Mufti Menk – Why did my marriage end when Istikhara was positive

			Salam aleikum, my brothers and sisters istikhara is to seek the guidance of Allah in a matter, there
is a way of doing it, you actually have to read a certain supplication that is taught in the Hadith
of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam and the companions used to learn it as though they were
learning a verse of the Quran. In that we are saying, Oh Allah, you are the Knower of the unseen,
you know, we don't know, you know, the future, we don't know. And we're seeking from your guidance.
If this matter is good for me, then make it easy for me and grant me blessings in it and so on. And
if this matter is bad for me, then, you know, turn me away from it, turn it away from me, and then
		

			give me make me happy with your decree. That's basically what you're saying. You call out to Allah
in a specific way for the details. You might want to check how to do that. Actually, the DA and the
SDR. However, there is no mention ever of dreams as a response to an istikhara in Revelation. So
some people have suggested perhaps you get a dream, perhaps you might this, that's not from
Revelation, okay? from Revelation, read the meaning of that. And you will know exactly what you've
asked Allah, you told him, Oh Allah, if this is good for me make it easy for me. If this is bad for
me, block it from me. So when you've done the two hours, what's the response of your istikhara the
		

			response is on the ground, either things become easier, or certain signs show you that everything is
being facilitated, or things are being blocked and stopped and there is an obstacle and another one
and the third one, and so on. So if it is made easier, you told Allah that if it's good for me make
it easy for me, he's making it easier for you. And if it is not good for you, you told him if it's
not good for me, keep it away from me. He has kept it away from you. Why? Because you told him if
it's not good for me muy bien muy dunia, then keep it away from me. That's why my brothers and
sisters when Allah has blocked something after you desperately wanted it, and you've made an error,
		

			that is the response of your esta hora. Alright, it's the Hara is not actually revelation from the
heaven. And people may make mistakes in interpreting exactly what it is. So if you really feel
desperately for something you can try a few more times. But if you finding that it's really
difficult, I normally suggest set yourself a little deadline. And after that you can walk off and
you can continue with your life rather than stop your life forever simply because something you
wanted didn't come your way. You may want to try after some time, but don't stop your life for it.
If Allah has blocked it, he's blocked it now. My brothers and sisters remember istikhara is
		

			something that we should be doing. We should be asking Allah Oh Allah grant us if this is good for
us. People ask a question. How come I made this too hard? I got positive results. I got married. Now
I'm struggling with my marriage and we're divorcing. Okay? Why am I divorcing? When my istikhara was
positive? When I was getting married? My brother, my sister? Did you ever say in your draw out of
St. hora. Oh Allah, if this marriage is never going to break, then let it happen. You didn't say
that? Okay, you said Oh Allah do for me what's better for my Deen my dunya my asherah which means my
religion, my livelihood, my worldly life and my hereafter, if it's good for me in those things
		

			facilitated for me, if it's not blocked, but that should use it. So perhaps divorce was the best
thing for you for many reasons. Number one, maybe you were supposed to become a better person. And
maybe you were supposed to become closer to Allah. So it was better for your dunya it was better for
your deen. And perhaps you will later marry a much better person than the one whom you were divorced
from Subhan Allah, so you don't know it was better for you, Allah has never guaranteed that your
business will flourish. And if there is the Hara was positive, nor has he guaranteed that your
marriage will work. If the istikhara was positive. He's only telling you what you asked for. It's
		

			better for me, my religion, my life and my hereafter. That's the response of istikhara and that's
why sometimes we do an st Hara. And on top of that, we still suffer a loss because Allah knows that
was better for us. So let's not be confused on this one. People always try to lose, you know, focus
and they don't know what they've even said. That's why when you're calling out to Allah with a
supplication try and at least figure out what you're asking ALLAH and then you will understand the
way forward a hula Kohli hada was Salam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato.