Musleh Khan – My Husband Wants My Money

			Assalamu alaykum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh. Brothers and sisters, today we want to talk about the
husband who requests money from his wife, or even in some extreme cases, he demands it and says to
her, I want you to give me your check, give me access to your bank account, make sure I know every
ounce of spending, you have all of these things. He wants to have a full monitoring situation on
her. What is her rights in a situation like this? What is her response with respect to the
situation? These are the things that we want to highlight. So I've done some research on the topic.
I've asked some questions, and there's a couple of things I want to share with you. So number one,
		

			the first point is in Islam. This is a general sort of fifth principle in Islam. The woman's wealth
belongs solely to her. No one has any right to take that money or take that wealth from her.
Everything that she works for, is her responsibility. It's her property. Where are we getting that
getting this from? It's the verse in Silverton Lissa. Allah subhanho wa Taala made the men, the
caregivers or the breadwinners, or in Arabic, the moon Island, Nisa, they are the ones that are in
charge of the well being and taking care of these women. So it's actually our responsibilities as
husbands, that we look after all of their bills, all of their payments, everything, every need that
		

			they have, we have to step up to the plate. And we have to look after this. Now, of course, the
level of need varies depending on what culture you live in, and what society you come from. So maybe
in one culture, the need for that culture is a house and a car, in another culture, it may just be
the car, not necessarily house, etc. So it varies. But the point is, is that the general rule is at
least two thirds of the income in that family has to be taken care of with the men. What is the last
one third is left with it's usually left with her, she can take on this responsibility of providing
for the family by choice. And she can do this if she sees her husband struggling. So he's living
		

			paycheck to paycheck, she's allowed to, at least by her own free will get a job. And she should try
to help because at the end of the day, it is her husband and she is the wife, they just want to at
least have that compatibility with each other. So that's the first thing. Here's the second point
that I've jotted down here I want to share with you. It is a unanimous consensus amongst scholars
that the money belongs to her. So he can never wake up one day and claim it from her. He can never
say give me your bank account number you give me have access to your checks. He can never do this
bill Iijima unanimously agreed amongst all scholars, the money does belong to her. The last point
		

			that I want you to consider brothers and sisters is what we briefly touched upon, and that is if his
responsibilities is compromised in any way. So one day, she decides, look, I'm bored, I don't have
anything to do I want to go get a job. If she goes and she gets the job, then this should be at
least the minimum in terms of her contribution. The minimum is she should try to help out. You know,
she might say Look, let me pay the internet bill and I'll help you out with that. This is providing
she sees him struggling. This is out of her own consideration. And this goes back to the general
sort of theme or the general feel of a marriage that Allah subhanho wa Taala says, which are the
		

			Bina kumada toward Akuma is placed mercy and love or love and mercy between the both of you. So you
love him then show mercy to the marriage as well and help each other out as best as you can. So I
hope in sha Allah hotel Allah this at least helps the situation for any one of you going through
this. And I hope that Allah subhanho wa Taala instills in our hearts that we respect each other's
rights and we accept one another's rights, these rights they come from Allah we don't decide what's
good or bad for one another. Allah subhanho wa Taala has already decided that for us so once you
have that attitude, your marriage will be filled with water can be the letter Allah just like
		

			malachite instead of like what I'm told that he will not occur to