Mufti Menk – The Right Way To Divorce

So my beloved brothers and sisters, Allah speaks

about divorce

in Surah Al Baqarah and Allah

says, well, there is a way of divorcing.

You divorce once.

Thereafter, you may reconcile. Wow. Imagine what type

of comfort. It's the only teaching

across the globe throughout all religions that if

you were to divorce, the Almighty says, well,

you can reconcile. Come back. You may. You

might have realized something and you want to

come back. So Allah says,

and if

he had divorced her. There is no harm

if both of them would like to get

back to each other together. That's the first

divorce.

So Allah says, well, if you feel you

made a mistake and you shouldn't have divorced,

come back, come back together. Look at the

comfort Allah is giving you in times of

crisis. It was a crisis. You made a

mistake. You divorced someone. Allah says, hang on.

We have comfort for you. What's the comfort?

Get back together.

But remember when you divorce, do it the

proper way. Learn how to issue the divorce.

May Allah make it easy for us. Some

people do the wrong thing, then they scream

for help when they cannot be helped because

they were foolish in the 1st place.

But Allah says, don't worry, we will help

you. You do it the right way. We

allow you to get back together. Not once,

but twice.

Two times you can get back together. So

if you made a mistake and divorced first

time,

come back.

If you divorced a second time, you had

a change of heart, something happened which was

positive. You felt perhaps you wanted to get

back or you thought you made a mistake.

Allah says you can get back a second

time. SubhanAllah,

look at the power of Allah. Look at

the comfort He's given us. Amazing.

And this is in Surat Al Baqarah

verse number

230. Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala tells us in

a beautiful way. Then Allah says, if you

divorced your spouse,

don't become upset when they want to marry

someone else. Make it easy for them. Let

them let them go.

Sometimes a person divorces and when they hear

that their ex wants to get married, they

start putting a spoke in the wheels and

a spanner in the works, and they contact

the new,

supposed spouse and begin to spread rumor and

say hurtful and hateful things. Allah says, do

not do that. You want comfort in your

life? Let others live comfortably.

It's okay. You didn't get along. They will

get along with someone else. That's what Allah

says. So he warns us. He says, don't

hold them back.

Don't hold a woman back in a way

that she's neither married to you because you're

not fulfilling her rights nor is she divorced

because you haven't issued the divorce so she

cannot go to someone else. Either fulfill her

rights properly or release her respectfully.

That is how you will achieve comfort. Otherwise,

you will be in the biggest crisis. May

Allah

protect us from crisis.