Taraweeh Lecture at Masjidul Quds Gatesville Cape Town
Date : 10th June 2017
Topic : Save Ourselves Part 2
Speaker : Mufti Ismail Menk
Mufti Menk – Ramadan 2017 – Save Yourself – Part 2 – Episode 16
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The speakers discuss the importance of using the season of the year to earn forgiveness and being honest and hardworking in marriage. They also emphasize the need for privacy and guidance in life, and the importance of showing success and weaknesses to others. The speakers stress the need for individuals to use their wealth to end their behavior and show their success.
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Salam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato.
Bismillah al Rahman al Rahim al hamdu lillahi wa salatu salam ala rasulillah Allah Allah He was happy.
We praise Allah subhanho wa Taala we send blessings and salutations upon Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, his entire household his companions May Allah subhanho wa Taala bless them all and when Allah subhanho wa Taala bless every one of us and grant us goodness and ease. My beloved brothers and sisters, half of Ramadan is done.
And we know that if we have not softened up, it is us who will lose. It is not Allah subhanho wa Taala who loses he gives us the season. If we did not make use of the season, we are to blame. So my brothers and sisters, I call on myself and yourselves to ensure that we use this beautiful season of Ramadan, to earn the forgiveness of Allah to purify the heart to have good thoughts about one another. When you see someone do something, have the best thought in your mind. Don't have a dirty thought because a Muslims heart is definitely very precious. It is something that we should never ever compromise. This heart is a gift of Allah subhanho wa Taala he says, In the hadith of
Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, Allah in the field Jessa de la magua either Salah had Salah halda Dooku what either faster that faster than just do kulu an hour here. Indeed in the body there is an organ or a piece of flesh. If it is pure and good, the whole body will be pure and good. If it is bad and spoiled and messed, the entire body will be bad and spoiled and mess.
So my brothers and sisters, it's up to us to ensure that the heart is good because the Hadith ends by saying that piece of flesh is the heart. May Allah subhanahu wa taala give us a sound heart. May Allah help us to love one another. May Allah help us to help one another. May Allah subhanho wa Taala grant agenda to this evening. I want to commence where I left off yesterday Surah
Surah number 28 of the Quran we read it in Salatu tarawih tonight so now we have caught up between what we are speaking about in terms of the series and the recitation insalata tarawih.
You know that musala is salatu wa sallam, he left the Pharaoh and he arrived in Medina, he helped the two women if you recall, he helped the two women. And after that he made a beautiful day out to Allah subhanho wa Taala that we mentioned yesterday, and I said we should be calling out to Allah using the same let me quickly repeat it or be in neelima
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funky, oh my Rob, I am in desperate need of any goodness that you are going to send in my direction. Anything. So when that happens when you make that dua to Allah, He will send you something grant by the will of Allah, even if you don't understand through that drop the entire life of musala is Salatu was Salam was about to change. So one of the girls came back and she says, Allah subhanho wa Taala says that this woman tells musala his salatu wa salam. In Abbe de roca Leah Gz aka Giovanna sacani Jelena My father is calling you to give you the reward, because you helped us to quench the thirst of the flock of sheep. He was a happy man. But he decided according to some narrations to
follow this woman home would be a slight bit of a problem because he wanted to protect his gaze. So according to some narrations, he said, let me walk in front of you and you direct me Subhana Allah, so she noticed this man is something else. Meaning he wants me to He wants me to walk behind him, so that he walks in front and I can lead him you know, left and right etc. Until they got to the home from that she knew his honesty, and from the fact that he helped with the flock. They knew his strength. He was a strong man, he did it quick, very fast. So what happened is when they got there, Allah subhanho wa Taala says, Phelim
masala Hinata sauce, kala Lata nijo terminal como Vani mean when he got to srivalli salam. Now remember, where do we get that this was Dr. Ali Salam. According to some of the narrations. It was the Nabhi of Allah Shriver and a salatu wa sallam, there is no reason for us to say it wasn't so we will hold it at that. So she Ivana is Salam listens to the story. And he says, Don't worry.
Allah has saved you from the oppressors. And then one of the daughters spoke up now I'm going to speak about this this evening because it is a very great lesson for us. We have problems in our communities in our homes. If people are complaining the women, the girls, the
Everyone is complaining that our parents are being hard and the parents are not listening. Parents are saying the children are listening when it comes to marriage. So, let's learn a lesson. One of the girls tells the father
Yeah, but is that God who in Fira minister Jokowi, you me? Verse number 26, of surah, casas, she says, Oh our Father, why don't you employ him give him a job, the best person you can give a job to is one who is strong and honest, hardworking and honest. Okay. Let's save ourselves, my brothers and sisters, let's save ourselves from loss in terms of production and productivity by employing those who are hardworking and honest, these two qualities you cannot do with just one of them. You have to have both. If you want to succeed, you need to work hard. And you need to be honest, if you are honest, but you don't work hard. We don't need you. And if you work hard, but you are not honest, we
also don't need you. And you are not needed by anyone. And you don't need those type of people. So remember these things, you work very hard. And you must be very honest to things if you have that you will go very far in life. Where did we get it from the Quran? Let's save ourselves and save others. If it's your business, you know what type of people to employ. And if you are the person working you know what type of a job you need to fulfill, be honest and hardworking, in Hydra minister Jota alcovy. And I mean, indeed, the best person you could ever give a job to is the one who strong meaning hardworking and honest, trustworthy. May Allah subhanho wa Taala grant this to us
now, when a young girl is praising a man What should the father Understand? Subhana Allah Subhana Allah, you know, dad, Mashallah Tabata Kala
good man, really good man. He's honest. He's hardworking. The father says, okay, I've understood it. I've understood it. In our times, they are not as shy as that they'll tell you that I want to marry him straight. It's not it's not as shy as that before. If you look at the hadith of Rasulullah sallallahu Sallam also he speaks about how a woman sometimes says a few good words about a man giving, like science to say, you know what, I'm interested that can you please find out question that we have? Is it wrong for a woman to show interest in marrying someone and to tell her folks I'm interested in so and so please find out more? Please, can you help me? Is it wrong? The answer is
no. It is not wrong. As much as we do not condone a haram relationship. Do not go out with someone and you know, sleep with them and starve. Do whatever is haram there is to be done. And then come to that and say that, you know what, I've been going out for five years now. I think I'm ready to get married. That's not an Islamic way of doing things. From the beginning. You say that, you know what, I don't have a relationship. But I'd like you to find out more about this person Subhana Allah because perhaps they are good. I came across them this way or that way, or whatever way. Sometimes you stumble across them in a correct way. Sometimes it could have been, perhaps maybe may not have
started in such a brilliant way but keep it as clean as possible. My brothers and sisters remember, when you sow a seed, let it be a pure seed so that the pure fruit can grow. Don't let it be a seed of evil. If you've done something wrong, make Toba it will purify the seat. People say you know when I got married, I did the wrong thing. When I got married all before I got married. I did so much of wrong. My brothers and sisters. It's not the end of the world. You can change it by Toba seek Allah's forgiveness and ask Allah subhanho wa Taala to forgive you. And you will definitely find the doors opening and the seeds purifying once again. May Allah subhanho wa Taala make it easy. But the
point here is look at how she raised the issue. The father understood it. Let's go back to Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam Khadija been to Hawaii there'll be a law against all odds, against all odds.
She also proposed for Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, she wouldn't have believed that it was going to be accepted, guess what? It came through. And that was the best marriage he had. He had all his children from her idea, God Allah, Allah Subhana Allah, He used to miss her later on. She was much older than him. So it's not wrong for a woman to show interest. In some cultures. It is taboo for the father of the girl to go out and to the father of the boy or even to the boy and said, You know what, my daughter is actually interested in marrying you or I would like you to marry my daughter, etc. Some cultures believe it's totally taboo. Remember, who knows that you have a
daughter? Many people don't. You need to come out. You've seen all the sons in the massage, haven't you? You've seen all the people all around, you know, you interact SubhanAllah. Nowadays, people tell their kids find your own spouse. That's it. No, it's also your duty your responsibility. Mainly it is you the hadith of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam speaks about how a person who has three daughters looks after them and gives them a dish.
upbringing and helps them getting married into decent homes and is kind to them will get Jenna. Do you know why? Because you brought up a child for somebody else. That's the reason you brought up a daughter, you loved her you spent on her you invested and you did everything and you gave her away to someone else. That's the most difficult thing you could ever do. You did it Allah says for you is Jelena someone asked the messenger. What about if I only had two daughters? He says even to Subhana Allah.
That's the reason and this is why in Islam, we don't sell our kids with a dowry and a bride price to say Listen, I'm the father I need $70,000 That's it. Why? Because I sent her to school. She went to a government school she went to university she did this she did that. That's part of your agenda. If you want the payment in the dunya forget about that. Jenna, may Allah subhanho wa Taala Forgive us, may Allah grant us ease with us. There is no dowry or bride price there is only something known as a matter which is a gift from the groom to the bride. Subhan Allah sometimes we call it a down payment.
May Allah subhanho wa Taala grant us ease that Allah subhanho wa Taala help us so it's amazing how the father's is in the UI do.
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Giuliana juliani sama Ania AJ, I would like to get you married off to one of my two daughters on condition that you work for me for eight years, my shala work for me for a while meaning you marry her stay with me. That brings me to another cultural aspect of our living that people consider taboo. man gets married. He lives with his in laws. Everyone says sellouts Look at him. He can't even live living with his father in law. They have names to refer to such people do you know that? derogatory names, yet? The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam In fact, Prophet musala salatu wa sallam he worked for his father in law Anything wrong? No, not at all. He worked for him how many
years 10 whole years not just eight he added another two so can Allah He said no problem I work Did anyone insulting? Not at all. The idea is they need to be happy whether this side that side are independent for as long as you're happy respecting each other and and you are living with each other. You will save yourself from a lot of trouble and calamity and turmoil and turbulence. There is nothing to say you have to live here or you have to live there or you're not allowed to live with your in laws or you cannot take from your father in law if he wants to give you an hamdulillah No, Eleanor Why not? Take it hamdulillah The others are jealous brats. May Allah subhanho wa Taala help
us? Allah subhanho wa Taala. Grant us ease and goodness, my brothers and sisters, I think the point is quite clear to say in Islam, there's no hard and fast rule to say you're not allowed to do this or you're allowed to do that. Generally, you're the man, so much so that musala his solemn did not have any provision. He did not have much he only had strength and what else honesty, to qualities, and the daughter of a Nabhi was given to him take Subhana Allah and he was a strange man. He was not yet an epi of Allah. He was a stranger but they found him to be a good man. within no time. Subhana Allah, how many of us would do that? Some kind of law. But I know someone might say, Well, look, if
it was musala salam, I probably wouldn't.
But my brothers and sisters, the point being raised is when you have a son in law, who is respectable, responsible, hardworking and honest, even if he is poor, even if he doesn't yet have money, no problem. He will look after your daughter the way he will look after himself. So you get him married. Because many of us today who have children Mashallah and perhaps we are living a little bit wealthier than what we were before we started off with zero. We when we married for 20 years, we did not even have a car or a house next to our name and we are demanding that he who comes to marry our daughter must already have two palaces.
Subhan Allah, we demand that he must already have such a salary, he must have a car he must have this he must have that where did we get this from? Save yourselves the tension. We are promoting promiscuity and adultery by making that which is halaal difficult. If you make nikka difficult one law he will be answerable in the eyes of Allah subhanho wa Taala for having made Zina and adultery so easy because Allah made nikka and marriage simple in order to avoid haram and we are making it difficult so that people fall into haram you definitely share a portion of the sin if you are guilty.
May Allah make it easy for us. So this man, he got married Mashallah he lives with his father in law and Allah subhanho wa Taala makes mention of it in such a beautiful way. Remember my brothers and sisters, this is a gift of Allah subhanho wa Taala these stories are amazing. While la he they are not there for us to just read and to say wow, have we ever looked at the story of Musa alayhis salaam, the way I did it today to say Look how he got married.
Why did Allah make mention of this story? Why did Allah say that the father in law looked at him and said, okay, you work here, don't worry, get married to my daughter and inshallah things will be okay. They worked together, they were so happy, she became the wife of an abbey of Allah subhanho wa Taala. Imagine what type of a day I recall a story, a true story without giving you names. One of the leaders of a nation, he became a president of a nation later on. At one stage. He wanted to get married when he was a student.
And he was living in a foreign land, and he went to plead with the father of the girl, and she refused and rejected completely. A few months later, when he graduated, and there were elections in his country and he stood, he became the leader. And his father looked at him on TV, and he said, Isn't that the guy who came for my daughter? Too late that too late? Too late. Today we make our decisions based on materialistic items. Remember, use the guidelines of Allah you will never go wrong. You use the guidelines of Allah you will never go wrong. Seek the guidance of Allah ma you won't go wrong. Do not make it difficult for your children to get married. Well luckily my brothers
and sisters, this is an Amana it's a trust entrusted to us. Let's move on. We move on to another topic altogether also in the same surah regarding when we sit with people who have nothing better to say but vulgar words bad mouthing talk about this one. You know spread gossip about that one spread rumor make you hate others. If I'm sitting with someone and they're making me hate people by talking bad about that one. Terrible about this one saying something about that one, this one What should I do? This is called low in fact it is worse than level level is something which is unnecessary. But if you are if you are a good Muslim, the quality is made mention of here in this beautiful Surah
Surah casas where Allah subhana wa mortalities what either some your loved one waka Luna Luna walaikum
salam o Alaikum, la vida de jan Heaney, talking of the qualities of those who turn to Allah subhanho wa Taala. When they hear people indulging in that which is futile, they say to them,
they go away from them. Number one, they go away. How many of us when our friends or backbiting, can we actually stand up and we say, I'm going away? I'm not going to sit with you until you stop talking about these people. I think they wouldn't be any one of us. Who would really do that to our friends.
would we? Your friends are sitting and talking, you get up and you walk out you say you know what, I'm not going to be sitting with you until you change the topic.
I think we'd be more worried about losing our friends. But this is what the program teaches us. When people are committing any type of sin, whether it is backbiting or speaking against the dean or against people, etc. You're supposed to be walking away, tell them you have your deeds you're going to be answerable I have deeds I'm going to be answerable Peace be upon you. I cannot interact with those who are ignorant Subhan Allah, may Allah make it easy for us. Look at how Allah is teaching us to save ourselves from the calamity of the hereafter. Allah is telling us that if you are more concerned about the Day of Judgment, you wouldn't mind a small inconvenience in this world here. The
problem with us is we are more concerned about the inconvenience of the world. What are my friends going to say? How could I walk away? What are these ladies going to say? We're sitting here having tea, how can I be the odd one out to say sisters, please, let's not talk about others. But you have to if you do it, another few people will do it, you will start a trend then when we meet each other Guess what? The meetings will become shorter, because they will be more time for that which is proper, rather than talking about others do you know
I recall my dad many years ago telling my mom that when you go to someone's house, you sit for 10 minutes, 15 minutes after that you leave because after the 15 minutes, you start talking about other people. You start talking about other people you see hellos and how are used and what's going on and how's the children it takes 15 minutes after that. You know that girl, you know that lady, you know the sister, that's where it starts. So you sit for 15 minutes you walk away. Now this time frame may differ from person to person. The point is you need to know where to cut off so that your meeting does not become sinful, when it was meant to be with a good intention. Then there is another verse
where Allah subhanho wa Taala addresses Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. Now my brothers and sisters, we want to save ourselves from the fire of *. We definitely want to save ourselves from calamity in the world in the next together with that we also want to save our loved ones. We have people, our families, our children, perhaps our parents, our brothers and sisters, our communities, we want to save them we want to try and reach out to them so that they can also be saved from the calamity and disaster. So as a result, it pains us to see our children if they were on drugs, or if they had a bad habit or if they had some form of addiction or if they were disobedient.
It would hurt us because we are their parents. Why would it hurt us? Because Allah has created a connection between you and those. So you want good for them, your children, your uncle, maybe your aunt, your family members, you want good for them. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he had an uncle called a boot barn. This was a very good man, but he didn't accept Islam. What happened? He helped Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wasallam a lot. He defended him a lot. But on his deathbed, he didn't want to say the Shahada and the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam tried very hard.
You see the statement La ilaha illAllah Muhammad Rasulullah sallallahu Sallam the most powerful statement that you could ever have. The Prophet sallallahu Sallam told his uncle Yeah, ami pulchella mutton harju la cabeza Yeoman pm. Oh, my uncle, say this one statement, the rest of the battle on the Day of Judgment, I will fight it for you. You say the statement. Imagine say the one statement and he will fight the battle for you on the Day of Judgment. He's being told Subhan Allah, Allah, Allah, Allah, Allah.
Muhammad Abu rasuluh the uncle passed away. He didn't say it. And Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was so sad. And Allah subhanho wa Taala revealed versus telling Muhammad Sallallahu Sallam that we know guidance is in our hands. We know why we do what we do, because it is us who guide it's not you who guides. Now, Muhammad Sallallahu wasallam is definitely a guide without a doubt. But there are two types of guidance made mention of in the Quran.
If you were to ask me that you would like to go for example, to Port Elizabeth. And I tell you, okay, you catch this road. This is where you turn. This is what you see, this is where you will go and at the end, you will end up on this highway. Go straight until you see the signs and you turn into Port Elizabeth, what did I do? I guided you I gave you the path I showed you how to go there is one type of guidance. It's called a Delilah one shot. The other type of guidance is called a tofik tofik meaning now whether or not you did what was said, that is between you and Allah subhanho wa Taala so Mohammed salatu salam O Allah says, we're in Nicoletta de la sera.
Mr. King, indeed you are a guide to the straight path, you have guided the people to the straight path. But in this verse, verse number 56 of Soraka sauce Allah says, in a gala demon Babita wala kin La Jolla de mi Usha. Indeed you do not guide whomsoever you wish, we are the ones or Allah guides whomsoever He wishes. What Allah is referring to here is the final treading the path or not, who is going to do it, that is between them and Allah subhanho wa Taala. I hope we've understood the difference between these two types of guidance. One is to know the road and to be shown the road and the second is to be having the ability to tread the path. That is a different type of guidance. May
Allah subhanho wa Taala help us all, this is why we try our best we guide our children whether or not they are on the path, you leave that in the hands of Allah subhanho wa Taala you keep on making dua for them, never lose hope with your kids. No matter what they've done, don't lose hope keep trying. And inshallah one day, they may come keep making dua for them, that is your duty, and keep trying with them. May Allah subhanahu wa taala guide. So
then I'm going to move on a little bit further to a story
of Cameroon. And the reason I want to leave a few verses that I had actually written down to talk about is because we want to keep in pace with the recitation of the Torah we we heard tonight, the story of Cameroon, verse number 76 onwards have the same sort of pseudo classes. There is a very interesting point I want to raise. I'm sure you've heard the story of our own. He was a wealthy man at the time of Musa alayhis salam. Allah says, What attina will mean alcune uzima in Amma fatty Han Latin Oh be lost. Betty O'Neill coma, we gave him so much wealth, that the keys to the treasures
that he had just the keys were very difficult for a group of strong men to lift, not the treasure, the keys, the keys, how many keys there must have been. So Allah says just the keys to the treasures were very difficult for powerful people to live imagine what type of wealth He must be having with us. It's just a plastic card in the in the pocket so panela imagine how much wealth he must have had this man and Allah subhanho wa Taala says his claim was that he was boastful. He was arrogant. He used to boast he used to show off. He used to have his nose stuck up in the air like he's the only one and they were
was another problem. He used to say all this is given to me because of my own brain. My mind. Carla in Hootie hoo hoo Allah Elmina, the verse number 78. total costs around says, I have been given all of this because of my knowledge and sharp and witty, I'm a shrewd businessman. That's why I was given Allah says, No, no, no, no, no, we gave it to you, we gave you your brain also in the first place. So stop connecting it to your brain go one step higher, and connect it to the owner of the brain, the one who gave you that ability. It was Allah who sustains Subhana Allah, but the bigger problem was his sinful behavior.
And there was another issue. Allah says, For her rajala, Tommy heafy, zenity, he came out to his people, showing off all the beauty that Allah had given him. So he was adorned in it, and he was boasting and showing, and there were people who looked at it and they said something, what did they say, you know, today, Mashallah. It's not wrong to have wealth. But it's wrong to be arrogant with the wealth. It's not wrong, not to have wealth, but it's wrong to be arrogant, even if you don't have wealth. So it's not the wealth that makes you right or wrong. It's the attitude that comes with it. Some people have a lot, they are so humble. They might be seated in homage. millionaires, who
knows?
So Alhamdulillah good news to you. You use your wealth to end your agenda. It's possible. People have done it. They were Sahaba who did it.
But we are talking of a person who's arrogant, that when when we see someone with the latest car, the best home, they are flashing, they're sitting and talking on the latest phone, and you know, they have all the latest names and everything. What do the young people say? Let's be honest, let's be frank. What do the children say? Ooh, I want to be like that uncle. Don't they say that? One day, one day.
One day, you know, and we start taking photos, we stand next to the car, you know, with posing this way that way pictures like it's your vehicle, nothing. In fact, nowadays, you can get an app, choose what you want to stand next to they put you next to it so panela
but that's the attitude of the people why materialism has taken over this problem existed even at the time of qarun. So when he came out, Allah says karlen Lavina Yuri Donal hyah, dunya Yalla Jelena Miss lama udia carlone in hula don't have winavi him, the people who wanted the worldly life, they looked at him and said, Oh Allah, we wish that we had what you gave qarun and Allah says, No, you don't know the people of knowledge. They said, Be careful when you see wealth that comes with arrogance. Don't ask Allah to give that to you. Because if Allah gives that to you, He will punish you in the same way He punished those people. When Allah gives you sometimes it is a sign that he's
about to punish you. So he opens the door for you, when you've got everything you drown in it.
Remember this. So when you see someone doing something good with their wealth, you ask Allah, Allah give me well, so that I can do good, but you don't just see Oh, like, give me well, so that I can boast, I can flesh and I can show all the people on the street that I have achieved. I've succeeded. That's not what life is all about. No, it's not about a show. It's about worshipping Allah subhanho wa Taala.
If someone has wealth, and they're using it to do a lot of good that is when you say, Yeah, like if you gave me I would also do a lot of good with the wealth. May Allah give us and help us to use it in a good way. I mean, so the people of knowledge, told them don't wish for this, because this has come with arrogance, and haughtiness, but they were like, you know what, now we still want a bit of that wealth. And then Allah subhanho wa Taala says, for herself, nabee he will be dairy larva, we opened up the earth, and we caused that he and all his wealth and his home was swallowed by the earth. And in the morning, the people saw that Darwin is no more and his things are normal, and all
his wealth is swallowed by the earth. They looked at it and they said to themselves, what has happened, and guess what Allah makes mention of those who are wishing for that wealth, they said, just as well Allah didn't give us Subhana Allah just as well. Allah didn't give us had he given us he would have also punished us in the same way that He punished him.
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many, many bad he was Mio de la Cava, the people who wanted that the previous day they came up and said, Oh, behold, Subhan Allah, it is Allah who gives provision to whomsoever He wishes. If Allah had given us Lola, Amana, la la la la, la Sabina. If Allah had given us the same type of wealth, he would have also caused the earth to swallow us. So the point I want to raise Let us save ourselves from greed. Let us save ourselves from wanting things that
Come with arrogance ask Allah purely questions and ask Allah sustenance promising Allah if you give me the sustenance Yama, I am going to be from among those who spend this inshallah in the good cause and inshallah I will then through the wealth that you give me that is what you ask Allah you don't ask Allah for something that comes with bad habits in order to show off May Allah subhanahu wa taala protect us all we continue tomorrow in sha Allah puto Cody hada masala Allahu wa salam ala nabina Muhammad Subhan Allah Subhana Allah Mohammed, the shadow Allah Allah Highland, Mr. Furukawa to Winnie