what this what this A is going to teach and refined for us when we repent to Allah. Number one is Allah once real Toba not just words, once from us that if you're going to repent to Him, two things must happen. You must verbalize your repentance. And it must be apparent practically in your life. It has to reflect that verbal repentance you made it has
to reflect that you can't just be like a stock for the low low. And okay, let's cancel the drink today. We'll do it another time. Can't do that.
You can just be like a stock with little love for swearing and then tomorrow you get ticked off again the same word pops out of your mouth can't do that. Let's not talk about and it's not accepted. It's one thing when somebody has a bad habit and they're working on it that's different because the intention is there to change. But if somebody just carelessly all then you know, I got into another fight today and just I lost it with stuff but Allah you know, what can you do? People are annoying. Know, your Toba is annoying because it's not. It's not going anywhere. It doesn't have no sincere no meaning to it. That's why the word tab is used here the verb in past tense form. So
number one, Allah wants is real Toba that is reflective of your lifestyle. You don't just say it in sha Allah or wear hijab? No. You need to like buy one.
And then put it on. Hijab is not going to naturally fall from the sky and land on your head. Like I get some sisters who asked me that? Even some brothers who will ask me like, you know, make don't have the luxury and I can grow this beard and fulfill the sinner. What do you want me to do? Stop shaving. You'll see what happens. Videos big do I put on just I'll go I'll go get the hijab or just put it on your head and see what happens. But there's some things cannot call the Nike Rahimullah just do it. Right? Like what Nike says right? You just do it. So 11 Teva. That's terrible, by the way, so remember that Toba is never just a verbal thing. It must be a lifestyle change when you have
the lifestyle change those two things that is what is called Toba. Okay, don't be just like, oh my god, I have an addiction that I can't control my eyes. I'm always going on the wrong website. Get off the phone put on a program that blocks those websites. Okay, number two, this I love. See this here?
That's this. Amen. But this is the kind of momentum that that's one number two. And you have, amen. Quick question.
Does anybody battle Rockman already have Amen.
Don't they already have it?
Yeah.
Well, livina either ends up what about the Rockman lithium? Allah. We're at the end of this sort of 70 plus verses. If you go back to verse number one to all
didn't send disorder has already gotten the message of Eman. Why is Allah telling us okay you need to have Amen. You're 70 verses in
and then Allah says you need to have the men. Why?
In your view man is not complete.
It needs to be okay. Conscious
consciousness okay? You heard of a verse that sounds like this m and o rasuluh email and see that you lay him Robbie he was, you know what so is that in
beginning of the surah middle of the Surah or the end of the Surah
Surah Baqarah at the end of the surah Allah tells his prophet I saw there was an auto have Eman, doesn't he already have it?
So, something to think about. We're gonna pause there because there's there's so much happening here. I need a good hour on this area. So I'm gonna leave you with
that's your homework. Tell me why Allah tells us to have Iman again when we already have it.
If you have the answer, come with it next week. If you don't, you'll be in trouble.
Maybe there might be you'll draw off a lie that when you guys when you come into this class, you'll get double the punishment I don't know.
Anyhow, so we'll pause there and shout love for the then it will be solid time and then we'll be done in short LOGCAP so you don't need to be back here after Salah hydro Subhanak Allahumma Habitica Chateau La ilaha illa. Enter stuff to be like Sarah Morley Cora.