Musleh Khan – Ask Musleh – Age ain’t nothing but a number – Is that true?

			Assalamu alaykum warahmatullahi wabarakatuhu brothers and sisters and welcome to Ask Muslim. So
today we're asking the question age Ain't nothing but a number. Is that true? So where does age play
into that potential spouse and you getting married in sha Allah, there are two points that we want
to mention here, the wisdom behind the prophets I send them as marriage towards Khadija how old she
was and how old he was. And then also the wisdom with his marriage to our shadow, the lohana. And
the age difference between the two. Clearly you can see how complete the lifestyle of the prophecies
said of them is that in one hand, he did marry a mature woman, his first wife was somebody far more
		

			mature than he ever was. And Alhamdulillah, she became one of the best wives the one of the wives
that he praised, and he loved more than anything in this world, then at the same time, so he started
his prophethood with this wife, and it ended with her a shadow the love on her. Now I showed her the
love on him, this is the wife were the prophets, I said that he lays down just on the lower chest
area by her stomach, he lays down on her. And this is how he dies, he finds the comfort when the
revelation began. And then he also finds the comfort with his wife when the religion revelation
ended. The point here is brothers and sisters, the age between these two individuals, it didn't make
		

			a difference for him, he still loved the both of them, he still treated them well. And so the thing
that I want to say to all of you, brothers and sisters are two other points. Number one is, if you
can overlook that age difference between you and that potential, then you're really not losing out
on anything, it's really up to you, can you deal with the patience of that age gap that you have
with that particular person, whether they be older than you, or whether they be much younger than
you, there are certain habits that you're going to look for, that you're going to have to deal with,
there are certain things that you're going to have to cater to certain things that you're going to
		

			have to teach, or you're going to have to be the student and you're going to have to learn from that
person. So it's really up to you. That's the first thing I want to say. The second point here is
brothers and sisters is with that age difference. It can also be a great blessing in disguise simply
because even though a person might be much younger than you, they can actually have the potential of
being more mature than any other mature individual that you've met. So having said that, brothers
and sisters, it's really up to you. My personal advice is and this is just marriage, in the West
marriage around the world in Europe or wherever you are just generally in the Muslim world today,
		

			try to marry somebody who is as closest to your age group as possible. And the reason why I say that
is very simple. We live in a time right now where it's a very rare to find Muslims that have the
patience and the maturity to deal with a huge age gap between themselves and their spouse. It's just
really difficult to find that I'm not saying it's impossible but it's very very difficult to save
yourself that that those those types of issues, then what you want to do brothers and sisters try to
find somebody as closest to your age group as possible. It really does make life at the same time a
whole lot easier. You that commonality will be stronger and stronger as you both grow in your
		

			marriage life. So having said that, brothers and sisters May Allah azza wa jal Bless you all with a
righteous spouse