Muhammad Vanker – 2018-05-22 – Pearls from the Quraan S01 Ep06

Respected viewers, we begin by praising Allah.

Peace, blessings, salutations upon our leader and mustnabe

Muhammad Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam. His honorable companions, his

household and those who follow him. I just

want to tie up the discussion from where

we left off last night. We're speaking about

the amazing institution of marriage. One aspect that

Allah subaraka wa ta'ala speaks about

is the aspect

of peace and reconciliation.

We find often in our marriages there's a

rift, there's a misunderstanding,

there's this misunderstanding,

rank, hatred for one another.

If a woman fears this inclination

from her husband

then there's no harm upon them that they

should try and amicably

resolve the disputes.

Wasul hukayr

and reconciliation

is the ideal situation.

If we cannot compromise

respected viewers, we will never be able to

reconcile.

If we cannot compromise,

we would never ever be able to reconcile.

So this is something which is so important

that let us learn to compromise.

It's not a matter of demanding my right

or, giving you your right. It's a matter

of creating that harmony within the home. One

person knocked the door of Umar

He had a certain problem that his wife

used to always back answer him. He knocked

on the on the door of Umar

and he heard that the wife of Omar

is back answering Omar. He thought to himself

that I rather walk away. If I tell

him of my problem, he would think I'm

referring to him. So Omar

opens the door, he said my brother you

knocked my door,

Perhaps you have a need. He said, I

knocked on your door. I've got a problem,

but I heard your wife back answering you.

I thought I'd rather walk away from you.

Umar Radiallahu Anhu called him and he said,

my brother, let me tell you a few

things. I know my wife is ill tempered,

but I overlook

the trivial wrong of my wife for the

many favors of hers upon me.

She cooks my food. She bakes my bread.

She takes care of my children. She does

so much for me. And he said, Umar

bin Khattab radiAllahu ta'ala anhu arda,

sitrum

bayni wa baynanar.

This wife of mine is a barrier between

me and the fire of Jahannam. Had it

not been because of this wife of mine,

Allah alone knows. I know by my very

nature I am so vulnerable.

Allah alone knows what I could have done.

So really it is that wife of ours

that those wives of ours, you know, has

protected us, who have protected our chastity.

Let us learn to respect them. Let us

learn to respect them. It's a two way

thing. It does not mean for one moment

that the husband only needs to respect the

wife. As wives, we need to respect our

husbands. What did my Nabi say? That woman

who obeys the husband,

she performs a 5 daily salah. She fasted

the blessed month of Ramadan.

Allah will grant her Jannah. We ask Allah

to grant us the and the ability that

we could reconcile

our differences

and we could make our marriages work. Till

we speak to you again tomorrow.