Refining our Character

Mufti Menk

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Fragrance that Lingers Tour of Kenya
Bomas Nairobi Day Two

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Salam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato.

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inshallah I will commence with the recitation of the Quran connected to this topic inshallah

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Amina Shyvana Raji Bismillah Al Rahman Irani ye bye bad.

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Levine I am

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worried

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want

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to be him soon

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Bama

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Museo de feu Allah Miyako to

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La Isla

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was wanna go to Luna

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levena co Big O beam lamea hemo lamea de

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la Vina poo no Bana Bella I mean as Gina was would be Dina

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zona phetchaburi ma Sabo wallula kkona v.

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smilla hamdulillah salat wa salam ala rasulillah while he was happy, we praise Allah subhanho wa Taala a complete praise. We thank him for everything that he has bestowed upon us. We send blessings and salutations upon Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, we send blessings and salutations upon all the messengers who came before him as well. From the very beginning, those whom Allah had chosen, in order to deliver the message to mankind from him, we send blessings and salutations upon all of them. This would include from the very beginning, the great forefather of ours, Adam and his Salatu was Salam going all the way down, Abraham Ibrahim May peace be upon him, smile May peace be

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upon him his heart may peace be upon him, Musa alayhis salam Jesus made peace be upon him. And all of those who were sent by Allah subhanho wa Taala including Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wasallam all his companions his entire household May Allah bless

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them all. And may He bless every single one of us, I mean, and our offspring to come up to the day of the AMA, may Allah bless them all say, I mean, that is a drug that may Allah bless you with a good spouse Alhamdulillah because if you are going to say I mean May Allah bless you with the best of offspring, you first have to get a husband Alhamdulillah and then you have to get inshallah, perhaps for those who are males, you have to get a wife and then you have to have children. So it's a very powerful to

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me, Allah subhanho wa Taala bless you all, my brothers and sisters, you and I know that the theme of this tour is fragrance that lingers. The idea is to leave behind something that smells good, something that will change our lives in a positive way. That's the idea. We don't want to come and go in a way that everyone says it was good, it was nice, but they have taken nothing from it. They haven't benefited in any way to start with. I want to remind you, I read the verses of the Quran in front of you Why?

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Why did I read these verses? Because this is a book of history that has no relevance in it. No,

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it is not a book of history that has no relevance in it. I know that some people perhaps have misquoted myself, as well as saying oh well the Quran is a book of history. I

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mean Dalek. May Allah safeguard us from that type of statement. The Quran is the word of Allah, it is valid olatuja Messiah right up to the end of time, the book will remain valid, it has in it that which we need in our lives, it has in it a message for us. However, what we need to understand is the Sahaba of the Allahu anhu have explained the three different types of verses in the Quran. I start off by explaining this, it says, or they have explained, some of them say it's an aeration of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, but let's stick to that which is more valid and more correct. It's the explanation of the Sahaba of the Allahu anhu wherein they state that this Koran

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has in it. It has in it listened carefully. Three types of things. I want to start with the last one that was mentioned for the benefit of everyone. tokuma Bay Nana, it has any verses that would decide and dictate the rules and regulations pertaining to our disputes. It has rules and regulations in it to be followed. So the Quran has rules and regulations in it to be followed. those rules and regulations have conditions that need to be met in order to follow them correctly. You cannot just read a verse of the Quran. What are the most Allah tala to zakka you've read the verse it means establish salah and give your cigar so you get up and you fulfill salah and you don't even have to

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do you're not even in the state of purity. You're not even facing the Qibla You don't even know what to read in the Salah. No, you will fulfill the Salah because the Quran instructs you to fulfill the Salah, but you will make sure you know how to do it. If the conditions are met. If you are in the state of purity, if you are facing the Qibla if you have the timing of that Salah is in I can't say the Quran says read Salah. So now I read salat wa salam but it's five o'clock in the morning. I can't do that I'm foolish. So what it means is when there are rules and regulations pertaining to your life, say for example, the Sharia where it says that the penal code will penalize a person who

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has stolen you cannot just go to anyone and start chopping off the hands to say the Quran says chop of hands. No conditions need to be met, a situation needs to be present. things need to be proven when the conditions are all met. The rule will then apply May Allah subhanahu wa taala grant us an understanding. The same applies to the rules of jihad. Jihad means a struggle. It means to struggle to end the pleasure of Allah. It also includes in it the struggle to defend yourself. If someone slaps you on your face. Islam teaches you to think about what type of reaction would be most appropriate for that particular condition. The Bible might teach you to give the other cheek.

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Someone slaps you on one cheek, the Bible says give the other cheek. The Quran says no, you think about what has just happened. That's what the Sherry teaches you that what Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam teaches you it might be befitting to slap them back. It might be befitting not to slap them back. It might be befitting to wait for a while and see the reaction it might be befitting to talk to them and engage in discussion. All this is part of Islam. It is all valid. It will happen in Islam. We need to understand conditions need to be met in order to fulfill verses of the Quran. I give you an example of jihad. People use the term Jihad and what they say is that means just start

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killing everyone just start harming everyone my brother, my sister, do you realize Do you understand what it means? Yes, the verses are valid. We will not deny them never will we deny them but what we do say is you need to make sure the conditions are met. You need to make sure

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The situation would require for someone to participate in something that Allah has ordained. You need to make sure that it is actually valid from all different aspects and conditions. Understanding that the greatest struggle will lie is to worship Allah subhanho wa Taala. Trust me, many of us seated here today

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have not got up for Salah today.

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It's a reality. Am I right?

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Am I right?

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yes and no meaning I'm not accusing people in particular, I'm raising a point. Many of us have got up for Salatin, but we would have preferred to have been continued sleeping. You agree? We would have preferred a you know what I got up because it's a duty. I didn't get up because it's an honor to convert yourself from understanding what is a duty and what is an honor is a line that you cross when you get close to Allah subhanho wa Taala. You read Salah because you consider it a duty, yes, it is a duty. But over and above that it's an honor. I want to worship Allah, I am fulfilling Salah not because I have to. But because I want to over and above me having to so I'm not denying it is an

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obligation. But on top of that, I'm saying I'm so happy to fulfill it. I want to fulfill more than just the mere obligation that itself is a struggle. Subhana Allah so my brothers and sisters the Quran has verses in this beautiful book pertaining to palekh pertaining to nica pertaining to inheritance. I cannot just imply implement those rules without ensuring that the conditions are met.

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I cannot come to a woman Look at her and say I divorce you, brother, you're not even married to her Come on. You're not even married to her. This is what we are saying the same ruling applies to jihad. We are saying it is valid if the conditions are met. And those are strict and stringent conditions because life My beloved brothers and sisters is absolutely sacred. You need to understand that. Allah says if you take away one life unjustly, it is as though you have destroyed entire humanity. I mean, ideally Danica taberna, Benny is small enough,

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said Jeremy.

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I'm sure by now you've understood this, most of you were law says, we have written and Allah has written each ordained for us as well as for those before us. Allah says we wrote that if you were to kill one soul unjustly, or to create chaos on Earth, it is as though you have destroyed entire humanity. That's what the law says. Every single life, singular life is sacred. That's what it is.

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Every singular life, just like you feel you have the right to live, every single life was given by the same maker who made you have an equal right to live just like you understand that. And the same rule applies when it comes to the opposite, which means if you were to save one life, the Quran says, woman

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message me, whoever has saved one life, it's as though they have saved entire humanity. Remember that? So when you go out to save a life

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is something sacred.

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May Allah subhanho wa Taala guide us and help us through all our affairs, my brothers and sisters, that is the first time or it's actually the third time that I've mentioned it first of the verses of the Quran, then the same book has prophecies, prophecies of the future the Quran has in its certain verses. It's not the whole it is certain verses where Allah speaks about what's going to happen in the future.

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sokolova shil Naboo la Cava, Do you know the meaning of it?

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If you don't, please go back and look into it. I'm sure you know the surah of my heart, the bulk of you.

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Allah is describing the end, the day of judgment, how it's going to be the Day of Resurrection, what's going to happen, these are prophecies where are they in the same Quran Subhan Allah

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then they have

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Without a doubt verses that have the most accurate records of what occurred in history, it does not convert the Quran into a history book Not at all. Don't ever misquote misinterpret people who are explaining to you what the Quran is all about.

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But it does have accurate count accounts of what happened in the past. But I don't even know Sonny, remember the time when I belied the messengers?

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What's that Allah is telling you the truth about that.

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There is a story for example, a whole surah named after Maria Elena Salatu was salam, the mother of Esalen, salaam, what does Allah say the truth about Jesus May peace be upon him how he was born without the involvement of a male, just like Allah has created Eve without the involvement of a female and Adam, without the involvement of male or female, and you and I with the involvement of both male and female. All this has been done by Allah, it's his power. Where does he make mention of it? In the Quran, Allah speaks about the accurate record of what happened when the joshy in Abyssinian heard the verses being read by Jaffa.

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At the time of the migration to apocynin, when the Muslims were being persecuted in Mecca, he began to cry. And he said, this is the truth. So panela is the truth about what about what happened to Jesus May peace be upon him.

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And Allah subhanho wa Taala makes mention of so many other facts,

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that does not reduce this book to just a mere book of history, or Oh, the villa that is an insult. That is something which is derogatory. It is unacceptable to say that, notice how passionate I am when I'm talking. Because it's the word of Allah. That's why

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and I have personally been misquoted regarding this word of Allah.

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So I've chosen to leave a fragrance of the word of Allah subhanho wa Taala. Here in this beautiful city of Nairobi.

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That is the same book that governs what type of character we should have, when I shall have the love and the wife of Muhammad peace be upon him.

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sallallahu alayhi wa sallam when she was asked, tell us about the character of this man, Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, tell us about the character of your husband. Think about it. Those who are married male and female. If your wife was to be asked, tell us about the character of your husband, what would happen?

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What would she say? He comes late at night. He smokes so much. He's on guard whole day. And so on the chewing for seven, eight hours every day doing things that are unacceptable still justify, No, there's nothing wrong with this, that there is a difference of opinion about everything. There is a difference of opinion. So you don't hide behind difference of opinion. To do something wrong smoking, smoking, people say there is difference of opinion. It's just it's McCool. moku. Okay, hang on. What's the difference of opinion?

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One might argue that someone says it's haram and someone says it's mukou I want to ask you today. Personally, I believe it's prohibited well love Allah because it's harming your body. It is dangerous to your mind, your body, your health and everyone else. And you know when you kiss your spouse, you don't want to know what type of a chimney she thinks she's kissing.

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Allah forgive us.

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So it cannot be halal or haram. Maybe we should stop it. May Allah help those who are perhaps involved in this habit to give it up, you'll save a lot of money, you will be able to do better things with that cash May Allah subhanho wa Taala help us all to eradicate our bad habits. We all may have bad habits myself included. May Allah help us identify these habits. And that's the most important part of it. To identify to be able to identify your bad habits while learning is the first step to purify your character to identify what's my bad habit? Sit and pause for a moment. What is my bad habit? Maybe my bad habit is I lie a lot. I talk a lot. I gossip a lot. I use WhatsApp a lot.

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I took too many pictures online a lot and whatever else. These are bad habits, you might think their life will lie. It's a bad habit. Work on it, work on it inshallah. So you want to become a person of better character. admit your bad habits. sit and think hard, hard. Be tough on yourself, but be lenient with others. Be tough on yourself, but be lenient with others.

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May Allah subhanho wa Taala guide so I was saying if you will ask your spouse, you know, tell us about the character of your spouse voila, he would hear

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you know that most strange things this man snores all night and stuff. May Allah forgive us. Okay.

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Let's not go to that extent. But at the same time, if you do snow, there is a way out of it. You just tilt yourself follow the sooner of sleeping on your right side and inshallah nine times out of 10 your snoring will go, it will go try it out.

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And don't send me an email saying we tried it, it's still not working.

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So May Allah subhanho wa Taala help us my brothers and sisters. Think for yourself. If your spouse was asked about your character, what answer would they give? I tell you why. Because your spouse knows you better than everyone and anyone else. This guy is on his phone up to two o'clock in the morning. And he's he doesn't get up for salado as a result of that. And when I look at him, he's just on his phone. That's one thing the men must be saying no talk about her. She's also on her phone too. And she will tell me Well, that's because he's on his phone, too. And the argument continues. The idea is put your phone away. This is a bedroom, put it on the side. If you want to

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sit on a chair, be on your phone, and I've tried this myself.

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sit on the chair, be on your phone for a few minutes. Put it aside, when you get into your baby. It's you. And if you're married Alhamdulillah your spouse, not your phone, love. May Allah subhanho wa Taala help us to understand we're not married to our phones, but rather we're married to people, human beings who need us to communicate and talk to them.

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The reason I say this is part of the topic or law hates bad habit, it's bad character. We need to speak about these modern problems that we are facing. These are real issues. People's marriages are breaking because of the mobile phone, you know that I know. People's marriages are breaking because of the type of gossip that is going on online. I know of a whole group of people who are divorced and their job is to go online and to speak bad about their ex for what why? How come How will it help you know I get closure? What closure. It's more of an opener, it opens the door. So panela you want closure turn to Allah He's the owner of that door he will close it for you thoroughly and

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properly Mashallah, he'll give you something better than you had. But if you continue mudslinging, someone whom you've been intimate with, and you've had children with perhaps mudslinging to the degree that they are being derogatory comments are being passed through or not, we're not worried. You're wasting your time. You're engaging in backbiting for the half. You want to expose people who you have in your kneecap With the name of Allah, why do you want to do that you will not achieve anything besides becoming more and more depressed. May Allah forgive us. Remember, whatever I've said, the verses I read before you state that whoever repents to Allah, Allah will forgive him. I

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haven't seen one verse or one Hadith where it says whoever asked Allah forgiveness, Allah will not forgive him. Have you ever come across that? If you ask Allah forgiveness, Allah will not forgive you. Did you ever see that? Ever? Anybody? Even a weak one? Even a fabricated one? No. It's not there. You ask Allah forgiveness, he will forgive you because Islam is based on mercy. So improve your character, seek the forgiveness of Allah, if anything we are mentioning today is found in my life or your life, the way forward is to seek forgiveness, the way forward is not to lose hope, or what did I do? That's it, I'm going to help now it's over. That's not what I'm here for. I'm here to

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take you to heaven by the will of Allah subhanho wa Taala. I don't own it. But the message I've come with is from each owner Subhana Allah. So if I adopt that message, and you adopted, Allah says, like the verses I read,

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while you

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go, those will be told they will be granted a Special Warfare, a special place in Jenin because of their sub because of their patience. This shows me that I am on earth in order to engage in Sabah.

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My purpose on earth is to worship Allah alone. My purpose on earth is to pass the tests and the challenges that he puts in my life and he will put it in everybody's life. There's not a single soul that will not have challenges, difficulties, hardships and tests. Why? Because you are in this world to be tested. You are in this ground to be tested. That's why why am I struggling? Because Allah wants to see what you're going to do now that you're struggling. Why am I sick? Because Allah wants to see are you going to go to those who believe in superstitious, superstitious solutions and they tell you to lift your right leg 90 degrees and put your left hand up and to start nodding your head

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20 times with the lemons on the top of your head.

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If that's the case, you failed your test. There are other people with the same disease who made to add this got medication they did what was permissible in terms of Rokia and they found

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The solution within one year two years they were cured. Sometimes Allah cure as quicker than that, I mean,

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but those who want to find other solutions you might be cured, but you know you failed your test. It's like cheating in any exam, you have the right answer, but you cheated. You disqualified May Allah subhanho wa Taala Crohn's disease. So my brothers and sisters, Allah says, you will get the whole farm because of your supper. And Allah says, What will you hear in Paradise, they will only hear to hear 10 wasallam and they will only hear

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Greetings, beauty, beautiful greetings and peace, the greeting of peace as well as the achievement of peace. May Allah subhanho wa Taala grant that to us. So the point being raised we will all be tested my brothers and sisters learn to endure for the sake of Allah going back to what I was saying, you know, if you notice, I'm like opening new windows every little while talking about something then going to something else open a new window, don't worry, I will come back and close each window inshallah. Allah subhanho wa Taala helped me to do that. So I go back to what I was saying, your spouse that day your spouse can say well, ah, he this man is a really good man. That's

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the day you are truly a good person. That's why the Hadith is

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the truly best from amongst you have those who are best to their spouses and family members. Best to them. We don't even talk to them. We walk into the house, we're upset because the tea in the morning was not as brown as we drink if I don't talk to her for three days. Come on, make your own tea, please.

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You know, it reminds me of a guy who got married and you know, the, the girl who was getting married. Generally back in my days, you know, a wife used to consider it an honor to make you a cup of tea. I think there are still a few who do that.

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So generally, they would consider it an honor to make you a cup of tea Mashallah, you know, so the Friends of this girl today, you know what? Your husband you better be careful. You don't want him controlling every aspect of your life, you know? So she says, What do I do so her friends say

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when something happens.

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In fact, it's the other way around. The husbands are taught sometimes to become harsh to the to the wives. And this is something very, very bad, my beloved men out there, my brothers out there, you have to soften your approach. You have to soften your approach. You have to make sure you understand that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam who is not only better than us, or a role model, but he's the best of creation chosen from Allah subhanho wa Taala by Allah subhanho wa Taala he was the best he was. His approach was unique. He made his spouse blush, he made his wives feel that they were truly most loved by him. Subhana Allah, the way he used to do things was unique and amazing. So

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what we need to do, we need to also do that which our spouses feed will lie. I have the best men, and all of us here will be best men. So Pamela, I've always been baffled about weddings, when the man says, didn't you see me at that wedding? I was the best men. To me the best man is supposed to be the groom. But no, it's other people on the side of the groom. It's true. The wife even says, What are you Those were best men, not you. May Allah forgive us.

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May we become the best men in our own weddings. For some of us, it's a bit too late in the day. Allah subhanho wa Taala. Grant us so my brothers and sisters, you've got to be the best because the difficulties we have outside the home, the root of it is inside the house. A man sometimes doesn't have a say in the house or a woman doesn't have a say in the house. It shows in her attitude in her character in her postings on social media at times.

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So Pamela, it reminds me, my wife posted something on Facebook last week.

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And it was something she picked up from my quotations a few years back. And you know, Facebook keeps on reminding you to say last year this time, this is what happened. It's also sometimes you you you think about it, and you might want to be posting so she reposted a few things. And they were connected to a marriage and perhaps how important it is to continue and to work hard on it and so on. Well, I I received messages from people Is everything okay?

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My brother, my sister.

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I don't even know everything's okay. What's going on the show? Your wife seems to be posting things that indicate otherwise you said Wow.

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Well, I messaged on WhatsApp, what did you post? She says nothing. Just about three years ago, something that was there came on my timeline and I just shared it again.

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And I was shocked. I said Subhanallah people are jumping to conclusions. You know, some would be happy to see a marriage break while others wouldn't

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Be really upset and some are just neutral you know, but a lot of people are happy

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not because they are gaining something but people will have something to talk about. That's why they're happy. We've become a community of gossipers on the globe people love gossip the newspapers of today sell when they have gossip.

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Juicy news that's what they call it juicy news. AKA juicy juicy so Panama cannot be like the pineapples of Mombasa that I've missed this time.

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I'm coming there Charla we're coming in May Allah make it easy inshallah followers. But my brothers and sisters, it's important for us to note, this type of gossip destroys you. Not every status that people put up is connected to their life. But sometimes it does show. Sometimes the frustration shows in the messages in what you placed online because something's happening in the house, you cannot deal with it appropriately. You're venting by going online. Don't do that. Don't expose what's inside your doors outside. Not at all. It is not the character of a movement of a believer. It's not the character. You leave it inside your idea must be to resolve the matter. My beloved

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brothers and sisters work hard to become good people such that Firstly, your spouse says what a wonderful person. Say I mean even if you're not married, come on. At least it's a two hour that you will get someone good like that, you know?

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So panela so the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, here comes the question to the spouse. What was his character? Notice I'm closing the next window. Okay. So I shall allow Anna What can she say? Because the I, I have to say so much. There are so many nice things. You know, imagine someone asks about you and your spouse is one of the best person I've ever known. Lovely, really dedicated a very good mother. I have absolutely no problem. She speaks well. And you know, the way that she chooses her words are very sweet, especially when it comes to me, she makes sure so what do you do?

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You are claiming all of these claims. In fact, you are bearing witness, which is very rare today. You agree? It's rare, right?

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I had a few Yeah, they look like they were disgruntled. Mashallah, Allah make it easy for you. So it's rare, but you are praising them? Are you really trying to reciprocate it? At least?

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I know so many men, they tell you I've got the best wife, but they go home and they are like Jabarin. You know, they are like people who really tyrants on Earth. They go home and what's going on here? So, but you just said Your wife is the best, it shows that you need to change because according to her, you are one of those foreigner one of those few rounds and she's just your ASEAN.

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Allah subhanho wa Taala forgive us. Don't let that happen. I don't want to enter the house where people have to run away, they must come towards the door, I will embrace them. Subhan Allah, I will ensure that that embrace is not half hearted, it's full. And it can happen every day and a few times in the day. That's when you build the character of your own children. When your children see that you as parents are loving one another you have moments of goodness that they witness they begin to grow up realizing and understanding how to treat the opposite sex.

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But when they see the two of you screaming yelling, fighting, shouting whatever else swearing and playing the Tom and Jerry although you're adults, what happens to them?

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What happens to them? Well, it they grow up thinking that's how you should be treating a wife.

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Innocent daughter in law coming into a home not realizing this boy is affected by the relationship between his mother and father. What happened to your character? go as far back as that and check it out. May Allah subhanho wa Taala help us Oh,

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I'd love to hear good things about people. Whenever you speak about your daughter in law in her absence, say the nice things. I'm sure there are 1000 Good thing there's a lot of people say she's lazy, lazy for what? She didn't marry your son to come and serve. You know, she's doing it as an honor. So say no, Mashallah. She's a really, really good person. So what if she doesn't get up early in the morning? The generation has changed. Nowadays we get up at 10 o'clock, don't we?

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So long as I got up for Salatin, Father, I'm set after that. Salaam Alaikum. I sleep better after further than I did before that

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it's a new generation wake up, smell the coffee. Not at eight o'clock but at 12 o'clock. Perhaps.

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My brothers and sisters This is uniquely put Allah I tell you something. It is a very important message and just wording it lightly, but the message is solid. The message is powerful. Learn to say good things about your mother in law, your father in law.

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You live with and when you have a problem deal with it directly. I must deal with it here. Look, please You know I love you so much. But

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this issue hurts me. No, you can't do that you can't talk about let's talk. When someone complains about you to yourself, don't become defensive.

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Otherwise you won't be able to improve. When someone tells you something about yourself correction, even if you think they are wrong, sometimes consider it strongly and say thank you so much as a criminal offense, I will take heed, inshallah, I will try and improve this. And if you have a response, and it's your right to respond, especially if it's an allegation, respond in a sweet way in a beautiful way, lovely way. So panela you don't come up to be more cutting than the person talking to you because that is not the quality of a min or Amina believing male or female.

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You need to have brilliant character. You need to speak back to those who cut you up in a way that you don't show them you are equal. You're not equal. You're one up.

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So the Prophet sallallahu wasallam spouse, eyeshadow, viola, and she just had one word.

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One word to say, because there's too much What can I say? Imagine if someone asks you what how's your husband How's his character? And he's such a lovely person. You only say the best? Is that enough Rola enough.

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Watch out you better make sure they say Mashallah Baraka Baraka, lotta Baraka lava 20 times, otherwise, you go home and he starts shouting and you don't know why. But people become envious. They become envious and more important than Mashallah is the terms about Allah. Do you know that? Did you know that?

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More important than the term Mashallah is Tabarak Allah because that is Baraka to alpha Baraka So, when you say Mashallah, don't forget to add to it the Baraka Allah, Masha, Allah, Allah, it used to that may Allah subhanho wa Taala grant us all ease I shall only Allah Rhonda says cannot follow Coco cola.

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He's his character was

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What a powerful response. So all this goodness he did listen carefully. Those who think the Quran promotes terrorism and violence those who think the poor are is unjust listen to this kind of

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history character was the foreigner which means all the goodness that he did the Quran taught him that all the reaching out to the people that he did, the Quran taught him that the to Allah He made for the people of pif, when they attacked him a positive draft for guidance was the Quran that taught him that the everything was taken directly or indirectly, from the Quran. He was a moving book, moving Quran, when you saw him, you remembered Allah, there are people in our midst, when you see them, you remember Allah, you want to do good, you want to become a better person. And now people in our midst, when you see them, you want to go to the nightclubs with them.

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You want to start participating in even with them, they are a bad influence, you start speaking in a vulgar way, why your character is affected by those you associate with.

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Don't think you are very strong. Don't think I'm strong I can be with people who have foofy morals, bad behavior, people who call everyone else a calf calf calf, I know of someone that I once met many years back.

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And he had this habit of just saying coffee to anyone, even a guy who's just moving without a beard coffee, why he

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doesn't have a beard.

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You remove someone you know you sent them to space, just because they went over a speed hump, you know?

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That's not right. You can't do that.

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Something, you took them out of the fold of Islam, whereas muslimeen if there are 99 signs of a movement, sorry, the other way around 99 signs that this person perhaps is sinful. And there is a sign that they are obedient to Allah who cannot remove them out of the fold of Islam just because of their sins Not at all. You cannot remove a person out of the fold of Islam just because of their sins. Leave that to Allah, He escaped the day of judging, we all become very judgmental, that reduces our character to below what is acceptable when you start judging.

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Imagine this one gentleman this one not this one. Now this one now, you know that means fire fire fire, this one's going to help going to help you actually have you been to help to see who was there.

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That's what I want said I'm sure you were there before then because you're waiting there watching who's coming as well. You know, how do you know I try to say Gemini inshallah. I want to take the people to gender we don't want to do that I would be happier for more and more people coming into general than to curse people and taking them

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To help the law so be careful with these words but when you associate with people like those, you become one. They just comes a time when instead of learning to love fellow human beings in a way that even if they are wrong you want to correct them rather than that you no longer want to correct them to you. They are in hell. It's over. I've got no obligation to them and it's done. What about Mohammed Salah Salah. He worked so hard on people like Holly dibny Llewellyn lira rhodiola han

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that man was an enemy of Islam, he made it so many Muslims will lie at one stage, he was an enemy. And what happened? The Prophet sallallahu Sallam called his brother Ali who he dropped the Allahu anhu in Medina, and well he didn't want a diploma, he was a Muslim

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robiola one earlier than his brother Harding. And the prophet SAW Selim asked him way his colleagues

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you know what the seller said?

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mithila holiday near Jalali slam

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a man with a brain of holiday

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so intelligent, such a genius. He cannot be ignorant of the fact that Islam is the true religion.

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Yeah, GB now, Allah will bring him here a few days later he came in Cali didn't very long story. But the point being raised is Look how the Prophet sallallahu Sallam was so concerned about enemies that he prayed for them. He said, I'm convinced this man is so intelligent. He will know that you cannot worship sticks and stones and idols and oldest pagan life is actually unacceptable. True to the word he came a few days later. If it was up to us, we will just say coffee. Don't mix with him don't associate don't have anything to do they kick him out. That's all he's going to help. He's already been in the fire started he'll ready.

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Take it easy. All these bad words they are not good character. They are not equal to the character being promoted by Muhammad Sallallahu wasallam they are something else they have been contaminated by the devil in you May Allah forgive us. Why? Because of the bad kind of a company that you're keeping you associate with people who continue to, to think low of everyone besides themselves, you begin to become the same. I'm the only guy going to general that's it in general, it will be so broad Paradise is going to be so big only for me as for the rest of you, you will be on the other side, my brother, perhaps it's going to be the other way around.

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May Allah subhanho wa Taala forgive us. We need to change this. We need to change how we look at other people. While law has muslimeen we desperately need to change it to bring it back to the original teachings of Muhammad Sallallahu wasallam. The concern he had to spread the goodness was such that a lot of it happened without him even talking. It was through his good character and conduct. Look at Abdullah Abu Salam.

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He was a Jewish rabbi in Madina munawwara he had hunted for Madina munawwara and found it because in the previous Jewish scriptures, the description of the land where the final prophet was going to come was already there, he found it to be Madina munawwara so he shifted to that area. That was the reason why the Jews shifted towards Medina Manoa

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and when he heard there is a messenger that has arrived, he knew a few signs from his scriptures, well law he, he says himself, that when I saw the messenger peace be upon him, and how did he see him? There was a crowd of people around him. This men tiptoed in order to look to see, he says, I saw his face, just his face. And I heard the first few words, when I saw his face, I knew immediately This is not the face of a liar. He's not a liar. This is not the face of a liar. And he said

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his first word, the first words that have to live in the salon heard from Muhammad Sallallahu Sallam according to the bulk of the narrations. He says, I heard the messenger peace be upon him say, oh people

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are yohannes of Shu Salama, spread the salon. The salon is very deep, it refers to peace, it refers to the greeting, and this greeting is a DA and this is actually a guarantee. What does that mean? When I say spread Salah say your interpretation of it is spread a Salam Alaikum that's not a wrong interpretation. It's included in it. So how does it help us all? When I say a Salaam Alaikum I am saying

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May peace be

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upon you. What does that mean? I am praying to Allah I am praying to my Lord, that You are given peace and that peace could be so many things. I am praying to Allah, that there is nothing that opposes the term peace that comes to you, which means no war to you. That's what it means.

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No harm should come to you. These are the opposites of peace.

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So when I say a Salaam Alaikum I mean, I won't harm you. And I'm praying that nothing else harms you. indirectly, that's what it means. I say, peace be upon you. Let me say, Don't worry, I'm not here to hit you. I'm not here to harm you. I'm not here to call you bad names. I'm not here to start labeling you I am not here for all of that. I am here to say, May Allah give you some peace and Rahmatullahi wa barakato the mercy of Allah or the blessings of Allah and His mercy, or his mercy and His blessings.

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I am praying. So if you spread that correctly, and you understand what you're saying, you will not be a hypocrite. You say salaam aleikum, my sister and as soon as she turns around this woman, you know, she was a bad woman. You know? Why? What character is this? If you really say the Salam Alaikum keep it that way. Someone say this. Just don't talk bad about her. Please. If you have a problem, let's call her let's clear it out. Same applies to the males. You have a problem with someone called him clear it out. If he doesn't involve you don't get involved.

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Unless you want to guide people in a sweet way. Beautiful way.

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May Allah subhanho wa Taala help us so Abdullah Abu Salam says, I heard him say Are you a nurse? Oh people have to Salama spread the peace. These are characters of a good Muslim. Spread the Salah how many of us we don't greet Let's be honest. We don't create.

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We don't greet

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and if someone greets us, we don't reply. We don't reply. Really we don't.

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Or if we reply, it's a half hearted reply. Someone says Salaam Alaikum Salam.

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Come on. It's an act of worship, you're getting 30 rewards for that long greeting give back.

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To me

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for how you

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do

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in has Eva, when you are greeted with a greeting. Allah instructs you to reply with a better greeting. That's what the Quran says. Or if you don't have a better greeting, then at least equate it

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Why? Because the end of the vs. Allah keeps account of everything. That's why Allah took account he greeted you didn't reply. she greeted you didn't respond. Or she greeted you reply with a better greeting. Alicia in Havana hisab is taken. We took it we know it was part of your test with us. We don't even want to read we don't even want to reply. Why? Just because maybe I'm giving you a typical example. Maybe the sisters hair is not covered. So what happened? I don't create callus. Why not on my league? Not on your league? Maybe your heart is naked.

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May Allah forgive us? Maybe you are involved in pornographic addiction possible. Then what legal you want?

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Be careful, be careful. And speaking of reality, maybe you are silently committing adultery, fornication, maybe you are involved in something dirty, really filthy. And you just said I won't read Come on. Come on. You don't know who is closer to Allah. Greet them let them greet you back you receive the data from a pious sister. You receive the data from a pious brother greet them they greet you back you got the DA you went to a your day was good because someone said a salaam aleikum to you that's why you had a good day because they made for peace for you. And you didn't even bother to reply.

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You see our character we are fading something simple. Abdullah Salaam Jewish rabbi, he heard these words, spread the epsilon. I hope I've given you a new perspective of Salama see and respond, respond nicely with a smile, break into a smile because when you respond with a smile, it's a better response as Allah says, we take account this person greeted with a Salam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato. Now when they say that there's not much to beat them in, I cannot really compete, but I can compete with one thing, what is it? I can add a smile to it? By the way, my name is Ismail.

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So to be honest,

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you said walaikum salam wa rahmatullah wa barakato. And you smiled a little bit, they felt good and went away. Two hours to two hours receive supplication for one another. These are people who really probably didn't even know each other, and they went away. I had a lovely day. I had a beautiful piece for the rest of the month for the rest of the year. Maybe for the rest of my life. Maybe I was saved from something harmful because of that drop, and I went to it. Are you a nurse of shoe salon? The second part of that narration was Rama and feed the food. The second

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foger the same hadith of Abdullah Abu Salah. He says I tiptoed, I saw his face, it wasn't the face of a liar. First thing he said, Oh people spread the salon and feed the food. This is the first part of it. Second part of it, what is the meaning of feed the food.

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Learn to share what you have with others. Whether it's your family members, whether it is people who are related to you, or those who are not related to you or anyone in need.

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I can invite to my house, even those who are not in need, sometimes invite those who are in need as well. And I can reach out to those who are not in need as well. But be kind to those who are in need as well. When you see a poor person, don't look at it as a burden. I was disciplined by my own mother, you know, back at home, we have this habit. Obviously we don't like it. We want to see a solution but only Allah knows the need of that person. What am I

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asked for the one who's begging or asking you don't rebuke them. You give them give them you don't want to give them respectfully don't give them respectfully, my brother, may Allah bless you barakallahu Li You know what, I won't be able to give you anything today. But Allah bless you, I give you a DA and you carry on. Instead of saying you you coming to bed every day, you making a bed, you know, you setting a bad precedent, you're giving a bad image of Muslims and Islam.

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Allah says

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don't rebuke these beggars. You don't want to give Yes, you may not if there is a reason not to. But the minimum is you give them your good character that is better than giving them lip.

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A lot of the biggest, if you rebuke him, even if you give them 100 shillings, he might give it back to you because of your attitude.

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Personally, I don't want a favor from someone who has an attitude. I'd rather not have the favor no matter what it was.

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Allah forgive me and forgive all of us.

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What do we like? What law what is more valuable than money?

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Is character.

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I want to share with others, the good nature that would make life a pleasure to live. And it would be an honor to worship Allah in such a way that I my mind is at peace because the character of the people around me is so beautiful. I've got no worries. But imagine you go for Salah this guy here. You owe him money. That guy there he's swearing you the other guy there. You've had a problem with him. The person has the back they want to hit you. How are you going to reach Allah

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busy shaking looking this way here looking that way then seeing this checking if you any money is gone from your pockets watching your mobile phone? Why? When I say a lot, when I start my prayer, I want to be able to concentrate properly. How will that happen? Develop your character, your conduct, purify yourself, you understand you I have no quote, I have no issues with people, if they have issues with me what law is up to them. As for me, I have no issues with them. I've tried my best, I fulfilled my duty as a Muslim. And I did it with respect with a smile.

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So what happens? I was telling about my mother

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correcting me, you know, we have this habit of beggars coming to the gate thinking they ring the bell. And especially on a Friday they come and they literally they say one beggar, that's how they worded in our own local language. Okay, so it means something so myself, young man, obviously Subhanallah I feel these are men they are have their limbs and everything in order, they are healthy, they just need to work a little bit and inshallah they will earn. So why are they begging? You know what my mother says? Give them.

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I said you're gonna carry on for as long as I'm alive. Give them even if it is one piece of bread.

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Did you hear that?

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And I'm like, but you are, you know, the new mind how it thinks. But you're encouraging this behavior. You're going to get a hold of Mom, let me tell you tomorrow morning, there's going to be a lot more light happens. There's going to be 20 people standing there. And they're all going to choose it. So I'll buy two loaves of bread and give them a slice each What's wrong, what went wrong? Did anything go? But you know, it's a security as she says, Since when is it a security hazard? What happened? These people are walking on the street and talking of my own mother. I changed the way I look at it solely because I was corrected.

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And I said, You know when I drive out sometimes I'm driving out of the gate and I see these people standing at the gate. And what happens? I just looked at him Santa Monica walk away. I said don't worry, my mother would send something for you just

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it's reality. I learned why that is character sharing.

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Something What? What went of yours by buying a loaf of bread, two loaves of bread, what went of yours, you might have some who might not want the bread, they say, Look, I don't want I want money, say, Look, that's what I have, when you can actually step in. I am not encouraging the giving or not the giving, I'm just telling you to look at it from a different angle. Sometimes, if it is very dangerous, and in your circumstance, your situation your nation, it is something that should not be happening because of the danger that comes with it. I cannot judge your situation. It's up to you. But I can just encourage you to say Look how I learned, okay, that's all.

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Feed the food feed people feed those who don't have food. The Hadith is telling you to do that a person sometimes we who live in the cities are lazy to go out to the rural areas to see the people there and how they are living. And sometimes we are lazy to go out to look for those who are poor, so Allah sent them to our doorstep. And still we said, Why are you begging at my gate? Get out.

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Allahu Akbar, Allah says to mo Tama feed the food.

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Imagine a beggar tells you Okay, eat all your food, don't give me eat it, eat it, all of it and get sick.

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Some people are dying because of them eating too much. Well, if

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you look at everything in front of you, there's a limit to it. I know cheesecake stays nice. But I also know they're not so healthy. So imagine things that look nice and tastes nice.

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Mostly, are not really too healthy. Have you ever thought of it? Why? Because I think it's a lesson for me to know that you don't judge a book by its cover. You see someone I will not judge you on your makeup because I know that it was Mac that came into the scene, not you.

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I want to I want to interact with real human beings and be able to see their contribution, their dedication, their character, their conduct, and so on. That is what is the value of the person in the eyes of a movement that is more than what they look like.

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And I learned that from just looking at food. I see lovely things and they taste really nice. I've got to control myself. Because inside that for you that for you. You know, they say a lot of the times. I'm going to say this because I've read it in the past and I've even said it in the past. They say a lot of the times a guy sees a girl and he says Wow, will you marry me? And she says huh

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she looks to the side she sees a wonderful Ferrari. She says yes, I'll marry

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What happened? The Hadith says you look at a flock you look at the deen you look at so many things. I looked at looks and she looked at my Ferrari. That's all and by the way, I do come from Harare.

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So anyway,

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she looked at it she wants to marry me I want to marry her. Guess what? Guess what? She makes a beautiful trophy. But not a wife.

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You know what the trophy means? You walk with her arm in arm. You go through the mall. The dounia will take photos of you put them up on Instagram. Ideal couple ideal couple. Two years later, you hear about the split up. I don't need to take names but anyway they're there.

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Why because now there's no more or Ferrari or for example, you no longer live in Harare.

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Things have changed. Had I based it on something real. You grew older, I became deeper in love with you. I've seen what you're worth. You are my backbone. You are my strength. And I am your Subhanallah I support you. I'm dedicated towards you. I love you. I will make sure that you are a person who

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I want to go to Paradise will.

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That's the value.

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I didn't I didn't base my decision to marry on something material. Something cosmetic no cosmetics will change day to day. In fact, it will a reality that will come up might be something shocking. Now Allah subhanho wa Taala forgive us the point here I'm deriving it from up a mukbang share what you have with people develop yourself become a good character. You have character share it you have goodness share it, you have an expertise share it, you are a doctor set aside a few patients whom you check for free Subhan Allah for the sake of Allah without making a show of it without making a show of it. I sponsored this I did this I don't need my name or my logo. No, I did it for the sake

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of Allah and that's it. So Pamela, what are you doing? You're sharing, sharing what even knowledge share it forward good messages when we see a dirty joke. Do we forward it? When we see a laugh? We forward it. But when we see a serious message, do we forward it?

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So I might say Yes, we do. Well, Angela, good news to you get used to it.

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reading that which is good and great. Last night someone sent me a message. I want to share it with you okay.

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Was it yesterday in the morning? So you know, WhatsApp, I'm sure everyone knows what WhatsApp is right. WhatsApp has in it.

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emoticons, you know what? emoticons these little men and women and faces and smiles and close your whatever else and so on in the heart. And that's the same heart that we want spoke about in the lecture. I think it was in Singapore, when I spoke about how it blows up nine, boom, boom, it starts pumping, you can actually see it, you know,

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and we still send it send it to the wrong person. But anyway. So what happens is,

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if you take a look at the cars, they all moving in one direction, all the cars are facing one direction. I didn't make WhatsApp, so don't blame me. Okay. All the people heading in this direction, all the animals heading from right to left, all of them heading from right to left, the animals go and check it out the fish, check it out the main and all the people check it out facing there. They're facing this direction. So from the left towards the right.

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There's only one species that is going from the right to the left.

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Should I leave it to you? Or should I tell you now?

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The woman

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is facing the other direction. Check it out. I'm not lying to you.

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Open your WhatsApp and check what I'm saying, oh, everyone's facing one direction. They're all facing from the left going to the right. And the only the woman with the red sorry, is facing the other way.

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So Pamela, she's facing the other way. And she's happy about it.

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Have you seen that?

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So anyway, I sent that to my daughters.

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As a caption, maybe when I was a little bit feminist, and so on, or perhaps it was sexist, or however you want to word it. But it was just an observation. People observed it, I think WhatsApp is going to have to change it because you know, women are going to make a noise about it. But some intelligent women, I sent it to my daughter, so Subhanallah, my daughter.

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She sends me back a message. She says What do you see? What do you see? I see the whole world.

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Listen to this, I see the whole world everyone

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going in the wrong direction. Only the woman is going towards the right. So Pamela, so it all depends on how you look at it right? Some will be offended, some will make a joke out of it. It's just an observation. But look at this. So Pamela, you're actually walking in the right direction for once. Oh, I shouldn't even have said that.

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taala forgive us. But don't be offended we as we are raising something your value is definitely based on the direction you are walking in, not what you look like externally. Remember this

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now to do purify my character. And to redefine my own character. I need to start looking at people from this angle.

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A lot of us say stop judging me based on my looks correct. But you stop judging others based on their looks. That's what I'm saying.

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So piano line. And this is one of the reasons why Islam has taught us to cover cover properly. Why so people must not judge you based on what your what the shape of your body is based on the weight and so on. People are depressed. I was reading an article on BBC some time back and it said then that in Britain, the amount of depressed cases in the girls from the age of nine because they are not happy with what they look like. They are not happy with their looks with what they are like. Because of that so many girls are depressed they need to live up to a certain standard. The largest industry in the world is the makeup industry. Did you know that Why? Because you got billions of

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people, all of them have makeup Subhanallah including a lot of the men nowadays.

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Allah make it easy. See, the men didn't find that funny because they're guilty.

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The Hadees continues after mo Thomasina go and fulfill your family ties. Go and Subhanallah connect with your family. Connect with family members. Now my brothers and sisters, that is a problem today. A lot of people don't want to connect with family but why go to the reason you know why sometimes family makes it difficult for them to connect. As soon as you see me You say come on what's with the haircut. develop a relationship with Me first. You know talk to me nicely you can come to the haircut. I'm not saying don't talk about it. It's your duty as a Muslim, but you first need to make sure you have watered this whole area and then you will sow the seed but I don't even know you I say

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Your haircut, I won't come back to your house. Why won't I come back to your house? You picking on me every time I come, there's something wrong. I'm going to hear another lecture. Soon as I pass your house, I can already start hearing your voice in my ears. Because I know when I go in this Auntie of mine is just going to start picking on me. Hey, When are you getting married? When are you starting a family? When are you having kids? It might be a business mom.

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You're my aunt. I know. But you got someone for me to marry talk.

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But stop it. Don't make it difficult for people

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to maintain that relationship. Notice the angle I discussed it today from is different.

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Normally, people say go and maintain family ties. I am telling you Yes, that is correct. But I want to say make it easy for others to maintain ties with you by becoming a good person, simple person, develop your character. We are redefining it. We're going now to the people who are expecting others to come to them. Why are they not coming to you? Why don't your grandchildren don't want to get you because every time they come you expect them to be adults. And they're only three years old.

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so surprising. A Mom, don't talk to my kids like that. You know why? They're not gonna come here, their kids, they cannot sit quietly. Okay, give them a glass, let them break the glass. Relax. That also is the other extreme. We want you to be a balanced person. Come on, we love you. We want some of the little children don't want to greet the grand Sorry, I'm just giving an example. It's not necessary that it happened. It's happening in your case. Some of them don't want to greet while they're kids, innocent kids, you did something that's why you did something.

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And stop, for goodness sake, giving them sweets every time you see them. Because if you want to give them sweets and chocolates, please throw in a bottle of pennilyn with that cough mixture.

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I hope you understood what I said.

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They are going to suffer you don't have to give him sweets to win them over. It's a way of bribing. That's primary and you know, bribery is not allowed in Islam. Right? Look at how deep I'm going. What I mean is greet them nicely, show some love to them, hug them, don't pick on anything and everything you will guide them but in a beautiful way. And remember they are little kids. So you need to ask yourself this hadith which says what's the rule or hammer? Am I a person facilitating it or making it hard for people to mix with me?

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on grounds of principle, sometimes you might want to make it a little bit tough. For example, there are people on drugs or who have terribly bad habits. I don't really want to associate with them deeply. In that case, you have every right to distance in a beautiful way bearing in mind the minimum what is the minimum Salam aleikum wa Alaykum wa sallam How you doing? I'm fine stops there. Why? Because I want to protect myself and my family from the evil of this person. Even though he's my brother, for example, if he's on drugs, if he has a bad habit, if he's committing adultery openly and he's bringing the person who he commits adultery with into my home a look I've got a few

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principles in my house. Salam aleikum. wa salam what what day we are I'll meet you at the masjid inshallah. That's okay. You have a reason for him. But why Judo home Hi, john jameelah the hat the verses I read before you stated either haba homolka Hey, Luna kalu Salama, when the ignorant greed

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or when the ignorant communicate. You just say peace and you walk away. You say a statement but it is a statement of peace. Not a statement of war. Because people who are ignorant when you want to say anything more, they will misinterpreted. The best thing say a good word of peace walk away. Never mind if they say this person doesn't talk much. No problem. That's my nature.

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I'm selective. You have to be selected. But remember, you need to be an easier going person than you are right now. Myself included. When I say easy going I don't mean compromise your team. No, I don't mean compromise your values. No, I don't mean compromise your morals. No, I mean, be a little bit more easygoing. Like I said earlier, be hard on yourself, but be lenient with others. May Allah subhanho wa Taala help us refine our character.

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So he says our hammer the Hadith says lacell wasI Lubin McAfee in Naaman wa syllabi melvita toki Rahim who was Allah Ha. A person who maintains Family Ties is not the one who has a test for tech relation. You do good I do. Good. You invited me I invited you. You made biryani I made dinner No.

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A true maintainer of family ties is the one whom

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when it is broken from one end, they make an effort to mend it. Those other ones. They make an effort to mend a broken relationship. Problems are not talking to each other over what over money, neither of them are going to use

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Why father died for example, we've got a few million sitting here. I don't talk to him. He doesn't talk to me, my brother in your life, you're not going to use more than X amount. You're fighting now for an amount.

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Adopt what is right.

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To what is correct. Do the honorable thing. Maintain the ties? Don't let your ties be broken because of a small amount of cash and little misunderstanding be the bigger one. No problem, my brother. It's okay. I love you. You are my brother. I will maintain the tie because I love Allah enough to do something that will earn me paradise.

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It will end a paradise it's not easy. All these things mentioned that they are not easy. They are tough. We just read them read the Hadith and think okay, it's all okay. It's hard to maintain ties or to go and mend a broken relationship is tough, because you need to put your pride

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down.

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And you need to go in and sometimes apologize where you feel perhaps I wasn't totally wrong.

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I'm not saying apologize if some of your rights are usurped to the degree that you're oppressed. No, you don't have to you can you can literally fight for your rights in a proper way. Maybe I shouldn't use the word fight. But I should use the word you can actually go and ask for your rights or claim them or get them in a beautiful way in the correct way. But what I am saying is when it is resolvable, it's solvable. It's something minor, go and resolve it, you will engender as a result. Do you know why? When a problem is left, it seeps down to the next generation very quickly. When it goes to the next generation, it goes to the third generation. at that juncture, what would happen?

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families are totally broken without realizing Why. Why are we not talking to our cousins? Don't I don't want you to talk to your cousin. Why? Because our grandfather had a problem with their grandfather. Come on. Relax. The grandfathers are both gone into their graves and it's already all sorted.

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You don't need to do that be the bigger person.

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You have a problem with someone try not to involve the kids in it. Try not to.

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Now Allah subhanho wa Taala guide us these are real problems we face in our families. So he says shield or Hammer

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of Shu Salama wild mo Tama vasila or hammer wa salam milele in Estonia and fulfill prayer

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at night when all the people are fast asleep.

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Wow. That's the last part of that hadn't fulfilled the prayer at night. When all the people are asleep and what will happen to the Hulu janitor of the combi salon, you will enter the paradise of your Lord with peace. you adopt these four things a Salah upon our ham and a Salah wanna Sonia, that Hello, janitor become be salam, you will then enter the paradise of your Lord, with peace with ease. Because I fulfilled all of these things. Abdullah Abu Salam says when I heard this

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immediately, I knew this is a prophet of Allah. This is a messenger of Allah, he's come with a message that's not pulling towards him. It's pulling towards Allah. He's come with a message of goodness, sound morals, sound character, beautiful conduct something short words, very, very concise words with deep, deep meanings. It is known as Java middle Kelly. The Prophet sallallahu Sallam says, key to Java ME, I'll tell him, I have been given the miracle of very few words which have very deep meanings, such as this hottie.

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Amazing. We say, He is our Prophet. He is our Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. It's an honor to be part of the oma of Muhammad Sallallahu sallam, do we really emulate his character, his conduct? Do we really follow it?

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That last bit of the ad, which speaks about reading voluntary prayer, at night, when everyone is asleep, cry to your makeup, you will achieve peace through that.

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Sometimes we don't pray. So what does Allah do? He loves us too much too much.

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So he inflicts us with something we consider negative, but it was the most positive thing you suddenly discovered your Lord.

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I didn't have a link with Allah. I had no connection with my maker. But suddenly I became sick. When I became sick. I ran from this hospital to that one. They did not know what was wrong with me. What could I do? I raised my hands in supplication for the first time in my life. Oh Allah.

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will change my bad ways might habits or luck cure me. And the last is Look at how beautiful you are. Look at how lovely Your heart is clean. Look at how soften your heart is. Look at how you've come to us. We want to keep you in this condition for a slightly longer while because we love how dedicated you are to us when you are in this condition.

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Was it a mercy? It was a mercy. Was it a punishment? No, it wasn't. It was a gift.

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So don't think every time something negative happens, it's a punishment. No, it's a gift of Allah. Sometimes. When you have too much in terms of the world, you forget your makeup. A lot of the people that happens to them shaitan comes to make you think okay, by the way, I've got the money, I've got the looks, I've got the health, I've got the wealth, I've got the family, I've got everything set and going What do we do? Let's go for a holiday where somewhere.

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We go on a holiday. That's not wrong. so far. It's not wrong. But when we were on holiday, no Salah, no halal food, no nothing. We started clubbing. We started drinking, everyone started dancing and suddenly boom, something went wrong.

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What happened? He realized, Hey, I went a little bit too far away from Allah. So you go back and say, Oh Allah, what has happened to me? Oh ALLAH forgive me, Oh Allah, my, Allah says, Well, we love you. That's why we brought you back while you are alive. We brought you back to us. Every one of us without exception, we have needs. Understand the one who fulfills those needs is Allah. You'll make a difference, develop humbleness, develop humility.

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I want to share something with you about how to reach out to other human beings.

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It's a hottie. I'm sure a lot of us would know. I've said it before I repeat it because whether kilfin notic rotten fowl, meaning remind for the reminding would benefit the believers.

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The Prophet Muhammad peace be upon him,

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made mention of a man

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who was in the desert. And he was very, very thirsty.

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So he was looking for a while he found a well, and he didn't have a container now to go and get water from the well. So he took out his shoe. And he went down the well. He filled it with water he drank. He came up when he came up. He saw something

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What did he see? It was about to change his life. What he saw was life changing.

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Guess what it was? Someone might say? Oh, he must have seen a pretty lady changed his life. He got married happily happily ever after? No. He must have seen two angels know.

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What was the scene? He saw a dog.

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He saw dollar painting. Painting out of what? First?

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for either Calvin yaku taramasalata for either kelburn Yella yakutat Amina latesh suddenly he saw this dog painting and it was trying to dig into the ground out of thirst. The same

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so what did the man say? life changing, life changing?

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You and I know that this hadith is valid, it's correct. It's authentic. There's no dispute about it. Okay, and I want to share with you something else. It could have been a bird bird is a more noble animal than or a bird is a more noble creature than a dog. It could have been a kitten

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kitten Mashallah, in nomina tawaf. In fact, you know, it's an animal that is pure, because it comes around in the homes and so on and so forth. And it says, it's a cleaner, it's a better little, you know, pet, for example, but rather than it being a bird, or a human being, or a Muslim, or a non Muslim, or anyone else, it is a dog.

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as Muslims, we know that regarding dogs, there are certain restrictions that are far deeper than the normal animal.

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What are the restrictions? I'm not allowed to have a dog unless there is a reason either security dog farming dog or some have a valid reason, for example, a dog to lead a blind person, etc, etc. Some of these rulings, they are correct in the Sharia, some of them even the normal human beings, the others, they might realize that you know what, I don't need this and I don't need that. However, when it comes to that dog in particular, we know that even if it leaks us there is a specific way of washing, washing, where it leaked all the clothing.

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So you know the level of a dog

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but the Hadith says the man saw a dog and what happened in his heart he felt for the dog.

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Listen carefully. It's a powerful message. It is a powerful message.

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In his heart, he felt mercy for the dog. And he said lacob Bella had

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this dog

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has reached a point of thirst that I had moments ago.

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Moments ago I was testing this dog is as thirsty as I was. So what did he do? He realized the dog cannot go into the well. So he took his shoe, the same shoe that he drank with. He went back down into the well. He filled it with water, he came all the way up. He got close to the dog, he put his shoe to the mouth of the dog, and the dog drank the water. Allah says, So as a result, we forgave him all his sins.

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Did you hear that?

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Did you hear that?

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He felt for a dog.

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We have no feelings for other human beings just because they don't share the same faith with us.

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They are far more normal than dogs, because I should have.

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Oh, I should have Luca locati.

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humankind is the most noble of the creation of Allah subhanaw taala we have no feeling is that Islam? Is that your character? Is that your conduct?

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When if you were to see a dog, and it's an authentic narration, if you had compassion towards an animal, you would achieve something Noble. What about compassion towards another human being? What about compassion towards Muslims as well, amongst ourselves, we hate each other just because of a small difference.

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It doesn't need to get to that level. You don't need to become violent. You don't need to start blowing up places. You don't need to start harming people who are not involved. What have they done to you? They did nothing to you.

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That's not Islam. That's not the character of the Prophet, peace be upon him. That's not what he did.

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So Panama, we need to go back to the drawing board and check ourselves. Check your heart. I'm not asking you to compromise. Your D never impossible, become a better Muslim. Become a person who is more regular with their Salah it will show in your character.

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It will show in your character. If you are very regular with your Salah, but your character is evil and your heart is filled with hatred, enmity, envy, jealousy, and so on. There's something wrong with your intentions, your Salah, there's something wrong with it, go back, fix your intention, do it for the sake of Allah try again.

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One of the signs of closeness to Allah is that you become lenient towards the creatures of the same Allah. Why? Because Allah whom I'm trying to get close to is the one who made them for a purpose.

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Allah made them. Allah created them. Allah created everything. Just like He created you, he created the others.

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How can you start harming the creatures of Allah subhanho wa Taala for nothing, no purpose.

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May Allah subhanho wa Taala help us? I hope these few words have actually assisted and helped. I read the end of surah Furqan at the beginning of my talk, I want to give everyone some homework. Please take it seriously. Go home, pick up the translation of the Quran or

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on your phones. I'm sure we have an app with the Quran. Can I just see by a show of hands? How many of you have an app with the Quran in it on your phone? Raise your hands hi

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Subhana Allah, almost everyone for the halali

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How many of you make use of it every single day? Put up your hand, be honest. There we are. 2% 5% maybe 10%. I want that to change Why? We are the owner of the score. And I started off at the beginning telling you every verse of it has in it gems diamonds, we have lessons we have rules, regulations. This is the word of Allah, it brings about goodness, it calms you down.

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It is the remembrance of Allah. The best remembrance is to read the Quran. Someone says do some Deacon, the best Vicar is gelato Koran. read the Quran and try to understand it because a lot of us the problem with us people can con us because we haven't looked at the meanings of the Quran. So why is Islam like this? Why is Islam like that? Have you ever read the Quran Have you tried to understand it?

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No, we were told it's haram to look at the meaning Come on, come on, someone's trying to pull cotton wool over your eyes. How can it be? You need to study the Tafseer of the Quran the meanings of the Quran properly, you need to get the interpretations of it, because that is how nobody will be able to fool you thereafter, you will know the answers for yourself.

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And Hamdulillah, my brothers and sisters, those verses of Serato.

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Please go through them. The last few verses of surah Furqan where Allah describes a bad man, the worshipers of the Most Merciful Who are they? Here are their qualities, go and read those qualities and start adopting those qualities. start adopting them. See, it goes as far as how you should walk.

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How you should walk, Allah is telling you, when you walk, walk with humility, with humbleness, no need to be haughty I'm better I am this and no, no, no, take it easy. You are just another human being. You're fortunate that you have belief but you are just another human being. The day you can say I am better is the day you have given your book in your right hand. May Allah make us from amongst those.

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So those are the verses I end with again, by encouraging you to go through and inshallah to be able to refine your character and conduct the same applies to myself. So Hannah has Allah bless you all. I really enjoyed my time in Kenya. It's a pity we didn't go to Mombasa inshallah, the next time, we'll add a few more of the places not just Mombasa as well, and perhaps we will come back to Nairobi to by the word of Allah subhanho wa Taala. The idea is, we all need to help each other to go to gentlemen, you make to ask for me pray for me, I pray for you. When we meet each other, we meet each other with the sole purpose of becoming better people so that we can earn paradise we serve

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humanity at large for the sake of Allah subhanho wa Taala we serve the rest of the creatures of Allah in the rights that they have over us for the sake of Allah Subhana Allah Allah in this way, we will be able to develop ourselves, our families, our communities, our nations, the oma at large and we will be able to serve the purpose that we are here on earth for ultimately worshipping Allah alone, following the tsunami, Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam akula Kali hada wa Salatu was Salam. ala nabina Muhammad was Salam alaykum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh