Muhammad West – Islamic Feminism Unveiled
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The speaker discusses the loss of the last sermon of Islam and the need to protect women, as well as the use of "we" in Islam and the importance of educating oneself and others. They also touch on the history of feminism and the importance of men and women in the political and moral environments. The sharia laws and punishment are also discussed, along with the importance of finding true professionalism and happiness in life.
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We'll praise and worship you unto Allah subhanahu
wa ta'ala.
We testify that none has the right of
worship besides Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala. And we
send our love, our greetings and salutations to
our beloved Nabi Muhammad salallahu alaihi wa sallam
to his pious and his pure family, to
his companions, and all those who follow his
sun until the end of time. May Allah
subhanahu wa ta'ala bless the Ummah of Muhammad
Sallallahu Wa Salam. May Allah guide us and
protect us and grant us success in this
dunya and the
Alhamdulillah.
Alhamdulillah, we always enjoy a public holiday.
But these are not just days
of taking off and relaxing from work.
These days are selected
because they have significance.
And today, of course, is the we commemorate
women's day.
And,
subhanAllah,
something for us to know.
The final advice of Rasulullah salallahu alaihi wasalam,
his last and final
sermon.
He was so ill,
couldn't give a long
And the Sahaba this could have been a
few a day before he passed away, salallahu
alaihi wa sallam. Monday, this Nabi sun passed
away, fajr after fajr on a Monday. This
must have been Sunday afternoon, Sunday evening.
And then Nabeesun came out and the Sahaba
were holding him and he sat on the
mimbar
and his last advice was
Look after your salah, look after your salah,
and look after the people that you are
responsible for. Meaning, first and foremost, your women
and your children.
Then Rabbi Surah Al Amin is saying, O
Ummah and especially the men,
look after your salah
and look after your women.
After I'm gone, these are the if I
have to give you last two bits of
advice, take care of your salah and take
care of your women and children.
And that was the final advice that Nabi
al Salam gave his Sahaba.
This the the position of of of women
has always been one of vulnerability.
It is for this reason that Islam
has institutionalized
something which no other religion has. It is
called the Wali
the lady.
The Wali is a person
whose duty, whose responsibility,
whose amana it is before Allah that he
will protect her, honor her dignity,
her rights, her happiness.
Anything that happens to a female against her
rights, anything that goes wrong in her life
that that should have been should have been
protected from harm,
Allah will Allah will hold her wali accountable
whether that wali is her father, her brother,
her husband.
And that is why many of us when
we got married,
her father
her father father spoke first,
and her father is basically saying to the
husband, young man, I've taken care of my
daughter for 20, 30 years, whatever it is.
I've seen to her. I fed her. I
cared for her. I protected her. If anyone
wants to do harm her, I was her
protector.
Now you coming and you're saying you like
to marry her. Are you prepared to take
this Amana before me and before Allah first
and then as her father? And the husband
says, yes. One of the reasons is kabil
too is I accept this Amana.
And it's therefore the roles all When Allah
says in the Quran,
that men, your job, your duty, one of
your job that makes you a man.
You know, everyone wants to be the top
g. Everybody wants to be the alpha male.
Allah says if you want to be a
man, you make of your
women.
You establish
You maintain, you love, you protect, you persevere,
you look after it, you prioritize it. Allah
uses the same word. You make kawama of
your nisa, of your women. Nisa here means
wife, daughter, mother, all the women in our
in our lives. Because this is a group,
a segment of our community that will always
be vulnerable.
In Surah Nisa,
again, the Quran has an entire chapter devoted
to women. You'll find in the it's a
chapter filled with with what? Orphans, inheritance, widows.
This is a chapter about the people who
are the most vulnerable in society and the
guidance
subhanAllah, we see before our eyes perhaps in
live,
live, live, the bombing, the killing of women
and children, the mass genocide. Those who speak
out the most about women's rights turn a
blind eye when on a whole scale industrial
level, women and children are killed, bombed, raped,
Allah protect us.
Islam is always accused of being oppressive to
women, and it's sad that we have encountered
this last 50, 60, 100 years where it
appears that if you ask anyone that is
illiterate, uneducated,
what is the position of women in Islam?
And they were, oh, women are second class.
They are oppressed, they are abused. This couldn't
be further from the truth. And we just
need to look back at history
to see the reality.
Pre Islam, we said before Islam, before the
Quran, what was she like in Arabia?
What is the situation if you if we
rewinded time, 1,500 before
Rasulullah Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam, what was it like
to live as a woman in her community?
She was seen as something subhuman. She was
a property to be bought, inherited,
sold, and even killed. The same way when
a man if a man slaughters his
camel, no one
asks why slaughtering this camel? It's my property.
I can do what I want. So too,
Wayyad Abila,
the people of
Arabia, the people who would eventually become the
Sahaba, they would kill their own daughters, bury
them alive.
No society
this is something
we can't even understand this, that she completely
belonged to her father or her husband and
he could even kill her. She didn't have
the right to life in the society. And
that's why Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala says in
the Quran about this.
When they are given the news that they
have a woman, that they Allah has given
them a daughter,
his face became completely grief strucken. His complexion
changed,
and he was filled with grief.
When a man is told your wife gave
gave birth to a daughter, he became so
upset, so angry. Now Allah says, look at
what goes through his
mind. He hid himself for a few days
from his people.
Because of how angry he was at his
wife and this look at his view is
this daughter is such a.
I have been given such a curse
because of what he has been given. And
now he considers,
do I keep this girl in disgrace, in
contempt?
Or should I cast her into the sand?
Meaning, should I bury her alive?
This is what was happening before Islam.
This is what was the situation,
the norm. This wasn't a few crazy people.
This was the standard of the of the
society.
Allah says, what an evil
choice went in their minds. Allah says in
the Quran.
Allah says, when he will call the small
baby girl, for what crime have you done
that your own dad killed you on?
What did you do that was so bad
that your own people killed you?
Meaning also I will I will make them
testify
against all those who have oppressed. If they
don't get their testimony in the dunya, Allah
will give them their testimony in the akhirah.
Allah says,
look at again to the to the Arabs.
Allah has to say,
this is in Suran Isaa,
meaning about 15 years after Islam has been
established.
These are now believers. Allah is saying to
them, oh oh oh believers, oh, umminoon,
now we need to move forward. It is
haram.
Forward. It is haram now for you to
inherit women. Can you imagine when you die,
think about this, dads, you die, I'm not
protecting you for long life. When you die,
your brothers,
your nephews
will come and collect your daughters and your
wives wives as property.
They will say, that one I like, that
one I don't like, that one I don't
like, sell her. Can you imagine that? This
is what was happening in Arabia. And so
when Islam came, this was
revolutionary
that you can't buy her, sell her. You
can't harm her. You can't marry her without
her permission. You can't. She owns property, Subhanahu,
and I will own property. We'll talk about
when women could own property in the Western
world.
So Islam without a doubt,
was When we talk about feminism today, that
term is such a a people get very
nervous. What does feminism mean? If we if
we use the term, a movement to enshrine
and protect the rights of women, then perhaps
there was no greater single force on Earth
than Islam that was feministic in its view.
To give women their right which Allah had
given.
Taking them from not having the right to
life.
When the Rabi sun passes away, Aisha is
leading an army.
Aisha is leading an army, SubhanAllah.
Look at the the change.
Look at how society changes within 20, 30
years.
Now one might say, well, that's you Muslims.
You took a while to evolve. The rest
of the world was already there. We say
no.
Look at your religious scriptures. If you go
to the Judo Christian
scriptures,
what was the position, the Maqam, of ladies
within these religions?
In the Old Testament, it says
look at this. This is in imagine this
was in the Quran.
Imagine this was in the Quran. This is
not in the some obscure
this is in the Bible. You can open
it today. You can open the Bible today.
It says this, if a man happens to
meet a virgin woman who is pledged to
be married, so she's an engaged woman, she's
a virgin and she's meant to be married,
then this man who finds her, he rapes
her,
and this is now discovered.
Now the * must pay the father
of the girl 50 silver shekels
and he must marry this young woman for
he has violated her, and he can never
divorce her as long as he lives. Why?
The concept here is she's property.
You took my car, you stole it, you
damaged it, now you must pay for it.
What about the girl? She must marry her
*. That's not a consideration. Imagine this was
in the Quran.
How would we have been black, you know,
bash liffra? This is in the bible, SubhanAllah.
It says,
when the lady is in hide now also
within
the the Sharia of of Judaism, like in
Islam, we have the concept of Ta'ara and
wudu and hussal.
And some people have taken this issue of
a woman being najas and dirty and all
these two levels which is not what from
Islam. SubhanAllah, one of the saddest things we
see when a when a maid dies. And
we must educate ourselves. A maid dies, the
mother, the father, the daughters want to come
and greet and kiss their dad goodbye. They
say, no. No. If you have your haed
ladies, you can't come here because the angels
run angels run out when you have hate.
This goes against even the Sharia. This goes
against what Rasoolullah taught. Once Aisha radhiallahu was
in bed with
and then she got up and she moved
one side. And he said, where are you
going? So she said, no. You Rasool Allah,
I have my hide now so I need
to distance. So he said, no. No. No.
Come closer. And he wrapped up in one
blanket and he was reciting Quran. There's nothing
nothing wrong. Hide is not something for us
to, like, be disgusted.
As one alim, you know, he jokes he
says, if it was really true that the
woman in the hide, she causes the angels
to flee, surround yourself by hide women because
Malekim cannot reach you then. Subhanallah.
But now let's look at this from a
from what what is a lay in hide
in the let's look at this from a
from what what does a lady in hide
in the bible says. Now look at this
level of
I don't know. Tahara what what you call
it. They said, when a lady is in
the hide, anything she lies on during her
menses will be unclean, so the entire bed
becomes nudges. And anything she sits on, all
the chairs become nudges, will become unclean. Anyone
who touches that bed now will also become
nudges. And you must wash their clothes and
bathe in water, and they will remain Najis
even for the next day. Your najas is
still with you. SubhanAllah. Where is this from?
It's not from Allah
This is in as we said in the
bible as it is now. You find this
is the old testament. One might say, well,
that's the rabbinical law. We didn't put the
the quotes here. But even in the new
testament, you find within Christianity,
for example,
Christians had a huge huge huge baggage with
regards to Eve because the entire religion is
on the concept of original sin. That mankind
committed sin by eating from the tree and
because of that we inherited a sin. No
matter how much toba istikfar you make, that
sin can't be removed. You are all going
to Jahannam. The only way to save yourself
is Jesus must have died. God Himself
had to crucify himself and that saved you.
Now the whole world is cursed
because of Eve
because of Eve.
And so you find the baggage that a
woman is the doorway to evil. She is
the doorway to temptation. She is the temptress.
She is the one that condemned and doomed
all of mankind and you have this baggage
within Christianity.
Up until
a few 100 years ago, 15th century, that's
a few 100 years ago, they had a
fatwa committee of all the priests coming together
in Europe to discuss. Does the lady really
have a ruh? Does she have a soul?
Is she really insan? Is she a
person?
Subhanallah.
This
is religion. This is theology. This is belief.
And one might say, well, okay. Religion is
a bit for those who say, well, that's
why religion is the problem. So it's just
not just religion. This is the view
of humanity from from all of history. Allah,
we can say until Islam, all of humanity
was on this trajectory. In every society,
basically, a woman was treated as subhuman, less
than property,
abused and used.
And even today, modern society is no different.
So
in the encyclopedia of Britannica, it talks about
law.
It says
that in Roman law and I'm not even
talking religion anymore. And maybe we'll say that
religious guys are a bit crazy. But let's
talk about the liberal laws.
In Roman law, a woman was, from historical
times,
completely dependent and basically subservient to a man.
When she got married,
she was
she and her property, not only her property,
she and her property
became
subdued or subject to her husband.
The wife was the purchased property of her
husband. This is the law in Europe.
The wife is the purchased property of the
husband and like a slave acquired for his
benefit. A woman could not exercise any civil
or public office. A woman couldn't have any
public job. She could not own any property.
She could not make a contract.
Women, you couldn't make any contracts. You couldn't
go and buy and sell things. You you
know, you were just, property. And this continued
until basically, until a 120 years ago. This
was the law across the world up until
about a 120 years ago.
And it is for this reason
women decided well, enough is enough.
There are certain programs which we shouldn't watch
but if you watch and it talks about
Victorian things, you would see that a woman
when she gets
married, she then pays a dowry to the
man and that her property belongs to him.
That if the husband dies,
the inheritance goes to the son not even
to the wife.
And if the wife if the son kicks
his mother out, no problem, she does nothing
anymore. This is Victorian
102 100 years ago.
And it's for this reason that eventually,
as women became more educated, they started to
rise up. And this is where the feminist
movement started. What would the European feminist movement?
We say our feminist movement started 1500 years
ago. Rasool Allah started it and completed it
in 23 years. He had taken all the
oppression and he had leveled the playing fields
and given them the rights which Allah had
given harass. We we done. Europe is only
trying to do what we did 1,500 years
ago. And so they went through phases and
waves.
The first wave of feminism, this happened about
a 100 100 odd years ago. This was
now for ladies to get the right for
what? To own property.
So she can have her property in her
name. Her dad dies, he gives her property
in the past. Said you you can't own
your own property, your husband must own your
property. She must have the right to to,
to make a contract. She must have the
right to divorce her husband. She must have
the right to to to have an inheritance.
All these things, alhamdulillah, in the Quran 1500
years ago. So that was the first wave
and in many ways as Muslims, we can
say, alhamdulillah,
we have an issue with that.
Then the second wave of feminism happened around
the seventies.
And this is where things kind of maybe
to some degree got out of hand where
it said women want to have their own
roles in society. She doesn't if she doesn't
want to be a mom, she doesn't know.
She shouldn't be a mom. If she doesn't
wanna get married, she shouldn't get married. And
she should have the same freedoms like men.
So men, as you sleep around and you
have girlfriends and you have many many partners,
we also want that. We also want the
freedom to expose ourselves and as we, you
know, live a promiscuous life.
Islam says hold on, men you don't have
that right neither do women.
And yes, it is because of the double
standards you found in our society. When a
guy has many girlfriends, he's a superhero.
When a girl has multiple sexual partners, she's
a a x y z.
Right? So the society said, well, this can't
be right. This can't be fair. So instead
of telling the men, you are wrong, of
course,
men can never be wrong. Allah says, oh
men, when he talks about in Surah Anur
about * and and hijab and zina, Allah
start with the ladies. Allah says, oh men,
you first look down. You lower your guys
first. And then sisters, you dress appropriately. Allah
first looks at the men. You, the rules
are the same. The punishment for zina is
the same. It doesn't look are the same.
The punishment for zina is the same.
He doesn't look at the gender. The crime
is the crime. And this shows you the
beauty of Islam. There's no hypocrisy in it.
Chastity Chastity is not the role of the
lady. It is the role of men and
women. And so this is the second wave
of feminism and then they went through a
third wave where it was more, well, you've
given women the rights to own things and
she now can choose what she wants to
be and how she wants to live her
life and no one can tell me who
to sleep with. I can sleep with whom
I want, but that's not the real power.
I want to have positions of power and
authority.
I would like to be a judge. I
would like to and really in Islam, again,
there is no position
within Islam that I know of that a
woman is barred from. There's no job which
the description is only for a man except
1 or 2 positions,
the Khalifa of the Muslim Ummah.
The Khalifa of the Muslim Ummah, that has
to be a man, and the imam that
leads the salah in a mixed jamah. We
have men and women, the imam must be
a man. Other than that, the chairman of
the Masjid can be a lady. The Qari,
the judge can be a lady.
The mufti, the person who gives the fatwa
can be a lady. No one said that
it's the the the greatest alim. It can
be a man or a woman. So we
have no issue that gender should prevent you
from a specific role.
Now,
we can go into details
about other faiths and our faith. As I
said from an Islamic perspective, ladies,
Wallahi,
the fact that we don't know
how liberated
and how safe you are within the deen
of Islam
tells us we don't know our history and
we don't know Islam.
The most important
the important
question you must ask in any faith, Am
I a second class citizen in the eyes
of the Lord, in the eyes of Allah?
When I stand on the day of Qiyamah,
will the men have a VIP pass and
and ladies have it more difficult? In many
religions,
men have a superiority
in the sight of Allah, in the sight
of God. Islam makes it very
clear.
In fact, one of the wives
of the Nabi salam asked, whenever we hear
about the Quran, it addresses men. Does this
the the reward is only for the men?
And Allah immediately Allah didn't let the nabeel
almi respond. Allah responded. Allah says, when I
reveal when I reveal the Quran,
whoever of you does good, whether you are
male or female and you are a believer,
we will give you a very very happy
life. Allah says, in the dunya, I will
give you a happy life.
And I will give you the greatest reward.
Allah specifically mentions
male or female.
And Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala wants to make
it known that on kiyama, there will be
women that will get the highest places in
Jannah, and there will be men in the
highest places in Jannah, and there will be
men and women in the lowest depths of
Jahannam Allah protect us. Allah does not look
at your gender, your color, your position, He
looks at your heart.
Spiritually also, and I and maybe we we
take this for granted because we don't study
theology in-depth,
but I as I mentioned, this issue of
Adam and Hawa and who invented sin is
a big big deal in Christianity.
It is their Akida.
Do we blame Eve
or anyone for for the fall of mankind?
No. In fact,
Allah
never mentions who ate first. Allah never ever
says,
Hawa ate first and then Adam.
Allah always says the 2 of them ate,
and the 2 of them committed sin, and
the 2 of them were cast out of
Jannah, and the 2 of them were forgiven.
Always the 2. There is one ayah. Interesting
surah. Allah says
that that the 2 of them ate from
the street.
And they *, the nakedness became apparent, and
they began to cover themselves with Jannah, the
the the the the leaves of Jannah. So
what does Allah say now at the end
of the
And Adam disobeyed his lord.
Adam disobeyed his lord. If anything if anything,
Allah puts more of the blame on Nabi
Adam.
Allah puts more of the blame on Nabi
Adam. Not that it matters because we said
Allah forgave the 2 of them. It's not
an issue. We don't take this as a
Allah taught them the concept of sin and
forgiveness. That is we take this whole story
and Christians blew this out into our spiritual
theology. Allah just simply showed.
We then show in the Sharia, and some
of these rights are mind boggling.
As we said, Islam came, the rabbis went
into a society where women didn't even have
the right to love. If you killed your
daughter, no one asked you a question. It
was your right to kill her. Islam says,
you can't guys. You can't kill your daughters.
You can't kill your children.
It then gave her the right to choose
her religion.
This is for everybody.
Allah protect.
We cannot force anyone into Islam. If someone
wants to leave,
Allah has given you that freedom. We talk
about human
human rights. She has equal standing of men
in court. When there is a court case,
a man and a woman
husband's permission. If a woman if you inherited
a house is hers? She doesn't need a
husband's permission. If a woman if you inherited
a house from your dad and you want
to sell that property and buy shoes with
it, you don't have to ask your husband
his permission.
At all, it's hers.
It's your property.
From being owned to being owned to allowed
to be owned property. The right to choose
your spouse.
We know from a very clear hadith, a
woman was forced into marriage. She complains to
the Nabi she says, you Rasool Allah, my
father forced his husband upon me. So he
said, if you want, I can cancel this
marriage. She said, no. No. No. He chose
well. I'm very happy. He's a good guy,
but I just wanted to know if I
have the choice. And then Rabbi says, yes,
you have the choice.
She has the right to divorce her husband.
We have
made it some more difficult for a lady
to get divorced because we wanna protect society
and the children. Of course, there's a reason,
the hikmah. But you find in the hadith,
a lady comes to Rabi Salam, she says,
you Rasoolullah, I have no complaints around,
of my husband. My husband is a good
guy. He makes salah, but I'm I'm unhappy
in this marriage.
I want to leave him. The Nabi says,
He gave you a huge dowry, sister. He
gave
you a property. Even today, ladies don't get
property for the dowries. He gave you property.
She says, I'll give him his dowry back.
And so the Nabi didn't even ask.
The Nabi didn't ask the husband. But he
consoled. He said, she doesn't want you. Take
your dowry and let her go.
So simple to exit because you are a
person the Hanafi mother and I don't want
to make controversy here. The Hanafi mother had
even
right to the contract because she's a free
person to contract. Like I get a job,
you don't ask your dad, can I employ
this girl of yours? It's her. She's a
human. She can make contracts herself. This is
the the standing in Islam. The default is
a woman can enter into a contract with
herself and a property without permission.
She has the right to set her terms
of a marriage, her dowry, how much I
must get my nafakah.
She has the right to pay maintenance. She
has the right to have her sexual needs
fulfilled. Subhan If you come to the MJC
and you and the Imam asks you, why
do you wanna get divorced? He's not pleasing
me in the bed. That is grounds for
divorce. Why? Because that he's owed to you
in your in your marriage.
She has the right to end her marriage.
Of course, the right of inheritance Allah enshrined
in the Quran by giving them the number
of the for the women.
Allah didn't say how many rakas is in
Maghribu Fajr but Allah said for a lady
she must get so much, and the daughter
must get so much, and the wife must
get so much. Why we even fight this
subhanAllah today? It's ajeeb.
The right that she must get a dowry.
In fact, even if the wife says, I
don't want a dowry. I love him so
much. All is that nikah is not fully
valid, he must pay you a dowry. You
must get a signing on bonus for getting
married. That the law in the Sharia.
She has the right to be educated.
SubhanAllah.
We all know this martial artist member. Every
khateep on earth,
wherever, they make jumuah, they stand up on
3 steps and they give khutbah. How did
this come? How did this Bil'ah start in
the in the in in Islam?
We know that when is when the Nabi
sallallahu was giving Khutba,
he had a tree in Madinah,
a palm tree, and he stood against that
tree. And eventually, the ladies and the ladies
was a pot there was no curtain. It
was just a segregation.
Ladies in the back, men in the front.
As the Masjid got bigger and more Muslims
joined, the ladies got pushed further and further
to the back, and the auntie in the
back says, You Rasulullah, sallallahu sallam, I come
to the Masjid, but you're there in the
front. I can't see you, I can't hear
you. Can I have a member built for
you?
I have I have a family member who's
a carpenter. We can build you a little
platform. And the Nabi says, great. Fantastic. And
the member is built. And then the Nabi
says,
Fantastic. And the mimbar is built. And then
the Nabi says, the first day he gave
Jumwa. May mention the scene. This new mimbar
is here and he ascends the mimbar 3
steps. And just as he's about to give
Khutbah,
and the ladies are in the back, we
hear a strange sound in the Masjid.
Now what is this weird noise? And he
comes down from the mimbar and it's the
tree that is crying. It's a hadith, buhari,
authentic. The whole Masjid heard this tree making
a noise and the first documented
in history, the Nabi Subhugged the tree, the
first tree hugger in history. He hugs the
tree and he says, it's okay. I didn't
go away. I'm just
here. Don't worry, I'm still here. I'm still
on the Mimbar.
The fact is
it is precourse for the ladies to see
the Imam and to hear and to participate
that we have a member. Every Masjid on
earth, it was there to accommodate the sisters.
SubhanAllah!
How she's not allowed to enter the Masjid,
not allowed to be educated SubhanAllah till today
till today. You find our brothers from the
subcontinent
when the Imam gives classes
not even the Imam himself he has a
ladies class, a lady They will say, Sheikh,
a lady is not supposed to learn how
to learn to learn to recite Quran, how
to make salah.
It is the responsibility and the Haqq of
every person to learn the deen. And so
education becomes,
in Islam, it becomes universal and that is
why
the first university on earth was established by
Our Lady Fatima Fihri.
100.
The first woman to enter Cambridge
was 1,800.
A 1000 years after a woman establishes a
university in Islam, a woman is allowed to
study a degree in Cambridge or Oxford.
When it comes to punishment, we give equal
punishment in the Sharia. A woman doesn't get
it worse than a man.
That she has and there are certain laws
in her favor. There are some things in
the Quran, not even a hadith or some
madhab, there are some things in the Quran
that, sisters, you don't take you don't take
your full rights. The Quran says that when
she breastfeeds, she must be paid a salary.
Sorry, guys.
That is Quran. Who of us here practices
this? This is not this is not hadith,
madhab. This is in the Quran. Allah says
for 2 years when she weans your children,
you must pay her for that.
You must pay her for that, SubhanAllah.
And of course, on on top of all
of this, Allah gives her a wali that
must enforce these rights. If any of these
rights are infringed, she must get a a
man who Allah is gonna hold like, where
were you? When she was being beaten up
and all of that. So really our Sharia
is free of what it says. The oppression
does not occur within our text, in our
hadith, in our Quran,
in our madahib. It doesn't happen at our
religious, you know, our we can obviously do
more. Where the oppression happens, and if ever
our women in our ummah are being oppressed,
it is by the men. It's by us.
We are the problem.
That is why Nabi said,
I've left you
on perfect guidance.
It is up to you now, oh men
of my
Ummah, or husbands and fathers and brothers and
sons to take care of the woman folk
in your society.
As I said, his last advice, take care
of your salah and take care of your
women. That's his last last advice to his
ummah. That's his last advice to his ummah.
And for us as men, subhanAllah,
there'll be someone us when the Sahaba you
know, there's this hadith about she is made
from the crooked rib. You know this hadith?
The men complain about the ladies,
Surah Allah, they so and like that. And
men and women always going to be attention
and the hadith is narrated like this, she's
made from a crooked rib and so don't
try to straighten her, you'll break her. I
mean, crooked sounds shady, shifty, dodgy. She's a
bitchy, not so
what he's saying, look at the hadith. The
Nabi sun is saying that your wives are
made curvy.
Literally, she's made with a curve like a
rib.
And it is in her nature, she's only
acting within her nature. When she gets emotional,
when she gets that's part of her nature.
And if you try to change that, you'll
get no benefit out of her. For her
sisters,
feminism is for you to celebrate what it
means to be a woman.
Don't try to be like a man. In
fact, the Quran says,
The man, you are not like the lady.
Meaning, you can never be like them and
they can never be like you. And
the beauty of this sharia
is that the lady must act like a
lady and the man must act like a
man. And the man should not impose his
will and his views on her and she
should not do the same on a man.
And that's why if you want the full
benefit of your wife, you want to really
enjoy her, let her be a lady.
And sisters, if you want to have the
full benefit of your man, let your husband
act like a man.
And He says that the greatest joy Allah
can give you, the greatest pleasure Allah can
give a person in this dunya
It's not
money, it's not power.
You can be the king and you can
be miserable. The greatest treasure after iman, the
best thing is iman. The
you and you help her. This is the
greatest joy that Allah can give you. And
Allah says, therefore
and like we end off with this beautiful
ayah, the aya which we recite
at nikah, but it should be practiced all
the time. Allah grants us to practice. Allah
says
and of the evidences that there is in
Allah. Allah says he swears. How do you
know you exist, O Allah? Allah says you
wanna know how I exist?
I created
you. I gave you spouses.
That feeling that you have, anyone who's been
in a relationship,
a marriage where things are good, nothing on
earth can replicate that feeling. No holiday on
earth, no material property. The joy you feel
in a happy marriage, Allah says that is
an ayah. The love that you feel for
your wife and your husband. Nothing on earth
can replicate that. And the misery that anyone
has been through heartache, you lost your loved
one, you lost your
person, someone doesn't love you back, no doctor
on earth can fix that emptiness. Allah says
only I, that isn't the domain of Allah.
So that you can only find true tranquility
in each other.
The world we live in today, this is
for the sisters in particular, they tell you
give a 110%
for your career.
Give a 150%.
Yes. It's good to work and to be
financially
your
peace in a happy marriage
having your children and for the men as
well. Allah says to the men,
You can conquer the world but you'll be
miserable. Be happy at home and that's where
you'll find sakinah.
And Allah says that I am the one
that places deep love and affection in your
marriage. I am the one that creates that
happiness. There is nothing on earth like that.
No job, no enjoyment can replicate that. So
Allah says of His Ayah is that men
and women should live in peace and harmony.
Of the fact that there is an Allah,
this is how I want you to live.
And
Allah says, this is indeed a
sign for people who can't who who reflect
on Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala. May Allah grant
us to live up to the amana
of being protectors for our mothers, our daughters,
our wives. May Allah grant, for all those
who are oppressed throughout the world, may Allah
grant them liberation and freedom. May Allah grant
us to be the 4 1st and foremost
to stand for what is haqq and to
be unjust. And may Allah grant us to
uphold our salah and to protect our those
who are the weakest in our as the
Nabi's mayor had recommended. We make dua that,
2 of our shayur,
Sheikhan Abrams, the former president of MJC,
he's not doing too well. He had a
stroke. Allah grant him Shifa
and Sheikh Siraj Johar,
you know, the Bayoung Khastik Masjid, he's also
not doing he's very, very ill. We ask
Allah to grant him and all those who
are sick shifa. I mean,