Musleh Khan – Family Life #8

			Mr. Martin to lay Obamacare to everyone Bismillah al Rahman al Rahim al hamdu Lillah wa Salatu was
Salam ala rasulillah Salam lohani who are lead he was heavy he woman wider and more varied. So let's
get right to it. We This is part two eight of life with children and today we're talking about
pride. Pride is a massive subject in the Quran. We are at verse number. Let me see here we're at
verse number 18. Guys, okay, so those of you following along with verse number 18, Allah subhanho wa
Taala this isn't sort of look man without or sorry, a decade leanness. What a temporary feel out of
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			the next piece of advice from documentary his sell him to his son. He says what Apple saw ever saw,
literally means it refers to when you try to grab an animal. So the arrows would say that they would
try to grab a camel or a sheep by its neck and force it to come along. And the camel, or the sheep
would just simply turn their head away. It's like, what do you think you are you think you can just
grab me and pull me where I want to be I'm not going anywhere. That's what sought out is. And so
look man is telling his son don't project the sense of pride even in your posture. So if if you're
just too proud to be amongst certain people or certain community amongst a certain individual, and
		

			even without saying a word, you turn the other cheek, or you look down and frown upon others, or you
carry the sense of superiority above others. That's what saradha is. So it'll command it. He said
I'm a same to his son. Don't ever act as though you're superior and above others. What's interesting
is remember the previous verse, the previous verse was always always all about sada. It was about
inspiring. Good. It was about repelling evil. And then I'll look continued be patient with what is
what what will happen to you, then that is of the greatest blessings and tests from Allah subhanho
wa Taala. And the point is, is that this next verse, Allah Subhana, WA, Thailand now tells us that
		

			an extension of that advice, okay, so yesterday, so Part Seven of this was literally summarized all
of his, all of the advice that He gave His Son, but now this a it continues, and it's extension
that, okay, you've got solid down brain, you're able to encourage people to do the right thing.
You're able to recognize evil and repel that or speak up against it. You're patient with things that
happen in your life. Well, just because you have all of these wonderful qualities, you're praying,
you're doing all of these amazing things. Don't ever for a moment think that you're better than
anybody don't turn the other cheek and act as though you're more superior than others. You know,
		

			here's one thing about Corbin. Every time a love praises qualities in an individual, and tells you
to have a have B and have C so for example in Sunita abakada verse number 177, it's got all of these
qualities of a good person in Islam, at the end of the day, or at the end of that verse, alone will
always put us in our place. Either it will happen at the end of the verse, or it will happen
somewhere in that surah it could be a couple of verses later, you'll get the complete opposite
meaning. So you'll have all of these great pieces of advice, but just be careful. You pray you fast
you do all of these wonderful things. You're you're encouraging people to do the right thing your
		

			patient amazing qualities. With Don't you dare think you're better than anybody else. This is a
lesson for everyone. Now put this into perspective in our series life with kids life with young
adults for parents, if your kids achieve something incredible. So whether they memorize support and
they graduated, they got an education they got their PhD doesn't matter. You know, they've really
elevated themselves. It's one thing to be proud of your kids. And it's a whole nother story to think
that your family and your children is better than anyone else. You got some money you got some
status, the business is going great l the kids got their own thing. They're doing their own thing.
		

			Stop flaunting blessings, flaunting blessings is very different than just showcasing what Allah
blessed you with with the intention of encouraging others. You see there's a total difference with
terms of the intention and the attitude behind it. And this is one thing that was also alluded to in
sort of use if and when Allah subhanho wa Taala Yaqoob barley Sallam tells his son
		

			When they're about to enter the palace, let Ted Holloman Babin why he didn't want to Holloman of
webbing with the federal court. So he tells us signs when you guys get into this palace, I don't
want you to walk into just one door all together. But there are several doors to this palace and I
want you guys to split up, blend in and walk in separate doors. Why did he do that? Some of the
scholars have tipsy or said that because I mean, you're talking about Yusuf Ali he said I'm siblings
used to possess the beauty of half of mankind. So what do you think his brothers them had? His
brothers them were also pretty beautiful, handsome men cement. And so he his fear was that if they
		

			all walked him together, people would think like was this like a celebrity crew that's walking into
the palace board these people, man, they are handsome man, they are beautiful, they look so well
off. So in order to avoid all of that it lets them split up and blend in with the rest of the crowd.
And so when Allah is saying what to say. Don't flaunt this stuff. Don't think that even if you don't
say a word that pride is not there, pride can still be there. And it's evil Allah azza wa jal in
other parts of the Quran says in Allah Allah, your hibben mystic video he doesn't love or doesn't
care about anybody who has even the slightest sense of pride attached to their personality or their
		

			character. next decade in this decade is your cheek. So now put it together. Allah is saying don't
turn the other cheek away from people out of what out of pride. You know, it's one thing to turn the
other cheek it was somebody who's you know, somebody's cursing at you arguing with you. They're
trying to avoid an intense situation that's that's separate. That's not what this a is about. A
simply the father saying to his son, listen, you know, don't walk around and act like you're better
than people. And even if you're called upon, be humble and respond, don't turn the other cheek.
Don't ignore for the sake of just ignoring you should always have a reason to do that sort of
		

			things. Why? Because that's profound language. Even if there's nothing verbalized it's profound
language. That's why we say actions speak louder than words. Like these are all actions here right
now. There's nothing about what to say or what you what to verbalize, right, then a lot. So it just
continues and he says, Well, at times you feel out of the motorhome. So now we got over mannerism
got over with the attitude in terms of just like practically in the home with kids in particular. So
at least from parents, not to flaunt your children to others. to flaunt their blessings front Look
how handsome they look like a beautiful look. It's more like you know Mashallah I'm just so I'm just
		

			so proud of him, Masha Allah, he's a beautiful child, Masha Allah, and then you know that it's the
language it's the choice of words. So even if you want to praise or you want to just say my son
looks handsome, but you're like, Oh my god, I'm gonna say that out of pride. No, just say Mashallah
Alhamdulillah Allah is a more solid, he's the one that fashions your child that way. And then the
opposite is also true as well, just for you know, it's a sight point. But even if, you know, when
you have a child and you look at his toes, you're like, Oh my god, how come his toes look like that?
We don't get to say things like that Allah isn't a Muslim, but he fashioned the child this way. So
		

			just be grateful you have that child and always thank Allah subhanho wa Taala forward and thank for
all thank him for what your child is, how they are, how they look how they behaved, and the things
that they achieved, then align so God continues and he says, what a Tim, she fell out of the hot
model hat. Now it's about action. So we finished with the attitude now it's about action. So even
with kids as well, don't ever for a moment thing that just because you have certain things that you
were blessed with you were able to go to school, you're able to get an education and then a degree,
but your dad grew up milking cows, your mom never went to school. So they're very uneducated. They
		

			can't, I guess reach to your caliber in terms of academic achievements. This a puts you in your
place. Don't you dare for a moment think that you're better than your parents. Because we've already
done the parent talk. Remember the parent talk came at verse number 14, we're on verse number 18. So
four verses ago our Allah already dealt with that which means what the the parent issue was a
priority to a lesser be dealt with that issue first. These things are now secondary. So we should
already have that attitude that we respect our parents and love them. And we never feel that we're
superior to them in any way shape, or form. So alleges reminds us just to keep us in check. So he
		

			says with attempts she fell out of the model had don't walk on this earth as though Manocha is also
a reflection of pride. So now we're looking at the action Monica is referring to the kind of pride
that has everything to do with the way you walk, the way you stand. You puff your chest though, you
walk with a swag. So Allah is saying, when an attitude is done, now the action as well. So if you
don't have an attitude problem, look, look Look how you walk.
		

			Look how you act. Look how you behave in front of people. Look how you dress, you dress as though
you think that all the clothes was hand stitched just for you and designed just for you, like, get
that get those actions out of you go back to the profit early. So I
		

			know many people try to assassinate him. And they couldn't find him. Like they will come to Mecca,
they would come from Yemen and other places. And they would look and ask around in the marketplace,
where's Mohammed? Where's this man who claims to be a prophet? And sometimes the prophets I send
them would be right in front of their face would be right in the marketplace. And they wouldn't know
That's him. That's the man that they set out to assassinate. Why? Because that was the humility of
the Prophet. It sounds awesome. That's how humble he was. He wasn't sitting in like this gold tent,
with archers and camels all parked in the front. He wasn't doing that. When you walked into his
		

			tent, the man didn't even have a place to sleep. Some of love argue some of us slept on the ground
on leaves. And so all of this is a reflection of keeping us in place. The worst tragedy in character
is kebab is pride. That's the worst thing that can happen to somebody character. So it was very
firm, very strict, very direct in the poor and about this. Then it continues. In Allah Allah you
hymnbook quick demo, turn in for Allah does not love. Here's another extension of pride, Martin and
for someone that is also an extension of what you say the choice of words that you say, and freehold
is the same thing as well. So if you put this together, Allah is saying putting it all together. I
		

			don't love people that act like they're prideful or say or speak like they're prideful, that they're
full of themselves. I don't like any of this. Now, here's the thing, put aside all that because I
think bye for now we've got the message about pride. Allah says in the Lucha now your hip. This is
really serious. Allah says in those of you who study Arabic, it's what we say in Arabic how to tell
key to one else. So in other words, it's it's it's a pronoun, that brings emphasis, and the emphasis
is undeniable. Like you can tweak it, you can change it. So whatever comes after in that it's 100%.
So Allah is saying, number one, indeed, verily, by no means there's nothing you can say. In the law,
		

			now he adds his name. So indeed, he doesn't say in any. In the law, when a law attaches his name to
a sentence, it says that's the peak of how serious the message is going to be in the law. Number
three, law law in this area is called level now hear. In other words, there is no possibility for a
law to love or accept somebody who has pride in their actions or in their attitude.
		

			That's unreal. That's just unbelievable. There is no chance. So how now look at it from a practical
sense, what you and I today? How is our reaction to people who have pride? Do we say oh my gosh,
Mashallah, you know, look at how these walk, look at the swag in them. You know, they are better
than everyone. We don't do that. As a matter of fact, anybody who's a show off or has pride, I mean,
show off is kind of like a sister to pride. Right? Anybody who has those kinds of qualities, they're
looked down upon, they're frowned upon. And even to some extent, they're even like, they're
isolated. Nobody wants to be their friend. Nobody wants to talk to them. Nobody associates
		

			themselves with them, all because of this quality. So when we as society also recognize that this is
something that's unpleasant, no one likes it. Then what about the poor and itself when Allah clearly
says in the Lucha Libre your hip? I don't love for not even a split second, and there is no
possibility there's no way that I would accept someone like that. So this is a burning question that
all of us, as a family have to ensure that from time to time we ask, and from time to time, we
monitor our behavior and our attitude. And there are lots of Muslims that do this. Unfortunately, we
see them all the time. You know, we see them and at the massages, we think we see them that they're
		

			allergic to advice, but they're addicted to giving advice. You know, they're allergic to guidance,
because they have convinced themselves that they're already on it. So they don't need anything from
anyone else. This is all a reflection of that kind of pride. And so then I they sent him, here's
what here's a couple of the lessons now. He's telling his son this and his son is fairly young,
because he calls that the ebony ebenen. So young child. So the point is, is that he started this
conversation very early. Alright and scholars differ sometimes some scholars
		

			said that this is a conversation should happen at as early as possible. There's no age limit, but
many of them said it's after maturity or puberty. So when they're really able to understand the
implications of this particular concept, then you can have serious conversations about them and let
them know that this is something that Allah hates. This is something that even we dislike, this is
something that people in society dislike. So we don't want that quality in you or anyone else. Now,
here's the last thing I'll say, inshallah. I know we said it, we'll try to take both verses. But
this morning when I was looking at the other verse, verse number 19, there's so much to talk about
		

			it. I don't want to make this video too long. So tomorrow in shot lovely Thailand, we will conclude
with the last piece of advice, okay.
		

			But with that being said, here's the last thing. Why is pride such a big issue to Allah? The answer
to that is, it's really about your relationship with Him, to find a love and to connect with him and
to love Him and to, and to continue to worship Him and to continue to recognize what we are to him
with that we are slaves. You know, with human beings, calling each other a slave is an insult. But
when Allah calls us his slave, that's a great honor. And so to be able to preserve that relationship
with our Creator, constantly requires us to refine and protect ourselves from Kibera and pride in
every way, shape, or form. And the second lesson is, the fact that Look, man early Salaam is doing
		

			this at a young age with his son shows that even young kids can pit could possess pride, they could
also get pride at a very early age, you know, they could have a toy better than the other kid and be
like, haha, I'm better than you. Like all of those things are seeds that plant into pride. And so
Allah is saying that for parenting terms of parenting, that this is something that you have to
tackle very early. And even if you haven't, it's better late than never tackle these issues and
recognize them and work through them. This is something that and here's the last point that I
mentioned, pride is not an easy thing to extinguish when somebody has it because it requires them to
		

			look beyond themselves. And that's not an easy thing to do for a lot of people. And it's it's not
easy in the sense that we know we don't have sympathy for that. Because I mean, so Pamela, it's a
very bad quality that you've allowed yourself to become addicted to, and convince yourself that this
is the way things should be. But it's more or less like that state to be in that state. And to
understand what culture and society deems and looks at somebody with those qualities is should be
enough of a reason for us to say I don't want to be targeted like that. I don't want to be looked at
like that. And here's one thing, parents listen to this very carefully. This is one of the most
		

			famous sentences that kids love to use. Now you guys ready? Listen to it. Be careful when you're
kids when you're trying to have this conversation with them. Be careful when kids say to you, well,
I don't care what people think. That is an Islamic attitude. You must care what people think,
especially when you give them reasons to think what they think of you. So it is an Islamic is not
the qualities of a believer to say I don't care what others see me or what others think of me. We
are believers, and we project a personality that we are judged by. That's what being a Muslim is.
It's the qualities that people see on the outside. And so if if you want people to judge you as a
		

			good person, as a person that's humble then guess what you have to do. You have to act like a good
person and a person that's humble. And so all of these things are found in this beautiful piece of
advice. And I pray that Allah subhanho wa Taala continue to teach us the knowledge of this beautiful
advice from a documentary listen to his son. And I pray that the last panel with Allah refine our
character, to the extent that it is always pleasing to Him. I pray that Allah subhana wa uttara
remove any ounce of pride in our hearts in our character and in our lives from a yarmulke
mythologize Atlantean Halo euro woman yarraman with Paula chateaubriand era that whoever does
		

			something good even an activist wait to have it, they will see it but whoever does the complete
opposite sees an atom's weight of shuttling something that's despicable or unpleasant, they will see
it so we ask Allah subhana wa tada that even an atom's weight of kibble or that it's removed from
our hearts in our lives in sha Allah, Allah I mean, so with that being said, Guys, tomorrow is the
last I guess you can say installment with respect to the advice of Lockman it sent him to his son
and then we're going to move on to some other qualities and some hobbies and so on insha Allah tala
on how to live and cope with life, life with children life with young adults. So this is our way of
		

			just trying to offer some guidance, some advice, just to make life a little bit easier to have some
of those hard conversations of what it takes.
		

			raise kids, wherever you are in shuttle laterna so May Allah subhanho wa Taala bless all of you.
Once again, please watch this as a family and male allies so you'll protect your family wherever you
are a local man. I mean, so take care guys and I'm on equal markets with Lakota cattle.