Vices Series #39 – Disrespecting Parents
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After praising Allah subhanaw taala and sending humans greetings and salutations upon the final prophet muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa early was seldom we stopped to look at the Hadith, about the person who may be addicted would mean will hammer the person who's addicted to any form of intoxicants law yet Hello gentlemen enter into paradise dust as we mentioned that from this can be extracted of various forms of addiction of various forms intoxications could prevent a person from entering into gender are going to remain this hadith. Because other wordings Hadith contains something else that concerns us is
our own common non
personal enter Paradise, the one who surveys their ties with their parents, one who speaks about their favorite doing to another individual, and likewise would mean karma. So Allah subhanaw taala, where the profits are mentioned by this Hadith, that these three types of individuals will not enter into paradise or admin, it becomes difficult for those individuals to get into paradise, and had the moral imperative to muster up And likewise, Mr. Mendoza in Saudi sunon in different wordings, a different order that we find whether it be Mandarin first or app that comes first mode, we know somebody who is intoxicated, as we mentioned, is very various forms intoxications, on the face of
this earth, and some of them that we know what they clearly visibly over these other forms of addictions that Muslims are facing in the wider society is facing. It doesn't benefit us on the member profit and Islam this moment in time to address that. But an alkyl the intelligent individuals understand those types of addictions, unfortunately, facing inside our society that need to be addressed at some moment in time. These old addictions become preventers of letting the individual enter into paradise.
As what concerns us today is
a couple validate the individual who surveys their ties with their parents. Because so many of us individuals, we seem to be thinking that we're practicing Islam.
And time and time for the series we mentioned, the influence of the society around us has had a great big impact
that many for some of us we think that to be good to your parents. To show respect to your parents is not something good, not something as they use. Shabaab use was not called something respectful to show obedience to your parents in front of your friends,
or the people around you. What do you mean, even practicing individual speak to more than one in most of the cases are in relation to divorce and issues between parents between what they call her parents and my parents, parents or parents.
But we find that inside that society that more and more that practicing individual disrespect down parents, disrespect other individuals, parents.
There is a great cultural, a great misunderstanding of the Quran. People may think that we are people of tawheed, people of oneness of Allah subhanaw taala. But we fail to understand the ayah inside the Quran, Allah subhanaw taala begins to describe what is tauheed what is similar to tauheed samura toto he the fruits of tauheed are visible. They're not similar to tauheed of goodness towards your friends, your allies, your comrades, the people around you.
tub de la Subhana Allah begins with the rights of Allah subhana wa tada from the coroner subhanaw taala. But the who the period is and why. And
then the last point I mentioned straight after obedience to Him, not to come and shake with him to show goodness to one's parents. And then the rest of the commandments that they come. And this is something that many of us, we don't read the Quran in this manner. We don't understand the Quran. That's why we find this great gap this great space between what is real Islam, a thorough Islam, what is the real fruits of Islam, the impact of Islam. And what the textbook tells us to do with so many of us individually, unfortunately, are far far away from these practices. And as we find this today's Hadith, Allah who had come up with cabaye should not rate relate to the biggest of sins, the
major sins ALU belajar sudama suggests indeed, tell us what these sins are that we need to avoid inside allies. Corner Alicia Kabila Subhana Allah to never associate any partners with Allah Subhana Allah and most of us are familiar with this.
But we stop on that. That's true that becomes a ramp and if I can use that with a ramp that was though he does so that we speak about by no impact because straight off this the profit is from human
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sallallahu sallam. He said the evil testimony the false testimony the false speech, false witnessing lying, treachery, deception.
He sat up he kept on repeating kept repeating it.
And the companion said later and no suckit
shake when he normally they don't say any words.
But they say that if only the prophet Elijah would remain silent, because he kept on saying Shahada to Zoo Shahadah to Zoo zoo,
which in today's society that we find false speech, lying, deception,
found words, all the support is common inside our society,
that we don't want to abstain from these warnings of the Prophet alayhi salatu salam. And as we mentioned the influence of society around us.
We don't see this as a path to gender.
We see about other individuals
worry about them rightfully at times, we should worry about them. But we don't worry about our parents.
The headed states is straight after should be late SubhanAllah. The second greatest sin on the face of this earth is to survey your ties with your parents. The second greatest sin on the face of this earth inside the Quran that we find amongst the first commandments given to Bani Israel. Why the huddle mitaka Bani Israel la buena de la Chapelle Valley they need a Santa shake when RG and our will be deitel.
We said to Ben Israel, Allah taboo Illa Allah, worship only Allah Subhana Allah. Then there's a law say establish a prayer. Give this occur. Be kind to people give that one toggleable Maru hootenanny Mancha la yaku lo supanova Allah will be Wally Dania Santa, be good to your parents. So Tony service number 36 What are Buddha law to Sri Kobe bill? Well, he they need a Santa. And as habotai were Buddha law, one or two she could be Shia. Worship only Allah Subhana Allah then after what should you do? Will bill Wiley Dini essential goodness to your parents? The ultimate ions are the Quran that we find Allah mentioned. Waka darbuka Allah taboo in the year who have been worried they need a
Santa suit Surah Surah Bani Israel, study the surah all commandments inside there. What to do what to stay away from? Allah wa kabara buka Mach tube in the lives of Hannah and hotman Bala zeeman Allah taboo Illa yo to worship only Allah Subhana Allah and then what Bill where do they need to be good to your parents
remain with this verse because there's no other passage inside the Quran. Allah continue to mentioned in my blog and then in October, I had the Houma Oklahoma, Salah, tola, Houma, ofin wallet and her Houma
if one of your parents or two of your parents come to an elderly age Don't even say off to them. Where the kalama feola in the Lucha Joaquin and the kalama have this this sound of he assault is a sound
killer mufa serene Mr. masucci theory what can you do?
Let me get you to rub some dust or some some substance comes over upon you. You rub it off.
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waka is to me Lou Liang ichi moku that this began to develop anything that was disliked they began to use that word so rich is just a sound. You get dust in your clothing you just wipe off, wipe it off, had the Adnan kalama at nosode the most weakest of sounds but Allah Subhana Allah says that this sound this does sound mean or kabaya
if amongst
major sins, to make that sound of ignore words, it no being rude to them, as genuine or shut them will learn to argue them, to swear at them to cause them to revive them to break your ties with them. If Allah is saying just to say off his meat and tobacco,
then think about the rest of it what many of us that we do?
Then Allah mentions that when these individuals, these two parents of yours, one of them or two of them, what should a person do?
With lahoma Jenna had alumina Rama had in Kenya. And if you lower the wings of mercy, how a bird loads its wings have mercy on its flock, on its cheeks. That's how I Muslim individually, they lower the flock. The wings have mercy upon their parents. And I'll be calling such a
with rebuking and bad speech that we find Baku rub their hammer Kamara, Jani.
Allah have mercy upon them that they gave me tarbiyah when I was young, because
an early day in Houma, suburban,
the parents are the reason after Allah Subhana Allah existence on this earth.
If your parents weren't there the matrimonial relationship you would not exist.
So after belief in a thought so panatela should relate to the panel to another person of psychotherapy begin to show goodness towards their parents. And as we find Babel beruwala Dane otter hareem Allah cuckoo holiday
inside Rio de Sala he many times we mentioned is read this book even even in your lifetime.
Just read riada salvini mama no he
Ola had anything you want to ponder upon inside your life how to conduct this how to live your life is all day.
So bad beruwala a chapter speak about goodness to parents. And likewise, the following chapter speak about breaking severing the ties away from your parents, or seen in Santa BYD de hamelech to Oman. Oh one and a one.
We gave you advice to take care of your parents from Morocco says hello Sue panatela. And
then the last part I mentioned the mother
carried him one and Allah one to one bah bah bah bah, bah bah bah Baba. Lia Naka, fi Rahman, an own
to Z, the Cobra you as you grow, you become strong. Your mother becomes weak.
The bow, the hardship of carrying you. So she carries you officers who are mean
and the whole period is not just a child is delivered and that's it. I mean two years
until the child is able to hold food in his mouth and eat it himself. That's how Allah described it.
And what should a person do anishka li worried aka the French to Allah Subhana Allah then give thanks to pay parents illegal mercy and to me is your return when jaha de cada to chicopee Malaysia Lockerbie even further to pay whom Allah Sahaba dunya meroofer
if they tell you to do something to disobey your last contract, don't obey them.
But so that we say
my parents are like this, I don't need to obey them. eruptive
currencies at that moment, don't obey them. But the Quran also says was Houma. Dunya Moustafa
remain in the companionship in goodness. Meaning anything that isn't her arm. They tell you to do it you have to do it lanie Kashi Derek
in simple to tell you to clean the house brush, do this, paint this do that.
That's got nothing to do with disobedience of Allah subhanaw taala get the grocery do the shopping do that has nothing to do with disobedience don't use as an excuse.
You have to obey them. The only time you disobey them is they tell you to compensate for the loss of Hannah Tiana or make you do something haram then you stay away from an action of not obeying your parents.
And the strange thing about
these is that Surah lukeman.
The 31st suit of the Quran,
if you study the surah is nothing but a dab
and a soda is a father and son relationship.
Then he speaks about as we mentioned this idea to be being good to unfair as being good to one's mother that we find and even non Muslim parents
to obey them as long as he does not tell you to come and check
in have you dealt with this is that way to panatela not to break away from your parents is to remain in close proximity contact with them and remind them about Allah subhanaw taala
And if we look at the reason for revelation for these dimensions is Roman for
these Iraq was set down regarding Saudi Arabia, it would be because I had to ask her to move Bashara. One of the 10 was promised paradise. But his mom heard about his becoming a Muslim. She became upset.
She said, I'm not going to eat and drink.
And other rewired mentioned she's going to remain inside the sun take no shade.
So he approaches mother sisters Mother, what is this?
She said, you need to abandon this this face that you're following
is returned back to our faith.
So he says that maybe this is just a moment give it a day associated. She'll turn back but she carried on.
So when he posted he said to
me located in the key mutinous if you had 100 souls
100 deaths and used to die 100 times not to have the dean
I would never ever leave this deal. So you could die 100 times because what you're telling me to do is to abandon my faith. And I'm not going to do that. Well could unzila headed fish and Sadie be a bit more cost and these are yet to proceed mentioned was set down regarding this companion
that don't obey them in anything that contains shift towards Allah subhanaw taala in other places are the poor unrefined, well seen in Santa bydd Costner
and Uncle boo that we find and other places that the Quran or Satan insanity? Why do they need a Cerner with goodness hamdullah to karahan his mother carried him with difficulty and she was
and she had to deliver it with difficulty great pain.
Then it mentioned Wareham new Officer luthra Tula Shara 30 months,
then Allah mentioned something strange had either been other or ballerina center,
that when a man individual comes to 40 years
while our buying signal hikma 40 is the age of wisdom
that's when a man begins to reflect and think at that age, I need to show goodness to my parents. Because prior to that life, as is culture and as a person is busy in their life,
neglecting people neglecting a family neglecting what everything around them. But sensible individual come to the age of 40 is maturity, hate my wisdom rushed in everything that they do sort of documents that when it comes to the H A begin to show thanks to Allah Subhana Allah and thanks to the parents and what is this hardship
inside surah Miriam What is she mentioned? Yeah, Lady admit to Kabbalah has ever come to newseum man, Celia
Maria Maria Salaam, she says that if I'd only died before this
the pangs of labor
that we find no man would ever experienced that.
That's the point of the labor trauma. He sees an individual carrying his mother performing power of
service individually individual may be as a form of trying to make himself so feel good. As Abdullah, remember that, you know me carrying my mother. What do you think of this good deed.
He said that you carrying your mother is not even equivalent to not just the labor of her birth, but one contraction that she went through. So you can carry your mother in your back and perform Co Op is not equivalent to one contraction that you went through. Meaning you can never ever repay your mother.
You know some of these things. It sounds strange for us. Karen, who is the person when the earthquake took place? Inside Paxton that we find a person put his mud on his back.
And he walked for a week or so to come to a camp to get his mother cure to get some home medication. Then he put it back on his back and he goes back again. Share it with the man to Sahaja we can't imagine this
because of coluna our intellect is a Western intellect is a fractured intellect. It's a broken intellect.
We can't understand these concepts. For them to remain at the surface of the parents is Jenna.
a crocodile self
by Adam konnyaku. Tom used to eat food
and eat with his mother and he would be careful where he's placing his hands. So he said Why are you careful about where you place your eat your food.
He said let's maybe my mother wants to eat a piece of morsel of food. And I didn't take it from her. I guess if I didn't. If I'm the mother. underneath her feet lies what agenda but
Allah had this he
had these made a week. But in genuine find many relevant Hadith except a different rewired the different wordings. paradise lies underneath the feet of your mother.
We're searching for paradise in another direction.
When Paradise is right there in front of us, we want to turn away from it and go towards another direction. And this shows our discrepancies, and misunderstandings of our life.
You don't need to be a known individual.
You don't need to be known by any individual. I wish I was only strand of strand a link of a bed, a strand of hair and a pious person. No one knew me my life.
That's what this culture is to be known amongst people.
Are you known in the lifespan of Ghana? Are you known with your parents? That's what you need to be known with with your parents. Now when your friends not to take the likes and dislikes and thumbs up for people around you
are your likes and your dislikes with your parents? What do they say about you? What do they feel about you?
Three draws of a person and not rejected by Allah subhanaw taala and Muslim, the oppressed one and Lucifer, the one is traveling while while it Nuala D,
the father for his son is not rejected by Allah Subhana Allah.
You find the angle philosophy, Panda allies, with the anger of your father
shaken a Jeep, and tower melaleuca he Well, he did
something again, the Western world we can't understand what do you mean? You and your wife belongs to your father.
You find somebody your father can give up and take whatever he wants from your wealth. If he needs it, obviously he shouldn't abuse it. But what we find in our Western mind at the moment, it's my wealth is my property.
Who used to spend upon you for the last 20 years of your life?
Who used to spend upon you for the last 20 years of your life? Who was it? Who broke their back? Who said used to fend for you? He used to make sure all your school fees are paid. you weigh the latest clothes, the latest trainers, the latest car the latest government's latest everything who was it your father?
It was your father. And then just because you don't want to be seen sometimes with our parents because they may have an accent in a way they speak the way that they dress.
They want to turn away from them. As you mentioned not cool it's not it's not respectful in today's society. It's not respectful to be seen to tearing your mother shopping down the street. Because what would my friends say?
What do you mean what will your friends say? What will not say to you
what will not say to you that day that you severe that ties never took care of your parents. That's what a person should worry about inside their life. Man I have you noticed the Sabbath? Who has the most right for your companionship companion came in he asked told me Who should I show goodness to feel bad require be nice. So
who should be good friends to
the Prophet itemset omocha
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who should be the next person? caller Okay mother
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Why free times?
Why free does the professor mentioned Luca, Luca,
Luca, then your father.
Why the professor mentioned Lyon z. What are the and why led a son can never repay back his father in law at the Houma blue cut for yesterday he was on fire take.
A son can never ever pay back his father, except for he finds his father as a slave.
And he purchases him and he sends him free. Walk Allah Allah Hadith hada Mr. Hale,
this is rarely ever happens that our son finds his father in slavery and he sets him free. Never ever could have son repay his father back.
These are new suits of the Quran and the sooner
that we traverse away from that we drift away from that society around us desert want to place this inside our lives. that these are things that actually we need to be doing inside our life. And his new phenomena that you find of women going to do what they whatever they want to go and do if a woman is not allowed to perform Hajj except for with a man from our back door. Only a few Roma folk have allowed if she's at an elderly age.
Hospitals not the end is not possible. If you didn't have no sons, no relatives to go, then she can travel with a group of individuals.
That's it.
Other than that, Marissa confirmed earlier. If she has no Muharram she's not allowed to go into law.
And if she does perform a HUD, she could be sitting in a sinful state. So now how can a woman now go and travel for Islamic studies? to a different man, go and travel the world go and see the world I booked out on her de
la Hara Indiana,
blame upon us.
And this becomes inside our society that people do whatever they want to do.
weakness of a man weakness of texts of misuse of the Quran and the Sunnah, a weakness towards our family members around us. Well, I've got Kala Rasulullah salatu salam brahma amphu rocky Morocco for Morocco, Morocco, Morocco, Oman for once again three times a prophet so he repeated this three times, made an individual's nose be rubbed in the dust,
made an individual's nose be rubbed in the dust, made an individual's nose be rubbed in the dust, man abracadabra ye undercover Adama Ocala Hema phenom yet hulan Jenna, whoever finds one of their parents, or two of their parents alive, and he doesn't enter Paradise via them, had the inside Sahih Muslim
mean that person has failed in their life.
That person has failed to achieve everything else inside their life, but has not found the path to Paradise by a servitude towards their parents had innocent enough to remedy the father is the middle gate to paradise. You can either neglect that door or you can protect it
to such a degree that you find certain other Hadith that we mentioned. Or the full context is Hadith about the father the middle of Game of paradise. It's not surprising to me that we find
as Amanda we mentioned earlier, the solid eight
Abdullah bin Rama Ivana his father Omar said to him
devotional wife
now once you take these ad DS and go around and implement them as another dangerous thing that we find inside our society, people listen to a hadith Quran, Hadith and go into play on their family members around them. This is only to help us to understand the affair
are not set to ability son palika divorce her.
We had these youth club Welcome to hibou a whole buncha didn't and I used to love her immensely.
I used to love this woman.
I love this so much.
He's far these whom
he must have seen something inside this woman. So he refuses either belimbing Rama Rama goes to the Prophet Allah, Islam and and expresses this concern.
What is the Prophet Allah is not some say. He says,
divorce her.
divorce her come to him who have been shady the immense love for her.
But there's something that my father must have seen.
And he recognized he told me and the professor he confirmed that as well.
That what your father is saying is the right thing. Once again, just to read reiterate, once again, the disclaimer, no one should go and implement these ahadeeth and say get to another individual or encourage another individual, not to coreboot a I had never destroyed another man's house. Never advise another individual to leave their family, a woman to leave their family. The goal
is not for us to go in depth a person should entertain the gossip
are problems in society and Coca Cola, Coca Cola does not even listen to people's problems. If you don't have a solution,
if you're not in a position to give a solution and give the right advice, don't even listen to people's issues inside their homes.
And likewise, people inside their home should confine in mature individuals. When we find the problem is that a society of people going and speaking to every single individual,
destroys your home, destroys your family destroys everything about you. These are affairs a person confines in in the right manner. Once again, these an etiquettes that we find in this Western world are just complaining about our mother in law's
a common practice you find yes the mother may not be a perfect individual.
But this type of derogatory speech, laterally COVID movement
is not the way of the believer to to use such words.
Even as brothers well that that's your mother. That's your father law.
Done. Her parents are like your parents. That's how you should treat them. Don't make this distinction that the society is created to gossip about other people other your own in laws, your own parents, your own family members, because this weakens the family structure inside the home that we find and after finding conclusion that we find that we are losing paradise
and in the anger of Allah subhanaw taala
to individuals are punished immediately. Inside the monster man, hack him and check my relationship now. So the alleged Bernie, two individuals are punished immediately inside this dunya
person who commits injustice
and volume in Casio
as many of them that were surrounded by May Allah Allah give them the due right and take them inside this dunya and destroy them inside this dunya in the face of this earth because of the loom and oppression that they carry out in the face of this earth and the destruction that they've done. And I don't want to go to a tangible Villa the Sham Surya just visualized 10 years ago. visualize this outdoor Masha this beautiful land visualize it today
this desecrated ghost town destroyed land it is has become ignore the politics where people are either people should have been doing this or doing that ignore all of that.
Just look as a human being what is one in this oppressor has done to his own people what he's done, how he's destroyed that land
and that's why to such individual Jews Why should we give it up in the face of this earth?
That's what I had is mentioned passive commits oppression. injustice will be punished on the face of this earth was Sani athlete a leader in the soccer individual be punished in his f meaning
no blessing for him will be the person disobeys their parents as we mentioned that directly into the culture around us
that's what it breeds and teaches not to be good to our parents.
We find another interracial fights and yesterday rajawali day he a person curses his own parents
companions us How can a person curse his own parents? You know these laws are this language that we find that Shabaab use your mom your dad. What is the what is this a Shut up.
This is testing your own parents.
A man test is another person's parents to pass a test back and revise your parents.
That's you cursing your own parents.
So we find that that's a core for the culture around us.
Influence as to the way that we conduct is or the way that we behave, the way that we speak about our parents, etc that we find And in conclusion read in these days of Hajj that we find readers itself Ibrahim Alayhi Salam and his father is not in read the story had occurred mentioned Yabba De Lima taboo the shape on all my beloved father Why do you worship shape on McCauley quality after six year forget moodgym your Abidjan was that
he never said his father you make idol worshiper maker, you criminal you mushnik You wicked individual you Mr. indivision Cora lujah Betty Gaya to me well, Woody Well,
that's I spoke to his father
about the sin in
Santa Monica, who after some years of Mr. tifosi mentioned is married, Abraham can see the depiction of himself inside his marine. What is my insight to his father? Yeah, Betty. If Alma took my son Teddy Rooney in shallow Minnesota during his married returns the words
he said yeah, but he My beloved father, do whatever you have to do. You will find me amongst a patient individuals. And as we find that the person prays for their parents, and the 17 times a day rajani Maki, masala tea window realty robina acaba, de rockfill, Eva, Mina, Yama, Oman, he said, You don't need reading of the Quran. You don't need do this for a dead individual. If you'd be righteous children, then every single day at least 17 times a day you pray for your parents. And likewise for the opposite Ravana hublin I mean, as virgin was the reaction of kurata mattina Mm hmm. So you to Cora to an outlet, doing your Cobra at the whole agenda.
Did you see us Allah?
Allah Allah did
he make you see righteousness or your children in this world? It pleases you does it please us? Do some of our parents is it pleased them that children are practicing distiller
that's what you'd prefer to see actual activity and good things. The Karate is righteousness piety, coolness that is inside this dunya may have lost
Give us all the trophies and ability to show goodness and kindness to our parents. If they both would like to show goodness to both in one day we like to give goodness to one them a both of them have fortunately left us than to make the air for them to pray for them to do some form of sadaqa for them to remember them in goodness speak well of them even likewise we find that their friends around them show kindness of the laborers you kindness to the friends of his father only couple this I believe it should be while harder female candidate Amina Hadith and the heart of the paternal maternal aunt, sister of your of your mother's of your mother is like a mother to you. So goodness
to her as well. May Allah give us all just a trophy credibility, show goodness to our parents.