Mufti Menk – You Failed One Test But
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The speakers discuss the importance of forgiveness and making an effort towards it. They stress the need for people to acknowledge their actions as good and pray for others. The importance of consistency in life and investing time and resources in family is emphasized. The speakers also emphasize the importance of not allowing things to happen and not blaming Allah for mistakes.
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As-salāmu ʿalaykum wa-rahmatullāhi wa-barakātuh.
Bismillāhi wa-l-ḥamdu lillāhi wa-s-salātu
wa-s-salāmu ʿalá Rasūlillāhi wa-ʿalá ālihi
wa-sahbihi ajma'īn.
This evening, I received a call on my
way here from someone.
Someone I've known because I've helped them in
the past.
And they said something very interesting and it
inspired me to share it with you in
order to draw lesson.
So what they said is, look, Allah Almighty
has said He's gonna test us.
And there was something that happened and I
know it was Allah's test.
And unfortunately, I did the wrong thing, I
fell into sin.
And so I failed the test.
And I heard someone online say that if
you failed a test, that's it, you're done.
You failed it.
So I said, it doesn't make sense.
What are you trying to say?
Am I doomed?
That's the question.
And I said, well, today you probably had
10,000 tests without you knowing that there
were 10,000 tests.
Have you prayed?
Yes.
Well, then you passed that test.
Were you dressed modestly?
Yes.
Well, you passed that test.
Did you swear anyone?
No.
Well, you passed that test.
So you must have passed 9,000 tests.
You failed 2, 3, 4 of them.
It's not right.
It doesn't make it right, even if they're
small in number.
But you're a human being.
You will falter.
You did well.
You did well and not because you committed
the sin, but because you passed so many
of the tests that you could have failed.
So it's the way you look at it.
Because you faltered in one sin, it does
not mean it's the end of the world.
In fact, I continue to explain that there
are two types of failures.
When you do something wrong on a daily
basis, that's a failure.
It's you failed.
You definitely failed a test.
But that is a temporary test.
Temporary in the sense that you can make
it right.
Who knows how to make it right?
Anyone?
What do you do?
Repent.
You must engage in tawbah, what is known
as seeking forgiveness.
When you say, Oh Allah, forgive me, you're
forgiven.
So, what did you do?
You failed, but it was a temporary failure.
So much so that there is a narration
where the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam says,
when a Muslim, when a person, when a
believer sins, the angels hold back from righting
the sin for a moment, for a time.
That time is known exactly to Allah subhanahu
wa ta'ala, but it varies.
It probably could be a few hours.
Some scholars say six hours.
It's held, it's not written.
Because do you know what?
Before your book of deeds goes up, you
repented.
If you sought the forgiveness of Allah, there's
no trace of that sin in your book
of deeds.
No trace of it.
And if you didn't, in fact it's the
instruction of Allah to the angels to say,
don't write it, perhaps my slave will seek
forgiveness.
Don't write it, perhaps my slave will seek
forgiveness.
If you do, you succeeded.
And you did not fail to the degree
where you became oblivious of Allah, because that
is the major failure.
If someone turns away from Allah for 60
years, 70 years, and one day before they
died, say two years before they died, a
month before they died, a week before they
died, they somehow turned to Allah subhanahu wa
ta'ala, Oh Allah, forgive me.
I did a lot of things in my
life that were not pleasing to you, that
were not as per what you have instructed
and what you have taught.
What does Allah do?
The hadith makes mention of such a person,
that for so many years doing wrong, and
towards the end they do right, they will
be judged based on the ending.
And the opposite is true, that if a
person does right for so many years and
towards the end they have turned away from
Allah, they will be judged by the ending.
So remember, for as long as you're alive,
there is always hope.
When you pass away, and you have not
sought the forgiveness of Allah, then the failure
is definitely a greater failure.
So great.
Then you can say, oh, you failed.
But for as long as you're alive, it's
just a temporary failure, you can make it
right.
Allah loves one who seeks forgiveness.
In fact, Allah knows you're a human because
He made you a human.
Allah knows your desires.
Allah knows your thoughts.
Allah knows what you're inclined to.
Allah Almighty knows shaitan will come to you.
He expects you to search for Him.
He expects you to be strong.
He expects you to repent to Him, to
seek forgiveness, to be a beautiful soul, to
be a lovely person, to be kind, to
be helpful, to be a person who's generous,
to be a person who fulfills his or
her obligations unto Allah.
I can't say, you know what, I'm a
good Muslim, but I don't pray.
Then you're not a good Muslim, you're a
Muslim.
But if you don't pray, there are two
things.
If you believe you're not supposed to pray,
then you've got a problem, you can't really
call yourself a Muslim because the religion you
follow is not Islam.
You see, because in Islam you have to
pray.
People say, well, I don't pray.
Well, if you don't pray, there are two
things.
Do you believe that you don't have to
pray?
If that's the case, you can't call yourself
a Muslim.
Rules and regulations are not set by you
and I.
They don't change from time to time.
No, not the set rules, not the pillars
of Islam, not what Allah has ordained.
That doesn't change.
It will remain up to Qiyamah.
If the whole world says, there's no longer
anything wrong with this.
If Allah says there is, there is.
There will always be.
So Allah make it easy.
But for as long as you're alive, Allahu
Akbar.
Seek the forgiveness of Allah subhanahu wa ta
'ala.
Allah will forgive you.
Allah will definitely elevate your status.
If you've missed your prayer, but you believe
you should have prayed, you're still a believer.
And you're a person, perhaps there are thousands
if not, tens of thousands just like you
who are struggling with their prayer.
Tens of thousands if not hundreds of thousands
who might be struggling with their dress code,
who might be struggling with other things.
There are so many.
For as long as you acknowledge that this
is my duty unto Allah, the weakness is
mine, I haven't got there, inshallah I will
get there.
Make an effort towards it.
Have a yearning in your heart that one
day I want to do the right thing.
And Allah will grant you that goodness.
And why I say this is because there
are some people that I've met, and we
ask them, you know when you get close
to someone, you've interacted with them a little
bit more, or someone says, Sheikh, you know
I have a weakness, pray for me.
He said, what's your weakness?
If you don't mind me asking, you don't
have to tell me, but if you want
to Sheikh, you know I don't get up
for Fajr.
Okay, that's a weakness.
I mean that's something, he says, I'd love
to.
The fact that the person is saying, pray
for me, it means they acknowledge they should
be waking up.
That means they are believers.
The fact that they are asking you, pray
for me, is an acknowledgement that I know
where I should be.
Please, go easy on people when they say,
you know I have a weakness.
Firstly, you don't need to confess to anyone.
Nobody.
Islam is a religion where there is no
confession to anyone besides Allah.
You want to say what you did say
to your maker, and you don't have to
say it to anyone else.
Because if you did say it to someone
else, that person may use it against you
one day, and they are no saints either.
You don't come to me and say, I
want the forgiveness of Allah, I did this,
this, this, this, this.
If you trust me and you want some
guidance, it's a different story.
But today, people will let you down.
And you know how bad it is in
the age of social media.
They just forward your message to another whole
group.
Before you know it, the whole town knows
what you did.
And who told them?
The fool that you were told them.
You don't have to say a word, forgiven,
Allah wipes it out.
So, the fact that they saying, pray for
me.
This youngster says, so pray for me.
I said, inshallah, pray for you.
May Allah, but I want you to be
serious.
Met him after some time.
He said, Sheikh, you're not praying hard enough.
I said, why?
He says, because I still have a problem
with my prayer.
Can you look at how he's blackmailing me?
Because he's not praying.
Can you imagine?
Pray for me because I have a weakness,
I can't wake up for Fajr.
And then when he meets you after some
time, he says, but you're not praying for
me because I'm still not getting up.
You're not praying hard enough.
Come on, man.
Don't blame me.
You're making an effort.
If I meet you after 10 years and
you say, pray for me, pray for me.
That's not a good enough answer.
It's not a good enough statement if it
keeps repeating itself.
Year in, year out.
Together with prayer, an effort is required.
Make an effort.
You know your situation.
Let people not be judgmental.
You shouldn't be judgmental and let others not
be judgmental.
And if some are judgmental, don't take it
seriously.
It's okay, ignore them, leave them.
For as long as you know you're moving
in a decent pace.
And you're moving closer to Allah every day.
Good news to you.
MashaAllah, don't give up hope.
So I told this youngster, I said, hey,
listen, stop throwing the blame on me for
your sin.
You don't do that.
And another thing, you must make an effort.
Don't just say, inshaAllah I will, inshaAllah I
will.
Make dua for me, make dua for me.
A guy addicted to a bottle, for example,
and every time you say, make dua for
me, you know what, make dua for me.
It's not just dua.
With dua, make an effort.
I promise you the doctor, a few weeks
ago, like two months ago, told me that,
you know what, you need to make some
changes because of your health.
Not to say I have something major, but
it was something that really got me concerned.
I thought to myself, whoa, you know what,
I travel a lot, I move a lot,
we've got to make these changes.
I decided, no carbs, no sugar, done, closed.
Today, when I look at things, okay, no
means you do have a little bit of
a cheat, but very little, you know.
Not because I want it, but sometimes you
can't avoid it.
But otherwise, you come and present me some
food, and I'll tell you, not this, not
this, not this.
When I met brother Farhan earlier from saffron,
he said, well, should I change the menu?
I said, not at all.
Today is my cheat day, bro.
Alhamdulillah.
So Allah bless you guys, wallahi.
Beautiful food, you can't come to saffron and
say I'm on a diet, you know.
But did you notice how the word diet
is in diet?
May Allah forgive them.
I don't know how they think up these
words.
حسبنا الله ونعم الوكيل.
But my brothers, my sisters, the point I'm
raising is for health purposes, we made a
big change.
Nobody is going to come to me and
say, inshallah, one day I'll change, inshallah, one
day I'll change.
The fact that the doctor told you, hey,
you don't make this change, that's it.
And suddenly, okay, okay, the change is made.
What about Allah?
Allah is telling you, hey, you better change.
You know what?
You don't know how long you're going to
live for.
Good news to those who are chosen by
Allah to change their lives before they pass
away.
And I've known of quite a few people
who led a life very, very distance from
Allah.
That's why I personally don't judge a soul
because I don't know your ending.
You probably would end much better than my
ending.
But I can tell you something.
I know of people who were distance from
Allah and suddenly something happened in their lives
and they became closer to Allah, and closer
to Allah, and closer to Allah, and they
passed on.
Young age.
It is definitely Allah who loved them for
some reason to give them the opportunity to
turn to Him in a way that when
He took their soul away, they were upon
the best relation they ever had with Allah.
What a good day.
May Allah grant us a goodness.
اللهم اجعل خير ايامنا اواخرها وخير اعمالنا خواتمها
The Prophet ﷺ used to say, O Allah,
let the best of our days be the
last of our days.
And let the best of our deeds be
the last of our deeds.
That's why we tell people consistency is key.
You want success in life?
Be consistent.
Day in, day out.
You do something, you make sure you are
disciplined.
Our bodies are created in a way that
when you are consistent, the body itself will
tell you, you need this, you need this.
So much so that if it's consistency on
a bad thing, the body will call for
a drug, or call for something bad, or
call you towards * or something because you
got your body used to something that was
negative.
It will keep on calling you towards it.
When you get your body used to getting
up in the morning for Salatul Fajr, trust
me, tried and tested, and I've repeated this
so many times, before the alarm, your eyes
open.
It's open.
And you can actually turn that alarm off
and say, subhanallah, five minutes remaining, look at
me, I'm awake.
Who woke you up?
It's the system of Allah, and the mercy
of Allah that you got up.
That's what it is.
That's the body.
So when you get your body used to
something, it gets used to it.
Learn to do the right thing.
You'll enjoy it.
Similarly, my brothers and sisters in life, like
this person told me, I failed this test.
Is it the end of everything?
Am I doomed?
And I said, no.
Actually, there are so many tests that you
didn't realize were tests.
Because you're generally a good person.
Just like that, I want to tell you,
in life, there will be negatives that happen
to you.
A lot.
You find a person losing a job.
You find someone, health-wise, they're going downwards.
You find someone suffering a big loss in
terms of business or in terms of something
happening in their own life, whereby they might
have gone through a divorce, they might have
lost a child, whatever.
Do you know what?
Allah says, فَإِنَّ مَعَ الْعُسْرِ يُسْرًا Beautiful
verses.
Definitely with hardship comes ease.
And definitely with that hardship comes another ease.
Which means, definitely with any hardship, there are
a minimum of two points of ease.
That's what the verse means.
The verses put together, that's what they mean.
So if you are willing to be patient,
and you have to be patient, why does
Allah say, إِنَّمَا يُوَفَّ السَّابِرُونَ أَجْرَهُمْ بِغَيْرِ حِسَابٍ
Allah recompenses those who bore patience on earth
in an unlimited fashion.
Why does He say that?
It's because it must be a big deal.
That's why.
It has to be a huge deal, a
very difficult thing to do.
To bear patience is not easy.
You've lost a job, you're looking for a
job.
You don't have a spouse, you're looking for
a spouse.
And you're trying and trying and trying.
Allah says, you know what, your job is
never to give up.
Your job is never to give up.
Do you know why?
Even if it was written that you were
not going to have a spouse, the fact
that you kept trying and didn't give up
and kept praying to us, that alone will
get you into paradise.
How's that?
Imagine, Allah knows whether you're going to have
a spouse or not.
Say, Allah has written that you're not going
to have a spouse.
But what did He teach you?
He taught you to look for a spouse,
to try, to keep making dua, to keep
having hope.
So I had hope.
I'm convert...
Oh Allah, I know you're going to do
it for me.
Open the doors, grant me wish...
Meaning grant me the best of my wishes
and grant me all the goodness.
And you're making dua, Oh Allah, I want...
Sometimes some people I know, they ask for
a specific person.
And they say, can I ask for a
specific person?
Some of the scholars say, you shouldn't.
You should just say, Oh Allah, grant me
what is best for me, my deen, my
dunya, my akhira.
My world, my just living in the world,
material world, my religion, my faith, my connection
with you and my hereafter.
But imagine, if you're making that dua, and
you're convinced, and you have hope.
Allah has written you're not going to have
it.
What's going to happen?
You will never ever regret the persistence to
Allah and with Allah.
You will never ever regret the continued hope
you had up to the point of death.
I met a brother, one of my beautiful,
beautiful brothers called Azhar Safwan.
I met him for the first time in
Qatar.
He facilitated so many Islamic programs, massive, huge
five-star events.
And I found out some time back, he
has cancer.
Shafahullahu wa'afa.
Allah grant him shifa.
I was passing, coming here, and I decided
to go and see him at the hospice.
He's not doing well at all.
Doctors have already given him a period of
time that has expired.
But nonetheless, he's alive, he's doing well.
And I went there and I said, you
know what, I said so many things.
We have hope in Allah.
We have conviction in Allah.
While it's important to prepare in case you
pass away, your will and a few loose
ends and so on, because you have to
do that, you're a human.
You can't not do that.
You can't let your relative say, shut up,
don't talk about death, because he might not
die.
We want him to be cured.
Do you know what?
Let him prepare.
Allah has given him an illness so that
he can at least prepare.
Sometimes people go with no notice whatsoever.
In this case at least, we're hoping that
he's gonna be cured, but there's no harm
in tying all loose ends and making sure
everything's gonna be happening.
You know, your children, whoever your grandchildren, your
business, your work, your passwords and what not,
you can have a moment to delete a
few things and so many other things, right?
Hey, at least Allah has given you.
So, I said we should be preparing to
meet with Allah.
Yes, correct.
But at the same time, we have full
hope that Allah will grant you a miracle.
Convinced.
I am convinced that you are going to
be cured by Allah.
And I ask, oh Allah, I know you're
going to do it.
I'm convinced.
Allah will either grant him because He has
granted people, so many people whom the doctors
have said six hours to remain.
I know someone who was given six days
here in London.
Wallahi, it's been more than six years.
The guy is as fit as a fiddle.
MashaAllah.
I meet him and see him and I
say, good example, subhanAllah.
How you've been given this time and you're
still alive.
That's Allah.
What happened?
The miracle, the dua, all of the combination
of everything.
When the doctors gave up and said, you
can go home, palliative care and whatever else.
And you know what?
Next thing, this guy starts healing.
How did he heal?
By the miracle of Allah.
Allah wants to show you when everyone's given
up, see what we do, subhanAllah.
See what we do.
Allah can, He has.
But if Allah has written that you're going
to go, what happened to you?
You have hope.
You kept on saying, Allah, I know you're
going to let me live.
I know you're going to cure me.
I know you're going to give me.
I know you're not going to let me
go just now.
I am convinced, oh Allah, I call out
to you.
I gave a sadaqa.
I did this, I did that.
Allah says, you know what?
The fact that you made all these du
'as with such conviction in Me, believing in
Me, that belief has plugged in on a
level that will deserve you My mercy, that
will grant you entry into Jannah.
Look at the people struggling in Palestine, in
Lebanon, anywhere else.
Do you know if I were to describe
to you a little bit of what goes
on?
It would be so, so shocking and so
unbelievable.
Normal people living a life in an area
that is relatively peaceful, suddenly they told you
got to evacuate because we're going to bomb
you.
And some of them are not even told
that.
And the next thing, innocent people, men, women
and children bombarded.
And a lot of the times, the young
people who are perpetrating these crimes of genocide
on the ground, do not want to do
it but they're following instructions from someone.
And that's why they suffer later on and
they suffer at the time as well.
Psychological trauma.
There's so much suicide among them because they
know what they've did.
They've gotten to people who are related to
them a few generations back.
And they're killing them and they brutally burning
them and murdering them at the instruction of
someone above them.
And that's unacceptable.
Imagine where and what is going on.
Where is Allah in this whole equation?
Allah says, we want to take the martyrs
and give them the highest ranks of Jannah.
Would you rather be a martyr with the
highest ranks of Jannah than a person who's
struggling on the day of judgment and doesn't
even know which way they're going to go.
Allah says, we know, we are just.
There is injustice on earth not caused by
us, caused by you.
Don't blame Allah.
People say, where is Allah?
The true answer is, why are human beings
doing this?
Allah told you not to do it.
You have a knife.
Who told you to stab someone?
Who?
You can't say, why did Allah allow the
stabbing?
Come on, relax.
This guy did it in front of you.
You could have stopped it.
No one is stopping it.
I feel guilty.
The whole world is guilty.
Everyone is guilty.
Why?
Because it's happening in front of us.
That's why we're all guilty.
No matter who, I am guilty and so
are all of you.
We might say, I don't have the capacity.
I don't have...
I feel the guilt.
Even though I may not have the capacity.
I feel helpless.
Really, it's traumatic.
Look at how emotional I've become just thinking
about it and talking about it.
You really reckon you and I have problems.
Wallahi, we don't.
Wallahi, we don't.
It's okay.
Whatever it is.
You don't have a job, fine.
You're surviving.
You don't have a spouse, fine.
You're surviving.
Look what's going on there.
Spouse and children, everyone buried in rubble.
And they're justifying it.
And people are cheering them on.
It is brutal.
It is unacceptable.
And it is being documented almost live.
What's the point of documenting?
People let something happen and they say, Oh,
we'll do a...
What do they call it?
Sorry?
Yeah, we'll do an investigation later on.
Correct.
Let it die down.
We'll do an investigation.
So you let 6 million people die.
They said only 60,000 died.
Why?
Because how they count the dead is they
count the dead only if they have retrieved
the body.
Imagine how many have disappeared and dissolved into
thin air.
Because of the white phosphorus and what not
that's being used.
Imagine.
They haven't counted so many.
I would like to take that figure to
perhaps somewhere way beyond what they're saying.
More than 10 times there, perhaps.
And then one day, when the dust settles
and they realize the count of it, guess
what?
Humanity failed them completely.
So imagine the dua they are making, Oh
Allah, you said you are with us.
You are with us.
You will not allow this to happen.
And suddenly it happened.
Boom!
And the person is dead.
Where are they going?
The fact that they had conviction in Allah.
The fact that they worshiped Allah.
They knew.
Allah says, well, you recognized Me.
You had, you understood, you recognized, you believed.
And that what was of essence.
That is what was of essence.
You believed in Allah.
That is Allah.
And Allah took you from strength to strength.
So that is something amazing.
To believe that Allah has your back.
I give you one example of the opposite.
Where something that Allah instructed people to do,
knowing that they are not going to achieve
results.
How is that?
Allah told people to do things, knowing that
they were not going to achieve a result.
Do you know the example?
There are so many.
I give you one.
Here is Allah saying, اِذْهَبَا إِلَىٰ فِرْعَوْنَ إِنَّهُ
طَغَىٰ فَقُولَا لَهُ قَوْلًا لَيْنًا لَعَلَّهُ يَتَذَكَّرُ أَوْ
يَخْشَىٰ Moses and Aaron, Musa and Harun, Alaihimassalam,
go to the Pharaoh.
Because he is indeed sinful.
He has crossed the boundaries, the limits.
Speak to him with soft words.
Perhaps he will turn.
So that he may take heed.
Did Allah not know in his knowledge that
this guy is never going to turn?
Right?
Allah knew.
Why would Allah waste his time, استغفر الله,
telling this prophet to go to the Pharaoh
and call him when Allah knew that the
Pharaoh is not going to accept it at
all.
In order to...
In Arabic we call it, اِقَامَةُ الْحُجَّ عَلَيْهِ
In order for the evidence to be piled
up against him, we called you, we told
you, and you didn't.
Number one.
Number two is, in order for us to
learn a lesson, that Allah tells you to
do things because he wants you to fulfill
his instructions without worrying about what's going to
be the outcome.
You will earn paradise by following the instruction,
believing in Allah, worshiping him, calling out to
him, doing as he has said, even if
you don't see a worldly result at all.
I will call out, Oh Allah, I need
to get married.
Oh Allah, I want to marry.
Oh Allah, I want to marry this person.
Oh Allah, I want a job.
Oh Allah, I need cure.
Oh Allah, I need...
We will call and cry and cry and
cry.
You had to do that, you did it,
you passed your test.
Don't worry about the result, leave it to
Allah.
If Allah doesn't want, He knows, listen, we
kept you in the most blessed way.
Imagine you married and we did that for
you.
We wouldn't do it for you if we
knew that the result of it would be
even more hurtful than the condition you are
in right now.
A few days ago another sister calls and
tells me her story.
It was so disastrous.
And she says, you know what?
I don't know if I should give it
another chance or not.
People sometimes, you know what?
They feel soft.
They think maybe I should, maybe I should.
But if you hear the story and if
you hear how long it's gone for, and
if you hear exactly what it is, as
a counselor I'll tell you sister, while your
parents are alive, get back home.
It's okay to be divorced.
Because this guy is going to do this
once your parents are gone and you have
no one.
And you might just have one or two
kids at that time.
And then what's gonna happen?
You have no one and you're gonna be
on the street maybe, who knows.
So Allah is showing you signs one after
the other.
You've already forgiven this guy 10 times.
Things have been going on for so long.
It's time to pack your bags and go
home.
And the guy keeps threatening to say, watch
out, I'll divorce you.
Watch out, I'll divorce.
How can you say that?
How can you use divorce as a threat
to a person who's supposed to be the
mother of your children, the love of your
life?
Would you say that?
It means they're not the love of your
life.
It means if you can threaten them, one
day you will do it.
You will.
I'd rather walk out now.
Why do I?
If it was a threat that came out
in anger and it happened once, talk about
it.
Don't ever do that again.
But if it comes out every now and
again, it's not just a red flag, it's
a bright red flag.
May Allah forgive us.
So the points being raised tonight are very
important that Allah Almighty...
MashaAllah.
Today is the first day that my time
has not run out.
MashaAllah.
Usually I look at brother Joy and all
wondering what's going on.
Anyway.
So, Allah Almighty wants us to do what
He has instructed.
You have hope in the mercy of Allah.
You have hope that Allah will do things.
That hope alone is sufficient.
Imagine when you keep asking Allah without saying,
if it is better for me.
And this is why it's important for us
to add in our du'a.
Oh Allah, grant me this if it is
better for me.
And don't be afraid of saying that.
You know, a lucrative business deal of a
billion dollars.
What are we gonna say?
Oh Allah, give it to me.
You're a believer.
You love Allah.
You believe in everything.
Say, oh Allah, give it to me if
it is coming with barakah.
Give it to me if it is good
for me and my family.
I know of many people whom when Allah
gave them what they wanted, they turned away
from Allah.
Or sometimes their children turned away.
Or sometimes something major happened and the whole
family split into 20 pieces.
Had they not gotten what they were asking
for, perhaps it might have been very different.
So therefore, be a true believer.
It's not compulsory to add in your du
'a to say that, oh Allah, do it
for me if it is better for me.
It's not compulsory to add that.
But as a believer, when you're in love
with Allah and you trust Allah, you will
add it.
You will add it.
Because it's a sunnah to add it.
That's why we were taught du'a of
istikhara.
Allahumma in kana hadha al-amra khayru li
fi dini wa ma'ashi wa aqibatu amri
fakhdiru li wa yassiru li thumma barik li
fihi.
Oh Allah, if this that I want to
achieve is better for me, my dini wa
ma'ashi wa aqibatu amri, my religion, my
livelihood, my future, meaning even the hereafter, if
it is better for me in all these
ways, make it easy for me, let it
happen for me and grant me barakah in
it.
And if it is not good for me,
not good for my future, not good for
my din, not good for my akhirah, then
block me from it and block it from
me and turn it away from me and
turn me away from it and make me
happy with your decree.
That's why we say when something you desperately
wanted did not happen, just say, alhamdulillah, Allah
save me from something perhaps I don't know.
It will be hurtful and painful because you're
a human being.
It will be hurtful.
The other day someone interacted with me saying,
you know, I fell in love with this
guy.
What a lovely guy.
I've been making dua, Allahu Akbar, Allah grant
me.
And you know what?
Why would Allah...
Listen how people blame Allah.
Like I said, the other guy is blaming
me.
Your dua is not strong enough.
That's why I'm not getting up for fajr.
Right?
So we blame...
Why would Allah let me fall in love
with someone when marriage is not written and
I only wanted halal?
That's because you fell in the trap of
shaitan.
Allah says, initially you're in control.
You allowed the first step, you allowed the
second one, you slipped into the whirlpool and
now you're stuck.
And then you want to come back and
blame us.
We told you from the very beginning, don't
even go close.
What do they say?
You catch feelings.
Leave those feelings, don't catch anything.
Leave it.
The feelings let them float in the air.
The minute you catch it, who caught it?
You!
And then you want to blame Allah to
say, oh Allah, why did you allow me
to catch feelings?
Not allow.
Allah already told you, listen, you want to
do something.
Yes, it's permissible.
Regularize it, do it properly and get it
and take it.
Honorably.
If the guy wants you, he's a man.
He must come and honorably take you or
he must leave you alone.
That's what Allah says.
Oh, but you know, now I was thinking
I might lose him.
No problem, you could lose.
He's not the only guy on earth, but
for me he is.
Well, then you've got a problem.
See how we keep fighting with Allah.
He's not the only guy on earth.
He's not the only...
The minute you're married, yes, mashallah, you know
what?
I'm going to work on my spouse.
I'm going to invest time, my children, my
spouse.
That's important.
If you're married, invest a lot of time
with your children and your spouse.
Spoil them.
Invest words with them.
See the fruit that grows as a result
of how you talk.
Ah, mashallah, you're looking so good.
Imagine your own father's telling you that.
Your own mother's telling you that.
Ah, that's amazing.
Ah, you're the most gorgeous princess on earth.
And we mean it.
Those are our kids.
When we don't say it, what happens?
You didn't invest anything.
You didn't.
May Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala strengthen us.
My brothers, my sisters, the tests of Allah,
every day there are so many.
Mashallah, we pass a lot of them.
Don't underestimate how decent you are.
But don't let shaitan make you believe that
you're indecent or that you're a person who's
away from the mercy of Allah.
Because to be honest, Allah's mercy encompasses everyone
and everything.
That's the mercy of Allah.
So, these tests will keep coming.
And when they do come, we will pass
some, we will fail some.
If we fail some, it's not the end
of the world.
You're a human.
Repent.
Turn to Allah.
Allah will forgive you.
In fact, He will convert the bad into
good on the scales of the day of
judgment.
Because you changed your life for Him and
Him alone.
And the last thing I wanna say is,
a repetition of a little bit of what
I mentioned and that is, when something goes
wrong in your life, always try and look
at the positive of it.
Be patient.
Give it a bit of time.
You will come out of it.
Sometimes it's waters that you're feeling a little
bit perhaps wary to, you know, to tread,
to go through.
But you have to.
Sometimes you have to.
And Allah will open your doors.
Don't give up.
Never give up on Allah.
And don't blame Allah for your failures or
the failures of other human beings.
These are crimes committed against, against the instruction
of Allah.
And Allah Almighty has told us clearly that
I told you what's right, I told you
what's wrong.
I'm going to hold you fully responsible.
The day of judgment is actually in the
hereafter.
It's not in this world.
That's a whole day.
And you will never run away.
In this world, you know what was right,
you know what was wrong.
When you chose to do something wrong, you
make amends.
If you haven't made amends, you have Allah
to answer to.
And on that day, you better have your
books in order.
You better have your books in order.
I really feel for our brothers and sisters
in Palestine, in Lebanon, so many other countries
where they are struggling and suffering.
May Allah forgive our shortcomings.
May Allah help them, grant them victory.
May Allah grant them their land.
May Allah Almighty grant them what they are
struggling to achieve.
And these innocent people, may Allah make it
easy for their loved ones.
Little babies who are left with nobody besides
other humans they are not even probably closely
related to.
And I remember seeing a video of a
child carrying, a child carrying a little toddler,
a little infant, a baby.
Because those were the only two that survived
from the whole family.
And walking.
And being asked questions, where are you from,
where are you going?
Oh, I'm taking my, like an adult, like
they are an adult.
But only two, three years old.
And here we are complaining, what problems do
I have?
Nothing, nothing.
Compared to that, zero.
That's why Allah Almighty tells us, you want
to look, look at those who have less
than you, Wallahi, you will appreciate everything.
Reach out to as many as you can,
assist them for the pleasure of Allah and
see how Allah Almighty gives you.
You know, as I'm talking, one point came
to my mind.
When you give, Allah gives you.
When you teach, Allah Almighty grants you knowledge,
even more.
When you do something, the return from Allah
is a lot more.
You need to think about it, understand it,
believe it, live it, and you'll enjoy it.
May Allah Almighty use us to help one
another.
You want to be happy?
Guess how a believer becomes happy?
Wallahi, by making someone else happy.
It brings about joy in the heart of
a believer.
A lot of people are asked, what makes
you happy?
And a lot of the times people say,
when I make someone else happy.
Imagine, you made someone happy, you sat with
this person, you gave them something, you did
something for them, you said a good word,
they were so happy.
It brings joy to your heart that you
were used to bring about joy to someone
else's heart.
Allahu Akbar.
Isn't it amazing?
They're smiling because of you.
They're happy because of you.
What happened?
You automatically get the happiness.
The same applies to wealth.
You gave them, Allah gives you.
You want happiness?
Give happiness.
You want wealth?
Give the wealth.
And so on.
Allah bless you all.
أقول قولي هذا وصلى الله وسلم وبارك على
نبينا محمد والسلام عليكم ورحمة الله وبركاته