Mufti Menk – Boost #03 Verses of Divorce

			Salam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato. My brothers, my sisters, this is the third boost for the
month of Ramadan to encourage us to do the right things, to try and understand what is being recited
in Salah to Tara we in the evenings, to improve ourselves to develop the taqwa and the God
consciousness that is the whole essence of this beautiful month of Ramadan and the fasting. So my
brothers and sisters, I've just come from Masjid the neighbor, we, after the third or the completion
of the third Tara, we're this evening, the Imam read some beautiful verses. But these verses are
connected to something people don't like to talk about the verses connected to Talaq or divorce in
		

			Islam. Islam is the only religion that gives you three chances. Subhanallah, which means if you
don't get along, and you really feel like you cannot live with one another, then Allah tells you how
to separate in a way that he still gives you time to reconcile within that period. If you were to
reconcile, it's okay, if the period passes, and you haven't reconciled and Allah Almighty says,
Well, you can part your ways. You can go your own different directions, and you can marry whomsoever
you wish, besides the person who you were married to. And if ever you want to come back to the
person, you simply need to officiate a new marriage or what we call a Nika and you will be back
		

			together again because you only separated once, you only divorced once, but if for example, you
happen to to make up during that period, and you got back again together, and mashallah, everything
worked. And hamdulillah it was good for you, you were given a chance and guess what it worked for
you. That's what Allah Almighty says that there is a possibility that after you didn't get along, he
can create within your hearts love that is unprecedented like never before. Then Allah Almighty
says, Well, if for the second time you still didn't get on, after some time trying to reconcile and
you didn't get on, you happen to separate through the pronunciation of one Talaq for the second
		

			time. So it becomes to, then Allah Almighty says we still give you another chance. And we give you a
period of time, within which you may reconcile once again. And if you do reconcile in that period of
time, Allah Almighty says, Well, that's good for you, isn't it? Subhan Allah, it was Allah who
created that connection once again, and the ability to reconcile and perhaps better than ever
before, may Allah grant us good marriages, I mean, but Allah Almighty says if you've separated once
with the pronunciation of what is known as a padlock, and then you separate a second time with the
pronunciation of what is known as a padlock, and both times you reconcile the third time that this
		

			happens, there is no reconciliation permitted permissible.
		

			What needs to happen, you need to realize you guys are just not getting along. It's about time, you
went your own ways and you married someone else.
		

			So that's what Allah Almighty tells us. Now, in the interim, Allah addresses the parents and the
guardians of those who are who have just divorced and Allah says, if they have separated for the
first time or the second time, Allah Almighty says do not stop them from getting back to each other.
If the two of them would like to get back to each other many times. Parents say don't go back to
him. Don't go back to her. It's okay, it's over. It's done. We don't want if the two of them would
like to get back and there was only one polyp or two, they may get back do not stop them. Allah says
don't prohibit them from getting back to each other. Similarly, Allah Almighty says don't hold a
		

			woman back in order to punish her. There are some people who just don't pronounce the Talaq. For
example, Allah warns them and says, if you're doing that, to punish her or to fix her, Allah says,
We will fix you Subhanallah at some point in your life, you will taste the venom of your own poison
Allahu Akbar, your own deeds, how because you did a very bad deed. So some of this is mentioned in
Surah Baqarah Surah Nisa May Allah Almighty grant us from His goodness, so this encircle Bacara
Allah speaks about what what we're seeing today. And over and above that Allah Almighty then tells
us that you know, what, if three Tilex have happened, and you haven't managed to reconcile the first
		

			two times the third time you marry someone else, thereafter, if you've been in another marriage, and
you realize you know what, this is even worse than the one I was in first. Then Allah says you're
allowed to go back after a normal natural divorce. When I say natural divorce, I mean without the
interference of your ex spouse. If a divorce happened thereafter from your second spouse, you may go
back to your first spouse because you will now appreciate your first spouse because you've not
you've been in a
		

			Situation far worse than what you were in. That's the whole idea of three Deluxe in Islam. It's not
in order to rattle out the three catalogs in order to get rid of a woman, no, that is sinful, it is
very sinful and dangerous. It is wrong and forbidden. You're only ever allowed to issue one at a
time. And that, too, after that you're supposed to try to reconcile, if possible, if not possible,
no problem, but for as long as you've tried. So the law or divorce is permissible in Islam as a last
resort, and Allah says still cadoola Fela Tata dua, these are the limits of Allah don't cross them,
the boundaries that Allah has sent. Do not play with what Allah has made sacred, do not, you know,
		

			threaten people with divorce all the time, do not threaten people with something dangerous,
something like this. So I thought I'd just share this with you. In today's boost, in order for us to
realize that Allah Almighty is the one, He is the giver of happiness, He is the giver of goodness.
And at the same time, there is a possibility you may not get on with each other. It's not the first
divorce, it will not be the last divorce. So it's not something that you need to get angry about. If
you tried your best and it's your last resort, no problem. You've parted ways on condition that you
did. So fearing Allah, conscious of the relationship with Allah in sha Allah, you will have a better
		

			life thereafter. But if you did so without having tried, or you did so not as a last resort, or you
did so just as a pastime and a joke, or you did so without actually fearing Allah and without
fulfilling the rights after divorce, then it's not going to be an easy path ahead. It's going to be
extremely difficult. At times people say being divorced is more difficult than being married. So
consider that. Yes, it is. And then you need to realize if there are children involved, you are
going to have to surrender to the rule and the law of Allah regarding those children come what may
know, mudslinging, we need to understand these children need to be nurtured in the pleasure of
		

			Allah. These children need to be nurtured in the obedience of Allah be taught good morals, values
and connection with Allah Almighty. May Allah make it easy for all those who are struggling in their
marriages. May Allah grant you the ability to reconcile in this beautiful night of Ramadan in this
beautiful month that is so blessed during the fasting and the recitation of the Quran and so much in
terms of act of worship. May Allah make it easy for everyone. Those who are struggling May Allah
grant your solution. Those who have gone through divorce may Allah grant you the best of the future.
Don't give up Allah's doors will fling wide open for you bear patients keep trying do the right
		

			thing. Build your link with Allah rely on Allah Almighty those who are struggling in any way across
the globe in anything we ask Allah Almighty to grant you ease and goodness those who have passed on
tonight or last night or whenever May Allah grant him Jana tool for those May Allah grant in
paradise and forgiveness. May Allah make it easy for the rest of the families who have lost loved
ones or who have suffered any form of loss. May Allah recompense us with goodness Akula ko Leha wa
sallahu wa selama Baraka ala Nabina Muhammad