Mufti Menk – Rejecting a woman because she doesn’t earn enough

			Salam Alaikum, this one is going to be very interesting. So I delivered a short talk about how we
should not reject a proposal that comes for our child, from a guy from a person from a boy or a man
who perhaps might not be so wealthy. And maybe he might not be earning so much. But if he's
responsible, and he has Dean and Aflac, he has a good level of connection with Allah and he has a
good character and conduct and the two the boy and the girl wanted to happen. Let it happen. I
received an email from a sister telling me, you've been unfair to single sisters who are rejected
simply because they don't have jobs.
		

			It took me a moment to understand it. But that was so correct. There are people who reject a girl
who is being looked at for marriage purposes. When her Deen is good, her character is good. She
comes from a decent family simply because she doesn't have a degree or she doesn't earn that much,
because they want the earnings or they want a 5050 setup, or they want some form of material gain
from this particular system. What does Islam say about that? Well, you're totally wrong, you're
actually making a wrong decision, you're * it on something wrong. So panela. And I do know
that life is a struggle in many countries. But that doesn't mean you reject a brilliant person,
		

			simply because, oh, what amount of money are they going to bring into this home? La hawla wala
quwata illa Billah. When in Islam, a male is supposed to be the breadwinner. And I do know that yes,
a lot of women have to work and they help out Mashallah, all that is a bonus. But to make your mind
up, and or should I say to reject a brilliant person, simply because they may not have that
university degree or that qualification or that type of a job that brings about money that you feel
your child or your son needs in the home or you need in the home. So hang on, I have the table's
turned. So this is something that I felt I would just mention that I agree with the sister who sent
		

			me an email and told me I think you've been unfair because this is going on? Yes, it is. I've known
of so many cases of people who've rejected girls whom their sons were looking at, or perhaps the,
you know, a discussion pursued about a marriage between them, and they were really good. And
ultimately, the decision was, well, you know, she doesn't really have a job. She doesn't really have
a qualification. She doesn't earn that much what's going to happen, we're going to struggle and wow.
		

			If we follow the law and his Rasulullah, sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, we would have perhaps looked
at it from a totally different perspective. May Allah grant us happiness, may we marry those who
will be brilliant parents to the children that they will be having, by the will of Allah. A great
man, is he going to be a good father for your kids? Yes. Mashallah. That will make a good husband?
Is he going to be a good mother for your children? Yes, Mashallah. That's going to make a brilliant
wife, inshallah. And you look at the deen and the character, you also look at the family and so on.
And yes, indeed, if a person is uneducated, to the degree that they don't understand how to speak
		

			and what to do and what not to do and you're highly educated. There may be a discrepancy in
communication, you look at that, but money Subhan Allah just because they are not earning, aren't we
supposed to be the breadwinners? Aren't we supposed to be the ones who come in with that, that
protection and so on? And yes, it goes two ways. I do agree but definitely the teachings of the
professor center. You need to know what they are. And he told us, he guided us he told us what to
look at and what not to look at. Allah be pleased with all of us and may we be rightly guided, may
we be happy in our marriages aku lowpoly hada was Salam aleikum wa rahmatullah