Channel: Musleh Khan
Series: Musleh Khan - Spiritual Growth
Salam aleikum. warahmatullah wabarakatuh Alhamdulillah wa Salatu was Salam ala rasulillah. Robert. So today, it's Part Seven. And it's one of the most beautiful, beautiful subjects that all of us will ever study in our religion. And it's also one of those sciences, one of the branches of Islam, that you don't actually need to open up a book to learn. And this is, of course, referring to our etiquettes and luck, etiquettes mannerisms, good luck. Not only is it a part of the Sunnah, and it's taught to us within the poor and, but just common sense teaches us how important it is to have good etiquettes not just with yourself, but with the people around you. The Prophet alayhi salaatu wa
sallam told us that good luck will enter you in Jenna. And one of the most remarkable things about this subject is common sense can take you a long way. And you use your common sense by picturing or putting yourself in somebody else's shoes, how would you want to be treated, and that's how you treat others. So immediately, you can place those yourself in a scenario where you're the subject and people are treating you a certain way talking to you a certain way, what it is, what is it that you would expect from them, what the tone of their voice is the choice of their words, and just their overall etiquettes their actions, the way that they present themselves, their posture, and how
they stand in front of you, all of these things, paint a picture of who we are. etiquettes is perhaps one of the most important subjects that any human being can ever reflect on, study and understand. And the reason why is you could have zero knowledge. But when you have good etiquettes people will love you and respect you. You could know nothing about this world, but your kind, your understanding, you know how to control your your anger, and your lack of patience, or whatever issues you might have, you know how to keep all of those things under control. People will accept you, Allah will still bless you with pible How many times have we met people like this, you know,
when you go into the massage aid, or wherever you go with school or at work, even notice, like you'll always meet someone who can barely speak English, who doesn't have much of an education was never really been able to study much in their lives. But they're always kind to you, they always treat you well, they always respect you, you still appreciate the company in the presence of that person. Now, that's today's subject. And I want to go ahead and read to you some of the things that are mentioned in this particular talk that I gave, of course, many, many years ago, and some of the acquired and some of the statements of the son of aroma hula. So for example, Abu hanifa when it
came to etiquettes, with parents, Abu hanifa Rahim Allah used to have this habit, it's just amazing. He would be sitting in with his mum, and they would be eating Abu hanifa Hema, hello would never start eating until his mother was finished her food first, when she finished her food, then he would start eating. And so some of the students would ask him why he did that. And his response is just absolutely remarkable. He says, I fear that if I'm eating, my mother would see something in my plate that she would desire. And I would have already taken a bite out of it or eaten it. So I wait until she is satisfied. And I also wait to see if she sees anything in my plate that she would desire so
that I can give it to her first before I start eating. It's just absolutely remarkable, like even these little things that we do that are so routine, and such a big part of our lives. But yet some of the greatest acts of mannerisms and examples of etiquettes you find in these moments. Continuing with respect to our Prophet, Allah, his Salatu was Salam. He gave us so many a hadith about having good luck and I'm not going to go through and say okay, you have to do this. You have to do that. And now you're a good person.
Just keep in mind, Allah subhanho wa Taala waited 40 years before he gave the Prophet Allah His slot was the Quran. He allowed 40 years of the Prophet alayhi salaatu wa sallam his life until now he was ready to receive the poor and what do we learn from them? One of the biggest lessons behind that the wisdom behind that this was the time for him to receive the core n was that prior to that, throughout his entire life, he was always known to be an honest man, a loving and caring individual, someone that people could trust. And so his etiquettes were being refined. Allah subhanho wa Taala was purifying his behavior and his attitudes.
That's why the scholars they say that one of the biggest gateways towards knowledge and towards understanding and connecting with the poor end is to have good luck. Because that's what Allah did with the Prophet alayhi salatu was salam, once he reached a point that align, so which I was pleased with, then it was time for him to receive the book. Now, what's the connection here? You see, when you have good luck, it's a sign that you have good intentions. It's a sign of sincerity, you not only think about yourself, but you think about people around you, that's lost that sincerity, you care about the overall well being of people around you. And you don't care what religion they belong
to, you don't care what background they have, all you care about at the end of the day is that everybody is treated well and treated fairly. And so our Prophet alayhi salatu was Salam continues, and he tells us in another Hadith with respect to families, so how do we implement Good luck, it starts with the family. And this is why we have had with our profits early, so it was Sam told us how eurocom hydroquinone actually, the best amongst you, is the one who is best to their families. What does that mean? haidakhan is a very generic word highroad. It's a very generic word to describe something that's pleasing something that's acceptable, something that's good. So the bare minimum
that we are encouraged to behave with our families, the bare minimum, is at least be a decent person. Even if you're angry, even if you're stressed out, even if you're frustrated, you had a long day at work. Your family is not the people that after a long day of work, you take out all of your stress. And unfortunately, lots of people do this. You know, when when dad comes home, he's all tired and stressed out, the kids want to play with him. They want to laugh, they want to jump on him. And he's like, Yeah, get out, get out of here, go go with your mom, go play with your mom tired, or he's watching TV or is doing something else. That's not the point. That's not why Allah
subhanho wa Taala puts you out there to work all day you work. And you strive and you struggle, so that you can have this comfort time with your family at the end of the day. That's the whole reason you go out there, and you do those things. So at the end of the day, you put forth the hours. Now you wait for your paycheck, you wait for a return, but in the meantime, when it comes to the late hours, and so on, when you're home, this is the time where your family sees the best in you. It's a hard thing to do, but it's something that you must do. And so our Prophet alayhi salaatu wa Salaam says this is the starting point. And why is it essential to be good to family, when you can be good
to the people you sleep with and you wake up with and you live with every single day of your life than the people that you rarely see. So everyone else outside of your home, it becomes a piece of cake. You know, patience is in autopilot, controlling your anger autopilot to be an honest, trustworthy, loving, caring person. All of these things are automatic. And keep in mind our Prophet alayhi salatu was Salam. Here's another incentive, why it's important to concentrate on good manners. Prophet alayhi salatu salam tells us that on the Day of Judgment, the people that are closest, and they are nearest to him, are the people that had beautiful o'clock, they had beautiful
etiquettes. And so that's a huge incentive for all of us that what that teaches us is, it doesn't matter at the end of the day, how much knowledge you acquire, doesn't matter what kind of an intellect you might be. At the end of the day. If you can be a nice person to people in general, if you can't be a good person, then all of that was a waste of time. You still end up potentially being amongst those that are refused or rejected on the day of judgment to be in the company of our Prophet alayhi salatu salam, another Hadith. Our Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam summarized his entire Prophethood in one sentence, one sentence, it summarizes entire Prophethood and it's not what
you think he's not going to talk to us about the poor end, he's not going to talk to us about Okay, this is what I did. I fought in this battle, we were victorious here, etc. No one had eath that's his authentic narrative in Bukhari and Muslim. The Prophet alayhi salatu salam says in NEMA borer is truly a 10 min muckety muck of luck. I was sent down for truly one purpose. In other words, what this means is that everything that is taught to us by our Prophet Allah Azza wa sallam all revolves around this one sentence. And he says, I was sent with this one purpose to beautify good manners, and to complete, beautiful and beautiful etiquettes. So at the end of the day, when we talk about
practicing the core and etiquettes as part of that journey, when we talk about implementing the teachings of the sadhana, it's all about etiquettes. And this is what
prayer and fasting and all of the disciplines that we have in our religion, this is what it ultimately leads to. It leads to you becoming an overall genuine dear good person in society in this world in life in general. You know, a man of Sheffield or Hema hula
when he prepared himself to go and study with Imam Malik Rahim Allah remember chef here his mum told her son to Allah Min ilmi min Amelie cobbler eating me. I want to own my son, that when you go and you visit mm Malik and you learn from him, that you will learn from his etiquettes and his mannerisms first, before you take from his knowledge. So in other words, go there and observe him, hang around with him. Talk to him have conversation, see how he eats, see how he interacts with the people see how he dresses all of these things. And this is why are the men become older man, because their whole journey through knowledge is complete. It's not just restricted to the theory aspect of
it. But even the action and implementation how they practice their knowledge is what gives them the great status that they have a metal rahimullah. He had over 5000 students in his sittings. You know in his lectures, he considered approximately 500 or so that they were true students of him though they were the students that excelled above and beyond the others. But then Mmm, Rahim Allah, it was narrated that many of the students 1000s of the students who said that when we would listen to him, even though we were not counted amongst his dear students amongst a special group, we all continue to learn by observing Mm hmm. It's etiquettes. And so we're talking about 1000s of students just
sitting there and just observing because again, at the end of the day, earlier, men are our Waterford will MBA, they are the inheritors of the profits. So what you see from them is the closest thing that you see to the prophets and the messengers. There's also one other statement that I really want to share with you that that's just absolutely beautiful with respect to the subject. And that is of course with hassanal bacillary Rahim Allahu taala the great scholar hustle bustle, yo Rahim Allah studied a hillock and etiquettes for 20 years. When we say study he concentrated on the subject. Now, in the beginning of this video, we said this is a lot of it has to do with common
sense. You don't actually need to open up a book and learn how to be kind, learn how to be loving, that's the fifth or in us. But what hustler Buster is referring to here is that every a and Hadeeth and science of Islam that he studied thoroughly and in depth.
Along with that journey, he also learned how to implement good etiquette. So for example, if he studied Sunnah, and all of the cam and Phil and rulings behind sada, he also incorporated in that journey that when you pray, that you're considerate with the person beside you, in front of you, and behind you, you ensure that you had you know, nice decent clothing on you had good hygiene, when you prayed you didn't distract others around you. You are not the Sala police. So when before or after the Salah, you didn't start to criticize or anybody. And then in addition to that, even when masala was over, has an embassy learn to incorporate that there was a discipline, even post prayer that,
you know, the first thing that he did wasn't to just start to socialize and laugh, you know, some of the things that a lot of us might do. But he was constantly in earth cow praying making door and this is what the tab you're on the scholars in general, this is their methodology, this is what they would do. And so brothers and sisters really the message here today, without good etiquettes nothing care, nothing that we learned will carry value. It would be it won't be meaningful anymore. It wouldn't carry the status and the weight and the honor that you would hope and want for it to do. And so going back to Islamic Studies in general. Everything that we learn about our Deen would be
against us if we didn't have good etiquettes and this is something that you unanimously talked about and agreed upon amongst all scholars since the beginning of time until perhaps the omo tm is the letter Allah. Allah will always be the first step towards receiving the knowledge of the Quran and the Sunnah. Well last and final point. So at the end of the day, how do we acquire good etiquettes? How do you develop that seriousness and that discipline so that etiquettes
All these become a priority for you. Well, we hinted at this earlier. There's one headache that literally sets the tone. And it's one of my favorite hobbies and we all know this hadith we've quoted several times, in some of our previous discussions, where the Prophet Alayhi salat wa salam says law you know, a hadoken had your hip belly, a female, your hip bull enough, see, none of you truly have Amen. In other words, none of you have real Amen. Amen. That's sincere Amen. That's consistent Eman that's preserved and protected. None of you have true faith in Allah subhanho wa Taala. Unless you love for your brother, what you love for yourself. In other words, unless you
treat others how you wish to be treated, that's a starting point. treat people the way you want to be treated. So if you're somebody that's always you know, involved in drama involved in problems, always, you know, somebody that no one can seem to get along with, everywhere you go, you stir up problems with people, there's all these issues. This is some visit indication to you, there are some serious discrepancies there are some serious problems in terms of your etiquettes and a HELOC. and edit one of the meanings behind it is to beautify. And the last thing that I will say is that in Arabic, there are several words to describe etiquette. So we have a flock of holyoake we have a Deb,
we also have bid Rohan. Just like we say Beware the dang bid rune in the Quran is often translated as righteousness in general, but bedroom, it has other characteristics to it, it also means stability in a land. You know, once everything is working, and it's in everything is synchronized perfectly. That's also the work bedroom refers to stability in that land. So so for example, in a city, if you shut off the water supply, then build ruin is no longer applicable because there's instability. Now there's no water supply for the entire city. But once those things continue to work again, you have to constantly maintain it and constantly service it. That's what our luck needs. Our
luck also needs constant maintenance and service. So we're always thinking about ways of how we can improve the way we speak and the way that we conduct ourselves. And this is why one of the most beautiful words on the subject is bedroom. Because bedroom, what it tells the believer is that you'd never ever settle for the good etiquettes that you have, you always try your best to improve it a step further. And that's one of the most beautiful things about this subject is that it has no limits. If you're loving it sky's the limit how loving you can be, if you're carrying it sky's the limit how carrying the potential of how caring you can be, all of us are at different levels. But
the point is, at the end of the day, this is the priority. This is the starting point. This is the gateway to all higher and goodness in this world and in the era. This is the gateway to attaining true knowledge that remains with you. And next for you. It uplifts you, it benefits you, it beautifies you It makes you a better human being overall, it's good advocates. And so with that being said, brothers and sisters, and everybody listening to this, unfortunately, you know, in our communities, this is really truly one of the saddest realities, the good etiquettes in general, is something that's almost impossible to find. Just think about how Muslims come out of parking lots
after tomorrow, you know, just look at the etiquettes like, at least here in Canada for the most part, but I'm sure many other parts in the world do this. We have to get special security we have sometimes we even have to get police officers to guide us out of the parking lot. Why? Because we just don't know how to do it in in a synchronized fashion. We don't know how to do it in a way Okay, we let one car go by or this or that we don't know how to do that stuff. And forget about just getting out of the parking lot. Do you ever see how a lots of massage it how the parking lot looks on the day of tomorrow or whenever there's a large gathering. You know, there's one car two blocks
like seven other cars parked by the fire hydrant blocks the driveway I kid you not have seen this with my own eyes more than once of Muslims that if they're running late, they don't want to miss the Salah or Juma you know what they end up doing? They literally park right in front of the entrance of the parking lot of the masjid. And then when all is said and done, you think to yourself, okay, well, maybe this whoever this person is they ran in, they caught the Salah, but immediately when the Salah is over, they'll run back out move their car because obviously they're they've blocked the entire parking lot. And only to find that that person is sitting there he'll pray like photocards
sooner than he'll pray his no I feel then he'll make his door eyes. Then he'll see a friend he says I'm on a concave Harley have a quick conversation and then he'll come outside. So that lack of courtesy and consideration all of these things boiled down to at the end.
of the day a lack of good etiquettes to just be considerate and courteous to others. And so brothers and sisters, I really hope and I pray that Allah subhanho wa Taala gives us the strength that we continue to improve our luck and etiquettes with each other with ourselves and the community at large. Allahumma Ameen. May Allah subhanho wa Taala continue to increase us May Allah subhanho wa Taala continue to beautify our lamp in our etiquettes alone. I mean, you know, from time to time, I forget to do this at the end of the video, but I remember now so I'm going to do it right now. And we are going to go into my box of goodies here. And this is tomorrow's subject. Oh, wow. Take a look
at this guys.
I don't know because it's going to look strange on the screen. But our next subject for tomorrow, in our journey with spiritual growth is the life of the grave about us. So life in the grave. So we're going to Now tap into what the era is going to look like that transition period that we go from this world to the next, the gateway the highway, the road, the path that we take to get to the theater is of course, that path within the grave itself. So tomorrow is going to be a very serious subject in sha Allah, Allah. And as I'm just skimming through these cards, there is so much to talk about so in sha Allah huhtala Stay tuned for tomorrow's discussion Bismillah hytera Allah on life in the grave,
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