Muhammad Alshareef – Stop Trying to be Perfect!

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it's my right hand or should I drink with my right hand regardless of what you think I will drink
with my right hand Bismillah
		

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			yeah, there we go. The first comment, Joe hello from India. I like Mr. Rama Rama dilla Sidra in
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			it's really weird. I couldn't start until I could see the chat. So I know somebody's out there. I
know there's a number there on the side. But I feel like you know what, interacting and I'd like to
talk to myself. Alright, let's get started. Bismillah Alhamdulillah wa salatu salam ala Rasulillah.
Holiday wasabi Malala. And my bad Estella Manik what happened to Allah here, but I care too. So
today's reminder
		

			is about perfectionism, perfectionism. And what I tell people is that perfectionism is a slayer of
dreams, or rather, the delayer of dreams. So say you want to do something. Yeah. And,
		

			and you insist on doing it perfectly, you insist on doing it perfectly. What happens when that
happened? Firstly, you become stressed out, you're like, Look, I'm not going to submit this, or I'm
not going to do this, until I can commit to do it perfectly. Even as I say that there's so many
things, you want to clean your closet, for example, you're like, I'm not going to do it until I can
do it all. And it has to be done perfectly. And until then I'm never going to clean my closet. Or
you might say, hey, I want to send a message to my parents send a message to this person, that
person, and I want to do it perfectly. And because you want to do it perfectly, it never get sent.
		

			And so throughout our lives every time we want to do something, even right here right now, in your
day to day, guaranteed. There's some things that you need to get done, that you're not getting done.
And if you look back at why aren't you doing it is because you're trying to do it perfectly. Or
you're insisting that I have to do it perfectly. And therefore I will not do it. Because you know
what, I'm a perfectionist. I'm a perfectionist. Whenever I hear somebody say that, like I'm a
perfectionist, it it triggers my alarm bells. I mean, I do it too, but triggers my alarm bells. And
I'll say well, what are you letting you're off letting yourself off the hook of in your life, and
		

			you're probably unfulfilled because you're aiming for that perfectionism. Because that's what
happens. Now here we are at the beginning of 2020 Hamdulillah. And maybe you have some goals, maybe
you want to do some things and you said you wanted to do it. But because you want to do it
perfectly. Because you want to do it perfectly. It didn't get done. Or you started something and
this usually happens at the beginning of the year. I don't know if you guys done this as well.
Starting at the beginning of the year at the gyms the gyms are like They're notorious for this
people get a gym membership. They start going to the gym first day is a battle royal at the gym.
		

			Everybody's jumping for this equipment that equipment and by now I think it's like the 15th or
something
		

			buying
		

			Now the people just stop are going to the gym because they can't be perfect and one author men
called it the day after perfect the day after perfect after, you know you didn't get the workouts
that you set out to do done you're like, you know what, forget this, I'm not going to be perfect. So
I want you to think about this in the short reminder. Inshallah Donna, the question is this. What
are you delaying today? Because you want and you are insisting on doing it perfectly? Think about
that, even if somebody wants to type in the comments, what are you delaying today? Because you
insist on doing it perfectly.
		

			And then after you think of that, you want to ask yourself the question, what would this look like
if I accepted to do it imperfectly? What am I delaying? So the first thing is think of something
specific. Think of something specific that you are delaying because you're insisting on doing it
perfectly. And then ask yourself the question, what would this look like if I accepted to do it
imperfectly? What would it look like if it was done imperfectly?
		

			I will do the activity with you as well something that I'm I I've been traveling and my suitcase is
is like sitting there and I need to unpack stuff and I have not unpacked because I want to do it
perfectly. I want everything to be in the right spot and so on. And so it's getting delayed. So I
would ask myself, what would this look like if I did it imperfectly? And I would say you know what,
take this stuff out Muhammad as you need it, but make sure that you know what you do a little here I
do a little here one minute here two minutes there and inshallah Tada whatever happens happens and
just get it done. How about for you guys?
		

			Will leads asking me Have you ever lived in College Park Maryland? Yeah, sure.
		

			Every will lead to me this year. Yes, I have I have lived in College Park Maryland for five years.
You from College Park?
		

			Who else
		

			commenting or what you got? Or how has perfections are trying to be perfect hurt you in your life?
		

			This is awkward the texting is like 30 seconds. Too late. Okay, thank you Johanna redecorating my
room. Yep, you want to do it perfectly so you never do it. Yes.
		

			I'm Ron says
		

			I like that. I'm Ron says I'm scared of joining a certain career. So I don't know if that's
perfectionism or maybe something else I'm on. And Jennifer says that hamdulillah I'm not doing
anything right now. I like that Jennifer. Good for you. I'm the law.
		

			Share with us your
		

			what's your mindset? Why are you not doing anything?
		

			Why are you getting stuff done?
		

			And Sidra says funny you are. You mentioned cleaning your closet, because that's exactly what what I
gotta do right now.
		

			Yes, I think everybody has got to clean their closet at some point. We've all got closets that you
know for the last three four years have never been touched and we know we want to clean it
		

			the question we are asking for those of you tuning in late is what is something that you've been
delaying? Because you've been trying to do it perfectly? What's something you've been delaying
because you're trying to do it perfectly? And what would it look like if you did it imperfectly?
		

			Johanna says I procrastinate so much because of getting it done perfectly. I'm stuck with my ugly
wallpaper.
		

			wallpaper on your phone or in your room.
		

			I'm in irmo great question I met and let
		

			So let's kind of pull this. Let's close this off with this one. How to reconcile not be perfect?
		

			With the notion of, it's fun or sad. So
		

			I what I love about it, so don't be perfect. Yes, perfection is for Allah Subhanallah Donna, but Sen
is constant improvement, if anything is Zen is your acting out, Hey, I'm not perfect, but I'm going
to try and improve on this. So said a lot of people,
		

			a lot of people translated as perfection, to perfect something. But that's not the accurate meaning
it's excellence is to do things with excellence. So constant behavior, constant movement towards
your goal, as a prophet said a lot instead of saying, a humble Armel Illa. Allah, the Most Beloved
actions to Allah are those things which are done consistently, even if small. So when you're doing
constant, consistent, good actions, it says in doing something, doing something a little better,
doing something a little better doing something a little better. And as time goes by, in fact, you
reach a sand. And sand is like it's, it's like it's ongoing. It's not just like an end goal.
		

			Perfectionism, if you will, is just hey, it's perfect. It's done. That Zen is like constant. It's
it's ongoing. So a lot.
		

			All right, we are done.
		

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			Jennifer says, I asked Jennifer Jennifer saying that she doesn't delay anything. Hamdulillah I asked
her to give me her mindset. So she says, Well, I live in a constant consciousness that doesn't allow
me to leave things for later. A sense of urgency that keeps me on my toes
		

			and the last question here and then we are done. elvina says What do you mean by perfect hurts, sir.
		

			Perfect. Trying to be perfect hurts because there's a mental stress. Like take, for example, the
example of the closet, if you're trying to perfect it.
		

			If you try to perfect it, like I'm only going to clean the closet, when I can do it perfectly and
completely, then you live for a very long time stressed out by that closet not being cleaned. And
whenever you delay things like that, that you want to do it perfectly. Firstly, there's the stress
that the end result has to be absolutely perfect. That hurts and, and the delaying of whatever you
need to do because it's not just a closet that perfectionism hurts, it hurts your career, it hurts
your you know, the things that you have to clean it hurts your communications, it hurts your
		

			in your business relationship. There's so many aspects of our lives, that if we allow ourselves to
think that everything has to be done perfect, then our whole life becomes surrounded with stress,
anxiety, not getting things done. So there's a lot of pain and a lot of hurt that comes with
perfectionism.
		

			Zac Lohan and everybody thanks for tuning in. I wish Facebook would make these this text to be a
little little faster. Inshallah, in the future. I said I'm gonna come check out visionary 2030 We're
going to be doing a course very soon inshallah Tada within a few days, if you will, and, and this
topic of perfectionism, and how to slay it, and how to just move forward with it even in our goals
for the upcoming year for the upcoming five years. 10 years. If we think that everything has to be
perfect, then nothing's gonna get done. So we need to just what would this look like? If it was done
imperfectly cycle Essanay gonna have to love it. Good.