Mufti Menk – The Secret to a Successful Marriage

			Now, one of the things where people go wrong is in marriage when the marriage is struggling.
Remember, marriage is a very big sacrifice. If you are going to sacrifice, you will be happy. If
not, it will become a crisis. So if you want to protect yourself from the crisis within marriage,
learn to trust one another and don't give reason for your spouse not to trust you. So while we're
teaching you to trust one another, we're telling you don't give reason for the other, not to trust
you. So this is a very balanced statement, we must make sure we don't pry and spy on each other
because the Almighty is warned us about that. Similarly, speak good with each other, help each
		

			other, reach out to each other, don't put pressure or don't actually ask one another to do that,
which is going to be difficult, very difficult, because then it might create a crack in that
marriage. But the Almighty says, You know what?
		

			As much as it's a sacrifice, we want you to love each other. We want you to have children together
and to bring those children up. In my obedience, the Almighty says, that's the whole name. It's not
about having children and having more children, and you don't even look after them and you're not
even bothered. That defeats the whole purpose. But if you have children and you look after them, and
you give them a good upbringing, then you will be from among those who's protected from crisis. Many
people have children and the children are the reason that they're upset and in crisis, the children
sometimes are the source of their hardship. May Allah subhanho wa Taala not let that happen to us.