Mufti Menk – Ramadan Boost #02 – Good in what we dislike – The Blessing of Islamic Divorce

			Salam alaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakato
		

			Bismillah Alhamdulillah wa Salatu was Salam ala rasulillah Allah Allah He was happy as remain My
beloved brothers and sisters. This evenings verses were amazing because they are filled with wisdom
not to say that the rest of the Quran is not. But Subhan Allah sometimes there is a code that
strikes when Allah speaks to us. What is amazing is we see His signs, we see his verses, at a time
when we need those verses. The Quran is filled with so many instructions, the Hadith of the Prophet
sallallahu alayhi wa sallam is filled with so much. But every time it seems like when we hear a
verse, or we see a Hadith, it was designed for us at that moment, we needed the guidance. Let me
		

			give you an example. In life, my beloved brothers and sisters, we need to make decisions. Sometimes
we are not sure about these decisions, and we don't know. So Allah tells us you follow a certain way
you pray to Allah, you seek guidance from those who love you from those who care for you from those
who are professionals in the field that is called Masha Allah, or mushara. While I'm wrong, Shu raba
you know whom Allah speaks about how their affairs are discussed, with mutual consultation, you have
an issue, a major issue, you talk about it to someone you trust, number one, someone who cares for
you. Number two, and someone who has knowledge in that particular matter. Number three, then you
		

			make dua to Allah and you seek the guidance of Allah and Allah will open your ways in one way or
another. Now, sometimes we desperately want something but Allah does not open the door.
		

			And sometimes we don't want something but Allah is driving us towards that thing. It happens. I
desperately want a job. I desperately want to get married somewhere. I desperately want to move
somewhere. I desperately am looking for something, it is just not coming. So Allah subhanho wa Taala
says, well as
		

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			it is possible at times that you detest something but it's better for you. You know your boss
suddenly fires you
		

			unjustified and you don't know why did this happen? I was innocent and you make dua to Allah. You
ask Allah you call out to Allah and Allah subhanho wa Taala has helped seems not to be coming. But
if you're a believer, you know what Elsa and Takahashi and wahoo Okay, you're lucky. Perhaps there
is something good in what seems to be bad at this point. And sometimes you really want something or
want to get out of something. And you don't know Allah is keeping you there. So that is why the rest
of that verse Allah subhanho wa Taala says, was
		

			to him Moshi Oh, Chateau la comme la jolla. Alamo.
		

			Mo soon. Indeed, perhaps. There are things that you love that are not good for you. Indeed, Allah
knows what you don't know. And Allah knows, you do not know. So May Allah subhanho wa Taala. Guide
us. Brothers and sisters a sign of a man is contentment. That's a sign of a man. When you are a true
mock Minh, you are happy upon all conditions are Jubilee. Mini for in Anambra, who could Allahu
Allah, the prophet SAW Selim says, amazing are the affairs of a true believer for all his affairs
are always good for him. If goodness comes, he is thankful he becomes closer to Allah, it was better
if bad befalls him, he best patients, it was better for him and he says, Oh Allah, it could have
		

			been worse. Na ilaha illa Allah, this is the gift of Allah. So these verses are so impressive. Then
there were other verses we read tonight that drew me into a different zone altogether. They were
about Palak. Pollack means divorce. You know, we get married. We want the marriage to work. We're
excited the day that the Vows are exchanged, and the day that everything is happening. We're so
excited and thereafter You know what, Subhanallah things start falling away.
		

			In many cases nowadays, it is a sacrifice. Marriage is not a perpetual honeymoon. We've said that
before. It is a sacrifice. You need to sacrifice change your life. In order to be able to get along
with your spouse, you need to have dedication, you need to make each other feel important. May Allah
subhanho wa Taala let that happen. But sometimes we have differences
		

			in some cultures and faiths
		

			Divorce is not permissible at all You married that's a life sentence. It's over literally a life
sentence. And Subhanallah in some cultures, they divorce they don't even marry they are together and
not together and the next day someone else and the following day, another and the fifth day of
person. Islam is a balance. Allah tells you know, you marry, you are dedicated, you are focused, you
make sure it works, you try and try again. If for some reason something goes wrong and it didn't
work, Allah says we give you two chances, not just one Subhan Allah tala cammarata
		

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			Those are some of the most powerful verses when it comes to divorce. Allah says divorce can only
happen twice thereafter, you either leave them you either hold them with goodness, or you leave them
with goodness, you hold them in a way that is known that is common that is the norm or you release
them with goodness with kindness. Why does Allah say this? Do you know we have a misunderstanding
that when you want to divorce someone, you say Allah, Allah tala and it's done? No, that is a wrong
way of doing things. Did you know that that is sinful, it is actually prohibited to say that and to
do that you're not supposed to be issuing more than one at any given time. So those who tell you
		

			that's how you divorce, they don't know. Allah says you only divorced once and then you still have a
chance. If for example, you want to reconcile after that there is a scope? because Islam is based on
mercy. Subhana Allah. Allah says you might separate after the first divorce and after a while you
might decide you know what, I'm missing human. I'm missing your food Subhan Allah, especially if it
is Turkish food, Masha, Allah, Allah bless all of us Baraka la Vika, my beloved brothers and
sisters, and then you decide, well, obviously that's petty, but I'm only giving you an example.
Because one might say, well, who cooks hear, you know, and we get into another debate. And by the
		

			way, the men are better chefs than women. That's what the world was told. I think, may Allah
subhanho wa Taala grant us the ability to protect ourselves from such debates. Because in all
honesty, all we need is just good food. Getting back to what I was saying, so you might miss your
spouse and what will happen as a result is you decide you know what, I want to get back together.
Some cultures say no, not allowed. Islam says no problem. You want to get back again together for
Allah junuh Halima Raja, there is no harm in coming back. You only gave one divorce. After that you
got along you spend some time maybe there is a chance things might go wrong. Once again, you gave
		

			another divorce. Allah subhanho wa Taala says you have one more chance, one more chance after that.
You take her back then you cannot divorce after that a third time thinking that you can take her
back once the third one goes in. You have to separate May Allah subhanho wa Taala grant us goodness
and ease. So it is something impressive because people think that the rules of divorce in Islam are
barbaric. No, they are actually the best and the most reasonable and the most food with mercy, so
much so that some people say why is it that I need to marry someone else before I can go back to my
old husband? Let me quickly explain to you, if it's the one talaq you get back, there is no need to
		

			marry someone else. If it is the second one you get back there is no need to marry someone else. If
it is the third one, Allah says, You guys don't appreciate each other, you now have to go into a
different situation altogether. Maybe if that doesn't work without any interference from you, you
might then appreciate your previous spouse doesn't that make sense? Doesn't that make sense? I drove
it Toyota for many years sorry to give you the example of Motor Vehicles there after I gave it up
for another car but guess what? I had to come back to it after some time because I realized only
after driving a different vehicle that you know what that Toyota would take me from here to Kenya,
		

			the only thing I would need was petrol. May Allah subhanho wa Taala protect us. By no means do i
mean to promote the vehicle itself but it is a good car right? My brothers and sisters that is the
beauty of Allah, their verses are filled with goodness but inshallah we will continue by the will of
Allah again tomorrow if Allah wills and until then May Allah forgive us, grant us from his mercy and
open our doors. akuto Kohli hada was Allah who was Allah wa barik ala nabina Muhammad wa salam
aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato.