Muhammad West – Islamic Mental Health Tips

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			A'udhu Billahi Minash Shaitanir Rajeem, Bismillahir Rahmanir
		

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			Raheem, Alhamdulillah, Alhamdulillah wa salatu wa salamu ala
		

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			Rasulullah wa ala alihi wa sahbihi wa man
		

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			istana bi sunnati ila yawmid deen, thumma amma
		

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			ba'd.
		

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			Assalamu alaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh.
		

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			We praise and thank Allah subhanahu wa ta
		

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			'ala who has chosen us together in this
		

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			house, amongst the houses of Allah subhanahu wa
		

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			ta'ala during this mubarak hour of Jummah.
		

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			When we look at the life of the
		

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			Prophet salallahu alayhi wa sallam, we see that
		

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			the Prophet salallahu alayhi wa sallam in his
		

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			sunnah and in the book of Allah subhanahu
		

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			wa ta'ala comes with solutions to everything.
		

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			And it's not merely lip service, but when
		

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			we look and ponder on the words of
		

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			Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala and the words
		

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			of Rasulullah salallahu alayhi wa sallam, we actually
		

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			see that he is true.
		

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			That once we adopt these verses and the
		

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			sunnah of the Prophet salallahu alayhi wa sallam
		

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			in our lives, things run so much better.
		

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			The 10th of October was International Mental Health
		

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			Day.
		

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			And very often when people have issues, even
		

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			when it comes to marriage issues, people knock
		

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			on the door of the Imam and you
		

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			listen to the problem, you think to yourself,
		

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			this is not a sharia problem, this is
		

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			not a halal and a haram problem, this
		

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			is a personality problem, this is emotional issues
		

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			that an individual has.
		

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			The amazing thing is that the book of
		

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			Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala mentions 14 times
		

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			the issue of depression and anxiety.
		

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			When Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala speaks about
		

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			the Awliya of Allah and those who believe,
		

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			لَا خَوْفٌ عَلَيْهِمْ وَلَا هُمْ يَحْزَنُونَ They are
		

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			not overcome by fear of the future and
		

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			neither are they overly sad about things that
		

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			happened in the past.
		

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			I would like to start with a statement
		

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			and it says, it has been well said
		

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			that our anxiety does not empty tomorrow of
		

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			its sorrows, but only empties today of its
		

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			strength.
		

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			So Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala says, مَنْ
		

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			عَمِلَ صَالِحًا مِّن ذَكَرِنَا وَأُنثَى وَهُوَ مُؤْمِنٌ فَلَنُحْيَنَّهُ
		

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			حَيَاتًا طَيِّبًا That whoever does a good deed
		

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			with a male or female, the person is
		

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			a believer, that's the only prerequisite.
		

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			فَلَنُحْيَنَّهُ حَيَاتًا طَيِّبًا We will give this individual
		

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			a goodly life.
		

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			A goodly life does not mean that this
		

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			person won't have problems.
		

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			It doesn't mean that he won't have challenges.
		

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			But Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala gives this
		

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			individual the tools to navigate around these issues.
		

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			And so the Prophet ﷺ teaches us in
		

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			the hadith found in Al-Adab Al-Mufrad,
		

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			a book compiled by Imam Al-Bukhari other
		

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			than his Sahih, speaking about daily living.
		

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			In fact the translation of the title is
		

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			called The Code of Daily Living.
		

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			The Prophet ﷺ says, صَلِ اللَّهَ الْعَفْوَ وَالْعَافِيَ
		

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			فِي الدُّنْيَا وَالْآخِرَةِ صَلِ اللَّهَ الْعَفْوَ وَالْعَافِيَ فِي
		

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			الدُّنْيَا وَالْآخِرَةِ فَإِذَا أُعْطِيتَ الْعَافِيَ فِي الدُّنْيَا
		

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			وَالْآخِرَةِ فَقَدْ أَفْلَحْتُ Ask Allah subhanahu wa ta
		

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			'ala for pardon, for forgiveness and wellness in
		

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			this world and the year after.
		

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			And often when we think about wellness, we
		

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			think about wellness in our body.
		

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			But it is a wholesome approach to wellness.
		

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			Wellness in our soul, wellness in our mental
		

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			health, and wellness in our physical health.
		

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			And so the Prophet ﷺ says for the
		

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			second time, صَلِ اللَّهَ الْعَفْوَ وَالْعَافِيَ Ask Allah
		

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			subhanahu wa ta'ala for forgiveness, for pardon
		

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			and for wellness.
		

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			And then the Prophet ﷺ says, فَإِذَا أُعْطِيتَ
		

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			الْعَافِيَ If Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala gives
		

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			you that wellness فِي الدُّنْيَا وَالْآخِرَةِ in this
		

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			world and the next, then you have been
		

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			successful.
		

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			And so when we think about wellness, we
		

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			think about an individual who can worship Allah
		

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			subhanahu wa ta'ala better.
		

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			Is it not Rasulullah ﷺ who teaches us
		

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			in his sunnah, that when we have this
		

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			urge to go to the toilet, to answer
		

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			the call of nature, whether it's number one
		

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			or number two, Prophet ﷺ tells us, don't
		

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			enter salah in that state.
		

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			If you want to use the toilet, and
		

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			no knafjah, and you're trying to finish the
		

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			salah in time, to not take wudu for
		

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			a second time, the sunnah of Rasulullah ﷺ
		

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			teaches us not to do that.
		

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			Rather, use the toilet, take a fresh wudu
		

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			and then pray.
		

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			Similarly, when food is placed on the table,
		

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			and it's now the time for salah, the
		

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			Prophet ﷺ teaches us that we complete the
		

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			meal, eat the food, and then pray.
		

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			Can you imagine going into salah, and there
		

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			was now a whole spread on the table,
		

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			your favorite dish, whether it is seafood, or
		

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			whether it is braai, whatever you like, and
		

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			all you think about is that braai.
		

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			The Prophet ﷺ understands that we have our
		

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			natural inclination, we have that lassis that we
		

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			have.
		

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			So basically, we get that out of the
		

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			way, and then we focus on worship of
		

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			Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala.
		

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			If that is something as simple as using
		

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			the toilet, as eating your meal, what about
		

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			an individual who has anxiety, or a person
		

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			who has depression?
		

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			And so, Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala offers
		

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			us the solution to all these illnesses along
		

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			obviously with professional help.
		

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			When Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala says, وَنُنَزِّلُ
		

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			مِنَ الْقُرْآنِ مَا هُوَ شِفَاءٌ وَرَحْمَةٌ لِلْمُؤْمِنِينَ And
		

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			we reveal of the Qur'an, that which
		

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			is a healing and a mercy to the
		

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			believers.
		

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			There is this term that people use often
		

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			now, رُقِيَة شَرْعِيَة, to recite surah al-Fatihah,
		

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			مُعُوِّذَتَيْنِ كُلَّ عَوْذُ بِرَبِّ الْفَلَكِ كُلَّ عَوْذُ بِرَبِّ
		

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			النَّاسِ And very often this is attached to
		

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			illnesses of the unseen nature.
		

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			Person who is possessed by a jinn, and
		

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			then people recite Qur'an, and recite over
		

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			water, and give it to this individual, which
		

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			is perfectly in line with the sunnah of
		

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			the Prophet ﷺ.
		

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			But this recital of the Qur'an, is
		

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			not only for this type of issues.
		

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			We find in Sahih al-Bukhari and amazingly,
		

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			this hadith was the very reason that a
		

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			very close friend of mine accepted Islam.
		

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			The hadith where the chief of a tribe
		

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			is bitten by a scorpion, and the sahaba
		

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			they're traveling, and one of them they recite
		

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			surah al-Fatihah, gather his spittle, and then
		

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			applies the spittle to the wound of the
		

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			chief, and he is cured.
		

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			And this is a physical ailment.
		

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			So the Qur'an, and reciting Qur'an
		

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			over water, and shifa through Qur'an is
		

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			not restricted only to issues of the unseen
		

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			nature.
		

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			When Allah SWT sent down this Qur'an
		

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			to Rasulullah ﷺ, and sent it down to
		

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			us, Allah SWT says, مَا أَنزَلْنَا عَلَيْكَ الْقُرْآنَ
		

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			لِتَشْقَى We have not revealed this Qur'an
		

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			to you to cause you distress.
		

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			The Prophet ﷺ, imagine the Prophet ﷺ in
		

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			a community, where only good is known about
		

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			the Prophet ﷺ.
		

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			And then Jibreel comes to the Prophet ﷺ,
		

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			appears to him for the first time, and
		

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			can you imagine how we feel in Ramadan
		

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			when we are connected to the Qur'an?
		

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			Now imagine having this direct connection with Allah
		

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			SWT, Jibreel comes with Iqra, with that entire
		

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			surah.
		

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			And then Jibreel comes with, يَا أَيُّهَا الْمُزَمِّلِ
		

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			And Jibreel comes with, يَا أَيُّهَا الْمُدَّثِّرِ And
		

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			then everything stops.
		

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			And so the Prophet ﷺ obviously went out,
		

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			spread the Qur'an that was brought him,
		

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			and then the Qur'an stops coming to
		

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			the Prophet ﷺ.
		

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			Some commentators say for up to six months,
		

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			there is no revelation coming to the Prophet
		

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			ﷺ.
		

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			And people like the wife of his uncle
		

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			comes to him, and she says to the
		

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			Prophet ﷺ, your Lord has left you, your
		

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			Lord hates you.
		

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			And when you start hearing something enough, you
		

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			start to believe it.
		

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			Now the Prophet ﷺ obviously, and once a
		

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			person came to me and said, how could
		

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			you say the Prophet ﷺ is a human?
		

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			What makes the Prophet ﷺ so great, is
		

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			that he was a human, but he reached
		

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			levels higher than the malaika.
		

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			The malaika don't deal with depression and anxiety.
		

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			The malaika don't deal with sadness.
		

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			The malaika don't deal with loss of loved
		

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			ones.
		

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			But our Prophet ﷺ dealt with all that.
		

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			He lost six children in his lifetime.
		

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			They died one after the other.
		

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			And yet the Prophet ﷺ was resilient, and
		

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			he came back and he continued his da
		

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			'wah.
		

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			This was the Prophet ﷺ.
		

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			And so the Prophet ﷺ feels sad.
		

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			And the Prophet ﷺ feels alone.
		

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			And Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala reveals to
		

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			the Prophet the surah Wadduha.
		

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			And it's a surah that when we are
		

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			sad, then we should read it and reflect
		

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			upon the meanings.
		

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			Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala tells the Prophet
		

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			ﷺ, Wadduha, by the morning sunrise.
		

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			In every language, Fajr means a new dawn,
		

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			a new beginning.
		

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			And Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala takes a
		

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			qasam, and Allah is allowed to take a
		

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			qasam by anything He wishes.
		

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			Throughout the Quran, Wadduha, Wal Asr, Wal Fajr,
		

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			Wal Teen.
		

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			We are restricted to taking a qasam by
		

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			Allah.
		

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			And one of the names and attributes of
		

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			Allah.
		

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			As for Allah, He takes a qasam by
		

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			whatever He sees fit.
		

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			Amazingly Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala starts the
		

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			surah by making a qasam by the morning
		

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			light and the night.
		

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			Two opposites, total darkness and this new light.
		

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			And so after sadness and anxiety, always remember
		

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			that there is always light at the end
		

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			of the tunnel.
		

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			So there is a contrast between the darkness
		

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			of the night and the light of the
		

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			new day.
		

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			Others say that Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala
		

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			mentions the night to the Prophet ﷺ, because
		

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			the night is something totally special to Rasulullah
		

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			ﷺ.
		

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			That before even the five daily prayers, as
		

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			we know it was gifted to the Prophet
		

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			ﷺ, he was ordered with, قُمِ اللَّيْلَ إِلَّا
		

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			قَلِيلَ, stand up during the night.
		

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			And when the Prophet ﷺ had these sad
		

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			moments, he had these moments with Allah subhanahu
		

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			wa ta'ala.
		

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			And so when we do feel the sadness,
		

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			know that there is light at the end
		

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			of the tunnel.
		

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			مَا وَدَّعَكَ رَبُّكَ وَمَا قَلَىٰ Your Lord has
		

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			neither forsaken you, nor does your Lord hate
		

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			you.
		

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			Because when people tell you something enough, you
		

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			stupid, you stupid, you stupid, you start thinking.
		

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			We had a domestic and I probably shared
		

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			this story, because I shared a lot.
		

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			This girl, she speaks excellent English, she is
		

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			from Zimbabwe.
		

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			So we asked her, why don't you study
		

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			something else?
		

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			She says, no, I was very stupid in
		

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			school.
		

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			Very, very stupid in school.
		

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			And she had this constant headaches, so we
		

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			watched her movements, and she would sweep here
		

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			perfectly clean, and on the other side it
		

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			would be totally dirty.
		

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			Then I told my wife, I think we
		

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			should take her for an eye test.
		

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			Maybe there is something wrong with her eyes.
		

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			I wear spectacles my whole life.
		

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			So I am at now minus six from
		

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			grade three, so it just got weaker and
		

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			weaker.
		

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			When we took this girl for an eye
		

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			test, her one eye was minus twelve.
		

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			So she was like totally blind.
		

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			So her problem since primary school was she
		

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			couldn't see on the board.
		

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			All the people told her was, you stupid,
		

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			you stupid, and she started to believe it.
		

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			So when people tell you all on your
		

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			own, when the people told the Prophet ﷺ,
		

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			your Lord has left you, the Prophet ﷺ
		

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			never doubted.
		

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			But you hear something enough, it has that
		

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			effect.
		

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			So Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala tells the
		

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			Prophet, مَا وَدَّأْكَ رَبُّكَ وَمَا قَلَبْ Your Lord
		

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			has not left you, and neither does He
		

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			hate you.
		

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			And similarly any believer who has the slightest
		

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			connection with Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala, your
		

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			Lord has not left you, and your Lord
		

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			does not hate you.
		

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			وَلَلْآخِرَةُ خَيْرٌ لَكَ مِنَ الْأُولَىٰ Allah subhanahu wa
		

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			ta'ala tells the Prophet ﷺ, that which
		

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			is coming is better than that which has
		

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			passed.
		

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			And if we don't see it in this
		

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			life, then definitely the Akhirah is better for
		

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			you.
		

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			The strife and the hardship and the sadness
		

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			and the anxiety of this world is minuscule
		

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			compared to the Akhirah.
		

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			In fact when you are dipped into Jannah,
		

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			you have that first breath of fresh air
		

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			of Jannah, you will totally forget the hardships
		

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			of this dunya.
		

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			In fact the last man that leaves Jahannam,
		

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			in a lengthy hadith the Prophet ﷺ says,
		

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			the last man to leave Jahannam, of the
		

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			believers to enter Paradise, he just leaves the
		

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			walls of Jahannam.
		

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			The sparks are still hitting him on the
		

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			behind, and he's just leaving.
		

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			And he gets that first breath of fresh
		

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			air outside of Jahannam, he says, Allah has
		

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			given me what nobody else has gotten.
		

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			Jannah is already full, everybody has taken their
		

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			places in Jannah.
		

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			He is the last to enter Jannah, just
		

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			with that exiting of Jahannam.
		

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			He says to Allah, You have given me
		

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			what nobody else has gotten.
		

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			So the Akhirah is better than that which
		

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			has passed.
		

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			وَلَسَوْفَ يُعْطِيكَ رَبُّكَ فَتَرْضَى And verily Allah will
		

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			give you, and you will be pleased.
		

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			And what you are given is not always
		

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			what you want.
		

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			Because you might want a star, and Allah
		

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			subhanahu wa ta'ala wants to give you
		

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			the moon.
		

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			So believe in the Qadr of Allah, in
		

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			the pre-ordainment of Allah.
		

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			Umar ibn Khattab radiallahu ta'ala Anhu, used
		

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			to say, I wake up in the morning,
		

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			and I don't know what's good for me.
		

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			Whatever Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala has decreed
		

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			for me, that's good for me.
		

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			It could be that there was this business
		

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			venture, that you so much wanted to go
		

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			into, and it didn't work out for you.
		

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			Somebody else went into that business venture, and
		

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			it didn't last long.
		

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			It could be a restaurant, a car wash,
		

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			whatever.
		

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			Or there was a sister that you wanted
		

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			to marry, and you were prepared to give
		

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			up everything, and move the world, and drink
		

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			the ocean with a straw, for that sister.
		

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			And at dinner work out, and she married
		

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			somebody else, and the outsiders look on to
		

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			that marriage, and think, yaa, I missed the
		

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			bullet.
		

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			I dodged the bullet, walillahilhamd.
		

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			And so I have this approach of Umar
		

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			ibn Khattab, I don't know what's good for
		

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			me.
		

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			All I know is that Allah subhanahu wa
		

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			ta'ala is in charge of my affairs.
		

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			وَلَسَوْفَ يُعْطِيكَ رَبُّكَ فَتَرَضَهُ Then Allah subhanahu wa
		

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			ta'ala, reminds the Prophet salallahu alayhi wa
		

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			sallam, أَلَمْ يَجِدَكَ يَتِيمًا فَآوَى Have I not
		

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			found you an orphan, and gave you refuge?
		

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			At every level in the life of the
		

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			Prophet salallahu alayhi wa sallam, he is orphaned
		

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			by the death of his father, even before
		

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			he is born, and his mother is there.
		

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			His mother passes away, and his grandfather is
		

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			there.
		

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			His grandfather passes away, and his uncle is
		

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			there.
		

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			He gets married and his wife is his
		

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			support.
		

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			And all along, higher than that human support
		

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			is Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala.
		

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			وَوَجَدَكَ ظَالًا فَهَدَى And we have found you
		

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			unaware of the nitty gritties of Sharia.
		

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			There was a point in the life of
		

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			the Prophet salallahu alayhi wa sallam, he knew
		

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			that idol worship, this is wrong.
		

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			But he didn't know the nitty gritties of
		

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			Sharia, before he became a Nabi.
		

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			He was unaware of how to pray, and
		

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			the nitty gritties of Sharia.
		

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			So Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala says, Have
		

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			we not found you in that state?
		

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			And then guided you.
		

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			وَوَجَدَكَ عَائِلًا فَأَغْنَى And we found you poor,
		

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			and we enriched you.
		

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			Some scholars say through Khadija radiallahu ta'ala
		

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			anha, who supported the Prophet salallahu alayhi wa
		

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			sallam, financially throughout his da'wah.
		

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			فَأَمَّا الْيَتِيمَ فَلَا تَقْهَرُ وَأَمَّا السَّائِلَ فَلَا تَنْهَرُ
		

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			وَأَمَّا بِنِعْمَةِ رَبِّكَ فَحَدِّثُ No matter what level
		

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			of anxiety, or depression you are at, always
		

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			try and help others.
		

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			You know when you spend on yourself, you
		

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			buy a nice thawb, or a nice perfume,
		

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			it helps for a while.
		

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			But when you spend on others, and you
		

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			see that this person made a change in
		

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			his life.
		

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			You know when we look at NGOs, they
		

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			speak about the recipient becoming the donor.
		

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			You don't want to generation after generation, give
		

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			out food parcels, and the same people from
		

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			the same family come, and the fitrah list
		

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			stays the same.
		

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			You hope that when you help someone, that
		

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			person can then in turn help someone else,
		

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			and the whole entire community transforms.
		

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			This is what Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala
		

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			is teaching us here, as part of this
		

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			means, and ways, and tips to help us
		

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			in our moments of depression and anxiety, that
		

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			no matter what level you are at, try
		

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			and help someone.
		

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			Because there is always someone in a worse
		

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			situation than you.
		

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			I lost my father in the end of
		

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			July, one day I was walking in the
		

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			mall, and a person that I haven't seen
		

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			since high school, a very close friend, we
		

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			were close in high school, I ran into
		

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			him, and he told me, what's wrong?
		

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			I said, no, I lost my father, it's
		

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			probably just one of those bad days now.
		

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			So he told me, yeah, I heard, I
		

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			lost my mommy and my daddy.
		

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			I said, okay.
		

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			And he said, yeah, I'm on dialysis, I
		

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			lost my job, I'm thinking.
		

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			And so I said, yeah, no, I spend
		

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			my time, I was still with my son,
		

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			I waited 17 years for him.
		

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			He says, yeah, I also have a lot,
		

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			Allah gave me a lot, he's down syndrome.
		

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			I'm thinking, yeah, and this man has a
		

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			smile on his face, and I'm feeling gloomy,
		

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			and I'm thinking, how much do we have
		

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			to be grateful to Allah subhanahu wa ta
		

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			'ala for?
		

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			And so, when we do have these moments,
		

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			read Surah Al-Duha, look at the life
		

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			of the Prophet ﷺ, and look at what
		

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			the Qur'an has to offer of a
		

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			cure.