Mufti Menk – The Right Way To Divorce

Mufti Menk
AI: Summary © In a conversation between a speaker and a guest, the speaker discusses the importance of divorce in Surah Al Baqissab and how it can lead to a return to comfort. The speaker advises the guest to not let anyone get married to another person because they will get along with someone else and may become upset. The speaker also warns the guest not to hold them back in a way that they are not fulfilling their obligations.
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So my beloved brothers and sisters, Allah speaks

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about divorce

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in Surah Al Baqarah and Allah

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says, well, there is a way of divorcing.

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You divorce once.

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Thereafter, you may reconcile. Wow. Imagine what type

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of comfort. It's the only teaching

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across the globe throughout all religions that if

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you were to divorce, the Almighty says, well,

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you can reconcile. Come back. You may. You

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might have realized something and you want to

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come back. So Allah says,

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and if

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he had divorced her. There is no harm

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if both of them would like to get

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back to each other together. That's the first

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divorce.

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So Allah says, well, if you feel you

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made a mistake and you shouldn't have divorced,

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come back, come back together. Look at the

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comfort Allah is giving you in times of

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crisis. It was a crisis. You made a

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mistake. You divorced someone. Allah says, hang on.

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We have comfort for you. What's the comfort?

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Get back together.

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But remember when you divorce, do it the

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proper way. Learn how to issue the divorce.

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May Allah make it easy for us. Some

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people do the wrong thing, then they scream

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for help when they cannot be helped because

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they were foolish in the 1st place.

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But Allah says, don't worry, we will help

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you. You do it the right way. We

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allow you to get back together. Not once,

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but twice.

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Two times you can get back together. So

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if you made a mistake and divorced first

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time,

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come back.

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If you divorced a second time, you had

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a change of heart, something happened which was

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positive. You felt perhaps you wanted to get

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back or you thought you made a mistake.

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Allah says you can get back a second

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time. SubhanAllah,

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look at the power of Allah. Look at

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the comfort He's given us. Amazing.

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And this is in Surat Al Baqarah

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verse number

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230. Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala tells us in

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a beautiful way. Then Allah says, if you

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divorced your spouse,

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don't become upset when they want to marry

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someone else. Make it easy for them. Let

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them let them go.

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Sometimes a person divorces and when they hear

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that their ex wants to get married, they

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start putting a spoke in the wheels and

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a spanner in the works, and they contact

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the new,

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supposed spouse and begin to spread rumor and

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say hurtful and hateful things. Allah says, do

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not do that. You want comfort in your

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life? Let others live comfortably.

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It's okay. You didn't get along. They will

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get along with someone else. That's what Allah

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says. So he warns us. He says, don't

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hold them back.

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Don't hold a woman back in a way

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that she's neither married to you because you're

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not fulfilling her rights nor is she divorced

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because you haven't issued the divorce so she

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cannot go to someone else. Either fulfill her

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rights properly or release her respectfully.

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That is how you will achieve comfort. Otherwise,

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you will be in the biggest crisis. May

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Allah

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protect us from crisis.

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