Muhammad Al Durrah – How to Treat Your Parents Isha Khatira

Muhammad Al Durrah
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The speakers discuss various ways to handle parenting, including reciting in the first and second raka'ah from the book of Allah before I take you to the Galatians, not using harsh language, honoring your parents with your words, and not being grateful to your parents. They stress the importance of being grateful to your parents and your sister's words to avoid being criticized. The speakers also emphasize the importance of forgiveness and respecting old deeds, and mention a story about a woman who was disconnected from her mother for 3 years and eventually found her in another country.
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I decided

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to recite in this

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in the first and the second raka'ah from

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Surat Al Isra.

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They said

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that

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taking care of our parents,

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it's a deen,

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and

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deen.

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Deen will lead us to Jannah insha'allah. Say

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insha'allah.

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And

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Deen,

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we will receive it back from our kids.

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So however we treat our parents,

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we will receive the same treatment from our

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kids.

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This is 1

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+oneequal2.

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There is no way for someone who was

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harsh

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and kind to his parents to receive the

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goodness in his life.

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And they said,

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there is no way for the righteous person

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who was good toward his parents

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to have the bad ending in his life.

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For the person who was so nice and

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good to his parents.

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The

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proof from the book of Allah

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Before I take you to Surat Al Akhaf,

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in Surat Al Isra, there are 5 orders.

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When I was thinking about

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the I found something, I wanna share it

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with you.

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They said about the tongue,

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taste

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your words

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before you say them.

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Before you say the words to anybody,

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make sure that they're sweet

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and put yourself in the other side.

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Now imagine when you're talking to your own

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parents.

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If you're harsh,

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if you disrespect

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them with your words,

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this could lead someone to jahannam. Allah

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subhanahu wa ta'ala told us when they are

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old, our parents, one of them or both,

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don't say the word.

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So look at the connection between treating our

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parents and our tongues and our words.

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The first order,

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don't

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say.

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If your parents are old and they keep

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saying and repeating something to you,

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don't say.

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If your parents are requesting and asking you

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to do something and you don't like this,

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don't say.

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Don't be harsh and break their hearts.

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The old men and women,

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their feeling is different than the young person.

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So and they expect from us a lot

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of good things.

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Make sure when you talk to them

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to avoid any harsh word which could break

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their hearts.

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So don't say off.

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Don't scream and talk to them in harsh

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way. So this is also related to the

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tongue. And the third one, I need your

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help.

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Say to them,

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honor them with your words.

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How can I, you know, honor my parents

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with my words?

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You are the best mother. You are the

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best father in the world.

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These words means a lot to our parents,

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especially when they are old.

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When they see us as spouses,

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dealing with each other with full of love.

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When they see their kids

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loving their grandfather their their grandsons,

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showing them so much of love,

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they expect from us the same thing.

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I feel that there is no barakah

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in a house

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where is no respect and honor for the

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old man or woman there.

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May Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala put the Barakah

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in our homes.

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Humble yourself

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when you deal with your parents.

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Don't say to them you're old fashioned.

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You don't know what's going on.

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You don't know how to deal with this

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or that.

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And remember that your brain,

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your flesh, your bones, your body came through

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them.

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So they are the mean for us to

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be in this dunya.

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Ibn Abbas, radiya Allahu An, he said, there

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are 3 ayaats in Quran.

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They're combined with, you know, 2 words.

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Obay Allah and his messenger.

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If someone says I believe in Quran and

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I don't believe in sunnah, this person is

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not a believer.

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Zakah. You know, perfect your salah and pay

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the zakah. If someone says I will pray

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the 5 salah, but I don't care about

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the zakah, this person, may Allah subhanahu wa

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ta'ala guide us all. And the third

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one,

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be grateful to Allah and to your parents.

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Ibn Abbas said, if you're grateful to Allah

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subhanahu wa ta'ala,

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you cannot

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be,

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you know, you cannot be grateful to Allah

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unless if you're grateful to to your parents.

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That's why

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Our relationship with Allah

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cannot be perfect

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until we fix our relationship with the creation

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of Allah

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with the people around us, especially our parents.

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How can I come to pray with the

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in in the masjid with jama'ah?

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And I let my father crying at home,

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or I disrespect my mother. And my advice

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for the sisters and for the brothers,

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try to help each other to be good

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to your parents.

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Try to show your love and your respect

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for your parents, Allah.

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The the media made a lot of minds

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to disrespect the Quran and the teaching of

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through something is not true.

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Your

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parents in law, they should be in your

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life like your own parents.

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It should be done this way. And every

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brother here should help his wife to be

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kind and to be connected to her family.

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Before I moved to here,

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a sister

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was talking to

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the imam. She said, it's been about 3

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years.

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My husband is not allowing me to call

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my parents.

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Not in aid, not in Ramadan, not in

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Jum'ah, not even a phone call, not to

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visit. May Allah

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protect us all.

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And the 4th

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the 4th order I mean, the 5th order

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from the ayah of the Quran,

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So it's related to

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our tongues.

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Make dua for your parents. And my

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always I remind myself and all of you,

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in our sujood,

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let's make it habit in our life.

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After we say the tasbih,

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we could

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say it's a beautiful dua to ask Allah

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to keep our hearts in his way.

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And Can you say it after me,

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That's a beautiful dua. So let me take

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you to Surah Al Akhaf, and I will

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finish inshallah.

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Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala told us and

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the

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of treating

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our parents or the parents in general, it's

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not only for the believers.

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It's for every human.

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Even the non Muslims, they should respect their

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parents. What about us as believers?

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We should try our best because they are

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they are our keys to Jannah.

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So Allah

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is reminding us especially when we reach the

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age of 40.

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You know, at the beginning

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of our life when we came to the

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dunya, when we were in the wombs of

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our mothers, we don't remember anything.

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When we came to this life, it was

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a moment of death for our our mothers.

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We don't remember that. So Allah is telling

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us, Then Allah is telling us,

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Why 40 years old?

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Most of the brothers and the sisters who

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reach the age of 40,

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they have kids. May Allah bless all of

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our kids. May Allah protect their iman and

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their deen.

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So as

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when you go home and you feel so

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happy

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receiving your kids,

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you know, hugging them, enjoying your time with

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them,

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don't forget that old mother who is waiting

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for you in her room.

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Don't forget your father who is waiting for

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you in his, you know,

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place.

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Don't

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let your parents to end their lives

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outside of your home if you have the

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ability to keep them in your home.

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Listen to this shayrabab.

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When

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you go to visit the elder homes

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and you see the tears

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and the wishes of the brothers over there

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and the sisters, I wish to see my

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grandsons.

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I wish to spend some time with my

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kids, but

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they don't have that

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in in in their life. But I wish

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that nobody

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from this gathering

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will treat his parents this way insha Allahu

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Ta'ala. Then Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala told us

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about the beautiful dua.

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InshaAllah Ta'ala, we all memorize this ayah. Try

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to add it to your dua.

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Ayah number 15 in Surat Al Akaf. What

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is the result of that?

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Imagine yourself

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standing in front of Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala

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and Wa'udhi Al Kitab as Allah Subhanahu Wa

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Ta'ala described that the book will be, you

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know, put in front of Allah Subhanahu Wa

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Ta'ala.

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The disbelievers will will be shocked

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and the believers,

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Allah said, Allah will accept from us

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Allah will accept from us the best of

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our good deeds.

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What about the the bad deeds?

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We will forgive them their sins.

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And they will be from the people of

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Jannah.

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This is the promise of who?

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Allah

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And I would like to end with this

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story.

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Anybody

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here does not have his mother

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in his life,

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may Allah

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have his mercy on her

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and also your father. May Allah

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have mercy on them.

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A person

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had a problem with his mother.

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Then

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he decided to disconnect himself from her. She

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was back home in another country, and he

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was in another country.

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So he decided not to visit or to

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call for 3 years.

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After 3 years,

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maybe he attended something like this, and he

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heard about the right of parents,

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so he decided to surprise his mother.

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He get the ticket,

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traveled all the way home.

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As soon as he, you know, was next

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to the house,

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his neighbors came to him

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and they said, brother,

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we're sorry.

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Your mother already passed away.

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Imagine the heart of the mother who is

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disconnected from her son for 3 years, the

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hope,

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the wishes of that mother to see her

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son coming to visit her, to see her

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son sit next to her. Then he said,

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I entered the house, and I looked my

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mother and stuff. You know, the sijada of

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the old mothers. May Allah bless them and

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protect them. You know, the,

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misbeha

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and, you know, some other stuff they you

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know, we used to see whenever we see

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our mothers. He said, I entered the room,

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then I I went to my room and

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I saw my stuff organized as if my

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mother was waiting for me to come,

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And she left a piece of paper.

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She said, my son,

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I was waiting for you.

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I wish for you the best.

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And I want you to know that I

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am pleased on you.

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At the end,

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please

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forgive me.

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May Allah forgive us and our parents.

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