Mufti Menk – Tips For Self Development
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The speaker advises the audience to be genuine and not discount their correction. They also suggest that people may be more aggressive towards their served colleagues than their own. The speaker emphasizes the importance of being mindful of people who may be beggars and not just rebuking them.
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To be genuine towards the people you serve.
Be genuine. Be kind. There might be some
who will speak to you a little bit
rough. No problem. You're in a position of
authority.
You can excuse their roughness, but what are
they saying?
The other day I mentioned how I was
trained
to correct yourself when someone corrects you and
they are right about what you are what
they have said.
Even if the manner of their correction was
unacceptable.
Someone swears you and screams at you and
calls you all those names we were talking
about. And then they said, this is what's
wrong in you.
Excuse all of that. But look what they
said. Is it correct what they have actually
uttered? If yes, just change yourself.
Don't worry. You won't regret that much.
Excuse their rant.
That was them that spoke more about them.
But in the interim they highlighted something beautiful
for you to look into. Look into it.
Don't discount it simply because of the way
it was pocked at you. No.
My beloved brothers, my sisters,
being genuine towards those whom you are serving
is to put yourself into their shoes
and to think about their issues and their
problems in whatever
department
of government you may be in. There will
be people who might pester you. There will
be people who might be a nag. And
on the other hand, they might be people
who are your friends.
Remember the favoritism
and all the isms that come in. Be
mindful of it. Be mindful.
It is correct that when you know someone
closer, you tend to trust them a little
bit more. What they may have said to
you might hold greater value because you know
them. That's human and that is acceptable to
a degree.
Sometimes you say, can you write me a
reference? And the person writes you a reference
from whom? Someone I know. Someone responsible. That
doesn't mean you did something wrong. You were
only trying to confirm it because you needed
someone you already trusted. But that doesn't mean
those who don't come with it are not
really trustworthy or that they are lying.
You probably have to go one more level
to verify that.
That having been said, don't just rebuke people.
A beautiful verse of the Quran in Surat
adduha. I'm sure most of us know it
off by heart.
It says,
As for the beggar,
as for the beggar, when someone comes to
beg from you,
Allah says, la tanhar. La tanhar means do
not rebuke.
Do not belittle.
If you think of that verse,
it is just divine because
the Almighty could have told you the beggar,
give or don't give.
Right? If someone says, what should I do
when a beggar asks? What do you expect
as a response? Give him. If you have
something little, just give him, you know, put
something in his hand. Or they might say,
don't give. You are encouraging, begging, etcetera, etcetera.
These are the answers. The Almighty came up
with none of those 2.
Because that decision, he left it to you
and I. But he said, no matter what
you do, be careful. Don't belittle this man.