Mufti Menk – Wanna be my friend?

			Salam Alaikum, Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh, my brothers, my sisters, when you have a friend, what
type of a friend? Do you have? You say these are my friends? Would you allow your friends to have
bad habits? Be it at the workplace or at home or with their friends or family, with their parents or
children or spouse or whoever it may be? Or with colleagues and not say anything? Would you allow
them to have bad habits? And not say anything? Or is it your duty to remind them that listen, the
way you speak to your spouse is unacceptable. Personally, I think we shouldn't allow someone to
qualify as being a friend of yours. If you don't have that relationship with them, where you can
		

			tell them and correct them. That's not a friend. If you cannot correct them, they cannot be a true
friend, if they feel bad, or if you don't have the courage to speak to them. And to tell them this
is wrong. And this is right. This is what I feel you need to correct especially when it comes to two
things, your character and conduct and your relationship with Allah. You cannot have a person who
doesn't bother about their relationship with Allah at all. Or they have no truthfulness, they have
no good habits, their foul mouth, and then they're your friend, your honor, Fullmer will be highly a
person is known by the type of friends he or she keeps, and therefore keep good friends. And when
		

			you have a circle of friends, Let them guide you. Let them tell you where you're going wrong. And
you should tell them where they're going wrong. If they have a bad habit, if they have an addiction,
if they have something that they're doing that is unacceptable. Remember, it's your duty. The reason
I say this, the Quran says I feel
		

			we are warmer, even more homely, but we now do one a little more pain.
		

			Bosom Buddies and best friends would be enemies on the Day of Judgment except those who had a good
relationship with Allah or the correct relationship with Allah or who had an sense of piety or God
consciousness. So there it goes, Are you from one of those if you are Alhamdulillah if your circle
is a good circle, you're a good person, if your circle is not good, is not made up of good people.
How can you call yourself a good person? So please remind your friends, they need to be of a certain
level in order to qualify as being your friend. May Allah guide us all, as salam aleikum wa
rahmatullah.