Pre Ramadan Jumu’ah Lecture from Gatesville Capetown South Africa.
Save Yourself Series Part Two
Mufti Menk – True Love
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The importance of showing love to others, not just building a relationship, is emphasized in the Bible. The speaker also discusses the negative impact of not being able to spend time with someone and the importance of showing love to others. The speakers stress the need to be mindful of one's words when others do the same and emphasize the value of showing love to others and not just building a relationship. The importance of dedication to one another and finding one's true love in the face of negative comments is also emphasized.
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Salam alaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakaatuh
Bismillah Ar Rahman AR Rahim al hamdu Lillahi Rabbil alameen wa Salatu was Salam ala
nabina Wahhabi Bina, Amina Mohammed Gibney, Abdullah, Allah Allah He was happy. What are between a woman who can be shining Eli ahmedinejad
or praise is indeed due to Allah subhanho wa Taala blessings and salutations upon Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, his household, his companions May Allah subhanahu wa taala bless them all. And may Allah subhanho wa Taala grant us every form of goodness, my beloved brothers and sisters in Islam. It brings joy to the heart to see the faces that are very soon going to be witnessing the most beautiful month of the Islamic calendar, the month that is not only filled with closeness to Allah subhanho wa Taala. But love, and that love is actually all encompassing.
Firstly, we need to understand and realize that the word love the term love is used and abused. How do we use it? And what do we make of it? When someone says I love you a lot of the time, they're probably not being honest.
Because it's the quickest and easiest and cheapest way to get into the hearts of people. So don't always believe when someone says with their mouths, I love you, because it's a verbal statement. If it does not come with that evidence to prove it, then you can discount it.
So when someone does not say he loves you, for example, or she loves you, but they've proven it beyond if they've proven it beyond the mere statement, you would know they love you without that utterance, and the utterance would only be a reassurance. Right? The utterance would only be a reassurance so if people were to say I love you, for example, and they have already proven it to you over time, then that is just a reassurance. May Allah subhanho wa Taala help us today I want to speak about true love. In actual fact, there is one true love
and it is the love of Allah subhanho wa Taala by extension, the love of Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam because if you do not love one, you would not be able to love the other. So a person who says I love Allah subhanho wa Taala that statement would include the love of Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wasallam because you could only love Allah subhanho wa Taala through your love of Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wasallam and this is why it is the only love whereby you are never let down. So many people are let down by those who claim to love them. You say I love you. She says I love you. They say I love you to one another and they are the first ones to let you down to cheat to actually
break your heart. This is why we say from the very beginning your heart and your mind are the two most powerful organs that you have never let anyone have full control over them besides Allah subhanho wa Taala the moment you've given someone your heart, they have the capacity to break it to destroy it to crush it into the last piece and you will know what has struck you. But when you give it to Allah subhanho wa Taala that can never happen he will only build it when it has been broken by others. Remember this so the true love is that of Allah subhanho wa Taala How do I show that love? How do I show that love to Allah, I have none other than Allah subhanho wa Taala telling me what to
do to show that love.
Now before I get to the verse of the Quran, let me explain to you how we operate as human beings. It's because of the environment we live in the culture that we have throughout the globe, and the norms that we've been following for a long, long time. What we do is, if we really love someone, and we claim to love them, we don't want to hurt them. Do you agree? If they were to tell us something, we would do it immediately we would go out of our way to make sure that they are happy. We would like to spend maximum time with them. If you love someone, you want to spend a lot of time with them. Even if they're irritated with you. You still want to spend more and more time with them
because you know that you know I love this person I want to prove something to them. If you cannot afford something you go out and work hard to earn in order to be able to come back and to give them what they like.
Even if they haven't asked for it. So panela you want to get fully beloved, the latest of this and the latest of that, and you want to make sure that they smile and they feel close to you Subhanallah
and you would never do something to hurt their feelings If you really love them. Well, let's now go to the verse where Allah subhana wa Taala speaks about the love of Allah. Would you ever hurt your beloved? The answer is no. Why then do we transgress against Allah?
Would we not like to spend time with the beloved, why then do we not like to spend time with Allah when it comes to tarawih? When it comes to the night prayer, when it comes to the recitation of the Quran, imagine if the person you love the most, gave you a book and told you this is my book, you would read it in one night, you'd make sure that you read the whole book The following day, you would tell them all the same night you would tell them Do you know what you've lived in this, you've written that I know this, I know that and you would like to know their likes and dislikes, you wouldn't like to feed them or to even offer them something they wouldn't like? Well, ah, when it
comes to Allah subhanho wa Taala, we are guilty of not applying rules that are even similar, although they should be far higher in the case of Allah subhanho wa Taala. So take a look, for example, at the Koran, how many of us read the book, yet we claim to love Allah subhanho wa Taala how many of us are agitated when the Imam takes two minutes too much, and we get upset how many of us get angry when the taraweeh is taking a little bit longer? How many of us when we are listening to a lecture that draws us closer to Allah subhanho wa Taala we don't want to hear about it because it's taking too long. How many of us when it comes to illicit relationships, we are prepared to
spend the whole night on the phone and on WhatsApp and video calling and so on and so forth, knowing that it's wrong in the eyes of Allah. But because we love someone, we don't mind spending the entire night with them. But when it comes to Allah, we don't even want to spend a portion of the night with him. And we keep saying I love you, Oh ALLAH and I love Allah and this is why we are crushed to pieces. Because we don't realize develop your relationship with Allah. Allah is the owner of the solution of the problems that you have. Allah is the owner of the hearts of those whom you may claim to love. Allah owns the heart, Allah will ensure that your heart is protected because guess what,
ultimately he has more control over your heart than you have over it yourself. Allahumma mckinleyville kulu kulu bana Allah de O Allah, O you who has the ownership of the turning of the hearts, turn our hearts towards your deen and not away from it. I mean, so my brothers and sisters here we have the love of Allah subhanho wa Taala Allah says to Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam,
only
to him Boone Allah.
say to them, if you claim to love Allah,
if you really love Allah subhanho wa Taala then follow me and Allah will love you and He will forgive your sins For indeed he is most forgiving, Most Merciful. It's amazing how the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam is informing us what Allah wants from us. If we claim to love him, Allah says you love me, okay. This is the messenger I chose. I chose him as the best of creation. I chose him as the most noble of all prophets. I chose him as the nubby who will be the final with the highest status and I chose that you be in his time in his era. So if you are to adopt what he says and if you are to follow Him, then Allah will love you in return. And as a result of that love, he
will forgive you for entities most forgiving, Most Merciful. When you love someone and they love you. You made a mistake. You did something wrong. And you say I'm sorry, please forgive me out of love. They'll say no problem. Don't even mention it. Agree. No problem. It's okay. Carry on. Don't worry, forgiven, forgotten
because of love. Another thing if you love someone, say for example, they have a child and you love them and you want to marry them. What happens to that child? Would you say Listen, I love you but not your child. They would tell you well that means you don't love me enough isn't it? You love me you love whatever comes with me by extension Subhanallah otherwise that love is not true. Otherwise it is a limited love.
yes sometimes I do know that you do have people's children who make life difficult for the spouses that they may have chosen after divorce, etc. But that is an exceptional case. May Allah subhanho wa Taala grant us forgiveness. Imagine with Allah subhanho wa Taala he is telling you love me, you've got to love what I love.
You love me. You claim to love me, you've got to love everything that I have given value to an importance starting with Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wasallam you can never ever claim to love Allah subhanho wa Taala when you haven't loved what Allah chose to be beloved to him, and will Allah chose as the best of creation, the most noble of all messengers, Subhana Allah. Now if you do not know how much Allahu alayhi wa sallam, there are certain things you will need to do when you hear his name, you should not be ashamed to utter sallallahu alayhi wa sallam,
because we are taught that when you say sallallahu alayhi wa sallam the reward that goes to you who is saying it is 10 times more than the value of the statement Subhan Allah that is what Muhammad Sallallahu Sallam says monks Allah, Allah.
Allah Allah, Allah alayhi wa ashra whoever sends blessings and salutations upon me once Allah blesses them 10 times in return 10 times. So if I want to bless myself, What do I do? I need to have an intention that I'm sending blessings and salutations upon Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and I need to do it as often as I can. On a Friday, the one who sends the maximum number of blessings wins the competition. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam says he who sends the greatest blessings and salutations upon me is more deserving of my Shahada, my intercession on the Day of Judgment Subhana Allah, you want the companionship of Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam
learn to send blessings and salutations upon Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, but my brothers and sisters, there is a statement that comes with it. When we say blessings and salutations upon Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, it stems from the belief in the heart that he is the best of creation, the most noble of all messengers, so he is our messenger, we will try our best to adopt everything he has said. Imagine you keep telling someone you love them, and you keep going against what they like, and what they have taught. They will come a time when they would say hey, listen, you know what, you're a hypocrite man. You saying you love me? You love me all the time. What are
you doing with this person and that person and what are you doing doing something that will harm me hurt me, you know, this thing makes me cry. You know, it breaks my heart to see you do X, Y and Zed and you keep on doing it every day and your password is I love you. May Allah forgive us. It's a password that is used. I see some of the youngsters are laughing they know exactly what I'm talking about. I love you. And they keep on a little while later they do something nasty, and have you come back, hang on, there's a limit to it sometimes, especially with human beings with Allah subhanho wa Taala. For as long as you are alive, there is hope. For as long as you are alive. There is a time to
change. Allah gives us beautiful opportunities. Allah gives us a lovely occasions that are filled with greatness. That is different from certain days. For example, there is a season where the blessings are multiplied like the season of Ramadan. There are nights when the chances of you being accepted are greater, such as the night of Laila to Qatar. There are there are seasons like the 10 days of the angel where good deeds are more loved by Allah subhanho wa Taala than outside of that season. Why does Allah do this for us? It's such a big favor. It's for us to go ahead and make use of it. Imagine every day you go to the store, wholesale and everyday you're purchasing what you need
for the week, or should I say for that day, or whatever you'd like to purchase from that particular store. And one day you see and this happens with every store almost every store, unless a person is really you know, miserly, what happens they will have a say they will have a discount, they will have a promotion. What for to encourage you to buy to encourage you to stock up a little bit to encourage you to make use of it. Look at the airlines there are tickets going across the globe. Sometimes you have a sale and they sell you tickets for one Grand 200 grands 500 rounds. Where are we flying? We are flying anywhere in the world for so much. They have these flash sales in order for
you to make use of if you are interested in that we're lucky as muslimeen We are all interested in general for those Do you agree? We want general we want paradise. There are flash sales that keep coming and unless you want my love here, this is an opportunity come close Subhan Allah whoever walks close to Allah Allah comes to him rushing. It's amazing.
This is why Allah has given us a beautiful day every week, which is different from the rest of the days of the week. What is it known as a Friday? Agree if a Friday does not soften you, how can you claim this link with Allah subhanho wa Taala my brothers and sisters good news to those who come early on a Friday to the masjid and who sit because the connection with a dua is a connection with Allah. Why? Because Allah gave the Juma its value and you gave the Juma. It's the value that Allah gave it. It's your connection with Allah.
This is love. You love what Allah loves. When Allah created love Subhana Allah he created a portion of it that descended 99 portions of that mercy, mercy in actual fact, he kept with him for the Day of Judgment Subhana Allah. And this is why when Allah subhanho wa Taala speaks of the truest of love, he gives us the example to the blessing lips of Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam of a mother and he says, Do you see Muhammad Sallallahu Sallam says, Do you see this mother ever casting this baby that she is suckling into the fire? And the Sahaba said no.
So he says, Do you know that Allah subhanho wa Taala loves you way beyond the love that this mother has for this child? Every one of us is loved by Allah subhanho wa Taala so loved that it is more than the love of a mother for the child. Why that example? Because that is the truest love on earth between human beings. The mother's love Subhanallah I know there are exceptions. I know there are some mothers May Allah subhanho wa Taala grant us all forgiveness. I know some have dumped their children, some have abandoned them. Some have done so many things, but that is human nature sometimes and the weakness way shape man comes to entrap us, my brothers and sisters never lose hope
in the mercy of Allah. You can always go back, people may not forgive you, but trust me, Allah subhanho wa Taala in the sins committed between you and him, he will forgive you no matter what. That's the love of Allah. And this is why when Allah speaks about the Sahaba Do you know what he says about the Allah?
radi Allahu Allahu Allah has become pleased with them, and they are pleased with Allah. Now this pleasure includes love. Because Allah cannot be pleased with you, if he doesn't love you. Subhana Allah, so that goes to show the true love includes to be pleased, you're unhappy with Allah and Allah is happy with me. And Allah says as a result of that pleasure, we have prepared paradise for them, may Allah granted to us. So my aim and your aim is gentlemen, fair dose. Allah chose a messenger to come to us to teach us what is required of us in order to get closer to Allah. So therefore engage in that which the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam has taught.
When you consider the month of Ramadan sacred, it's a sign of the love of Allah.
And it's a sign that you love a lot.
Don't we get excited that Ramadan is coming? Mashallah, this evening, perhaps the chances are great that this evening the moon will be sited, inshallah,
and just between the siting of the moon and the beginning of the taraweeh is such a massive transformation, that the entire environment changes in that one hour and few minutes. Everything changes. It's a transformation given from Allah Do you want to know why? It's the love of Allah that is manifest that comes out loud and clear. Those who are glochids they promise I'm not going to drink. So Allah says, I'm going to transform the environment for you. I'm going to give you a bit of feeling those committing adultery, they promise a love, no more adultery. So what happens Allah says, You know, I am the owner of sustenance, what you eat during this month, because you are so
close to me, I'm going to ensure that it tastes different, you will value savories that you put into your mouth
Subhan Allah, why do you value them? Because you promised Allah not to commit sin now you've become closer to Allah, that samosa is the same one. But guess what? It tasted so beautiful.
The reason is, I'm now close to the owner of sustenance. Subhan Allah, the Baraka that is in the food is way beyond our comprehension. And this is why some people gain weight in Ramadan
because they think that now that I've abstain from food through the day, the Cabal starts at night just like we need 20 of Salah we've got to go in and 20 kilos of food. No, that's not how it works. My brothers and sisters
Remember, it is a, it is the month of love.
The love of Allah is true and it is shown actually you it is made manifest. When you respect the rest of the creatures of the same Allah.
It is made manifest, when you look at others do not be filled with hatred. It is a disease and the sickness, if someone is doing something bad, you dislike the deed. But as for the individual, they are your brothers and sisters in humanity. Remember this, they are your brothers and sisters in faith, they share with you the Shahada, they may be involved in sin, they may be difference of opinion, but that does not make you hate the individual. Rather, you keep on having hope that this person will quit the sin you keep on trying in the most beautiful way you fulfill their rights as Muslims. And you need to ensure that your heart is filled with a good feeling when you see others,
my brothers and sisters I want to spend the moment explaining the term love for the sake of Allah.
People abused the term you know, you look at a girl for example stuff that's happening online a lot where they say, Wow, Sister, I love you. And then you're like worried how's the reaction going to be so you quickly say for the pleasure of Allah.
And you didn't say for my own pleasure as well.
You quickly add for the pleasure of Allah on the statement in order to highlight allies if I can coin that term, in order to highlight the statement you just added for the pleasure of Allah Subhana Allah says, I love you for the pleasure of Allah By the way, because you know, you're in Mecca, I've got the beard, you know, that's what it suits you know, May Allah forgive us? I tell you, the pleasure of Allah, what does it mean? When you see anyone doing anything for the sake of Allah, it should ignite in your heart, a love for them because they are trying to please Allah, that's love for the sake of Allah.
If I enter the masjid, I need to look for the most common factors between myself and everybody else. So as I walk in, I see someone reading Salah, and he's eating long Salah in the corner. If I'm an evil person, I'm going to think look at that uncle. He's a chef, this is a real witch she can occur or she can ask her and this means it's very bad uncle, stop reading long salad going long into such that because you just show you off. That's a negative person. That's a person who's in the clutches of the devil and shaken by the true movement. You see someone reading Salah, and you you greet them with such importance because to you, they are a VIP of Allah.
They are trying their best to end the pleasure of Allah, you see a sister in an age where it is so difficult to even cover the hair and she's covered it properly and she's wearing Hijab and you know that she faces challenging comments from society and community and you just for the pleasure of Allah there is a love in your heart you say May Allah make it easy a DA comes from the heart for those whom you may never communicate with just by seeing them while you're driving. And you see Mashallah look at this family so panela all my brothers and sisters they are Muslim and Muslim and Masha Allah Allah protect them yeah Allah make it easy for them yeah Allah sustain them. Yeah, Allah
give them gentle dose. And they don't even know you said that. That is love for the sake of Allah. That is love for the sake of Allah. When you walk into the masjid and you start hating the people who are eating Salah, just because they raise their hands a little bit more or they don't, that is a clutch of the devil that has actually gotten hold of you. But you need to enter the masjid and ensure that all those who are here, yeah Allah we share in common the Shahada, all of us bear witness that you alone, I wish you all of us bear witness that Muhammad Sallallahu Sallam peace of
mind ambia Mussolini sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, therefore we love each other for the sake of Allah. In this way. You are true, you are genuine today. It's become material. When you gain something from someone either to quench your lusts and desires or something material to be able to get from them so that you can live a more luxurious life. That's when you start saying that I love us. But the true I love you is when you're not gaining anything from a person. It's a feeling within the heart of genuineness towards the poorest person who might even be begging on the streets. And I'm not encouraging begging. But I'm just giving you an example that even the poorest of the poor,
the darkest of the dark and you love them for the sake of Allah you give them importance to say you know what this person is trying to end the pleasure of Allah.
Today, a face looks pretty and the first thing that comes to your tongue is I love you. You don't love me. No you don't. You know why? True Love has nothing to do with what you look like my brothers and sisters. True
Love, even if someone is out of shape, according to us, and even if they are, for example, not that grand looking at the whole world turns around to give them a second and a third look, we still love them because of their dedication, their sacrifice. This is why I call on every one of us you know, when you get married, Mashallah, you're excited because there's a honeymoon and so on.
And everyone's married and everyone's SO HAPPY NEW, you know, as you grow older, and you have children, and you have the middle age spread, Mashallah. And the love handles become loved pouches and so on. You know what happens.
If you can still feel the love due to the dedication to one another, and to your result and children, then you are a true human being.
When you are a true moment, you feel the love, this is my spouse, I love my spouse, look at what sacrifice she has gone through all he has gone through going out in the morning coming back just to serve us smiling at us. And yet there are so many other in inverted commas, prettier people, but we are dedicated. Yes, we love everyone as human beings. We love the muslimeen with a special form of love. But there is a different type of love between spouses and family members, your parents and your children. That love is from Allah, Allah connected you in some way. Remember, if you do not learn to love correctly, then you will shatter your heart in that which you think is love. But it's
not love.
So what happens, you've been married for so many years. And suddenly, you take a look at something pretty. And your entire life is destroyed. Because you didn't know how to dedicate that love in the right channel. You didn't know what true love was, I've known. And I'm sure we all know of so many examples of people who've shattered their lives and the lives of their children simply because they didn't know how to appreciate what Allah placed in their lives. How long are you going to live for? How long am I going to live for I don't even know if I'm going to see tonight. But what I do know is the pleasure of Allah subhanho wa Taala the way he has taught me to love I need to be dedicated in
it and true in that love.
You love your mother, don't you? Yes I do.
Would it make a difference? If she looked this way? Or that way? or fat or not fat or dark? Or not dark? Or tall? or short? Would it make a difference? No. Why? Because that's my mother. What the same should apply to the mother of your children Subhanallah I'm not saying waste yourself and justify it by saying move to Maine said so no.
Take care of yourself. But remember, to make people feel appreciated is a great act of worship that only a few have mastered. Remember that to make people feel appreciated is one of the biggest gifts you can give each other in your social circles and relationships. Starting with your family members, many of us our own children, they get hooked on to bad habits because we've never shown love and affection and appreciation to them. today. We have to repeat the words I love you. I love you. I hope we mean them. But we have to repeat them whose rosary sometimes to make sure that they've it's been uttered enough times for them to be reassured.
Because, you know, I love you Don't you? Do you love me back? Wow, these are the type of statements people are to these days and they need to be uttered because people are weak, the hearts have become weak. Remember, ultimately we tend to Allah subhanho wa Taala
ultimately, it is the love of Allah that will save us from the calamities of the dunya and akhira. So when you fulfill your Salah, it should stem from love, not from just fulfilling something. Look, I give you another example. If I come here for Salah, like this evening Salatu turabian I have a problem. Okay, I have a problem, what is the problem? One hand I have
the the people who are Mussolini's who are here Subhana Allah, and I wouldn't like to delay because I know everyone has their, you know, timing and everyone has responsibilities and everyone has so many things to do and so on. But on the other hand, I have something important I know of a hadith where the Prophet sallallahu wasallam says on the Day of Judgment, the people of the Quran will be asked to read in the same way they used to read in the dunya in the world. So if I am going to rush through my tarawih there is a problem because in front of Allah I'm only going to be able to read the way I read when I was given an opportunity on Earth. So do I rush to please the people or do IV
m a country to please Allah so that when I'm on the day of judgment in front of Allah, I'm not embarrassed to say I can't read in any other way what the key word till comma
bluefin tuna. The Hadith says keep on going up and only recite the way you used to recite on Earth. Wow, I'm stuck. So this is why Allah subhanho wa Taala teaches us to create a balance you read in the, in the pace that is beautiful. Of late, I've been watching a lot of clips of tarawih online. And one thing that has amazed me is the pace has slowed down throughout the globe. Because people have now realized, you know what, we gather everything but we don't get the reward in the month of Ramadan, enough for us to actually earn the pleasure of Allah, we are on edge. When you love Allah, you don't care what time it takes, just like your stones will last for a long, very low example but
that of your girlfriend, you don't care what time of the day it is, you don't care how long she talks to you for because why?
Come on the cherry on the cake. Subhana Allah, Allah, May Allah forgive us, Allah,
something haram and unacceptable we ready to spend the whole night with Allah and something. I can't even say something about the deity who made you you're not prepared to spend another 20 minutes with Allah. And I've marked the massagin across the globe, not just here, where the slower they are, the less Mussolini's they are. So Panama, I think maybe we sift through those who are deserving and those who are not, it's your opportunity. This year we're going to make it with a difference is shallow.
Turn from now we're going to go to the machine with the slowest recitation.
I didn't mean for that.
I didn't mean plan from now we're going to go to a machine where the recitation is eloquent and beautiful. Okay, we can say amen to that.
Don't forget these words.
And I know mosquito cuts they've all heard what has happened inshallah. So if we're a little bit slower United for the sake of Allah subhanho wa Taala.
My brothers and sisters, we want the love of Allah, we really on the Day of Judgment, we want to be the closest to Allah subhanho wa Taala. And by default, if that is the case, we will be the closest to Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. So indeed My beloved brothers and sisters, you know, I have a lot to say, but as I always say, I still have a whole month to say what I want to say. So inshallah I hope to be seeing you my brothers and sisters every single night. Perhaps starting from tonight inshallah, it seems like if we were to see the moon, then tonight we will commence May Allah subhanho wa Taala. Grant us mutual love. And may this love be a means of entry into Jenna? May this
love really be a means of closeness for all of us in this dunya as well as in the best of places in the Acura de como lo que la wa sallahu wa salam ala nabina