10 Signs Your Marriage Is In Trouble – EP01

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Musleh Khan

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10 Signs Your Marriage Is In Trouble – #1 Can’t Control Your Eyes

Shaykh Musleh discusses controlling your eyes and channeling your temptations towards your spouse.

Reference: Surat Nur v30-31

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Salam Alaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh brothers and sisters, your marriage is in trouble because number one, one of the spouses or both of them can control their eyes. What are we talking about? Allah subhanho wa Taala says and suta to note in verse number 30, and 31 put little meaning in your whole domain of Sati him why follow follow your home? Then the following verse, it says the same thing only it's talking to the women. We'll call it a minute. Yeah, we'll do that. I mean, I'm sorry when we fall in the photo, gentlemen. Now these two verses are the two most explicit verses in the Quran that are talking about the eyes, meaning what you look at and what you gaze at. Now, it's

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important for all of us to really understand why we have a verse or verses like this in the Quran. Scholars, they say that if you can control what you see, then by default, you're going to control what you do. And no husband and no wife likes a spouse that's always staring at other women are always staring at other men. It's bad etiquettes and can it's and they certainly can lead to hot on thoughts and held on things. So Allah subhanho wa Taala speaks to the men first. And that's that didn't just happened for no reason. Even psychologists, they say that men tend to have this problem more so than women. So Allah subhanho wa Taala is addressing the men first and he says to His

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Prophet, sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, go and tell the believing men, holy meaning. Here's the first thing that's very interesting about this verse. Do you notice that Allah says meaning, and he doesn't say mostly mean the difference between the two, you're talking to people who have Amen, this is a person who is Mothman. But when you're Muslim, it doesn't necessarily mean that he men has become has began to manifest itself in your heart. So you could act like a Muslim, talk like a Muslim and behave like a Muslim. It doesn't mean in your heart, that's who you really are. And we know lots of Muslims who are like this, that live their life and they pray and they fast, but in

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their heart, they just simply don't have the men that they need to sustain their their belief to sustain consistency in that worship. So Allah azza wa jal is saying, look, one of the problems why you can control your eyes, it's not a sexual problem. It's not a desire issue. It's because you have weak faith and you have weak Amen. That's why Allah singles out meaning. And he speaks to the men first. And he says to them, the whole domain of saw to him that they control what it is that they see and what it is that they look at, why photo photo, gentlemen, they protect their privates. Now this is really important, because this is the secret ingredient, how you will stay devoted to your

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spouse, your spouse is always going to be that person that keeps you happy. Whenever you feel the tendency to look at someone else. The prophet SAW is seldom taught us and he told us make sure that you look at your spouse, if you have any sexual urges or desires, go to your spouse, that is one of the reasons why Allah azza wa jal made them head out for you. Now, here are some of the problems if you don't get control of the eyes. Allah azza wa jal says number one, why follow Fuji home, protect the privates. So you see what happened, control the eyes and protect the privates. Now, that's a huge jump from the eyes to the privates, a lot of things have to happen in between before you have

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problems with the ladder. Now scholars, they say that, look, if you can control the eyes, here's what's going to happen, you're going to have these tendencies to want to do how long things. So if you can't control what you look at, then guess what you're going to do when your wife is not, not at home, or the husband is not around, you're going to go on the computer, you might look at something wrong, or put on a movie that has hot on scenes in it, or go outside to the mall or go outside to the grocery store. And instead of looking at him or her, you're looking at everyone else and so panela which couple which spouse out there actually appreciates this or can actually accept this,

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you start to lose bottle care in your marriage, you start to lose Baraka in the relationship. And so one of the key ingredients if you want to save your marriage from falling into trouble, is control your eyes. Try your very best to make him or her the real coolness to your eyes. And you have to take into factor all of the things that were Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam tells the woman that she should do to beautify herself for her husband. The things that the man should do to beautify himself for her for his wife.

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All of these things now take a huge role so that the end of the day, he can't wait to come home just so he can see his wife. She can't wait for her husband to come home just so she can see him. That's been okay in a marriage. So, to conclude, one important sign that the marriage is in trouble is that one or both of the spouses, they're not controlling what they look at. It is a shame on the spouse, that they stare at other people and find some sort of satisfaction, looking at everyone else and excluding their spouse. It is a shame on that individual. And it's important that that person should realize and understand that they will be accountable and possibly even punished, punished by Allah

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subhanho wa Taala on the Day of Judgment, that is a situation none of us want to be in May Allah subhanho wa Taala protect us And may Allah subhanho wa Taala help us all to control our eyes wherever we are, especially those who are married. Just like Camillo Hayden said Mr. alikum warahmatu Allahi wa barakato