Musleh Khan – Life #17 My friends aren’t perfect, but how do I help them become better

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The speaker discusses the negative effects of negative relationships with Allah Subhanahu wacentala on one's faith and relationship with their family. They suggest finding new friends and finding a way to encourage others to live the right way. The speaker also advises finding courage and strength to have honest conversations with friends, even if they may not agree.

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			My friends aren't perfect
		
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			but how do I make them better?
		
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			All of us have been there,
		
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			some of us are still there. You have
		
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			friends you've grown up with your entire life,
		
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			but there's just one problem,
		
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			they're having an effect on your iman, a
		
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			negative effect on your faith. They're having an
		
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			effect on your relationship with your family and
		
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			other friends as well but especially your relationship
		
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			with Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala. What do you
		
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			do in a situation like this? Well brothers
		
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			and sisters, the first point.
		
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			The Prophet
		
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			told us that we are on
		
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			the path
		
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			of those whom we choose as friends,
		
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			those whom we befriend.
		
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			Listen to the wording.
		
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			The Prophet
		
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			is literally saying you are
		
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			who your friends are.
		
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			So if you start to see
		
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			those negative qualities
		
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			of your friendship circle,
		
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			it's starting to manifest in your own life,
		
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			then there's just one option here.
		
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			You have to find new friends.
		
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			If you're in a position where you can
		
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			influence,
		
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			encourage,
		
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			give some advice,
		
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			give some direction.
		
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			If you feel like you're in a position
		
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			to do that
		
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			and inshallah the results are there or you
		
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			have a genuine friend that's willing to listen,
		
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			that acknowledges
		
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			that he or she has these issues,
		
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			then that's really up to you. If you
		
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			feel like you have what it takes
		
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			that you can start to encourage them to
		
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			do the right thing, to live the right
		
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			way, and say the right things, and not
		
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			have a negative impact on your faith, go
		
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			for it. Perhaps it's an opportunity.
		
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			But if you don't,
		
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			and it's literally because we've been friends for
		
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			so long, you've got accustomed to these habits,
		
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			And others have had to point out, look,
		
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			you started dressing differently,
		
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			started talking differently,
		
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			used to pray on time all the time,
		
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			but now you're missing your prayers because you're
		
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			always hanging out with them.
		
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			That's an indication
		
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			that perhaps
		
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			it's time to find new friends.
		
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			That's not a bad thing brothers and sisters.
		
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			We are not required
		
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			to accept and befriend every single person we
		
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			come in contact with.
		
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			At the end of the day, there should
		
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			never be
		
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			any animosity
		
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			or hatred for anyone in our hearts. So
		
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			at the end of the day, if the
		
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			friendship
		
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			doesn't work out,
		
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			that's okay
		
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			for the one who leaves off something.
		
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			For the sake of Allah, Allah will always
		
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			replace it with that which is better.
		
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			So you win
		
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			all around when you leave off something that's
		
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			affecting your iman for the sake of preserving
		
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			it. Not only does Allah give you back
		
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			more in return,
		
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			but Allah will replace those friends with friends
		
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			that are more pleasing and better for you
		
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			and ultimately
		
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			your relationship with Allah.
		
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			And yes brothers and sisters, the best friends
		
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			are the ones
		
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			who are believers,
		
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			who remind you and keep you
		
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			close to Islam,
		
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			close to Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala. So it's
		
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			okay.
		
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			If you find yourself in a situation
		
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			where that friendship
		
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			circle or members of that circle is having
		
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			a negative effect on you, you know what
		
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			to do. It's just a matter of finding
		
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			the courage
		
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			and strength to have honest conversations. And you
		
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			know something?
		
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			If they're your real friends they'll
		
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			at least understand where you're coming from. They
		
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			may not agree, but at least understand
		
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			and hopefully
		
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			respect your decision, and Insha'Allah
		
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			the rest is history. May Allah make it
		
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			easy for you.