Muiz Bukhary – 3 Reminders When Feeling Lonely

			I'd like to begin with greetings of peace As salam o Alaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh. Now I may
not be in a position to come sit by you and offer comforting words. But I really hope that this
video and the reminders that I hope to touch on in this video will help you if you are feeling
lonely inshallah.
		

			We are all in the midst of this pandemic. And loneliness is, I would say, a natural byproduct due to
the landscape that we are all upon and it's truly unprecedented, you know, the feelings of
loneliness, a lot of us going through it, were finding it challenging. We're finding it difficult to
cope with, you know, and if you if you look around right now my part of the world we are in a
complete lockdown as I speak. There are other countries that are in a partial lockdown, like let's
say the Maldives and I was reading the other way that the other day that even in Malaysia,
		

			you know, they've gone into a complete lockdown. We sincerely pray that Allah eases the affairs of
everyone suffering, and we pray in general that Allah subhanho wa Taala uses all of our affairs
opens doors of goodness for all of us and takes us all back to normalcy soon. I mean, now to
continue before I get into the three reminders, I'd like to base this entire video on a beautiful
Hadith of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa alayhi wa sallam. Now this particular narration is
recorded in the book of Imam Muslim Rahim Allah and the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam is
reported to have said, and the narration goes along the lines of these words, outcome a pilot alayhi
		

			salatu salam serba, pilot Morpher redo the Morpher redo have gone ahead. Now I intentionally did not
define or translate the word Elmo thoroughly don't because we're going to address it in just a bit.
So the Sahaba with the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam at that juncture. They asked the Prophet
salallahu alayhi wasalam
		

			Yasser Allah woman Malmo for radon, or messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, who are Al
mufa, radon, and then the Prophet sallallahu Sallam he now describes and defines who the Morpher
radon is. He says in that particular Hadith that Kiruna Allah have Kathy run with that Chiara
		

			at that Girona Allah dichiarato so the men and women who remember Allah was absorbed in the
remembrance of Allah subhanho wa Taala kathira, excessively. They, they remember Allah, they
celebrate the praises of Eliza they glorify Allah subhanho wa Taala they tank Allah subhanho wa
Taala excessively.
		

			Now you might be wondering,
		

			you know this, this video is addressing loneliness and how is this hadith related to the reminder.
So if you take the word Elmo for redo now in the Arabic language, Elmo forbidden, the term, Elmo
federate stems from
		

			far raw data, which has meanings of loneliness, or being lonely or being by oneself attached to it.
And with that, I'd like to get into reminder, number one, and that is that we need to look at these
moments of silence, these moments of solitude.
		

			See, for most of us, it's not by choice right? Now, for example, if you are forced into a lockdown,
you really want to go out, but because of your own safety and the safety of others, and due to the
fact that your authorities are telling you to stay at home, you choose to stay at home. For some,
it's like a dream come true. But for others, they're grappling with it, they're finding it
difficult, they want to go out, they want to, you know, socialize, mingle with people and do all of
that. So they're finding it extremely difficult and it's, it's something that they're finding it so
hard to, you know, come to terms with.
		

			But I want to change your perspective to it, there is a silver lining and as they say, every dark
cloud has a silver lining. I mean, this pandemic has come with its fair share of challenges, trials
and difficulties. But along with that, if you want to carefully analyze there are silver linings to
it as well. Then at the end of the day, we fall back on to the fact that you know, everything is
part of the plan of the maker, the Almighty the all knowing Hola Hola, Hola. Hola, de lapinette
there's no power, no mite, except from Allah subhanho wa Taala. So coming back to the reminder for
someone who does not like to be alone. It will it will take time for you to actually you know, start
		

			to embrace it and for you to relish the time that you are getting.
		

			To spend by yourself. And this time, my dear brother, my dear sister, this, the DB is moments of
solitude, these moments of silence, the minute you connect it to Allah subhanho wa Taala
		

			you are going to start savoring so many dimensions to those moments of solitude. As you become more
and more mindful, as you become more and more conscious, as you start remembering him, as you start
thanking Him, as you start glorifying him, these moments of solitude, become moments of
introspection, where you start to love yourself, discover yourself, and in turn, you also spend time
getting closer to Allah subhanho wa Taala.
		

			And the words of the messenger, if you do this, Sabah, halmahera, Radeon,
		

			you have gone ahead Subhan, Allah, you have gone way ahead. So yes, it's challenging. And for a lot
of us, we might end up brooding, going into these downward spirals, you know, going into this abyss
of darkness, you know, where everything seems to be so negative, it's almost like we can't see the
light at the end of the tunnel. And we're like, you know what, this is not going to end and then
you're reading, you know, headlines, and then perhaps people are saying that it's going to go on for
months, maybe it's going to go on for years, and you're thinking, Oh, you know what, I just can't do
this anymore. But my dear brother, my dear sister,
		

			reminder, number one, remember that there is a silver lining, to every event that's happening in
your life. And the fact that you are now getting an opportunity to spend time by yourself, to
contemplate, to reflect, to introspect, cook, to get to know yourself better, to get closer to your
maker, this is such a blessing. And that's how you need to look at it. You need to look at it in
such a way that you are now tapping into yourself at a very
		

			deep level. You're tapping into yourself, you're tapping into your creative thoughts. So these
moments, you know, you can really harness these moments of solitude, these moments of loneliness in
a very, very powerful way. So you need to be able to channel your energy the right way. So these
moments look at them as a gift from Allah subhanho wa Taala. Ah, now that's that's a complete shift
in terms of how you look at these moments, instead of looking at these moments in a very negative
way. Think about these moments as gifts from Allah azza wa jal.
		

			And once you start looking at these moments, as gifts all wrapped up for you, for you to open up and
explore and find out your entire perspective changes for you to really up your game Subhan Allah,
may Allah azza wa jal help us to make the most out of these moments. I mean, I mean, reminder number
two, remember that things are not always going to be the same.
		

			You see, even when you take psychology, when you take the mind, there is this concept known as the
the hedonic treadmill. And this concept basically tells us it educates us then that when talking
about events in the life of an individual, we as human beings, we have been engineered, and experts
talk about this, where it's, you know, you have this line that's running, and then you have a
positive event that takes place in your life and you know, you spike, you go up, you know, you're in
this invigorated mood, you are enthusiastic, you are motivated, you feel happy, you feel driven, you
do all of that, right. So you are riding the high now. And then what happens is that, you know, you
		

			can't really be on that, on that spike for too long. After a period of time, let's say whatever it
may be, let's say it's an amazing event that took place in your life, maybe it's a promotion at
work, maybe you bought something new, some materialistic possession, some new, let's say, you got
married, you got a child, you know, all of these events, okay, these beautiful good events will take
you right up. But you won't remain there, my dear brother, my dear sister, eventually you will come
back down to that stable level, your life continues. Now. Similarly, negative events, the loss of a
loved one, financial loss, let's say bad news about a health situation. You crash, you know, you go
		

			into this downward spiral. But again, you have to bear in mind that you're not going to stay there.
We're being engineered as such that we have it within us to get back on track, the hedonic
treadmill, so eventually after going down, yeah, you you will go down, no doubt. It's all about ups
and downs. It was almost like a roller coaster ride. But eventually you get back to that stable
state and you keep going in other words,
		

			Time heals, as they say, right? Time heals. So after a period of time you get back on track, you
move on. So you have all these terminologies, Time heals, you move on life continues, you have all
of this that basically tells you that eventually, I mean, firstly, one thing that it tells you is
that these things are not permanent. Number two is that you will eventually move on. So now right
now, if you're in this abyss of doom and gloom, thinking, oh my god, you know what, I'm going to be
stuck here forever. No, insha, Allah, Diana, things will change, they will get back to the bat. And
you have to constantly keep praying for that and firmly believe in that La hawla wala quwata illa
		

			illa Billah there is no power, no mighty except from a lion and it is in his hands. And we sincerely
pray for normalcy. Alright.
		

			Reminder, number three.
		

			And this reminder, is basically that you need to tell yourself, that you shouldn't be taking these
moments of loneliness, personally, so much to the extent that you feel where you start to hate
yourself. You feel that you're not worthy of the company of others. Because sometimes, you know,
what happens is you have these voices in your head, and they start telling you, you know what,
you're in this position. Nobody cares about you. Nobody calls you nobody's texting you, you're in
this lonely, lonely situation, because you are not worthy. And you, you know, you go down this
downward spiral, of loading yourself of despising yourself, of hating yourself. Now, these negative
		

			and what's the word self sabotaging thoughts, they they are the true mental, and they're easy to
fall into as well. And this is why you should not love it. Spiritually from a spiritual angle. You
can even categorize this, under waswas, from these evil whisperings of Chopin, and this is why we
constantly seek refuge in Allah from the waswas of alkalinize men Shetland was, was in harness,
because these evil whisperings, they they put you into this downward spiral, they make you feel as
if you're not worth it, you're not productive enough, you're not achieving enough. See, you
obviously have to have high aspirations, I'm not saying just be content with where you are, as in,
		

			you see, it's multifaceted you, you need to have a sense of contentment, but you also need to be
driven.
		

			It's all about striking a balance. You can't be like, you know what, I can't be bothered having high
aspirations because I'm just happy with where I am. And you can't settle for mediocre. Nor can you
you know, take the feelings of being driven and motivated and kill yourself about it, you know, I
mean, put yourself into this abyss and, and beat yourself up, that's right to beat yourself up.
Because, you know, you feel like you're not productive enough, you're not achieving enough, you're
not doing this enough, you're not doing that enough. And that that will result in negative
consequences. So it's all about striking a balance where Yes, you are content with where Allah has
		

			placed you right now with what Allah has given you. But along with that, you have high aspirations,
you're striving for excellence, the concept of ehsaan you're striving for excellence and you don't
hate yourself. Why? Because all of what is within you and around you was given to you by Allah
subhanho wa Taala, your family, your loved ones, your job and beat materialistic possessions, be it
relationships, be it family members, beat social standing, whatever it is, everything was given to
you by Allah is a virgin. So by looking down upon all of that, you are not developing an attitude of
gratitude, but rather, you're being ungrateful. And as Allah says in the Quran, Allah insha Allah as
		

			he then.
		

			So basically, the understanding is that if you render gratitude and Allah is going to give you many
fold. So it's very important not to, I mean, you need to discipline yourself. Now when you notice
that, okay, you are in these moments of isolation, you're feeling lonely. You need to discipline
yourself, you need to be aware of the stories of the narratives that your mind tells you. These
voices and you need to nip
		

			the wrong ones, the nasty ones in the bud. Don't let them grow. Don't let them take deep root in
your mind and become an obstacle in terms of you moving forward. So my dear brothers and sisters in
Islam, I hope that these three reminders will benefit if you have not subscribed to my channel go
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