Mufti Menk – We Have To Quit These Habits

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A woman describes her friend's behavior of drinking cigarettes and slamming people. She talks about wanting to get married to a guy who she trusts and promises to quit smoking cigarettes. She talks about wanting to quit smoking cigarettes and asks the friend to quit smoking cigarettes and work on her bad habits. She also talks about a woman who was expecting a child in her scan and asks for her to grant cure to sick and ill people.

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			There was a young lady who came up
		
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			to me and said, you know what I
		
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			want to get married to this guy, beautiful
		
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			guy. He reads 5 salah a day,
		
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			amazing character, everything is beautiful. The only thing
		
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			is he smokes cigarettes. I said, no it's
		
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			a screen, he probably does weed.
		
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			Ask him.
		
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			She said, no he doesn't. I trust him.
		
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			Okay. Ask him. So she comes back to
		
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			me sometime later and says, Guess what? He
		
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			does weed.
		
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			How did you get that out of him?
		
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			Well I told him, Listen.
		
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			Swear by Allah
		
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			and whatever else she told you. You know
		
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			people have their way of extracting the information.
		
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			Is it just a cigarette or do you
		
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			do weed?
		
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			Somehow it came out, Yes weed. He said,
		
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			Okay. You lied to me. So weed. But
		
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			it's only weed. Look everyone does it. All
		
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			these friends of mine, Oh I didn't know
		
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			the whole lot of them do it. So
		
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			now what are you gonna do? He says,
		
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			but I promise you by Allah I'm gonna
		
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			quit it.
		
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			So then she says, look I really love
		
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			this guy. It's a bit too late in
		
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			the day. You're not yet married but you've
		
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			already invested your emotions in something. Now you're
		
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			gonna justify it. I really love this guy
		
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			and he's promised me that he's gonna quit
		
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			it insha Allah. So I think we should
		
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			get this marriage done. I said, it's up
		
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			to you. But I personally,
		
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			I would say clean for 6 months then
		
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			we can talk.
		
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			Clean for 6 months then we can talk.
		
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			Not that I'm gonna get married to you
		
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			and thereafter you're gonna do it. Do it
		
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			now. Right now. And then I want to
		
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			talk. My beloved boys and girls,
		
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			we have to quit these habits because we're
		
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			gonna have children who gonna have worse habits.
		
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			And they're gonna have children who gonna have
		
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			ridiculous habits whom that that we probably wouldn't
		
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			imagine
		
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			even existed today.
		
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			There are things happening today I wouldn't have
		
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			imagined when I was a little bit younger
		
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			that would happen.
		
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			I promise you so absurd that I can't
		
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			even talk about it. And there are people
		
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			prodding them along to say no it's normal,
		
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			it's okay, it's natural, you're free.
		
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			Free. Wow.
		
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			Free means you're free to enter jahannam, isn't
		
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			it?
		
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			That's not how it should be. We should
		
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			be honest. Listen, this is a bad habit.
		
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			That's it. It's a terrible habit. Don't smoke.
		
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			Don't this. Don't And my brothers and sisters
		
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			perhaps they are from amongst you, those who
		
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			might be smoking a cigarette. Don't you know
		
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			it's a bad habit? You know it is.
		
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			Am I right?
		
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			At least one was honest enough to say
		
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			yes.
		
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			The others are quietly saying, oh no he's
		
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			starting to attack us. This is not what
		
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			I am here for this evening. Right? No
		
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			no no. I'm not attacking anyone. It's it's
		
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			love. That's what it is. We know it's
		
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			we know that we have bad habits. I
		
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			have some bad habits. Try to work on
		
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			them, inshallah.
		
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			But at the same time if you're not
		
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			going to be strong and quit these things
		
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			wallahi, it may result in your ultimate downfall.
		
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			The sister ended up getting married.
		
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			Turns out the brother was on much more
		
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			than weed.
		
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			And I don't mean tajweed. I'm talking about
		
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			talking about something hectic, man. SubhanAllah.
		
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			May Allah Almighty forgive us.
		
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			And then the heartbreak and then so on.
		
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			And then she was expecting already
		
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			and then something happened and then the child
		
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			in the scan the child had a hole
		
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			in the heart. May Allah grant cure to
		
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			everyone who is sick and ill in every
		
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			way. Anyone going through challenges.