Muhammad ibn Adam al-Kawthari – In Pursuit of Happiness

Muhammad ibn Adam al-Kawthari
Share Page

AI: Summary ©

The speakers discuss the importance of define happiness in Arabic, which is not internal or external. They stress the need for pursuing happiness and maintaining connections. The speakers also emphasize the importance of avoiding conflict and avoiding conflict in order to achieve one's goals. The concept of "has been love" is discussed, with some participants suggesting that it is normal for humans to have a certain amount of productivity. The importance of practice and avoiding conflict is also emphasized.

AI: Summary ©

00:00:02 --> 00:00:04
			swindler, Rahim.
		
00:00:07 --> 00:00:08
			hamdulillah
		
00:00:10 --> 00:00:11
			people who want to study
		
00:00:12 --> 00:00:19
			when I was a wee lad, he taught me shallowly and fusina, Dr. Medina, Mayor de la hufa mobile data.
		
00:00:22 --> 00:00:22
			Why should we?
		
00:00:26 --> 00:00:29
			Why should openness either now or have you been outspoken
		
00:00:33 --> 00:00:33
			about
		
00:00:37 --> 00:00:38
			it, you know, what have you
		
00:00:45 --> 00:00:45
			found
		
00:00:46 --> 00:00:47
			10 hours in
		
00:00:55 --> 00:00:56
			the bar arena,
		
00:00:58 --> 00:00:59
			he never went back.
		
00:01:01 --> 00:01:05
			Especially brothers and sisters and respect issue said I want to
		
00:01:08 --> 00:01:09
			first of all,
		
00:01:11 --> 00:01:12
			Praise to Allah subhanaw taala
		
00:01:13 --> 00:01:15
			that has blessed us
		
00:01:16 --> 00:01:20
			and gave us an opportunity to attend this suspicious gathering.
		
00:01:22 --> 00:01:25
			I personally am honored and privileged to be here with you today.
		
00:01:26 --> 00:01:28
			In the presence of great shoe on
		
00:01:29 --> 00:01:34
			whom you've benefited from handling an inquiry or loss handle data.
		
00:01:35 --> 00:01:46
			Continuously take the benefits from them, and give them And grant them more and more total faith and
ability in working for the dean and for the spreading of Islamic law.
		
00:01:48 --> 00:01:52
			The title of today's event in pursuit of happiness.
		
00:01:54 --> 00:01:57
			I was talking about this title a couple of my students just
		
00:01:58 --> 00:02:21
			two days ago, or a few days ago, and one of them said, that's actually a film in pursuit of
happiness. I said, Well, I wasn't aware of that film. So I asked him, I said, what what is the film
about? Will Smith trying to achieve happiness and in this world and the common stock trader and get
into the stock market and something like that anyway.
		
00:02:22 --> 00:02:31
			Now, you see happiness, the pursuit of happiness, every one of us, every individual in this world,
the way the loss handled, Allah has created us.
		
00:02:32 --> 00:03:03
			Every one of us we are searching for happiness, we are looking for happiness, we are looking for
bliss, and peace and tranquility. And that's natural. And that's normal for a human being. Every
human Muslim, non Muslim, a believer or non believer, a Christian, a Jew, and Hindu, a Sikh, every
individual as a human being, is looking for and is searching for that happiness, the tranquility and
that peace that they can find in this life.
		
00:03:06 --> 00:03:31
			So the pursuit of happiness is something that we all have within ourselves. It's something that we
all have within ourselves, but from an Islamic point of view, we need to first define what is
happiness and what I'm going to do inshallah, in the next few minutes that I have in front of us, is
that I want to define happiness, what is happiness, and then inshallah look at four or five or six
steps,
		
00:03:32 --> 00:03:54
			and four or five different things that I think inshallah will bring that happiness which I have
defined. So first of all, we need to really define what happiness is what what is happiness in
Arabic, you have a few terms, describing the word happiness, but two terms, which I thought I'll
just share with you, one term is fun in Arabic,
		
00:03:56 --> 00:04:09
			and furnish the one who's who's you know, happy for. Allah talks about Allah uses this term in the
Quran as well. And in some of the Hadith of the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam this
term is used.
		
00:04:10 --> 00:04:37
			And another term for happiness in Arabic is soooooo. Now we have we have these two terms. And Farah
was too far in Arabic is referring to that happiness which is temporary, which is external. And this
is the reason why if you look in the Quran, whenever this term is used to describe happiness, it is
used in a negative manner.
		
00:04:39 --> 00:04:41
			Like losses letterfrack in Allahu Allah.
		
00:04:43 --> 00:04:59
			Allah does not like those who are happy. In other words, those who just go for the external
temporary bliss and happiness. Whereas if you look at the word Sook, the word suru which means
internal everlasting happiness. And that's the story
		
00:05:00 --> 00:05:22
			And the real contentment and happiness that Islam encourages. And the word Zulu because it's
internal. It's and it's everlasting. If you know Arabic, you know the word soon it has the word seen
around. The same root word is used for another term in Arabic, which is sip. And sip means a secret.
sale in Arabic means a secret.
		
00:05:23 --> 00:05:33
			Why soon? And so what's the connection? What's the relationship? series secret, Sulu is a secret
happiness is internal, it's inside, it's everlasting. it's to do with the heart.
		
00:05:35 --> 00:05:35
			So
		
00:05:37 --> 00:05:45
			like the some of the automa, said, another, the one who's happy and contented in this life will be
you'll see another clue he was so rural,
		
00:05:46 --> 00:05:48
			you'll see a kind of
		
00:05:49 --> 00:05:51
			glow on the face externally,
		
00:05:52 --> 00:06:38
			to indicate that this person is internally happy, he is sociable, so he is someone who possesses the
internal hidden, everlasting happiness. So islamically, the temporary and external happiness is not
something we should be pursuing. In fact, the happiness that Islam advocates and encourages, is the
happiness of the heart, the contentment of the heart, the peace of the heart. And this is the reason
why we read in the Quran, Allah says, Allah, we literally learned the inner loop, with the
remembrance of Allah do hearts find that peace, that tranquility, and that, that happiness, it's,
it's, it's a condition, a state of the heart. Happiness is not with external means. It's not in
		
00:06:38 --> 00:07:19
			materialistic things of the world, it's connected to the heart. It's a fear. Unlike some of the
illnesses, that happiness is a thought it's a thought, in a light Island. It's a gift. It's a gift
given by Allah subhanho wa, taala as a neuroma as a bounty. It's It's a unique gift that Allah
bestows upon some of his individuals, some of his some of the human beings and some of his slaves
and servants of the last panel to Allah and it's a gift given it's not happiness is not in
materialistic things. It's not in in wealth, it's not in money, it's not in cars, it's funny
properties. It's not in external means it's not even externally, it's not even even a person who's
		
00:07:19 --> 00:07:59
			not physically that well and healthy. But if that person is happy in the heart, then a person who is
disabled will be happy than a person who's walking freely, if he's not content, it's something to do
with the heart. And this is why we need to really realize define, first and foremost, and realize
and understand what happiness really means. We find sometimes a lot of times these are fine people,
they have all these of happiness in front of them as mobile, right? That means that you've you've
probably come across a lot of people like that I myself have, where you find individuals that you
think this person, you know, how can he be in any kind of distress, he has everything. Sometimes you
		
00:07:59 --> 00:08:40
			see individuals, they have everything that you would want in your life, yet you go into the you
know, eternal part of the life that depressed now people would riches of the, you know, all type of
niches and all the materialist, materialistic things at the disposal in this world, yet you go
internally look into and search into their life. This people know that they have the best of cars
and the best of luxuries and the best of properties, and the great wealth, amount of love that they
have. You know, they have a great house and a great bed to sleep on. Yet when they sleep at night,
they can't sleep, they need to take medicines, and even medicines don't work, you know, they need to
		
00:08:40 --> 00:08:57
			be on medication to just get that sleep. And there are millionaires. And there's a person who's
probably a homeless person, right? And the way he's sleeping on the road there for eight hours you
snoring and you kick him when he's still not waking up. It's just a bit of food and earliest content
is happiness knowing away and is relaxed next morning, we're hungry.
		
00:08:59 --> 00:09:05
			He's feeling more content. I'm not saying we should all become homeless, by the way, but I'm just
I'm just trying to paint a picture or two here.
		
00:09:06 --> 00:09:45
			You find a person who was just a normal Hindi individual is or is just called a normal job with a
normal salary. And he was a live in the city of London, where nothing matters to people except sheer
market and stock markets and trading. And that said, not everybody but many people within the city
of London, and it's just the materialistic life in front of you where you have time for nothing.
Like one one of my teachers, one of my chefs, shacked up with money was once mentioning that his he,
I think was related from his father that he met his father had some one of his friends and
associates was a multimillionaire, yet and he had a business Corporation. He had four sons. One son
		
00:09:45 --> 00:09:59
			was in Bangkok, one in Singapore, one in another country and the fourth in another country and he
himself was the head of the business sitting in Karachi Pakistan and and these are four brothers in
different parts of the world and major corporation business
		
00:10:00 --> 00:10:41
			So the share has been that you know, you missionary for a lot of wealth many you have sons doing
business, you know When's the last time you let your sons always been so many years we don't have
time like 2030 years, too busy people haven't had time to meet the chef. So tonight, what what what
benefit is involved when that does not even enable you to meet your son, and you know, 20 years
you're away and distance from your, from your children. wealth in solve is not happiness, we need to
realize that. You know, there's two separate things here, brothers and sisters, there's two things
you need to remember we have a suburb of Soho was bah, bah, whatever you want to call a suburb, the
		
00:10:41 --> 00:11:13
			means to happiness, and you have happiness itself. two separate things, two different things totally
different altogether. You can have the means of happiness, but not happiness. And you can have
happiness, but not the means of happiness. These are two separate things as well raha does not bring
means of happiness do not bring contentment, they do. They do not bring peace. Money cannot buy use
of that phrase all the time, wealth and money can't buy that inner peace, which is in the heart. So
we need to realize that real real
		
00:11:14 --> 00:11:34
			contentment and happiness is not in worldly materialistic items or objects. real peace, what is real
peace? What is real happiness? What does Islam say? What does the Quran and Sunnah say about
happiness? What is that real eternal Sulu, that we all should pursue? What is that
		
00:11:35 --> 00:11:39
			some of the scholars might have talked about this and cannot or to worry about.
		
00:11:40 --> 00:12:09
			Islam, really, the real and true happiness is an honor to work and this is based on the Messenger of
Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam two words used, you can mention these two things separately, or
you could put them together. The real this is the Islamic definition. This is an Islamic definition
of happiness, of peace, of raw of contentment, what does it look like not to worry about
		
00:12:10 --> 00:12:33
			being content an hour means content being content with what with that which Allah subhana wa tada
has given you are basically the definition of financial means is that a person individual in his
life in her life does whatever he or she can do in terms of acquiring money involved and making the
life a bit comfortable.
		
00:12:34 --> 00:12:38
			Whatever means they are at one's disposal. One takes the means,
		
00:12:40 --> 00:13:22
			uses the lawful legal means healthier ways to acquire wealth for whatever the person wants to
acquire in his life. Right? Use the uses the permissive of Holloway's and also with moderation,
doesn't go to extremes, to the point that he's neglecting everything else in life doesn't go too
extreme way laham Allahu Allah, a teacher, that the person has no, you know, nothing on his head.
There are some people who just engrossed in materialistic life, they have no time for their own
selves, let alone anyone else, their family, children, not even their own selves, they have no time.
Everything they see, even when they sleep on it and look at the stars, they see the stars trading
		
00:13:22 --> 00:13:23
			with one another.
		
00:13:24 --> 00:13:59
			They just a business, they eat money, they drink money, you know, they say eat football, drink
football. This is money, you know, eat money, drink money, sleep money, they dream about this. And I
mean, there are people who do you know, seriously, they, you know, when they dream, they actually
trading this, this brother once came to me. And he said, I had this dream of creating a dream where
he was actually basically he was going to have a big business. And in the dream, he was just about
to go ahead with this business transaction in transaction with someone where he was going to lose a
lot of his money. And he was so he did the transaction. And then he realized he realized that you
		
00:13:59 --> 00:14:08
			know what, something's going wrong here. The guys deceived me. So he became so distressed that he
woke up in the middle of the night. And he said, Oh, lucky. Fortunately, I'm just sleeping. It's
just in my bed.
		
00:14:09 --> 00:14:52
			But he happens to people. That's it. That's the only aim objective and goal of life. Love, nothing
else. worldly materialistic things, historically, that the definition so I will say Ghana, which is
contentment, you can translate it with one word, contentment being content, but the description or
the or the detail explanation of this world is that it is to take the permissible means in this
world of acquiring wealth and acquiring the beautiful things of this world. The permissible ways and
in moderation. Number two permissible ways lawful, legal ways islamically compliant waste methods,
and number two,
		
00:14:54 --> 00:15:00
			would you suggest number two, in moderation, so not going into extreme. You don't neglect your
Islam. You don't
		
00:15:00 --> 00:15:31
			neglect your the rule book on rights of other people. If you're in gross, then you will start
neglecting Islam, you will do your business in any way shape or form, there'll be no moral ethics,
because for you, nothing matters except money. So whether you deceive someone or this food or
whatever, it doesn't matter, your objective is to get to a certain level. So in moderation, and
number three, the third part, the third component of this word, honor, is then to be happy with that
which Allah has decreed for you. This is a corner to worry about.
		
00:15:33 --> 00:15:50
			to take the meat, do whatever is best for you in moderation. And then whatever is allowed giving you
whatever was blessed you with whatever Allah subhanaw taala has granted you, you are content, you're
happy, you're content with that, and this is the meaning of canara we live.
		
00:15:54 --> 00:15:58
			In this world, real happiness is only in corner.
		
00:16:00 --> 00:16:37
			Because you see worldly pleasures, worldly pleasures never end. They never end brothers, sisters,
they never end. One one pleasure one desire leads to another desire, the next desire, you lead to
another design, a person has a certain type of job or salary. And then when he gets to that level,
then he's looking at other people who wants to get to another level and then to the third level and
the fourth level, you just carry on and carry on carry on. There's no empty heart, there is no end
to the desires of a human being. Like one of the poets of the Arabic language which cannot be used.
He said, woman had the Minghella Liberata woman, woman
		
00:16:38 --> 00:17:08
			in Arabi. And nobody in this world has come and has completed or fulfilled all of his desires. And
every time a person fulfilled his desire, that desire led to another desire, it's just a never
ending road. It just carries on carries on, like the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam,
the famous double party announcement, where he said that, you know, located even Adam, what do you
mean, if Adam the son of Adam, normally, by the way,
		
00:17:10 --> 00:17:13
			all of us at once there's a brother
		
00:17:14 --> 00:17:16
			named Mohammed even had
		
00:17:22 --> 00:17:22
			said to
		
00:17:23 --> 00:17:24
			me,
		
00:17:25 --> 00:17:28
			tours, my real father is Adam, and then
		
00:17:29 --> 00:17:30
			this heavy
		
00:17:31 --> 00:18:17
			in Adam, the son of Adam had one Valley full of gold, he would want a second one. And if he had to
that he would love the author, anything, he would want a third body of gold, it just carries on,
which means not just three, if you had three one for you, if you had four, then you won't find
another messenger sallallahu Sallam said, when a young Little Joe for Colombian electron, nothing
will fill the stomach of the cell of them, except, except dust and soil and sand which means death,
you just carry on and carry on carry on until you die. So therefore, this is this is the definition
of happiness, contentment, being content with what Allah has given you. Being content with the
		
00:18:17 --> 00:18:31
			Divine Decree of God, quarter of the loss of Halloween and seriously the day we inculcate in
ourselves that quality of our corner and around the corner, we will be the happiest people in this
world.
		
00:18:32 --> 00:18:58
			And those who are at our level they know for their own selves because you're not looking at
everybody your content you know you're not depressed you're not sad you're not always thinking you
know, people get depressed because of this I recently there was a sister who came and she was
depressed. And the reason of her depression was that she's always looking at her cousin sister
relative this system, my sister she's doing this she's doing now children, I need to do this because
she's been
		
00:18:59 --> 00:19:28
			and it leads to depression and a lot of distress. Leave people to their friends you think about your
own affairs and loves creating everyone separately and differently. So this is the meaning of real
happiness and this is actually in the believer the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam you know
the messenger sort of love and he said inside your body so you're gonna be lovely relates this idea
that the messenger sort of love our listeners said, Lisa Lavina uncastrated our unique heavies,
john, with comprehensive statements will be the messengers of
		
00:19:29 --> 00:19:48
			God within Lisa lovely Lavina unencapsulated era when I came to Lena Lena knifes, the real richness
you see the word of Lena, Lena, some people translate as, you know, richness or being wealthy. It's
not really the real translation of the word Elinor, as scholars will tell you as well. Is
		
00:19:50 --> 00:20:00
			honey is a person who who feels independent, he doesn't feel any need. He doesn't spread his arms to
other people. He has control
		
00:20:00 --> 00:20:16
			He is content and he, he is not in need of anyone he does not feel the need to spread his arms to
other people, he is happy with what he or she possesses. This is the word Vina mustard and honey,
the person who has his qualities and attributes. So the message isn't alone already. This is a
		
00:20:18 --> 00:20:28
			laser arena and calculating out the real richness of the real that states that quality is not by
having a lot of objects and items and materialistic things in the love. What are
		
00:20:29 --> 00:21:09
			the real and true richness is the richness of the heart, you can have a lot of money, a lot of work,
but you're still thinking, you know, you're still in need of other people. You're not rich, but you
can have less in this world, you can have less, but you feel contempt. And you don't feel the need
to ask other people, you're looking at other people, then this is the real richness. And this is the
real happiness and contentment of the heart. Whatever I received, it's enough for whatever I
whatever love granted me in this world, and I am happy, I'm content with it, and not in need of
anybody. So this is the meaning and definition of happiness. And as I said that the desires do not
		
00:21:09 --> 00:21:47
			end in this world. Because you see, there's only two things, every human being the desires do not
end right the desires we have in this world. And we can only take two paths, there's only two paths
we can take. Either, either what we do is after one desire, next desire, and we search for the third
desire, and we go in pursuit of our next desire and the next desire and the next all our life, our
distressed because we're always trying to get something when we're distressed, we're depressed when
we're sad. And we're looking at other people and we're always Okay, this person got this job. So I
need to get to that level he's got this degree is called that I need to then move down to 500,000
		
00:21:47 --> 00:22:31
			pounds properties, or we need to look at them look at them. And so you just keep you're always in
this state of distress. That's one route to take, because nobody, even the richest person in the
world, or even the most pious of individuals islamically the greatest shape the greatest earning the
greatest scholar, the greatest muhaddith nobody. To the point of prophets, nobody's worldly desires
were fulfilled. This is the nature of this world was created world in such a way we have three
worlds dunya, Jenna and Johanna Johanna is eternal, just punishment, non good gender, it's just
breast and no bank and no sadness, no sorrow, and this dunya is better generally, when it's in the
		
00:22:31 --> 00:22:48
			middle. It's combination of good and bad, nobody, no human beings desires have you met anybody who
will come and tell you, that's it, I've got everything that I wanted, from Valve point of view, from
a health point of view, from family point of view, someone's got a lot of walls, they've got
problems or
		
00:22:49 --> 00:23:30
			someone's got good family settings, simple life don't have luxuries, somebody's got health, so it
doesn't have you know, some other lungs, somebody's got to know how this is the vaccine division and
distribution of a loss of handbook There are so nobody so these are the only two steps we can take
one step is you keep on being in distress and the other step that we can take is what be content
hamdulillah what I was given, that's it, we are content with the Divine Decree of Decree of a law,
we are content we are we are we are happy with the color and color of the last panel data and that
brings contentment and that brings happiness and that is the real happiness. So, this is the
		
00:23:30 --> 00:23:33
			definition this is the real definition.
		
00:23:34 --> 00:24:17
			So, we understood the definition. Now time is short, I shall quickly mentioned a few things to get
to achieve. Now the question is that how do we achieve that real real happiness how do we achieve
that ever lasting internal suru of the heart, the eternal the peace, the tranquility of the heart
and of the inner state? What is what is the way what is the method? Okay, there are certain few
things like from the from the Quran and Sunnah that I wanted to share with you briefly. Number one,
is a hadith. This is based on a Hadith of the messenger salallahu alayhi wa sallam, how to achieve
that eternal happiness. This is a this is the probably the most important this is what I mentioned.
		
00:24:17 --> 00:24:50
			This is number one, a golden principle a unique and unique prescription prescribed to us by our
beloved messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, where he says that make sure that in worldly
matters, whether it's wealth, whether it's health, whatever it is, look at the people who are below
you. There's a hadith in the psyche of among Muslims and you don't have to relate unless you're sort
of on your own burrow in a man who is fundamental. What I tend to do in a man who
		
00:24:51 --> 00:24:54
			for what he does, for HBO and
		
00:24:55 --> 00:24:56
			Netflix a lot.
		
00:24:58 --> 00:24:59
			Look at the people
		
00:25:00 --> 00:25:14
			Who are below you do not look at the people who are above you. And this will as a result, be a
millions of you not be ungrateful. On the gifts of Allah subhanho wa Taala.
		
00:25:16 --> 00:25:22
			This is a unique principle really, we need to we need to bring this into our lives. Look at the
people look at the
		
00:25:23 --> 00:25:37
			amazing Hades. Look at the people below, you don't have people above you. If you look at the people
above, you, you live in a rented house, you're looking at people who have their own properties. If
you look at people who are known properties, you live in 150,000.
		
00:25:39 --> 00:26:15
			houses, maybe they start from a few 100,000, but you're looking at somewhere 500,000. If you're
looking at 500,000, then if you live in that kind of property, then you're looking at this is going
to cause you distress, because you're always looking, this is one of the major problems we have as
human beings who are always in worldly matches, looking at people above us, it causes us distress,
it causes us problems. The habito the messenger so lover, it was sort of you saying, Look, don't
look at the people above you. Because if you're going to look above you people above you, then
you'll always be distressed, you'll be thinking okay, he's got this, she has this, why can't I have
		
00:26:15 --> 00:26:28
			it, this will create the distress in your heart, and that it will create greed, health, and then
maybe it might result in jealousy. And then maybe that jealousy will result in our
		
00:26:29 --> 00:26:38
			enmity, jealousy, tenancy. Property Management, ww enmity, and it's just an in your relationship
with others will become
		
00:26:39 --> 00:27:01
			sour as well. And then what will happen is just you're going to be in a stressful situation,
mentally and physically as well. So don't look at people above you, under the messengers of Allah
Islam. He said, look at the people below you. If you live in a rented house, then think there are
people in this world who don't even know they're homeless people sleeping on the road.
		
00:27:03 --> 00:27:19
			There are homeless people, if you can, if you come in, here we are, he'll be able to walk think of
the people who don't even have legs. There are hundreds and 1000s of people in hospital right now,
who don't have arms who don't have legs don't have none of the narrow and the boundaries of Allah
Subhana. Allah has blessed us with.
		
00:27:21 --> 00:27:22
			Look, think about the poor people.
		
00:27:24 --> 00:27:31
			Think about all those people who are in the prisons right now. Who can't, you know, even meet their
own family members on a regular statement on a regular
		
00:27:33 --> 00:27:54
			regularly. Think of the people in hospitals, people in prisons, people in war torn areas, think
about them. This is what their messenger sallallahu wasallam is telling us look at the people below
you if you do that, you will never be thankful. If you look at the people below you, you will be
thankful to Allah subhanaw taala you know the quality of sugar, gratitude.
		
00:27:55 --> 00:27:58
			And that will create this contentment in your heart.
		
00:28:01 --> 00:28:14
			We are able to see with our eyes think of the people who are blind can't even see because we will
never have a look. It's enough for us to be happy forever. Just imagine you know we're looking
around on this beautiful lecture theatre.
		
00:28:15 --> 00:28:31
			eyes Just imagine for a moment, such a unique now, we don't realize it until you know, God forbid,
but people don't realize it until they lose it as the next is that the value of the site to those
people who don't have the snapper.
		
00:28:32 --> 00:28:40
			Those who don't have this normal ask them what they would do or what they were, they would give in
order to just get the site back. They don't want nothing. They don't want a house. They don't want
nothing.
		
00:28:41 --> 00:28:45
			They don't want nothing and well that's it. You know, nothing will sleep on the road.
		
00:28:46 --> 00:28:52
			I'm willing to give up my property, everything but just the site comes back. That's it. So we see
beautiful colors in front of us.
		
00:28:53 --> 00:29:16
			Just every bit of contemplation that the vote that really helps. We should we should you know we
live in such a fast life. We don't we don't have time to think about these things. That's another
topic on its own, about thinking and reflection and the double. There's so many there are many of us
in the last 100 Tyler encourages us to think and reflect on a regular basis.
		
00:29:18 --> 00:29:57
			We'll see right from our fundamental you know, go traveling the world look, look at the mountains
for your own even even a 400 foot wide a symmetric a thoroughfare or even genetic cave and also get
out of the gate are so different. There's so much encouragement in the Quran, Allah tells us to
think that we need to take time off for this little bit so busy, our lives are so hectic. And this
is just no time for anything. We don't have time to even contemplate and reflect for a few minutes
on collagraph about meditation. Thinking about just Wolfie unfussy communicate, you also have a
fellowship so don't you look, just look at the name and the gift was given. So this is the
		
00:29:57 --> 00:29:59
			habibollah messages or loneliness and there's another Hadith which is similar
		
00:30:00 --> 00:30:04
			Now you notice that I've just said just from say from a Muslim,
		
00:30:06 --> 00:30:47
			the message is telling us don't intentionally look at the people above you look at the people below
you, okay? When you're intentionally thinking and looking and thinking about other people, but then
the question arises that we live in a place in a world where people around us have a lot of luxuries
and wealth and etc, etc. So it's, it's going to be obvious that even if we don't search out and seek
out these people, we'll see what we'll be driving on Edgware Road. And we suddenly see you know,
Lamborghini or Ferrari just whizzing past it will come to us we're not searching seeking out we see
we are seeing people when mentioned. So the answer to that is another heading again in the sight of
		
00:30:47 --> 00:30:47
			non Muslim
		
00:30:49 --> 00:31:04
			messengers or lava services is another 11 foot the reality family will help will help if you happen
to see someone you didn't intentionally deliberately on purpose go and look up in me see all those
people are just happy with this.
		
00:31:05 --> 00:31:34
			If you happen to look at someone who Allah has blessed and has given more than you in terms of
wealth and physical health for the manual for the younger, they let the person look at elemental
will ask for a minimum and then intentionally go straight to take it away. And go and think and look
at and think about those people go home and watch put some documentary on about you know, people
opened in Africa for example, straightaway go go and do that.
		
00:31:36 --> 00:31:56
			That for that has come in your mind when you've seen someone with wealth outside or some luxuries of
the world will instantly go and this is the messenger sort of love it. I mean, how much can you look
above this, you keep on going do you know that it never ends. The ladder never ends. Now I was in
America just recently
		
00:31:57 --> 00:31:59
			I went to California
		
00:32:00 --> 00:32:12
			last two three months ago, so the brother one of my friends you know they took me around just to see
la so we want to see that you know sign Hollywood from fire. So you want to go there So see if I
want to go there.
		
00:32:14 --> 00:32:46
			And then it took me to Beverly Hills is that this is the imagine people here and then he took me to
the mark the the he took me to the area where it's the most the richest area or the most expensive
items where he told me that we just drove past we didn't come out of the cars we said just quick
track of six hour five hour tour went through all of La because I only had one day extra event
conference and then it's just on the Monday before my flight so just take me around quickly. They
took me to this place because you know, one pair of socks cost $2,000
		
00:32:49 --> 00:33:07
			I was shocked, says suit costs $10,000 $20,000 and not just that, you know there are people
designers that just consultation fee you know that you just you have to book them in advance and you
say that Prince Charles booked them booked this main, you know,
		
00:33:08 --> 00:33:47
			one of these designers and he got like three months in advance. And he gave him time after three
months where he flew to LA and you know just the consultation fees is like $10,000 and which suit
will look good or not what occasion of what what kind of tie you should have come on this is this
how have you done a look? And you know what, seriously after we came out from that from the desert
hills area, just five minutes down we drove and as beggars on traffic lights five minutes now people
you know picking up empty coke cans and you know, I don't know going to sell them making money.
There's loads and loads of these Mexican
		
00:33:48 --> 00:33:55
			people who are living in a really poor areas just outside that area. Do you look them
		
00:33:56 --> 00:33:57
			in the middle? How do you
		
00:33:59 --> 00:34:12
			don't have that don't look that look that don't if you think that you're gonna be affected by all
these rich items that don't even go to those areas. Right and that's why we thought double before
going to
		
00:34:13 --> 00:34:30
			just madness $2,000 for a pair of socks. So anyway, this is a message of love and wisdom and that's
why you know there's a two out of the messengers of love is in which I think you should really love
the brothers should read and you should also brothers and sisters and you should memorize this in
Arabic If you can the message
		
00:34:31 --> 00:34:47
			about contentment he used to make a draft he's just a local mechanic any remodels over law make me
contented with that you have with that which you have given me blessed me with Allahumma for nearly
remodels.
		
00:34:48 --> 00:34:59
			Although I want to be content Give me that, that that quality of contentment, make me content on
that which you've given me one very clear fee and then give me Baraka and bless me as well.
		
00:35:00 --> 00:35:14
			Baraka means you're able to benefit from that which Allah has given you. And then the last part of
what Allah Coolio la EBIT in Leamington, hey, and Omar, everything that you have not given me,
compensate me in a better way.
		
00:35:16 --> 00:35:31
			What I was not destined for me, for me to get in this world health wise, health wise, then
compensate with something even better in the alpha. So anyway, that was the first first look, based
on the message low level it was in
		
00:35:32 --> 00:35:42
			achieving that real bliss and happiness, right, which is Toronto color people in the world. Yeah, in
terms of images of D, look at the people above you.
		
00:35:44 --> 00:35:45
			In matches of D.
		
00:35:47 --> 00:35:58
			I'm not sure if this is a hadith or not. Any of the scholars can maybe comment on this, but I have
heard it from somewhere, I'm not sure if it's it. But in religious matters, look at the people above
you.
		
00:35:59 --> 00:36:13
			That's what we need to do. But we do the opposite way around, look at the enrichment to the look on
the shoe. Look at Allah, aspire to be like them, we have great aroma here, look at them, listen to
them and try to be like them or what have this desire to be like them.
		
00:36:15 --> 00:36:39
			And inwardly matches, look at people below you. And this will only happen with a second step. The
second very important step to achieve that real shoe eternal, internal, eternal and internal
happiness is removed the level of dunya from the heart. It's a spiritual disease, love of dunya it's
a disease that we can talk about for hours and hours, but we don't have time. for
		
00:36:41 --> 00:37:10
			it, the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, the love of the world is a means or
it's a route for every, every single level of doing it, we really need to remove this near this
horrible dounia this heart that Allah has blessed us with and has given us this heart. Only. You can
know you can only have love have one thing in our heart, the love of dunya and the love of Allah His
Messenger cannot combine in one heart. Either you have love of Allah and His messenger or you have
		
00:37:11 --> 00:37:16
			we need to remove the love of dunya. That doesn't mean that says you know, we just, we don't work,
we don't do anything.
		
00:37:18 --> 00:37:20
			Going to Moscow day alone and just click
		
00:37:23 --> 00:37:27
			hamdulillah Allah subhanaw taala has blessed us with a beautiful religion, Darren Bernier.
		
00:37:31 --> 00:37:45
			There's no Marxism and there's no celibacy in Islam. It's a practical religion. It's not like some
other faiths where you have to, you have to relinquish all the worldly activities. It's not only
that Islam is
		
00:37:46 --> 00:37:52
			the job of business and trade, you get rewarded, attached to a local man who was in the opinion of
		
00:37:54 --> 00:37:54
			the messengers of Allah
		
00:37:55 --> 00:38:20
			tivity of the truthful, trustworthy tradesman will be with the righteous, pious, and the marches and
the profit on the Day of Judgment, but truthful and trustworthy, not follow the footsteps and during
deception of this, and that halloway so as long as it's not around the dunya live, we have to live
in this world, we need the world to live in. But don't have the love of the dunya
		
00:38:21 --> 00:38:38
			This is no it's very delicate, it's very difficult. You need to use the world, as well as not have
the level of the world. Great two examples given by some of the early scholars, many examples of
given but there's two examples that really strike me one is from
		
00:38:39 --> 00:38:47
			Rumi and one is from Emmanuel Tamia. example given by Rumi, the great Sufi, he gave a very beautiful
example of
		
00:38:48 --> 00:38:52
			the world. Beautiful, he said the world
		
00:38:53 --> 00:39:15
			is like you know, the water around the ship or you're in a boat. You need the water without without
the water your boat will not move the water you need water around you towards the right to the left
ahead of you behind you. But that water will be highly beneficial for you as long as it remains
outside.
		
00:39:16 --> 00:39:41
			The moment that water comes inside your boat, you drowned yourself. your boat will sink. dunia is
around your heart you use it yeah there's no near here near here on the left ahead of you behind
you. But do not let it come to the heart. And retaining Eric mobile he gave a very good example as
well as the junior the junior is he says like the the toilet, the washroom whatever you want to call
it.
		
00:39:42 --> 00:39:59
			You know when somebody buys a house of properties, a house a property without the toilet is
incomplete. Imagine you have a house you have the best living room and the dining room and the
bedroom and kitchen and the best you know design and the best carpets everything
		
00:40:00 --> 00:40:00
			But you don't have
		
00:40:02 --> 00:40:13
			that that house property is incomplete when you go and view a property, they'll take you upstairs
and take you here and then they'll take you to the washroom on the toilet. And I'll show you this is
a bathroom and this is how it is.
		
00:40:15 --> 00:40:24
			But does that mean we definitely need the toilet in the house? But when someone lives at home
delivery is 24 hours think about the toilet. So how's the toilet? Well, I know there
		
00:40:25 --> 00:40:27
			is a key every time do you keep
		
00:40:28 --> 00:40:33
			the vacuum. Your main objective even goal of life is not the toilet. It's just as any
		
00:40:35 --> 00:41:07
			human law says that this is the exact example for what an exact example of the world is there to use
as a when needed but do not be engrossed in the world remove the love of dunya from the heart. And
Allah says in the Quran, the look you guys, Allah says to us, you as human beings, individuals, you
are living in this world where it's a materialistic life, you can't think about spirituality, you're
a nurse in Nevada law, you walk around the corner. Do not let the worldly life deceive you with a
hora Nakula.
		
00:41:09 --> 00:41:36
			And the companions of the long run from the Sahaba they actually have this in their heart to rescue
sort of removes that level of dunya from their heart, they realize that it's just temporary. It's
just there as something just for basic need, but they have superior goals and objectives and aims in
life. Right. So this is something we need to do, make the dunia like some of the scholars say, make
the dunya your hobby and not your mom, do
		
00:41:37 --> 00:41:38
			you know what that means?
		
00:41:39 --> 00:41:43
			Make let the world serve you. You don't become the servant of the world.
		
00:41:45 --> 00:42:22
			Just reference the dunya The world is ready to serve us What do we need let it serve us. But when we
get engrossed into the world, we become the servant of lunia we're always thinking about many of the
How will I create wealth Where will I use it which bank holidays all the time, it's like we're
looking at the dounia it's it's called opposite week. So anyway, that was number two time is short,
that's one on move hastily number three, the third very important principle in achieving that
internal and internal bliss and happiness and contentment. This is a very important
		
00:42:24 --> 00:42:32
			cutoff for expect expectations from human beings. Do not expect anything from anyone in this world.
		
00:42:33 --> 00:43:08
			When we are good to other people, similar to Russia, when we do good things for other people. When
we maintain ties, we do it for the sake of Allah our intention should be correct you should only be
for the sake of Allah if I am being good to your being good to me it's only for the sake of Allah
abnormal to your motive behind if I have a you know, like in my family there's a wedding then I am
inviting people not because they invited me. You know, they invited us for their wedding or hotel
check that the moment you think people are going to take it bad that your intention is going wrong,
there's no reward. We don't do things for people because they will take it back or they will take it
		
00:43:08 --> 00:43:12
			good we do it for a loss unhandled error. Don't expect anything from anyone.
		
00:43:13 --> 00:43:43
			Don't expect to be rewarded or compensated when you do something good to someone if they didn't even
look at you and did not even say thanks for example it No problem. I can learn from a lot. But the
problem is we as human beings we expect we did something good to someone and this person didn't even
say thanks to you tell your friend. You know what I gave us such a beautiful gift. She didn't even
smile She didn't say no I said I did this for her I did this for him I did this. for him. I cooked
for her I baked cake. This is just not
		
00:43:46 --> 00:44:24
			showing no gratitude, no reward I do need to be thanked or rewarded or compensated in this world.
islamically you do it for a lot of lies going to compensate you for you do for the people cut off
all expectation. The moment you do not expect anything from anyone to be the happiest person in this
world. Because you don't think you will expect anything if someone doesn't do something for you.
Even in family, your brothers your parents know your your spouse, people don't do anything. You
weren't expecting me anyway. Okay, no problem. If someone does good to you, that's a bonus. When the
bank bonuses is like a bonus. So I wasn't expecting more. I mean, this is just unexpected. But if
		
00:44:24 --> 00:44:37
			someone is not good to you or doesn't pay you back or return your favor, and do not be despondent,
Do not be sad to not be distressful. Because of that don't be upset. And this is this is the real
meaning of maintaining ties is
		
00:44:38 --> 00:44:44
			the messenger for a lot, for instance, and Lisa was perfect. When our Kindle was 40. It was
		
00:44:45 --> 00:44:57
			the real maintain of ties. He's not the one who maintains ties as a return. That's not a real
maintain of ties. It's very easy. So it's good to hear. I'm good to them. That's normal. That's,
that's being human being.
		
00:44:58 --> 00:45:00
			You'd be an animal who wouldn't be
		
00:45:00 --> 00:45:22
			That's actually normal, someone's good to me, I'm good back in return. That's absolutely normal, the
real awasi the Messenger of Allah sallallahu Sallam say, the real maintain of Thai is the one and
let you know who tiara he was Allah. When everybody cuts off ties with him, or with her, they
maintain it. Someone doesn't torture yourself to do that.
		
00:45:24 --> 00:45:39
			Someone wants to break off ties, you're still your heart is still clean. That's the real silicone
Rahim that will be rewarded. So that's number three. quickly moving on number four, the fourth a
quick point that's just another four or five to three points, but they're just very brief and short.
Number four,
		
00:45:41 --> 00:45:42
			three, or four or five.
		
00:45:44 --> 00:45:45
			Gently will and number four,
		
00:45:46 --> 00:45:47
			number four.
		
00:45:48 --> 00:45:52
			And this may be related to number two. Remember death.
		
00:45:53 --> 00:45:56
			excessively. messengers sallallahu Sallam said,
		
00:45:57 --> 00:46:17
			a thorough Vicar has revealed that excessively remember the thing that breaks all pleasures of the
world. He says, something inevitable. No human being. No two human beings have ever different that
we have to fill up in everything, you know, between all the different faiths and even Islam, all the
different groups, whatever. This is something that no no one has disagree. Something that's
		
00:46:18 --> 00:46:52
			completely agreed upon absolute consensus that every human being is going to die. We know we've come
here for an absolutely short life. 50 years, 60 years, 70 years, who knows, some of the doctor says
average of 16 hour days. Last one related to medical expertise. 6065 is an average. If you go over
30 you're going downhill now. 2930 3031, you're 31 you're 31 you're 29 you're going backwards. It's
a short life, just absolute meditation, more of death, that this world is just going for dunya
Kanaka horiba
		
00:46:53 --> 00:47:16
			messenger of Allah, Allah says, live in this world, as you are a traveler, this is no longer
traveling just to pass it by, you've just started at the service station on m one. And you're just
passing by that's what this world is. This world, if you're not happy or happy doesn't really
matter. If you're in a service station in the toilets, not too good sanitation, the food, you know,
there's no restaurant, they get really bad food or whatever. And
		
00:47:18 --> 00:47:34
			you know, it wasn't too good to surround you, would you? Would you care about it. Of course, not
just here for 30 minutes, but moving on Windows 10 here, so don't worry about it. Rich, eternal life
is next right? I know you're gonna hurt me and Bethel elder Ashiya to know to have a message.
		
00:47:35 --> 00:48:07
			Sorry, in the Quran, Allah says, on the real judgment when you see the next live this life will seem
as though it was a moment of the morning or the moment of the night. That's how this life you feel.
And you know how that that is? Because next life is what? How many is eternal. Imagine eternal. Next
slide. After 600 million years you've lived in the next life 600 million years. You and your friend
you know you probably came out of your you know, your nice mansions going to have some coffee, or
some sort of shisha it'd be hella
		
00:48:10 --> 00:48:11
			dominant definitely.
		
00:48:13 --> 00:48:30
			But imagine you go and have some shisha and stuff. And then just two friends. You start talking
about you know, your, your, your time. 600 million years. Imagine it was a long time ago, there was
a place called lunia. Oh, yeah, I remember vaguely.
		
00:48:31 --> 00:48:35
			There was a place Yeah, I remember going to this place called Junior born there.
		
00:48:37 --> 00:48:42
			You know, born and studied and you know, a great degree and got married and children and
grandchildren.
		
00:48:43 --> 00:49:03
			60 years. Exactly. That's what this world is. After 600 million years, the message Allah says, this
time will seem like a moment of the morning. This is what the meaning is a moment of the morning or
the moment of the evening. So think about death constantly, regularly, what are called to note, and
number four, quickly.
		
00:49:05 --> 00:49:07
			Sorry, number five. I'm just trying to see if you're awake. But
		
00:49:08 --> 00:49:55
			number five, start off your day in the morning. Well, you should pray all your prayers, especially
fudger prayer. Start off on the right foot your day to be happy to be contented in your life when
the peace of the heart that day started in the morning with certain fudger offered with a lot of
devotion. And after that, at least some amount of recitation of the book of Allah, not just quick
lip service, with the T word dealing with the dealer with the fur coat with the dumper with
reflection with forward thinking about the verses, maybe looking at our translation, the verses of
the Quran 10 minutes, at least in your life, and a bit of the Gulf of law in the morning. It's the
		
00:49:55 --> 00:49:59
			most tranquil time in the life of a human being in the life of Moses.
		
00:50:00 --> 00:50:13
			Especially spend that time in the morning they started with salata, Frazier and the recitation of
the book of Allah greatly rewarded, you know, there's so much reward in the recitation of the book
of Allah or Allah is a cure. And Allah says what she
		
00:50:14 --> 00:50:15
			has to do.
		
00:50:16 --> 00:50:17
			He is a gem.
		
00:50:19 --> 00:50:34
			Cure for the heart, show me what it's the peace and contentment of the heart. So recitation of the
book of Allah regularly on a regular basis. But as I said, you know, especially first time I've been
in solitary two locations, either LA or
		
00:50:35 --> 00:51:09
			LA says walk around and fight in an allegedly Corona Masuda that are unrecycled at the time of
virgin which means in the prayer virgin, but you can also extend it to Activision around the time of
fracture. It's a very tranquil term, begin to date with the remembrance of a lot of liquor for law
number five, and number six, just a couple of minutes on this number five, no time to elaborate but
be optimistic and try to smile as much as possible. Like we heard, Assad Mashallah making you smile
and making him smiling himself. It brings about happiness and peace
		
00:51:10 --> 00:51:49
			in the people around you. This was a son of the messenger sallallahu and he was so usually reserved,
he wasn't always depressed, and you will notice agitated, he would smile all the time, gentlemen,
Abdullah Al budgetarily Allahu anhu. This is how he says Maha Giovanni Rasulullah sallallahu. It was
in a Mundo Islam. When are some of you he? since I became a Muslim? The message of God's love is
that has never placed a barrier between myself and himself. And never did he see me accidentally
smile in my face. There's one companion things that he said one companion saying, imagine the
messages of love. And he said it was like this with everybody. There's one component of your loved
		
00:51:49 --> 00:51:58
			one. He used to always smile all the time is human. Nothing's fun. So his wife all muddled up. She
said, Why do you keep smiling, you're old enough to say you're mad, you've lost it.
		
00:52:00 --> 00:52:33
			He said, I saw whenever I saw my beloved Son, a lover and you send them speaking you will always
smile and there's a reason why I smile and let people call me with Noonan and madman. But I will
smile because he was always smiling. So be optimistic. Don't be pessimistic, you know, be
optimistic. You people have issues. Everybody has issues in life. So today, it's today today
tomorrow to stay up casual. Don't Don't, don't be too sometimes people are so you know, such as
people associated with practicing Islam. I met your brother a couple of weeks ago, he was very
serious in everything. So why are you so serious for practicing?
		
00:52:37 --> 00:52:37
			Practicing?
		
00:52:39 --> 00:52:59
			Islam doesn't tell you be serious and tells you to be happy to be in a joyful mood all the time. And
there are times to be seen, of course, happiness and smiling with seriousness. When aren't we we're
not always the people are fun and joke and you know, when a clowns some people do this, there's
actually a head limit as well. That to me as a messenger
		
00:53:01 --> 00:53:18
			donadio haga. Don't be excessive in your jest, and don't make more mockery and funnel out to your
brother. So two extreme is not good as well, but just being pleasant, but being serious at the same
time. And lastly, because time has come to an end. Number six, is to busy yourself.
		
00:53:19 --> 00:53:47
			Busy yourself with things and activities that you like doing in your life, you will avoid a lot of
problems argumentations conflicts and people, a person who has too much time at their disposal will
always complain about it as his doing issue during that backbiting breaking ties, slandering,
swearing, just talking negatively you have so much time you know to leave which is one of the
greatest of since a human being can ever commit what a
		
00:53:48 --> 00:53:59
			major sin and you know all the time free time you have and all the free minutes free time and free
minutes 1000 feet, rebar minutes and 500 feet you know that slandering oh two minutes.
		
00:54:01 --> 00:54:06
			We just use them all the time Seriously? No, we shouldn't take 20 minutes so that at least we
		
00:54:07 --> 00:54:34
			manage our time. so busy yourself with good activities with the reading of a book with reading some
literature listening to talks, learning about Islam, and now avoid you know those conflicts because
conflicts bring about distress. Happiness is to have a life where you don't have conflicts with
anybody inshallah. So these are just some six steps that I quickly went through. Sorry for going
over eternity. I went way, way beyond my time but I pray a loss of data, Grant me and all the future
		
00:54:35 --> 00:54:36
			to practice