Mufti Menk – The Right Way To Divorce
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In a conversation between a speaker and a guest, the speaker discusses the importance of divorce in Surah Al Baqissab and how it can lead to a return to comfort. The speaker advises the guest to not let anyone get married to another person because they will get along with someone else and may become upset. The speaker also warns the guest not to hold them back in a way that they are not fulfilling their obligations.
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So my beloved brothers and sisters, Allah speaks
about divorce
in Surah Al Baqarah and Allah
says, well, there is a way of divorcing.
You divorce once.
Thereafter, you may reconcile. Wow. Imagine what type
of comfort. It's the only teaching
across the globe throughout all religions that if
you were to divorce, the Almighty says, well,
you can reconcile. Come back. You may. You
might have realized something and you want to
come back. So Allah says,
and if
he had divorced her. There is no harm
if both of them would like to get
back to each other together. That's the first
divorce.
So Allah says, well, if you feel you
made a mistake and you shouldn't have divorced,
come back, come back together. Look at the
comfort Allah is giving you in times of
crisis. It was a crisis. You made a
mistake. You divorced someone. Allah says, hang on.
We have comfort for you. What's the comfort?
Get back together.
But remember when you divorce, do it the
proper way. Learn how to issue the divorce.
May Allah make it easy for us. Some
people do the wrong thing, then they scream
for help when they cannot be helped because
they were foolish in the 1st place.
But Allah says, don't worry, we will help
you. You do it the right way. We
allow you to get back together. Not once,
but twice.
Two times you can get back together. So
if you made a mistake and divorced first
time,
come back.
If you divorced a second time, you had
a change of heart, something happened which was
positive. You felt perhaps you wanted to get
back or you thought you made a mistake.
Allah says you can get back a second
time. SubhanAllah,
look at the power of Allah. Look at
the comfort He's given us. Amazing.
And this is in Surat Al Baqarah
verse number
230. Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala tells us in
a beautiful way. Then Allah says, if you
divorced your spouse,
don't become upset when they want to marry
someone else. Make it easy for them. Let
them let them go.
Sometimes a person divorces and when they hear
that their ex wants to get married, they
start putting a spoke in the wheels and
a spanner in the works, and they contact
the new,
supposed spouse and begin to spread rumor and
say hurtful and hateful things. Allah says, do
not do that. You want comfort in your
life? Let others live comfortably.
It's okay. You didn't get along. They will
get along with someone else. That's what Allah
says. So he warns us. He says, don't
hold them back.
Don't hold a woman back in a way
that she's neither married to you because you're
not fulfilling her rights nor is she divorced
because you haven't issued the divorce so she
cannot go to someone else. Either fulfill her
rights properly or release her respectfully.
That is how you will achieve comfort. Otherwise,
you will be in the biggest crisis. May
Allah
protect us from crisis.