Musleh Khan – Al-Ahzaab Unveiled – Class 6

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The speakers emphasize the importance of protecting one's love and acceptance of his partner, particularly in setting boundaries and finding a strong relationship. They stress the need for confidence and strength in companions' minds, as well as learning and identifying individuals. The speakers also touch on the importance of setting high standards for women, particularly in the face of challenges and finding a comfortable life.

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			As I said, I'll prepare you for a
		
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			test.
		
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			Okay, I will give you some material to
		
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			look over so because I know that your
		
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			notes are probably different from one student to
		
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			the other.
		
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			So I totally I get that.
		
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			I will give you exactly what I want
		
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			you to know.
		
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			And the test will always be multiple choice.
		
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			Okay.
		
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			We'll make it easy.
		
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			From what I've known, as far as I
		
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			can remember, nobody has ever failed a test
		
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			of mine.
		
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			I've never unless a student just didn't show
		
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			up or they just put Salam on the
		
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			test.
		
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			And that was it.
		
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			They handed it back to me.
		
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			Yeah.
		
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			Other than that, I don't think I have
		
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			ever failed a student in anything Islamic ever.
		
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			So not to worry.
		
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			Um, let's let's continue with our study of
		
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			the magnificent Surat Al-Ahzab.
		
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			Okay, there's a couple of things that we
		
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			want to look at before we start today.
		
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			I believe this is where we we we
		
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			paused, right?
		
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			Yeah.
		
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			Verse number 27.
		
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			Yeah.
		
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			Yeah.
		
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			We did look at this.
		
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			We looked at this word.
		
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			And then that brings us to this verse
		
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			is where I believe we paused.
		
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			Okay.
		
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			This is the last verse about Surat Al
		
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			-Ahzab.
		
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			Okay.
		
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			When I say so the last verse is
		
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			the last verse of the Surah that's going
		
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			to link some sort of lesson from the
		
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			battle itself.
		
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			As far as what happened in the battle
		
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			and how the Muslims navigated through Al-Ahzab,
		
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			that conversation is already finished.
		
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			Now we are just looking at the aftermath.
		
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			Okay, so these verses from 25 to 27,
		
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			these verses are more focused on the aftermath
		
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			of Surat Al-Ahzab.
		
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			So as you can see, Four things came
		
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			out of this battle.
		
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			Number one, Allah has also caused you to
		
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			take over their lands.
		
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			So the real estate for the companions and
		
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			the Prophet ﷺ has now expanded.
		
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			Remember, after each battle, it gave them, especially
		
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			the battles that they were victorious in, it
		
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			gave them the power and the authority to
		
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			control and whatever land was available to them,
		
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			nobody claimed that land was also now under
		
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			their name or their ownership or their property.
		
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			And as part of Al-Uhud, the battle
		
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			of Uhud also gave them the opportunity to
		
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			expand as well.
		
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			So after the battle of Uhud, the landscape
		
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			of Medina continued to expand.
		
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			More and more land was under control of
		
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			the Prophet ﷺ.
		
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			Allah is reminding all of them that this
		
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			is not because of something you have done
		
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			or acquired.
		
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			This is something we gave this to you.
		
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			So He, meaning Allah ﷻ is reminding them,
		
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			He is the one that caused you to
		
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			take over their lands, the homes and wealth,
		
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			as well as lands that you have not
		
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			even set foot in.
		
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			There are areas of both Mecca and Medina
		
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			and even some of the cities in between
		
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			that the Messenger ﷺ and his companions could
		
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			never cross through.
		
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			They could never visit.
		
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			They could never do anything.
		
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			Because of, as these battles continued, this is
		
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			one of the most important outcomes of all
		
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			the battles, is an expansion of landscape, territory,
		
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			and things of that nature.
		
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			So this ayah is just a reminder to
		
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			them.
		
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			It was not because you were victorious in
		
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			the battle.
		
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			It was because that Allah ﷻ allowed and
		
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			gave permission for this to take place.
		
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			See this last part of the ayah, which
		
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			is lands you have not set foot on,
		
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			that's لم تطعوها.
		
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			This here, one tafsir mentions that it is
		
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			in reference to what is to come.
		
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			So not necessarily land that they've never seen
		
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			or touched before, but perhaps there are more
		
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			battles to come that they will be victorious
		
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			in as well.
		
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			So this last part of the ayah, in
		
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			your notes, you just want to note that
		
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			it has both of those meanings.
		
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			It has, number one, whatever expansion they were
		
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			able to receive and get from wealth and
		
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			homes and land now, after al-Ahzab.
		
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			And number two, it's directly related to the
		
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			battles that were to come afterwards, and the
		
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			land and wealth that they would get from
		
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			the future battles, that is also being promised
		
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			to them.
		
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			So things are looking up for the believers
		
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			now.
		
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			There is hope for their future, and it
		
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			looks like things are gradually starting to come
		
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			together in terms of the Prophet ﷺ's governance
		
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			of Medina, and the hopes of him being
		
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			able to freely visit Mecca and do Hajj
		
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			and Umrah and all of that.
		
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			All of these things now are going to
		
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			start to manifest.
		
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			So Mecca could not have looked worse at
		
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			this phase.
		
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			The battle of Uhud and Ahzab and others
		
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			are taking notice that the Quraysh now cannot
		
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			do it themselves.
		
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			So you see what also is happening, that
		
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			others now are starting to take notice that
		
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			the Quraysh are weakening.
		
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			They keep losing one battle after another after
		
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			another.
		
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			The sixth year, the Prophet ﷺ said, let's
		
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			go for Hajj.
		
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			Anybody know why?
		
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			Why did this happen?
		
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			Six year after the Hijrah, why did the
		
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			Prophet ﷺ say that, keep in mind, Mecca
		
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			is still restricted.
		
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			It's off limits for them to go and
		
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			visit.
		
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			Why after al-Ahzab, he tells the companions,
		
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			okay, they haven't even figured out how they're
		
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			going to get into Mecca, but he says,
		
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			let's go.
		
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			Why did he do that?
		
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			Think, why would he do that?
		
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			Things are really tense that just came out
		
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			of this battle.
		
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			Now they're going to go and confront what
		
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			could potentially turn into another battle, and they're
		
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			going to have to travel for at least
		
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			one month to get there, and they have
		
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			no idea what is waiting for them.
		
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			Why would the Messenger ﷺ do that?
		
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			Yeah.
		
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			Okay.
		
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			The companions, in terms of just the morale,
		
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			the strength and the focus and the confidence
		
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			and all of those things, how is everybody
		
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			feeling at this point?
		
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			So for the most part, it's safe to
		
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			say, because remember we talked about a verse
		
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			that when the companions saw the Quraysh entering
		
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			from all corners, what did they say?
		
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			They started praising Allah.
		
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			This is what Allah and His Messenger ﷺ
		
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			promised, so they were in a good state,
		
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			good frame of mind.
		
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			Now, after this had happened and the Quraysh
		
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			were defeated, they retreated, they couldn't do anything,
		
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			they had no choice but to leave.
		
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			The confidence is one step higher, stronger, whatever
		
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			you want to call it.
		
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			The whole morale of the companions and all
		
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			of Medina at this time is very high.
		
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			So basically, this is sort of a strategy
		
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			the Prophet ﷺ is using, that everybody already
		
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			now feels that the Quraysh stand no chance
		
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			against them.
		
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			There's three battles now that happened in a
		
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			row where the Quraysh failed.
		
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			The battle of Uhud, they first won it,
		
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			but then things happened afterwards.
		
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			But the point is that they were defeating
		
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			the Quraysh.
		
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			They brought all of their wealth and muscle
		
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			and they still couldn't stop the Muslims who
		
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			are a small group, a minority group, and
		
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			they had literally next to nothing with them.
		
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			So all of that has been done.
		
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			Let's go and see if we can sort
		
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			of make a path for us to get
		
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			to Hajj.
		
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			What do you learn from this strategy the
		
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			Prophet ﷺ is doing?
		
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			What do you learn from that?
		
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			We kind of had a sort of mini
		
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			example of this in today's class just before
		
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			we started.
		
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			If I came in here and I said
		
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			to you, okay, here's the test.
		
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			Here's the question.
		
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			Go for it.
		
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			Tell me three things that you learned about
		
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			Surah Al-Ahzab.
		
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			Chances are that all of you already came
		
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			with this understanding that the teacher said we
		
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			will be tested today.
		
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			You all went through your notes.
		
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			You sat here, got yourself focused.
		
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			You already got yourself into that mode.
		
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			That's just what that's exactly what happened here.
		
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			What was the benefit of that?
		
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			What do you sort of get out of
		
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			that small experience of, okay, a test is
		
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			going to happen.
		
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			Let me get myself in gear.
		
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			What's the benefit to go through that whole
		
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			process?
		
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			Did you benefit?
		
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			Okay.
		
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			Anything else?
		
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			Prepared?
		
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			Okay.
		
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			When something needs to be accomplished and it
		
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			needs to be done, and as long as
		
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			you go through all of the steps to
		
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			prepare, the sunnah is to go through it.
		
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			As long as you do the things you
		
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			need to do to prepare, the result of
		
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			that is with Allah.
		
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			Your job and my job is to just
		
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			go through but ensure that you are prepared.
		
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			That is a formula and a principle of
		
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			life.
		
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			Does that make sense?
		
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			Your whole life you have to do that.
		
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			You have to go through the things Allah
		
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			puts in front of you every single day,
		
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			including the people you talk to, the conversations
		
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			you're involved in, the things that you hear.
		
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			You didn't hear those things.
		
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			You didn't talk to those people just because
		
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			you're in their life or you were at
		
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			a particular place at a particular time.
		
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			No.
		
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			You were chosen to be at that moment
		
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			to hear those comments.
		
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			You were chosen to be alive right now
		
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			in 2024.
		
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			At the end of this month, you're chosen
		
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			to be here.
		
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			So when a believer can take and sort
		
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			of internalize life in that way where it's
		
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			a constant, I'm prepared.
		
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			Let's see where this goes.
		
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			And every conversation, you're always focused on what
		
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			I can get out of it to make
		
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			me a better human being, to make me
		
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			a better Muslim.
		
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			There's nothing in your life that you will
		
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			go through except you will find khair and
		
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			benefit out of it.
		
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			Nothing.
		
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			Even the worst of it, you'll walk away
		
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			and say, Alhamdulillah, I still learned something from
		
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			that.
		
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			That's the goal for all humans.
		
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			Some people find that feeling or that sense
		
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			of confidence and contentment.
		
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			They find it in material things.
		
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			As long as I look around me and
		
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			I'm like, man, I got this house now.
		
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			I worked hard for it, so it's mine.
		
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			I got my wife needed a car.
		
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			My husband in car.
		
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			Everybody kids need tuition fees sorted out.
		
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			Anything that people want.
		
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			Alhamdulillah, I got us to a good place.
		
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			Some people look at that and they sort
		
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			of feel like, you know, I prepped, I
		
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			went through it and I got the result
		
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			that I needed.
		
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			Now I can face the world until one
		
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			of them get sick.
		
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			Then you realize, man, I could pay to
		
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			fix my home to fix my car, but
		
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			I can't get no matter how much I
		
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			pay, I can't fix my health.
		
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			The believer doesn't have this problem.
		
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			The mu'min, they don't have this problem.
		
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			They are always, always, they're always in this
		
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			mode, in this gear, like the companions are.
		
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			They've gone through something.
		
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			They embraced it with Iman and faith in
		
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			Allah.
		
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			So now gradually the messenger Alayhi Salatu Wasalam
		
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			is saying, you know what?
		
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			Now it's a good time to go for
		
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			Hajj.
		
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			Now is the time to do this.
		
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			So the hypocrites are thrilled by this decision.
		
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			Why?
		
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			They're absolutely thrilled and ecstatic that the prophet
		
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			Alayhi Salatu Wasalam said, let's go and perform
		
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			Hajj.
		
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			Why?
		
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			Yeah, they're like, again, he's going to set
		
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			you guys up.
		
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			Now you're going to go there.
		
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			You're not even going to wait for the
		
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			Quraysh to come here.
		
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			Now you guys are going to pack and
		
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			go.
		
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			Oh, man, they had a party with this
		
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			whole situation.
		
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			It was said that before this journey or
		
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			the attempt for the first Hajj, it was
		
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			said that this is where the hypocrites were
		
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			at their peak in Medina.
		
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			Like there was never a thing that the
		
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			prophet Alayhi Salatu Wasalam could say, not even
		
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			khutbah he could give, except that hypocrites were
		
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			in the jama'ah.
		
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			Remember how hypocrites are living amongst them, right?
		
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			They go for fajr and they're praying in
		
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			the front line.
		
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			They're fasting in Ramadan.
		
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			They're there at the masjid for every salah.
		
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			They got beards, they got niqabs on, they
		
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			got everything.
		
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			Like you cannot identify a hypocrite for anyone
		
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			else.
		
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			So they were very good at what they
		
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			did.
		
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			And hypocrites in general are very good at
		
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			what they do.
		
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			It's really difficult for you and I to
		
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			sort of understand and detect and know who
		
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			these people are.
		
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			It's almost impossible.
		
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			That's why the ulema, they teach us that
		
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			you and I as average layman Muslims, we
		
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			never take that label and say to anybody,
		
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			you are a hypocrite.
		
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			We can't do that.
		
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			There's a whole process behind it and it
		
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			involves more than just one person.
		
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			There's a series of different people involved for
		
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			something like that.
		
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			You're basically saying this person is a person
		
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			of the hellfire.
		
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			Who's going to say that, right?
		
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			So the hypocrites here, they continue to do
		
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			exactly what they've been doing it all along.
		
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			Muhammad's going to go and set you guys
		
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			up just for hajj.
		
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			Hajj, you don't even need to do that
		
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			right now.
		
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			You can do next year or at least
		
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			let's wait.
		
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			This is what he does to you all.
		
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			A prophet's family, his family life, his wives
		
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			and the realities of marriage.
		
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			This is what is to come now.
		
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			Some uncomfortable subjects now are going to happen
		
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			and some of them will be really difficult
		
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			for us to have.
		
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			Do you have a question?
		
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			Yeah, go ahead.
		
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			Um, so you said that there's 13 people
		
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			involved in this battle.
		
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			I think I missed this.
		
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			Okay, which land is this?
		
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			This is a land of that they were
		
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			not able to inherit or touch.
		
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			Any companion died.
		
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			This part, you have to remember, land is
		
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			money.
		
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			It's wealth.
		
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			It's everything to these companions.
		
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			Okay, so land is survival.
		
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			Land is the insurance that they need to
		
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			ensure that those who come after them when
		
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			they pass away, there's some wealth and status
		
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			that's left behind.
		
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			homes, huts, whatever you want to call it.
		
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			So homes are singled out as one.
		
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			Wealth in general is the next as well
		
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			as the last.
		
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			So the possibility of land that they've never
		
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			known, seen or touched, they can also inherit
		
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			as well.
		
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			Okay, so here's what's going to happen now.
		
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			This is going to be, as we get
		
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			to specific verses, there are going to be
		
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			subjects that we have to talk about that
		
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			it's gonna, I don't know how else to
		
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			say it, but it might just get a
		
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			little uncomfortable for some students, right?
		
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			And Alhamdulillah, from as far as I can
		
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			see, we don't have anybody here that's below
		
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			the age of 13 or 12, right?
		
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			I know that some of you bring your
		
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			kids with you, but I don't think any
		
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			of them fall into that age bracket.
		
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			So we should be fine and we'll discuss
		
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			them as we get to those verses.
		
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			Okay, now we're going to start to get
		
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			into some of the things that are related
		
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			to the wives of the Prophet ﷺ.
		
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			It is this part of Surah Al-Ahzab
		
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			that the ulama of tafsir say every single
		
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			practicing Muslim woman must study the surah.
		
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			Okay, this is a surah that helps her
		
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			speak about and develop this sense of courage
		
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			to talk about issues that are so personal,
		
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			that are so intimate to her.
		
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			But if she mentions anything, it'll just create
		
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			trouble.
		
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			Perhaps maybe the community, perhaps maybe her husband,
		
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			it would just create a huge problem.
		
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			So what tends to happen very often is
		
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			the wife or the woman would just keep
		
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			it to herself.
		
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			She'll just stay quiet and take whatever it
		
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			is and just deal with that.
		
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			That becomes her whole life.
		
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			This part of the surah came to break
		
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			that cycle and to sort of empower her
		
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			now that no matter how personal these issues
		
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			are, no matter how you might feel that
		
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			or the husband might feel that he's being
		
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			degraded and he's being put down in a
		
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			certain way, maybe his pride and ego gets
		
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			in the way.
		
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			How dare you talk to me like that?
		
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			I'm your husband.
		
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			And you guys know the story.
		
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			You don't even have to be married to
		
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			know what I'm talking about.
		
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			That's where the surah comes in.
		
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			It's going to start to really bring some
		
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			of those issues out.
		
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			And for that sister that struggles with this,
		
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			when she reads these ayahs, some of them
		
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			might really shock you that the wives of
		
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			the Prophet ﷺ, they did not shy if
		
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			they had to speak or ask the Prophet
		
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			ﷺ anything.
		
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			Let me give you an example.
		
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			Listen to this narration.
		
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			Prophet ﷺ, one of the, see this verse
		
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			here?
		
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			Verse number 28.
		
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			Once we come to it, we come to
		
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			it.
		
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			I just want you to know it's verse
		
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			number 28.
		
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			One of the reasons scholars say that that
		
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			verse was revealed is an incident that happened.
		
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			Some of the wives of the Prophet ﷺ
		
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			came to him, not all but a few
		
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			of them.
		
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			It doesn't say exactly how many, but some.
		
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			And they said, Ya Rasulullah, we want you
		
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			to give us a little more.
		
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			What are they asking for?
		
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			They are asking for more wealth, inheritance, just
		
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			overall support.
		
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			Why are they doing this now?
		
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			Why are they doing this now?
		
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			After Ahzab, what did the Muslims inherit?
		
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			They got some wealth, right?
		
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			They got some wealth.
		
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			They got additional arms and material and different
		
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			things, right?
		
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			So now for the first time in the
		
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			history of Medina, there is a surplus of
		
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			wealth.
		
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			This has never happened.
		
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			Now they actually have areas where they store
		
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			this excess of material, food, and wealth.
		
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			This has never happened to them.
		
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			Prior to this battle, the Muslims, including the
		
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			wives of the Prophet ﷺ, everybody basically, what
		
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			we would say, they were penny pinchers, right?
		
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			You literally every single penny and dollar that
		
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			you spend has to be accounted for, has
		
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			to be thought through.
		
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			Now they don't have this problem.
		
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			So rightfully, it makes sense that these wives
		
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			came to him ﷺ and requested for him
		
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			to sort of increase what he provides and
		
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			he gives to them.
		
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			Before I even begin reading this narration, what
		
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			do you learn from this?
		
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			Especially the mothers and the wives that are
		
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			here, you've been married very long.
		
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			I think almost all of you that are
		
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			married have been married longer than me.
		
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			So you would have more experience and you
		
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			would have a better understanding of this situation.
		
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			You, the wife, request from your husband, listen,
		
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			we've always had a Toyota.
		
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			I like Mercedes.
		
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			Our business is going really well, so I
		
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			want to trade in.
		
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			That's all.
		
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			You think that's appropriate?
		
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			Is there something wrong?
		
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			She can ask for an Emirates Airbus 380
		
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			if she wants.
		
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			Like she said, I want an airplane.
		
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			I don't want any airplane.
		
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			I want the largest commercial airplane in existence.
		
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			She can ask for anything she wants.
		
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			Asking, there is no problem with.
		
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			But asking with wisdom, asking things that you
		
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			know you're in the situation that it can
		
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			be provided for, that's your haqq.
		
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			You have the right to do that.
		
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			Like that's not something the husband allows you
		
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			to do.
		
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			You understand?
		
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			Allah already gave you the right to do
		
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			that.
		
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			You don't need anybody's permission to ask for
		
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			if you see that the marriage and life
		
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			is in a good place and more has
		
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			occurred.
		
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			You have no restriction to do that.
		
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			So that's what happened with the wives of
		
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			the Prophet.
		
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			You want to know how he reacted?
		
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			Listen to what he reacted.
		
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			He reacted and after they asked him this
		
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			question, the Prophet did not come to see
		
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			any of them for an entire month.
		
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			And he did not even, listen to this,
		
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			and he didn't even come out and meet
		
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			none of the sahabas for one month.
		
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			Now I'm going to ask you again, is
		
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			that a question you should ask your husband?
		
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			Should you ask him that?
		
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			Now what you're going to see is that
		
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			there is a difference between the wives of
		
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			the Prophet and wives of husbands, like Muslim
		
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			wives to Muslim husbands, like in our day
		
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			and age.
		
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			The wives of the Prophet, you're going to
		
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			see this massive separation.
		
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			The expectations of the wives of the Prophet
		
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			of Allah are a totally different level of
		
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			expectation than average Muslims like me and you.
		
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			You understand?
		
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			That's why he pauses for an entire month.
		
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			What is he doing?
		
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			The narration doesn't mention not even a sentence.
		
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			It just says that he didn't go near
		
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			them for a month and he didn't even
		
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			talk to the companions for a whole month.
		
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			He just came in, led Salah, left.
		
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			That was it.
		
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			So look what happened.
		
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			Imagine if, okay, let me just read it,
		
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			okay?
		
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			So one month goes by.
		
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			Listen to what happens.
		
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			They start asking, the wives as well as
		
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			companions all together start asking.
		
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			They said, what's going on with him?
		
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			And they were all starting to come to
		
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			their own conclusions.
		
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			You know, this doesn't even sound like a
		
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			hadith.
		
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			It sounds like somebody wrote this yesterday about
		
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			our Muslim communities today, right?
		
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			They said the Prophet, peace be upon him,
		
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			divorced his wives.
		
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			That's why he never came out for the
		
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			whole month and talked to them.
		
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			He divorced all of them.
		
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			Somebody said this.
		
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			Somebody just literally came up with this whole,
		
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			oh, you know why?
		
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			Because they got divorced.
		
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			He let them all go.
		
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			We all can relate to this.
		
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			I'm not saying that we say it, but
		
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			we've all heard these kinds of allegations and
		
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			speculation that goes around.
		
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			Where people pick something out of something they
		
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			seem to think they understand, but they don't.
		
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			So they just come up with these assumptions
		
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			and they kind of speculate and they put
		
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			two and two together, draw a conclusion.
		
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			Yeah, this is I think what happened.
		
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			Actually, you know what?
		
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			I've seen this before.
		
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			This is what really happened.
		
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			That's what's happening here right now.
		
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			Look what happens.
		
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			So this rumor goes around that he divorced
		
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			them.
		
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			He says to the wives of the Prophet,
		
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			peace be upon him, I'm going to find
		
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			out what happened and then I'm going to
		
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			tell it to you guys.
		
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			Okay, I'll be that person.
		
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			What do you learn from that?
		
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			Umar took it upon himself to go and
		
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			ask the Prophet, peace be upon him.
		
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			What do we get out of that?
		
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			What do we learn from that?
		
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			If it's important and it involves you somehow,
		
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			whatever is being talked about or whatever incident
		
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			happens, if it involves you and it involves
		
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			me and we genuinely need to need some
		
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			answers, then certainly somebody can be that middle
		
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			person and say, you know what?
		
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			Let me go and figure this out.
		
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			But not just anybody, not the one person
		
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			who we know has a reputation that when
		
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			they get a little bit of news, they
		
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			become the headquarters of backbiting for all of
		
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			Canada, right?
		
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			They become the head office, not that person.
		
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			Who is this man?
		
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			Umar, the man who was closest to being
		
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			a prophet after the Prophet, peace be upon
		
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			him, if there ever was one.
		
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			If there ever was a prophet after him,
		
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			it would have been Umar, peace be upon
		
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			him.
		
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			So the perfect, the right man is going
		
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			to go do this.
		
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			So he goes to the Prophet, peace be
		
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			upon him, and he says, O Messenger of
		
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			Allah, did you divorce all of them?
		
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			He doesn't say, O Messenger of Allah, one
		
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			month.
		
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			What are you doing?
		
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			How could you do this to them and
		
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			start to scold her?
		
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			You can't behave like this.
		
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			You can't act this way.
		
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			You're this, this and this.
		
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			You know who gets a lot of this?
		
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			Shuyukh get this, a lot of it.
		
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			There is like this sort of image that
		
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			is the consequence of anybody who does this
		
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			kind of work, the expectation of always being
		
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			in a good mood, smile, dress right, look
		
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			right, feel right, act right all the time.
		
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			And I've seen it where some very well
		
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			respected Shuyukh, like I seen one imam years
		
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			ago getting out of a parking lot and
		
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			somebody was trying to like push their way
		
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			in front of him and was doing it
		
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			in such a way it was very, very
		
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			like obvious.
		
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			The person who was doing this didn't care
		
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			about anything, just tugged his way, almost like
		
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			hit his car.
		
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			And so the Shuyukh honked his horn and
		
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			just said, what are you doing?
		
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			Just wait, wait your turn.
		
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			This became an enormous problem in the entire
		
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			community in that masjid and it reached the
		
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			administration and they put this Shuyukh in a
		
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			meeting to reassess his value to the community.
		
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			Right.
		
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			So this whole like image that's been pasted
		
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			and it's permanently stuck, these expectations that they
		
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			always have to be on point, they always
		
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			have to be on.
		
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			That's what's happening here.
		
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			But the Umar doesn't get into nothing.
		
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			He just focuses on one thing, because he
		
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			knows that the Prophet ﷺ could be dealing
		
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			with something.
		
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			There could have been some problem.
		
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			It's none of his business.
		
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			So he just asked, Ya Rasulullah, did you
		
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			divorce him?
		
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			Because that's what people are saying.
		
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			So Prophet ﷺ says, what do you think
		
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			he said?
		
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			You think he gave an explanation?
		
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			It's one letter.
		
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			He says, no, no.
		
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			Anything else?
		
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			That's it.
		
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			You learn from every letter in this narration
		
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			something, especially how to deal with rumors and
		
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			scandals and things of that nature.
		
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			Umar then says, Ya Rasulullah, I went into
		
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			the masjid and the Muslims there are saying
		
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			that the Prophet ﷺ divorced his wives.
		
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			Has there been an ayah sent to you
		
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			that I can tell them you did not
		
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			do this or you did do this?
		
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			Is there a verse I can just go
		
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			and announce it to them?
		
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			Now, this is where the exception happens, because
		
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			he's the leader of the Ummah.
		
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			So what we are starting to see here
		
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			that Surah Al-Ahzab opens an area that
		
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			is very, very private and personal for the
		
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			Prophet ﷺ.
		
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			But it still affects the overall atmosphere and
		
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			interaction and relationship of all of his followers.
		
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			So this is where the exception is.
		
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			For an imam, if somebody asked him, Ya,
		
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			I saw you with some other woman.
		
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			We're so-and-so, your wife for 27
		
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			years.
		
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			And he could say, well, you know, we
		
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			got divorced a long time ago and I
		
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			got married again.
		
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			This is my new wife, blah, blah, blah,
		
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			blah.
		
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			That's it.
		
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			The imam now could say, it's none of
		
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			your business.
		
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			That's it.
		
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			You know, there's a famous speaker, all of
		
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			you know, was asked this in a public
		
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			forum.
		
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			All of you know.
		
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			I won't say, but just what I want
		
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			you to understand is that don't think that
		
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			these scenarios don't happen.
		
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			They're very real in this day and age.
		
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			Ya, a speaker was asked, you know, how
		
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			many wives do you have or how many
		
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			wives you are married?
		
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			And his answer in front of like thousands
		
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			of people, he just looked at the emcee
		
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			and said, listen, in all respect, it's none
		
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			of your business.
		
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			Done.
		
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			It went viral.
		
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			I won't say who, but you all know.
		
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			Anyhow, so Qala Naam, Umar radiallahu anhu says,
		
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			he says, Ya Rasulullah, can I go and
		
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			let them know that what they're saying about
		
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			you, it didn't happen.
		
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			Can I go and say to them, the
		
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			rumors is not true.
		
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			Listen to the Prophet's answer.
		
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			He says, yes, if you want.
		
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			He doesn't tell them, yes, you must go.
		
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			If this is what they're saying about me,
		
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			then go deal with it.
		
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			He says, if you want, go and tell
		
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			them.
		
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			What do you learn from this?
		
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			It's a really, really powerful lesson that is
		
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			extremely difficult to implement.
		
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			What do you learn from his response?
		
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			He says, yes, Umar, if you want.
		
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			When somebody talks about you and you hear
		
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			who it is or what's being said, naturally,
		
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			generally, how do people respond to that?
		
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			Does it sound like this?
		
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			Oh, I know him.
		
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			He said that about me.
		
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			Watch when I see him at the Masjid
		
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			tomorrow.
		
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			All right, that's that's how an average person
		
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			would respond.
		
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			Oh, I see him at work.
		
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			I'm going to give it to him.
		
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			As a matter of fact, I'm going to
		
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			go tell his boss.
		
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			I'm going to tell the admin.
		
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			Look at the Prophet.
		
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			What you learn from this is sometimes you
		
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			just have to wait.
		
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			People get tired of talking about the same
		
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			thing and you will be in the past.
		
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			They will find something else to talk about.
		
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			Just wait it out.
		
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			Most of the times when it comes to
		
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			rumors and gossip, that's the best response is
		
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			just to ignore it.
		
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			See what happened to Aisha in the first
		
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			page of Surah An-Nur, the whole rumor
		
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			that got spread about her, that she was
		
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			with somebody else, all because the hypocrites saw
		
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			another companion with Aisha coming into Medina and
		
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			they don't see her husband anywhere.
		
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			Aisha is up to no good.
		
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			And it went all over Medina.
		
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			What did Aisha do?
		
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			You know what she did?
		
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			She went home.
		
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			She never spoke to anybody and answered any
		
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			of the rumors because every single night she
		
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			was just into Hajj.
		
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			Just praying to Allah that, oh Allah, you
		
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			decide what is the best outcome for all
		
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			of this.
		
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			The ayah gets sent to the Prophet ﷺ.
		
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			He announces it to everyone.
		
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			Nobody uttered a sentence about Aisha again after
		
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			that.
		
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			Sometimes you just have to let the storm
		
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			calm down on its own and let it
		
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			pass.
		
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			So the Prophet ﷺ says, if you want,
		
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			go ahead.
		
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			So Umar ﷺ, he goes back.
		
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			He goes back into the masjid.
		
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			He calls everybody in a loud voice and
		
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			he announces to all of them, the messenger
		
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			ﷺ did not divorce any of his wives.
		
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			And an ayah was revealed.
		
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			This is another verse or a portion of
		
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			it in Surah An-Nisa that if Umar
		
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			did not do this, then the ayah in
		
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			another surah says that this rumor, that people
		
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			would have validated this, they would have confirmed
		
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			it and turned it into the truth.
		
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			Malcolm X once said that we live in
		
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			a time where somebody could repeat a lie
		
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			over and over and over, and eventually the
		
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			lie becomes the truth.
		
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			It's so real when you think about propaganda,
		
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			when you think a lot of the things
		
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			that the media do and take people who
		
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			are very normal and innocent and turn them
		
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			into enemies and shaytan, and these are the
		
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			worst, just by simply repeating things that are
		
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			untrue to the point where the public now
		
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			deem it as the truth.
		
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			The media doesn't do this alone.
		
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			Have you ever listened to comedians?
		
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			And you know how sometimes comedians, they would
		
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			choose a particular ethnicity, right?
		
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			They'll be like all the Spanish people when
		
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			they eat, and everybody gets a kick out
		
00:40:03 --> 00:40:03
			of it.
		
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			The Indians when they do this, and they'll
		
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			do this and they'll go on this like
		
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			worldwide tour, have 75 shows repeating the same
		
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			thing, and before you know it, you listen
		
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			to that enough, you start to be like,
		
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			oh my God, I see that every day.
		
00:40:19 --> 00:40:21
			Wow, that is so true.
		
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			Yeah, they are so wild.
		
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			They're so messy.
		
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			Now you start convincing yourself that that's exactly
		
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			how whoever he's talking about, that's exactly how
		
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			all of them are, and you take this
		
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			sort of mindset now without even realizing that
		
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			you do it all from something like a
		
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			comedian, right?
		
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			So that tool is extremely powerful.
		
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			So this is why Umar now stands up
		
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			and he says this, and an ayah is
		
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			revealed that if he didn't do that, the
		
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			people would have ran with this, and the
		
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			prophet then alayhi salatu wasalam comes back and
		
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			after a month or so, and he comes
		
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			with another verse.
		
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			That's this verse, okay?
		
00:41:01 --> 00:41:05
			When he finally sort of begins to speak
		
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			and meet his wives again, he goes directly
		
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			to them, and Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala
		
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			gives them this verse.
		
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			The messenger alayhi salatu wasalam says, women and
		
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			perfume have been made dear to me, and
		
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			the comfort of my eye has been placed
		
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			in prayer.
		
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			I put this narration because this is sort
		
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			of a precursor to some of the conversations
		
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			we're going to be having in this section
		
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			of Surah Al-Ahzab.
		
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			What is the point that I try to
		
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			get at here is the most pious, modest
		
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			example, the most perfect of Allah subhanahu wa
		
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			ta'ala's creation, do you see what the
		
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			first part of this hadith says?
		
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			He says, women and perfume, I love those
		
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			the most.
		
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			If you didn't know the prophet alayhi salatu
		
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			wasalam said this, just listen to that sentence
		
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			and what kind of person would you think
		
00:42:01 --> 00:42:02
			would say such a thing?
		
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			And wouldn't it kind of sound a bit
		
00:42:06 --> 00:42:07
			offensive?
		
00:42:08 --> 00:42:10
			All you care about is women and perfume?
		
00:42:11 --> 00:42:11
			Really?
		
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			What kind of man are you?
		
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			That's the conversation we're going to have.
		
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			This is the greatest creation of Allah subhanahu
		
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			wa ta'ala, and that opening sentence of
		
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			the hadith, that's why I put it there.
		
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			And then of course, the prayer has become
		
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			a comfort to my eyes.
		
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			So I put that to sort of just
		
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			put your mind into a place where we're
		
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			going to now dig deeper.
		
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			It's a really uncomfortable thing to bring up,
		
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			especially with somebody of that caliber, the prophet
		
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			of Allah.
		
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			We're going to understand why this happens, what
		
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			this actually means.
		
00:42:51 --> 00:42:54
			And the fact that he even says a
		
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			statement like that, wasn't he worried or concerned
		
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			that at some point somebody's going to take
		
00:42:59 --> 00:43:01
			the statement of him and bring it out
		
00:43:01 --> 00:43:04
			of context and then label him.
		
00:43:04 --> 00:43:06
			He's a this and he's a that.
		
00:43:06 --> 00:43:07
			What kind of man is this that you
		
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			follow?
		
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			That's what we have to deal with till
		
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			now.
		
00:43:10 --> 00:43:13
			So show us how and this we're going
		
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			to these ayat will show us how the
		
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			wives of the prophet become examples for women
		
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			that the prophet cannot be.
		
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			Meaning there are certain things he cannot be
		
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			that person to either be the example or
		
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			to have the conversation.
		
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			One time a woman came to him and
		
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			asked him, my monthly cycle is complete.
		
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			How do I prepare myself to go and
		
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			pray?
		
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			So the prophet tells this woman, he says
		
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			to her, you need to take a shower.
		
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			You need to use this material or this
		
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			item to cleanse yourself and then you can
		
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			go and pray.
		
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			And it's actually, it's written out, right?
		
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			What she should do.
		
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			You know what she says?
		
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			Ya Rasulullah, I don't understand.
		
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			What do you mean exactly?
		
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			So he repeats it a second time.
		
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			She still says, Ya Rasulullah, I don't get
		
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			it.
		
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			Like how exactly do I use those things
		
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			to clean myself and be ready?
		
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			I just want to make sure I do
		
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			it right.
		
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			Three times this woman asks him.
		
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			The fourth time, you know what his answer
		
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			to her was?
		
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			You know what, go ask Aisha.
		
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			She'll explain it to you, which tells you
		
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			there was only so far he could go.
		
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			There's only so much he would say.
		
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			After this point, it's not appropriate even for
		
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			him, alayhi salatu wasalam, to go further, especially
		
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			in person.
		
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			Imagine if somebody goes up to an imam,
		
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			a sister goes and asks a similar question.
		
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			Some imams can handle it.
		
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			Some simply can't.
		
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			So those things as well, we're going to
		
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			see it and it's just going to go
		
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			deeper and deeper and deeper in some of
		
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			the most uncomfortable things, inshallah.
		
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			But of course, you know, it will be
		
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			beneficial for all of us.
		
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			So the Prophet, alayhi salatu wasalam, goes back
		
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			to his wives and he basically says to
		
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			them, this command, Allah tells him, say to
		
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			your wives, I
		
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			will give you a suitable compensation for divorce
		
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			and let you go graciously.
		
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			So you see what happened?
		
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			Remember these wives, what did they ask from
		
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			him in the beginning?
		
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			More money, a little bit more comfort, you
		
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			know, ya Rasulullah, we don't have a couch,
		
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			you know, let's just get some cushions, like
		
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			just something a little nicer.
		
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			I bear witness that Muhammad
		
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			is the Messenger of Allah.
		
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			So just one point and then we break
		
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			for salah, is that now that this ayah
		
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			is given to him, now we're going to
		
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			see for the first time in the entire
		
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			Quran, for the first time that the wives
		
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			now are going to be given a higher
		
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			status and level of expectation from any of
		
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			the wives in the ummah from then until
		
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			the end of time.
		
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			So all of the believing Muslim women, we
		
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			are going to see that everybody else is
		
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			in one category, but the wives specifically are
		
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			in a completely separate category.
		
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			The expectations are higher, the laws of their
		
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			marriage with the Prophet, alayhi salatu wasalam, are
		
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			slightly different, they're altered.
		
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			But here's the point, number 28, just make
		
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			sure you make a note, this is one
		
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			of the abused verses in the Quran.
		
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			This verse here, unfortunately, some husbands who don't
		
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			take the time to understand the context, who
		
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			don't study it, use this and they sort
		
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			of use it to their advantage, you know,
		
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			to affirm more control and other things with
		
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			their marriages.
		
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			So we're going to just touch on some
		
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			of those things after salah inshallah.
		
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			It's right very nice, so it's not a
		
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			bad thing.
		
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			I think you go around 9.
		
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			Maybe around 9, but time
		
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			is going to go back, yeah, so it'll
		
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			be like that.
		
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			So it'll be good to get it out,
		
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			like, you know, get it appraised and then
		
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			start class, right?
		
00:52:30 --> 00:52:31
			Yeah.
		
00:52:32 --> 00:52:34
			I think that's what we might do next
		
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			week.
		
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			Yes, yes.
		
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			Alright.
		
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			Yes.
		
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			Yes.
		
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			Yes.
		
01:01:38 --> 01:01:39
			Yes.
		
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			Yes.
		
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			Yes.
		
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			Yes.
		
01:03:23 --> 01:03:24
			Yes.
		
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			Yes.
		
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			Yes.
		
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			Yes.
		
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			Yes.
		
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			Yes.
		
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			Yes.
		
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			Yes.
		
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			Okay.
		
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			Bismillah.
		
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			Let's go on for about another 20 minutes
		
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			or so inshallah.
		
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			Bismillah.
		
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			Alhamdulillah.
		
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			Assalatu wa salamu a'la rasulillah wa ba'd.
		
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			And so last point that we mentioned with
		
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			respect to this ayah is that this is
		
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			one of the abused verses in the Qur
		
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			'an.
		
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			The reason why is typically this is a
		
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			verse that is used to hijack a scenario
		
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			between the husband and wife where the husband
		
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			would claim or exaggerate the position he is
		
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			put in when his wife will demand for
		
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			more, more material things and it could be
		
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			anything.
		
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			You know, like they have a stove and
		
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			she's like, okay, you know what, can we
		
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			upgrade the stove?
		
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			We'll save electricity or she just wants something
		
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			nice.
		
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			There is no problem financially for him or
		
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			the household to afford things like this.
		
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			But if he doesn't want to do it,
		
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			what happens occasionally, it's not very often, but
		
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			it does happen.
		
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			I've met couples who've had this problem where
		
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			the husband will come to me, pull me
		
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			aside and say things to me like, you
		
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			know, just talk to my wife, you know,
		
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			all she cares about is everything has to
		
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			match in the house.
		
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			Everything this has to be perfect, has to
		
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			be a grade.
		
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			It's got to be top notch technology, blah,
		
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			blah, blah.
		
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			It's a silly, silly issue to exaggerate, especially
		
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			if it's not something that she typically does.
		
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			Then once in a while, it's not an
		
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			issue.
		
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			And the thing is, this is one of
		
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			the verses that he would claim, look, the
		
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			sunnah of the Prophet.
		
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			Why is it a prophet?
		
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			Look at this.
		
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			If they wanted anything from the dunya, they
		
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			were divorced.
		
01:21:04 --> 01:21:05
			Is that what you want?
		
01:21:05 --> 01:21:07
			Over a stove or something like that, right?
		
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			It's very silly.
		
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			And this is just one of a million
		
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			examples of people cherry picking an ayah and
		
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			just using it to their advantage.
		
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			So the first thing that I want to
		
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			highlight is how this ayah begins.
		
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			See this?
		
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			O Prophet, remember every time Allah calls the
		
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			Prophet by his title, every time this happens
		
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			in Qur'an, it's such high priority for
		
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			him.
		
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			This is Qur'an's way of saying, stop
		
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			everything you're doing and fulfill this instruction, fulfill
		
01:21:47 --> 01:21:48
			this command.
		
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			So pay attention to what comes after it.
		
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			It's just like the famous companion Abdullah ibn
		
01:21:58 --> 01:22:05
			Mas'ud said, anytime you hear, prepare yourself
		
01:22:05 --> 01:22:09
			to receive a command or instructions from Allah.
		
01:22:10 --> 01:22:14
			Every time happens, Allah tells us to do
		
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			something or not do something.
		
01:22:16 --> 01:22:20
			The Prophet, you can think of, as his
		
01:22:20 --> 01:22:25
			version of, this is explicit, it's directed to
		
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			him.
		
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			So that's the first thing when it comes
		
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			to, second point.
		
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			Why not just talk directly to his wives?
		
01:22:36 --> 01:22:39
			Why does Allah speak to the Prophet and
		
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			tell him, go tell your wives this?
		
01:22:41 --> 01:22:43
			Why not just talk to them directly?
		
01:22:44 --> 01:22:49
			Why do you think Allah tells the Prophet
		
01:22:49 --> 01:22:50
			to go do this?
		
01:22:50 --> 01:22:54
			Again, this is a pattern all throughout Qur
		
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			'an.
		
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			What do you think?
		
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			Hmm?
		
01:23:06 --> 01:23:06
			Okay.
		
01:23:07 --> 01:23:08
			To ease his worries.
		
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			So allowing him to do this is more
		
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			to his advantage than it is as if
		
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			Allah speaks directly to them.
		
01:23:18 --> 01:23:19
			Okay?
		
01:23:20 --> 01:23:23
			There's a verse, verse 30 and 31 of
		
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			Surah An-Nur.
		
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			It sounds like this.
		
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			وَقُل لِّلْمُؤْمِنِينَ يَغُضُّوا مِنْ أَبْصَارِهِمْ وَيَحْفَظُوا فُرُوجَهُمْ
		
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			Allah says to the believing men, O Prophet,
		
01:23:39 --> 01:23:42
			قُل, Prophet, go say to them that they
		
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			need to cover their eyes and protect their
		
01:23:45 --> 01:23:46
			honor and their pridence.
		
01:23:47 --> 01:23:50
			Allah could have just said, يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ
		
01:23:50 --> 01:23:53
			آمَنُوا غُضُّوا أَبْصَارَكُمْ O people of Iman, protect
		
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			your eyes.
		
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			Lower your gaze.
		
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			But instead, Allah tells the Prophet to do
		
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			that.
		
01:23:59 --> 01:24:01
			Next ayah, verse 31 in Surah An-Nur.
		
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			Allah gives the exact same instruction to the
		
01:24:05 --> 01:24:05
			Prophet.
		
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			But this time, go say to the believing
		
01:24:08 --> 01:24:09
			women.
		
01:24:09 --> 01:24:10
			Why not just talk to them directly?
		
01:24:11 --> 01:24:12
			Write this down.
		
01:24:12 --> 01:24:12
			Okay?
		
01:24:13 --> 01:24:14
			Say again.
		
01:24:15 --> 01:24:17
			Okay, he's definitely a leader.
		
01:24:18 --> 01:24:22
			But on that note, does everybody else automatically
		
01:24:22 --> 01:24:25
			by default respect him as a leader?
		
01:24:26 --> 01:24:26
			No.
		
01:24:27 --> 01:24:29
			People still question him.
		
01:24:29 --> 01:24:30
			People still doubt him.
		
01:24:30 --> 01:24:31
			People still disrespect him.
		
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			This is one of Quran's way to bring
		
01:24:35 --> 01:24:38
			honor and respect to him ﷺ.
		
01:24:39 --> 01:24:40
			You go do this.
		
01:24:42 --> 01:24:44
			Okay, so the first thing is, this is
		
01:24:44 --> 01:24:46
			priority for him.
		
01:24:46 --> 01:24:48
			Drop everything you're doing and go take care
		
01:24:48 --> 01:24:48
			of this.
		
01:24:49 --> 01:24:52
			Number two, this is also to protect the
		
01:24:52 --> 01:24:55
			honor and the dignity of the Prophet.
		
01:24:55 --> 01:24:59
			If you listen to him, you automatically listen
		
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			to the Creator.
		
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			So to raise his honor, raise the trust,
		
01:25:04 --> 01:25:06
			and protect his reputation.
		
01:25:06 --> 01:25:08
			All of those things for him ﷺ.
		
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			Third point.
		
01:25:11 --> 01:25:12
			This ayah, take a look at it.
		
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			It says, go speak to your wife.
		
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			Say to them, and the message is, if
		
01:25:16 --> 01:25:18
			you desire the life of this world and
		
01:25:18 --> 01:25:19
			its luxury, then come.
		
01:25:20 --> 01:25:21
			Meaning, go ahead and have it.
		
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			And if that's all you want and nothing
		
01:25:24 --> 01:25:28
			else, that's priority for you, then the thing
		
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			that you get from me is going to
		
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			be a divorce.
		
01:25:31 --> 01:25:33
			But we're going to talk about the word
		
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			that's used here.
		
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			Talaq is the most common word for divorce.
		
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			It's not mentioned in this ayah at all.
		
01:25:41 --> 01:25:43
			There's a different word that's used.
		
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			Here's the third reason why it's important that
		
01:25:49 --> 01:25:50
			the Prophet does this.
		
01:25:52 --> 01:25:59
			If Allah ﷻ speaks directly to them, or
		
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			the Prophet sits with them, they're physically in
		
01:26:04 --> 01:26:07
			his presence, and he's physically in their presence.
		
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			And he gives them this ayah.
		
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			Now, there's an additional reason or incentive for
		
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			them.
		
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			They already love and respect Allah.
		
01:26:19 --> 01:26:20
			They already believe in him.
		
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			But this is to also, in a very
		
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			subtle and beautiful way, to put the wives
		
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			in a situation where they also increase their
		
01:26:33 --> 01:26:38
			respect and acceptance of the instructions coming, not
		
01:26:38 --> 01:26:39
			just from the Prophet, from their husband.
		
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			You see how different it is?
		
01:26:43 --> 01:26:45
			Usually when the husband says, okay, look, you
		
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			know, we're going to change things in this
		
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			house.
		
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			We have a stove, six burners.
		
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			There's only two of us.
		
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			We're going to get a single burner.
		
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			Okay, because we need to save the electricity,
		
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			and we don't want to get too attached
		
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			to this dunya thing.
		
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			Now, that's a really extreme example.
		
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			But the outcome you want to have in
		
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			a situation like that is for her to
		
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			say, you know what?
		
01:27:07 --> 01:27:09
			If that's all that we can afford, and
		
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			I can still, you know, we can still
		
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			do things.
		
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			We can still live and survive.
		
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			And Inshallah, Bismillah, you know, and she does
		
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			it, and he does it, and they adjust
		
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			their lifestyle.
		
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			Now, her respect for him, his respect for
		
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			her, her love for him, his love for
		
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			her.
		
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			The relationship now takes one step forward.
		
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			There's an additional layer of acceptance, cooperation, respect.
		
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			So one or third reason to say is
		
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			that the prophet by him sitting there talking
		
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			to them.
		
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			They see him, and they're in his presence,
		
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			and they hear his voice automatically.
		
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			Whatever comes out of his mouth, they still
		
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			love him more for talking to them, for
		
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			giving them the time and the attention.
		
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			Everybody understand?
		
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			So it's kind of to build a bit
		
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			of that intimate and private relationship of love
		
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			and respect to increase that a little bit
		
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			more.
		
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			Because now they're hearing it directly from his
		
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			voice.
		
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			So all of these subtleties are extremely important.
		
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			Like the ulama write it down in their
		
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			tafsir, and they preserve it for this reason.
		
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			That these are things, despite how subtle they
		
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			are, they're extremely important in maintaining that love
		
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			and harmony that a relationship needs.
		
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			Now let's talk about the instruction.
		
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			So go and say to them, if you
		
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			desire the life of this world, and it's
		
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			luxury.
		
01:28:41 --> 01:28:45
			First of all, is that haram for a
		
01:28:45 --> 01:28:47
			wife to be like, I just love to
		
01:28:47 --> 01:28:50
			have a nice big home, a comfortable life,
		
01:28:51 --> 01:28:54
			and a beautiful car, and travel the world
		
01:28:54 --> 01:28:55
			with my husband.
		
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			Is that haram?
		
01:28:57 --> 01:28:57
			No.
		
01:28:57 --> 01:28:58
			Why not?
		
01:29:01 --> 01:29:03
			So there's one rule then.
		
01:29:04 --> 01:29:07
			If the poor man is working that minimum
		
01:29:07 --> 01:29:09
			wage job at Walmart or Canadian Tire and
		
01:29:09 --> 01:29:12
			say, listen, you know, BMW just released their
		
01:29:12 --> 01:29:13
			new series.
		
01:29:14 --> 01:29:14
			I want it.
		
01:29:15 --> 01:29:17
			If you don't get it for me, it's
		
01:29:17 --> 01:29:17
			over.
		
01:29:17 --> 01:29:18
			That's a different scenario.
		
01:29:19 --> 01:29:21
			So we're not talking about that at all.
		
01:29:22 --> 01:29:25
			This area is the extreme scenario I just
		
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			painted for you.
		
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			That despite whatever financial situation the husband is
		
01:29:33 --> 01:29:36
			in, when it comes to the wives of
		
01:29:36 --> 01:29:41
			the Prophet, everybody knows and understand the Prophet
		
01:29:41 --> 01:29:43
			is extremely poor.
		
01:29:44 --> 01:29:48
			Okay, he starved more days than all the
		
01:29:48 --> 01:29:48
			companions.
		
01:29:48 --> 01:29:54
			He went on more days living in his
		
01:29:54 --> 01:29:58
			home where the burner was never lit, meaning
		
01:29:58 --> 01:29:59
			there was nothing to cook.
		
01:30:00 --> 01:30:03
			Anytime they had some food, like even just
		
01:30:03 --> 01:30:06
			some extra dates, children and orphans used to
		
01:30:06 --> 01:30:09
			come at their homes begging for something to
		
01:30:09 --> 01:30:09
			eat.
		
01:30:09 --> 01:30:13
			And his wife Aisha radiallahu anha, she would
		
01:30:13 --> 01:30:14
			give them.
		
01:30:15 --> 01:30:16
			They would be left with nothing.
		
01:30:16 --> 01:30:17
			He'd come home later.
		
01:30:18 --> 01:30:20
			Ya Aisha, is there anything for us to
		
01:30:20 --> 01:30:20
			have?
		
01:30:20 --> 01:30:21
			No, Ya Rasulullah.
		
01:30:21 --> 01:30:23
			So and so happened and I gave them
		
01:30:23 --> 01:30:25
			the last of what we had.
		
01:30:25 --> 01:30:26
			He would remain silent.
		
01:30:27 --> 01:30:27
			Done.
		
01:30:27 --> 01:30:29
			That was his almost his entire life.
		
01:30:32 --> 01:30:36
			Struggling, suffering, and when it came to the
		
01:30:36 --> 01:30:38
			status of financial status, it was literally next
		
01:30:38 --> 01:30:39
			to nothing.
		
01:30:40 --> 01:30:42
			Gifts were being poured to him all the
		
01:30:42 --> 01:30:43
			time.
		
01:30:43 --> 01:30:45
			He would accept a lot of those gifts,
		
01:30:46 --> 01:30:49
			but there are narrations of him also giving
		
01:30:49 --> 01:30:52
			those gifts away to other companions.
		
01:30:52 --> 01:30:54
			Those who needed more than him.
		
01:30:55 --> 01:30:57
			He made that ultimate sacrifice.
		
01:30:58 --> 01:31:00
			Now it's his wife's turn to do the
		
01:31:00 --> 01:31:00
			same.
		
01:31:01 --> 01:31:04
			So this is not, this is not about
		
01:31:04 --> 01:31:08
			them wanting to attach themselves to a luxurious
		
01:31:08 --> 01:31:09
			life.
		
01:31:09 --> 01:31:14
			This is the first instruction and command to
		
01:31:14 --> 01:31:15
			the wives.
		
01:31:15 --> 01:31:20
			You are no longer just wives anymore.
		
01:31:21 --> 01:31:24
			Now you are in a separate category because
		
01:31:24 --> 01:31:26
			you are all married to this man.
		
01:31:27 --> 01:31:29
			So when you say, when we look at
		
01:31:29 --> 01:31:31
			this ayah now, that if this is what
		
01:31:31 --> 01:31:41
			your priority is, The Prophet ﷺ says, Did
		
01:31:41 --> 01:31:42
			I write the meaning?
		
01:31:42 --> 01:31:42
			Okay.
		
01:31:43 --> 01:31:43
			I didn't write the meaning.
		
01:31:44 --> 01:31:44
			Okay.
		
01:31:46 --> 01:31:50
			This is one of the verbs in Arabic
		
01:31:50 --> 01:31:54
			to say with ease, without hesitation.
		
01:31:54 --> 01:31:55
			Go ahead.
		
01:31:55 --> 01:31:56
			Just have it.
		
01:31:56 --> 01:31:57
			Go ahead.
		
01:31:57 --> 01:31:57
			Take it.
		
01:31:57 --> 01:32:00
			You know, like if you go to your
		
01:32:00 --> 01:32:03
			favorite coffee shop or a juice store or
		
01:32:03 --> 01:32:05
			something, you usually get a small.
		
01:32:05 --> 01:32:06
			But then one day you go in there,
		
01:32:06 --> 01:32:08
			you're like, man, let's just get a large.
		
01:32:08 --> 01:32:09
			I love this drink.
		
01:32:10 --> 01:32:12
			And whoever's paying, you tell your kids, go
		
01:32:12 --> 01:32:13
			ahead, just take it.
		
01:32:13 --> 01:32:14
			No big deal.
		
01:32:14 --> 01:32:15
			You don't even have to ask me.
		
01:32:15 --> 01:32:16
			Just order a large.
		
01:32:16 --> 01:32:16
			It's all good.
		
01:32:16 --> 01:32:18
			That's called Fata'alayn.
		
01:32:18 --> 01:32:21
			So Allah is saying to the Prophet, tell
		
01:32:21 --> 01:32:22
			them that if this is what all you
		
01:32:22 --> 01:32:24
			care about, then that's okay.
		
01:32:24 --> 01:32:24
			Just go ahead.
		
01:32:24 --> 01:32:25
			Have it.
		
01:32:25 --> 01:32:29
			Fata'alayn gives the impression, and it's indirectly
		
01:32:29 --> 01:32:32
			also highlighting this dunya world is worthless.
		
01:32:33 --> 01:32:33
			You want it?
		
01:32:33 --> 01:32:34
			Go ahead.
		
01:32:34 --> 01:32:34
			Take it.
		
01:32:34 --> 01:32:35
			I don't lose anything.
		
01:32:36 --> 01:32:38
			You're actually not going to gain anything by
		
01:32:38 --> 01:32:41
			taking it, by attaching yourself to it.
		
01:32:41 --> 01:32:42
			That's Fata'alayn.
		
01:32:42 --> 01:32:45
			It's a really remarkable verb to use to
		
01:32:45 --> 01:32:47
			describe how he allows them.
		
01:32:47 --> 01:32:50
			Fata'alayn also is you got to do
		
01:32:50 --> 01:32:50
			it.
		
01:32:50 --> 01:32:51
			I'm giving you nothing.
		
01:32:52 --> 01:32:52
			Okay.
		
01:32:52 --> 01:32:56
			If this is what you want, you take
		
01:32:56 --> 01:32:56
			it.
		
01:32:56 --> 01:32:57
			You're not going to get that from me.
		
01:32:58 --> 01:33:01
			Here's the word that is used.
		
01:33:02 --> 01:33:05
			This is the word that's used to divorce
		
01:33:05 --> 01:33:05
			here.
		
01:33:09 --> 01:33:10
			Let it go.
		
01:33:12 --> 01:33:16
			Saraha is not a word used to divorce
		
01:33:16 --> 01:33:17
			anymore.
		
01:33:18 --> 01:33:18
			Okay.
		
01:33:18 --> 01:33:20
			This is not a word that's used anymore.
		
01:33:21 --> 01:33:23
			Divorce has several terms.
		
01:33:23 --> 01:33:24
			You have talaq.
		
01:33:25 --> 01:33:26
			You have khulaq.
		
01:33:26 --> 01:33:28
			You have fasaq.
		
01:33:28 --> 01:33:31
			You have several different words to describe a
		
01:33:31 --> 01:33:34
			divorce, depending on how the divorce should happen.
		
01:33:35 --> 01:33:37
			The most common term that we all are
		
01:33:37 --> 01:33:39
			used to is talaq, right?
		
01:33:40 --> 01:33:41
			That's the most generic term.
		
01:33:45 --> 01:33:50
			Saraha is more or less like a polite,
		
01:33:50 --> 01:33:54
			easy, no process involved.
		
01:33:55 --> 01:33:56
			If this is what you want, you are
		
01:33:56 --> 01:33:57
			free to go.
		
01:33:57 --> 01:33:58
			That's the divorce.
		
01:33:58 --> 01:33:58
			It's done.
		
01:33:59 --> 01:34:00
			There's no waiting period.
		
01:34:00 --> 01:34:01
			None of that stuff.
		
01:34:02 --> 01:34:03
			Go ahead.
		
01:34:03 --> 01:34:03
			Have it.
		
01:34:04 --> 01:34:04
			We're done.
		
01:34:05 --> 01:34:10
			That's how the Prophet ﷺ gives the option
		
01:34:10 --> 01:34:12
			of separation or divorce to his wives.
		
01:34:12 --> 01:34:13
			It's this word that's used.
		
01:34:15 --> 01:34:16
			Talaq comes later.
		
01:34:17 --> 01:34:17
			Right now.
		
01:34:18 --> 01:34:20
			Now, one more thing you need to know
		
01:34:20 --> 01:34:21
			about this verse.
		
01:34:22 --> 01:34:28
			After the Prophet ﷺ went into, I guess
		
01:34:28 --> 01:34:31
			you could say, isolation for about a month,
		
01:34:31 --> 01:34:33
			he came back to his wives and he
		
01:34:33 --> 01:34:35
			came back to them with this ayah.
		
01:34:35 --> 01:34:38
			After he taught them this verse, there was
		
01:34:38 --> 01:34:42
			about nine women, most of them his wives,
		
01:34:42 --> 01:34:44
			but there were others that were sitting there,
		
01:34:44 --> 01:34:46
			hearing and listening to these instructions.
		
01:34:48 --> 01:34:49
			Who is the first?
		
01:34:49 --> 01:34:50
			Now, what has to happen?
		
01:34:50 --> 01:34:54
			These wives have to respond and affirm and
		
01:34:54 --> 01:34:58
			accept that this is the life they want,
		
01:34:58 --> 01:35:00
			where they give up the dunya.
		
01:35:00 --> 01:35:03
			They make the sacrifice and they stick with
		
01:35:03 --> 01:35:04
			him ﷺ.
		
01:35:05 --> 01:35:08
			See, they basically pledge to him, we will
		
01:35:08 --> 01:35:09
			sacrifice.
		
01:35:10 --> 01:35:11
			It's going to be a tough life.
		
01:35:11 --> 01:35:12
			We will struggle with you.
		
01:35:13 --> 01:35:16
			And this is how, like you have that
		
01:35:16 --> 01:35:16
			pledge from us.
		
01:35:17 --> 01:35:18
			Who's the first wife to do that?
		
01:35:21 --> 01:35:22
			You know why that's important?
		
01:35:23 --> 01:35:28
			That is also the beginning of the great
		
01:35:28 --> 01:35:31
			honor and love and respect.
		
01:35:32 --> 01:35:34
			That is how, this is the first ayah
		
01:35:34 --> 01:35:38
			that also elevates the status of Aisha.
		
01:35:39 --> 01:35:42
			After that she was given, just imagine this,
		
01:35:43 --> 01:35:43
			okay?
		
01:35:43 --> 01:35:45
			You are given, Aisha.
		
01:35:45 --> 01:35:49
			She is given the opportunity from an Nabi
		
01:35:49 --> 01:35:53
			to say, Ya Aisha, you go first.
		
01:35:53 --> 01:35:55
			Do you accept this way of life?
		
01:35:55 --> 01:35:59
			Immediately, without hesitation, Aisha does what she always
		
01:35:59 --> 01:36:00
			does.
		
01:36:00 --> 01:36:02
			Anything for the sake of the deen, for
		
01:36:02 --> 01:36:04
			the sake of her husband, for the sake
		
01:36:04 --> 01:36:04
			of Allah.
		
01:36:05 --> 01:36:06
			She says, absolutely, Ya Rasulullah.
		
01:36:06 --> 01:36:09
			I pledge that this is the way of
		
01:36:09 --> 01:36:11
			life that I will sacrifice and I'm with
		
01:36:11 --> 01:36:12
			you 100%.
		
01:36:12 --> 01:36:14
			You know what happened after that?
		
01:36:14 --> 01:36:15
			All the others followed.
		
01:36:16 --> 01:36:17
			Because why?
		
01:36:17 --> 01:36:20
			Every one of them knew who Aisha radiallahu
		
01:36:20 --> 01:36:20
			anha was.
		
01:36:20 --> 01:36:22
			They respected her so much.
		
01:36:23 --> 01:36:26
			Whoa, if Aisha agreed, that's it, it's done.
		
01:36:27 --> 01:36:29
			We're definitely going to do the same.
		
01:36:29 --> 01:36:31
			So all the wives continued.
		
01:36:31 --> 01:36:33
			They all accepted this.
		
01:36:34 --> 01:36:35
			Now here's the point.
		
01:36:36 --> 01:36:40
			When we say now that they will sacrifice
		
01:36:40 --> 01:36:44
			and struggle, and this is what is needed
		
01:36:44 --> 01:36:45
			from his wives.
		
01:36:46 --> 01:36:51
			We just established that having luxurious things and
		
01:36:51 --> 01:36:52
			comfortable life is not a problem.
		
01:36:53 --> 01:36:54
			What's the problem here?
		
01:36:54 --> 01:36:57
			Why is it that they had to give
		
01:36:57 --> 01:36:57
			this up?
		
01:36:58 --> 01:37:04
			Can't they be pious, devoted wives and still
		
01:37:04 --> 01:37:07
			have comforts to live with?
		
01:37:07 --> 01:37:09
			Can't they have both?
		
01:37:09 --> 01:37:10
			What do you think?
		
01:37:13 --> 01:37:13
			Do you agree?
		
01:37:14 --> 01:37:15
			First of all, can you have both?
		
01:37:15 --> 01:37:18
			Can you still be religiously devoted and live
		
01:37:18 --> 01:37:19
			a comfortable life?
		
01:37:19 --> 01:37:20
			Absolutely.
		
01:37:21 --> 01:37:23
			So why can't you have both here?
		
01:37:24 --> 01:37:26
			Why were they given this ultimatum, either this
		
01:37:26 --> 01:37:26
			or that?
		
01:37:38 --> 01:37:39
			But you're right.
		
01:37:39 --> 01:37:42
			So it's the same then for anybody could
		
01:37:42 --> 01:37:42
			be attached.
		
01:37:58 --> 01:37:59
			Can one of them make the claim to
		
01:37:59 --> 01:38:02
			him and say, Ya Rasulullah, I'm with you
		
01:38:02 --> 01:38:03
			100%.
		
01:38:04 --> 01:38:06
			But my pillow has a hole in it.
		
01:38:07 --> 01:38:08
			My bed is broken.
		
01:38:09 --> 01:38:10
			That's all I'm just saying.
		
01:38:10 --> 01:38:11
			Can I just have a new pillow and
		
01:38:11 --> 01:38:12
			a new bed?
		
01:38:12 --> 01:38:14
			I'm with you 100%.
		
01:38:14 --> 01:38:15
			That's not going to make me now.
		
01:38:15 --> 01:38:16
			I got a new pillow.
		
01:38:16 --> 01:38:18
			Oh my God, I want everything else.
		
01:38:20 --> 01:38:23
			You see why it's important to do this
		
01:38:23 --> 01:38:24
			with verses like this?
		
01:38:25 --> 01:38:28
			One of the things I try my best
		
01:38:28 --> 01:38:32
			to do for 25 years of teaching tafsir
		
01:38:32 --> 01:38:36
			is I always try to figure out how
		
01:38:36 --> 01:38:42
			can a verse talk to me in 2024,
		
01:38:42 --> 01:38:43
			like in this day and age?
		
01:38:43 --> 01:38:46
			How do I make this verse relatable to
		
01:38:46 --> 01:38:47
			this day and age?
		
01:38:48 --> 01:38:50
			This day and age, it's well understood.
		
01:38:50 --> 01:38:51
			You all agreed.
		
01:38:51 --> 01:38:53
			There is nothing wrong with wanting a comfortable
		
01:38:53 --> 01:38:56
			life, and you can still be religiously devoted.
		
01:38:57 --> 01:38:58
			Here's the thing.
		
01:38:59 --> 01:39:01
			You have to think about who these women
		
01:39:01 --> 01:39:02
			are.
		
01:39:03 --> 01:39:06
			They are now going to play the role
		
01:39:06 --> 01:39:12
			of the greatest female example of the entire
		
01:39:12 --> 01:39:12
			world.
		
01:39:13 --> 01:39:16
			And perhaps, as we all know, some of
		
01:39:16 --> 01:39:20
			them will be selected to be the leaders
		
01:39:20 --> 01:39:21
			of women in gender.
		
01:39:23 --> 01:39:28
			The impression that they could leave for other
		
01:39:28 --> 01:39:33
			generations to come is what is also like
		
01:39:33 --> 01:39:36
			you have to consider when you think about
		
01:39:36 --> 01:39:37
			the message of this area.
		
01:39:37 --> 01:39:41
			Sure, they might be really religious and devoted
		
01:39:41 --> 01:39:43
			to him and still have comfortable things.
		
01:39:43 --> 01:39:45
			But that's not the point.
		
01:39:45 --> 01:39:48
			The point is, is that there will come
		
01:39:48 --> 01:39:50
			a time after they are all gone, like
		
01:39:50 --> 01:39:53
			now, where people will look at this.
		
01:39:53 --> 01:39:56
			And if they seen, yeah, Aisha always had
		
01:39:56 --> 01:39:57
			new clothing.
		
01:39:57 --> 01:39:59
			Hafsa always had new furniture.
		
01:40:00 --> 01:40:03
			Umm Maymuna always had the best camels to
		
01:40:03 --> 01:40:05
			ride on and to travel on.
		
01:40:05 --> 01:40:06
			They always had the best foods.
		
01:40:06 --> 01:40:12
			You know, the standard, the bar for living
		
01:40:12 --> 01:40:16
			a quote unquote good Islamic life now reaches
		
01:40:16 --> 01:40:19
			a place where most people won't won't get
		
01:40:19 --> 01:40:19
			to.
		
01:40:19 --> 01:40:20
			You see what I'm saying?
		
01:40:20 --> 01:40:24
			They're going to put out a standard that
		
01:40:24 --> 01:40:26
			is so high.
		
01:40:26 --> 01:40:30
			The vast majority of Muslim families all around
		
01:40:30 --> 01:40:34
			the world, the majority of them may never
		
01:40:34 --> 01:40:37
			reach to that standard.
		
01:40:37 --> 01:40:39
			They mean if they're trying to be like
		
01:40:39 --> 01:40:42
			these wives, they won't reach it.
		
01:40:42 --> 01:40:45
			But here now, the fact that they're going
		
01:40:45 --> 01:40:48
			to sacrifice, that's something, whether you live a
		
01:40:48 --> 01:40:50
			comfortable life or not, you can relate to
		
01:40:50 --> 01:40:51
			that.
		
01:40:51 --> 01:40:55
			Because I'm sure all of us do our
		
01:40:55 --> 01:40:57
			own sacrifices every single day.
		
01:40:58 --> 01:40:59
			We all do it.
		
01:40:59 --> 01:41:02
			So this was about setting the bar, not
		
01:41:02 --> 01:41:05
			high, but setting the bar in a way
		
01:41:05 --> 01:41:07
			that every, you know, the prophet, peace be
		
01:41:07 --> 01:41:09
			upon him, told us that the majority of
		
01:41:09 --> 01:41:10
			his followers would be what?
		
01:41:12 --> 01:41:13
			They will be poor.
		
01:41:14 --> 01:41:17
			So if these wives were living this high
		
01:41:17 --> 01:41:20
			life, then the majority of the ummah would
		
01:41:20 --> 01:41:23
			not be able to like connect, to really
		
01:41:23 --> 01:41:25
			understand and to extract them.
		
01:41:25 --> 01:41:27
			Because there's like, you know, this is for
		
01:41:27 --> 01:41:29
			the rich, you know, the people with high
		
01:41:29 --> 01:41:31
			status in our society.
		
01:41:31 --> 01:41:32
			It's not for all of us.
		
01:41:32 --> 01:41:36
			Now, even the teenage daughter can relate to
		
01:41:36 --> 01:41:37
			this.
		
01:41:37 --> 01:41:40
			Now, even somebody who's not married can relate
		
01:41:40 --> 01:41:41
			to this.
		
01:41:41 --> 01:41:43
			Somebody who is married, but they're all working
		
01:41:43 --> 01:41:46
			paycheck to paycheck, they can all relate to
		
01:41:46 --> 01:41:46
			this now.
		
01:41:48 --> 01:41:48
			Does this make sense?
		
01:41:58 --> 01:41:59
			This is the last part that I leave
		
01:41:59 --> 01:42:00
			you with.
		
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			See this part here?
		
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			Sarahan jameela is the same word.
		
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			Usarrih sarahan jameela.
		
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			Sarahan is, okay, I let you go.
		
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			And he does it in a beautiful way.
		
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			When was the last time you heard of
		
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			a divorce?
		
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			Where your response to him, mashallah.
		
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			It's amazing how they got divorced.
		
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			Allahu akbar.
		
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			So beautiful.
		
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			When was the last time you ever done
		
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			that?
		
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			Sarahan jameela.
		
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			Like, these are the things that really like
		
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			draw me into an ayah.
		
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			It's when I look at just what the
		
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			message is here and then I look at
		
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			life around me and I'm like, my God,
		
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			what happened?
		
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			Sarahan jameela.
		
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			This is not the only verses that talk
		
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			like this about separation and divorce.
		
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			Tons of other verses that give the same
		
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			message that it's not a terrible thing.
		
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			It doesn't have to be an awful experience.
		
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			But unfortunately, the lack of knowledge and a
		
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			bunch of other things, other factors contribute and
		
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			make the whole process really ugly for anybody
		
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			who has to go through that.
		
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			Okay, we'll pause there.
		
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			The prophet's wives have noticed their budget have
		
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			not increased.
		
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			So we talked about this.
		
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			They came up with a respectful request to
		
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			increase their income.
		
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			We talked about this surplus of Medina, the
		
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			spoils of war.
		
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			All of this stuff are now changed and
		
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			have increased in Medina.
		
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			Okay, this conversation continues, but we need to
		
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			like go through word by word in every
		
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			verse.
		
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			I really want you to take the message
		
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			of each of these ayats.
		
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			So inshallah, we'll continue with verse 29 next
		
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			week, inshallah.
		
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			Does anybody have any questions?
		
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			Okey dokey.
		
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			Students, there is something here for you that
		
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			one of the students has brought.
		
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			So please help yourself to it as you
		
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			read.
		
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			There are some good copies of the Qur
		
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			'an.
		
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			So I'll just leave it right here.
		
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			If you need a copy of it, it's
		
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			the clear Qur'an by Dr. Mustafa.
		
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			So if you need one, all in English
		
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			translation, please help yourself to that, inshallah.
		
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			It is a great honor for the students
		
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			of the University of Thailand to honor them
		
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			always and forever.
		
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			Allahumma Ameen.
		
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			Okay, Assalamu Alaikum.