Muhammad Vanker – 2018-05-22 – Pearls from the Quraan S01 Ep06
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The segment discusses the importance of peace and reconciliation in marriage. It emphasizes the need to confront misunderstandings and strengthen relationships. The segment also highlights the importance of respecting husbands and the need to reconcile differences in marriage.
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Respected viewers, we begin by praising Allah.
Peace, blessings, salutations upon our leader and mustnabe
Muhammad Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam. His honorable companions, his
household and those who follow him. I just
want to tie up the discussion from where
we left off last night. We're speaking about
the amazing institution of marriage. One aspect that
Allah subaraka wa ta'ala speaks about
is the aspect
of peace and reconciliation.
We find often in our marriages there's a
rift, there's a misunderstanding,
there's this misunderstanding,
rank, hatred for one another.
If a woman fears this inclination
from her husband
then there's no harm upon them that they
should try and amicably
resolve the disputes.
Wasul hukayr
and reconciliation
is the ideal situation.
If we cannot compromise
respected viewers, we will never be able to
reconcile.
If we cannot compromise,
we would never ever be able to reconcile.
So this is something which is so important
that let us learn to compromise.
It's not a matter of demanding my right
or, giving you your right. It's a matter
of creating that harmony within the home. One
person knocked the door of Umar
He had a certain problem that his wife
used to always back answer him. He knocked
on the on the door of Umar
and he heard that the wife of Omar
is back answering Omar. He thought to himself
that I rather walk away. If I tell
him of my problem, he would think I'm
referring to him. So Omar
opens the door, he said my brother you
knocked my door,
Perhaps you have a need. He said, I
knocked on your door. I've got a problem,
but I heard your wife back answering you.
I thought I'd rather walk away from you.
Umar Radiallahu Anhu called him and he said,
my brother, let me tell you a few
things. I know my wife is ill tempered,
but I overlook
the trivial wrong of my wife for the
many favors of hers upon me.
She cooks my food. She bakes my bread.
She takes care of my children. She does
so much for me. And he said, Umar
bin Khattab radiAllahu ta'ala anhu arda,
sitrum
bayni wa baynanar.
This wife of mine is a barrier between
me and the fire of Jahannam. Had it
not been because of this wife of mine,
Allah alone knows. I know by my very
nature I am so vulnerable.
Allah alone knows what I could have done.
So really it is that wife of ours
that those wives of ours, you know, has
protected us, who have protected our chastity.
Let us learn to respect them. Let us
learn to respect them. It's a two way
thing. It does not mean for one moment
that the husband only needs to respect the
wife. As wives, we need to respect our
husbands. What did my Nabi say? That woman
who obeys the husband,
she performs a 5 daily salah. She fasted
the blessed month of Ramadan.
Allah will grant her Jannah. We ask Allah
to grant us the and the ability that
we could reconcile
our differences
and we could make our marriages work. Till
we speak to you again tomorrow.