Muiz Bukhary – When you lose a loved one…

Muiz Bukhary

A Jumuah sermon delivered on the 14th of October 2016 at the Masjid-Ul-Hasan, Lower Bagatelle Road, Colombo 03 in Sri Lanka.

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The speakers discuss three recent examples of events that occurred during the past week, including the passing of senior scholar, the death of a young woman in the family, and the passing of a young individual in the family. They stress the importance of not losing focus and not losing patience, and emphasize the need for acceptance of Islam's teachings and acceptance of gender and sex within the church. The speakers also emphasize the importance of patient patience and reminding oneself to protect one's mental state and family members' mental state.

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			Salam Alaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh
		
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			smilla rahmanir rahim al hamdu Lillahi Rabbil alameen
		
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			as always, I commenced the praising amongst Hannah Hannah, who is no doubt our Creator, nourish,
protect, and sustain and I asked him the Lord of all worlds, the Exalted to shower his choices of
blessings and salutations. upon our beloved Prophet, Mohammed, Salah long winding he was, he was
sending him, his family members, his companions, and all those who tread upon his path with utmost
sincerity until the day of them.
		
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			When he respected elders and brothers in Islam, first and foremost, I advise myself and then all of
you all present here to adopt a life of the poor. And that is to fear a loss of Hannah Montana, and
to be conscious of
		
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			during every single second of our lives, if we wish to attain success in this world as well as the
hereafter. May Allah subhanho wa Taala make us all from the people of taqwa. And may He make us from
the victorious and successful ones, I mean,
		
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			to proceed during the course of last week,
		
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			I received very saddening news about three tragedies.
		
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			Tragedy number one, the passing away of a very senior scholar from overland, more specifically from
the east, he has contributed a lot. He passed away in his 80s
		
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			tragedy number two, the passing away of a senior member of a family that is close to me.
		
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			He was diagnosed with gastritis.
		
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			But repeatedly, the doctors kept telling him that his heart was in a very good condition, and that
he had no heart related issues. He was on his way to the doctor's, he suddenly collapses and passes
away.
		
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			The third tragedy, the passing away of a very young individual who was in the prime of life, he was
furthering his studies abroad, and he passed away in his 20s in the law, he was in your own to allow
me belong and to Him, we all shall return.
		
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			I start off by praying that Allah subhanho wa Taala should forgive all three of them, should less
the three of them should grant them high ranks in Paradise. And may He also grant the families of
the diseased beautiful patients to go through this particular trial of losing their loved ones. I
mean,
		
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			and just yesterday, one of the family one of the families of the aforementioned individuals that
passed away, they reached out to me and I consoled them by sharing a hadith with them, the hadith of
our beloved prophet muhammad sallallahu alayhi wasallam why I shared it with them. And as a matter
of fact, I also posted it on my Facebook page this morning. And the heavy is I would like to share
it with you all. It has been narrated by Abu burrata, the one who is reported to have said that the
Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam once said
		
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			that a wise Virgil said this is a hadith Buddhist, Buddhist he is basically the words of Allah
subhanho wa Taala that have been reported to us by Mohammed Salah Lama and he was saying, We don't
consider it to be a Koran, but rather it is from the heartbeat of our beloved prophet muhammad
sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, so allies, the regional states and this has been reported to us by our
supervisor about wanting to sell them. I have Please listen to me attentively say beautiful Howdy. I
have nothing to give my faithful servant except paradise. I have nothing to give my faithful servant
accept paradise, if I cause his or her dear relative or friend to die and he or she
		
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			mains patient.
		
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			Let me repeat the beautiful words of Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam for educational purposes.
I have nothing. And this is Ally's original stating this our maker is stating this I want you all to
internalize these words of Allah subhanho wa Taala I have nothing to give my faithful servant except
paradise except Jenna except paradise. If I cause a lie saying this if I cause his or her dear
relative or friend to die, and he or she remains patient. No sooner I shared this idea with them.
The family started to tear and cry a lot.
		
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			Because honestly, it strikes such a beautiful and emotional chord within us just think of it. Allah
subhanho wa Taala look at how merciful he is. He is taking something from us Yes, only to reward us
only to reward us with paradise, only to reward us with gender. Look at how merciful he is. Yes, I
know it is painful. It is so painful to feel the vacuum to lose a loved one.
		
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			But think of it this way. They have moved on to Allah subhanho wa Taala they have moved on to the
mercy of Allah as a richer, they have gotten closer to Allah subhanho wa Taala and they wouldn't
want you to be sad. That is not the end. But rather it is the beginning of a new life, the eternal
life of the hereafter. They have gotten closer to Allah subhanho wa Taala than you and I are much
closer to Eliza, this is the beginning of a completely new chapter in their lives. So it is upon us.
Yes, we are sad, we pray for them. But we shouldn't go into this state where we completely lose
focus we become depressed. May Allah subhanho wa Taala protect us from such situations because they
		
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			you hold on to patience, beautiful patients here, as Allah says in the Koran when talking about the
loss of jacoba serrato salaam What did he say for Southern chenille patients is beautiful and that's
why I keep reiterating beautiful patients because there are varying levels of patience which time
does not permit for me to go into. But you hold on to this beautiful patients where you don't
complain you don't grumble you don't whine. Allah subhanho wa Taala is going to reward your loved
one obviously, and he is going to reward you with gender as well.
		
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			At the end of the day, you and I we are all headed down the same path. Once Mohammed Salah Manuel he
when he was said,
		
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			he goes into the cemetery, Mahabharata. He goes into the graveyard. He goes in and he addresses the
martyrs inside there who were buried in there. he greets them and this was generally the son of the
Prophet sallallahu Sallam and this is upon us as well. Whenever we go into a graveyard, we greet the
inhabitants of the graves. We say Salaam Alaikum. Aditya, we greet them so Mohammed said Mr. Maliki
when he was sent them, he begs but Allah subhanho wa Taala that Allah subhanho wa Taala should
forgive them should forgive them of their sins should raise their ranks. He prays to them. And then
he said a long while he said he was sending them.
		
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			He reflects it has been recorded, because he states Peace be upon you, all inhabitants of the
graves. Peace be upon you, oh inhabitants of the graves. The morning that dawns upon you is more
relieving. Okay. Then the morning that dawns upon the living, listen to the words the promise that I
listen attentively. The morning that dawns upon you is no easy is more relieving upon you than the
morning that dawns upon the living afflictions and trials are approaching like cloudy lumps of a
dark night, the last of which follows the first the last block with the last one becoming more evil
than the first one. The last dryer follows the first and the last one being more even more worse
		
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			than the first one. And then he Solomon while you send them caps off the address by stating, we are
also coming to you. We are also coming to you, we the living are also coming to you.
		
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			So many respected elders and brothers and v2 are cracking down on the same time. This life is
temporary and I'm coming to that reminder. But before that, I would like to pray for all the loved
ones that you and I we have lost as well. How the Prophet sallallahu Sallam would pray for them. A
lot of them have Fiddler on one hand one wire for him was one home. Well actually Muslim home will
say the home was seen home you know what I mean?
		
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			Man you will sell she will borrow. He said among whining when he would pray for them Obama Fiddler
Humala, forgive them for
		
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			what cream do sudama mala raise their ranks, we have seen a woman and her boy.
		
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			And Allah forgive their sins, cleanse them of their sins with hail, snow, water and ice. Now, you
might wonder why the variations here, just imagine if you were to take a garment or clothing. And if
you were to wash it with hail, if you were to wash it with snow, if you were to wash it with ice,
and if you were to wash it with water, would any dirt remain on that garment, nothing would remain.
And this is for emphasis or not cleanse them completely of their mistakes, forgive them And grant
them a higher rank in paradise. I mean, and I pray that for all of our loved ones, the ones we have
lost, I mean,
		
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			so having consoled the families of the deceased. Now I move on to the two reminders that I would
like to share with you all. The first reminder being in regard to this temporary life and how few
times this life is now go back to the bigger see whatever happens in our lives, be them good
experiences or sad experiences, you need to be able to deduce lessons. Look at the three tragedies.
The first tragedy was a senior scholar, like I said he passed away in his 80s. The second tragedy,
he passed away in his 50s the third tragedy he passed away in his 20s sapan Allah, what do you
understand from this, but we clearly understand is that none of us, none of us know when we are
		
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			going to move on to the next realm. None of us know when the Angel of Death is going to come and
stand in front of us. You can be old, and yes, the Angel of Death may come to you, you can be just
about to retire. And then the Angel of Death may come to you. You may be in the prime of your life,
with many ambitions ahead of you. And yet the angel of death can come to you the question here now
the million dollar question is, are you prepared to meet the angel of death? Are you prepared to
meet Allah subhanho wa Taala? Because if you are not prepared to meet your maker, then you are
doomed. May Allah azza wa jal protect us all. So this is a question that we need to keep asking
		
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			ourselves, we need to keep introspecting ourselves when we keep preparing ourselves for the next
world. Each time we hear of such news, it needs to make us more focused, and it needs to help us to
prioritize where we fixate our focus towards the hereafter. Look at the words of the Prophet
sallallahu Sallam that he said unto even Amaro the long line, even though Rama was obviously the son
of Amara viola, one wonderful, nice annihilation and holds museum Companion of the Prophet Solomon,
he holds him by his shoulder, and he tells him couldn't fit dunya and nakahara.
		
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			Be in this world or live in this world, like a stranger or a passer by or a traveler, say, for
example, you're transiting in a particular country, you're not necessarily going to unpack, you're
not necessarily going to purchase a house, you're not necessarily going to purchase a vehicle
because it is transiting it's a temporary station, say you're moving from here to North Korea,
perhaps and you're stopping in Canada for a little. So even if you're permanently moving over to
North Korea. And if you're stopping by to rest in candy, you're not necessarily going to do or make
any permanent decisions in candy because you know, everything is temporary. They're like, why is
		
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			this one the life is temporary, but think about it. Just introspect. In regard to your priorities,
we're spending so much of time to secure mansions to secure expensive vehicles, none of which is how
long as long as you have got your priorities straight. If you have fixated your focus towards the
Hereafter, and you're working in regard to this worldly life as well, there is no harm in it because
Allah says in the Quran was a bit of a FEMA attack along with Donald after all, what happens in a
sea bottom in adonia, seek the eternal abode of the hereafter and do not forget your portion of this
world. So I'm not necessarily saying that you need to wear tattered garments and walk around in the
		
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			streets thinking about the hereafter. That's not what the Koran states, you're supposed to work for
this world in life as well. But make sure that you don't forget about the here after the life where
you're going to live forever and ever and ever. Think about it. If you're putting so much of effort
for this early life, you're going to spend at the very most 60 to 70 years, and how much of effort
you need to be putting in regard to a life that you're going to live for an eternity forever and
ever. 100,000 100,000 years, even much more. Infinity never ends. Eternity never ends. You're going
to live forever and ever. And the only period you're going to get to invest in that life is this
		
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			world. Once you move on to the next round, you're not going to be given an opportunity to do
anything for that world. And remember, the only size I repeat this often, the only size of regret of
the dwellers of general will be that Oh, I should have said
		
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			Most of Hanover, I should have said one more and hamdulillah I should have said one more Allahu
Akbar for if I had said one most of Han Allah, if I had said one more Alhamdulillah if I had said
one more Allahu Akbar, if I had said one most of Han Allah, He will be humbled to hear some kind of
La hit azeem, a tree would have been planted in my orchard, a garden would have been planted for me
a mansion would have been built for me. This is the only regret that you will have in that world. So
make sure that you do as much as possible in terms of securing a good life in the hereafter. May
Allah subhanho wa Taala help us all to prioritize accordingly and do so I mean, the second reminder
		
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			is to cherish your loved ones. cherish your loved ones before it's too late.
		
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			If your parents are aligned with you right now, cherish them because because you could lose them any
moment. It could be on your way back after the messy the home you could get a call saying that
perhaps Allah subhanho wa Taala First they are making dua, may Allah protect our parents, those of
us you know, parents who are alive Melba grant them long and healthy lives. But the soft reality is
just imagine if you were to get a call stating that your parent is being admitted into the hospital
and his or her condition is serious. Think about your mental state, you would think Oh how I wish I
spent more time with my mom how I wish I spent more time with my father. Oh, there were small issues
		
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			How I wish that patched up things with them. If things are sour with your parents, don't wait till
it's too late. Right after the Sala take your phone, call them up. Apologize, say sorry and patch
things up before it's too late. cherish your loved ones, cherish your spouse, cherish your children
cherish all of them. Because at the end of the day, this is a temporary life and you might lose them
any time or you might move away from this world. So once again, prioritize at times we get so
carried away in this rat race where we are running behind materialistic possessions. We keep
pacifying ourselves by saying I'm doing all of this for my family. I'm doing all of this for my
		
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			family wise, we never end up spending time with our family. That's the reality. We think to
ourselves, oh, I'm running to the office. I'm traveling all over the world. I'm doing all of this to
provide a good life for my family was our families are pining away for us. What's the point? What's
the point of earning in millions and millions? If you my dear brother is not spending time with your
family. If you're not spending time with your wife, if you're not spending time with your children,
your children yearn for you. And when you come home in the evening, they come running to the clamor
over you. They try to speak to you they try to do all of that and you chase them away. Why? Because
		
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			you're tired. you're stressed out, you go flop on the bed, you sleep next day morning, you're
running again, it's a rat race, we're running behind this worldly life. So prioritize once again,
spend more time with your family, spend quality time with them, and improve your relationship with
Allah subhanho wa Taala because at the end of the day, that is what matters. You move away all these
materialistic ways, and then you will understand. You will realize as to what really matters, may
Allah subhanho wa Taala open the doors of clear understanding for all of us, maybe forgive all of
our sins. Many forgive the sins of all those who have passed away in the recent in the recent past
		
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			and then the last week, in the month before all of our loved ones many forgive their sins many
except our good deeds. And just as how unitrust feeling dismissed it may unite us in the gardens of
Jenna with our beloved prophet muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa ala he would sell them. With that I
conclude I mean washed away and in hamdu Lillahi Rabbil alameen disciple mahalo