Mufti Menk – Ramadan 2016 – Save Yourself Series – 8

			salaam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato.
		

			Bismillah Alhamdulillah wa Salatu was Salam ala rasulillah Allah Allah, he was happy here.
		

			We praise Allah subhanho wa Taala we send blessings and salutations upon Muhammad sallallahu alayhi
wa sallam, his entire household without exception, all his companions without exception. We ask
Allah Subhana Allah, Allah to bless them all and to grant us all, every single one of us goodness,
and to grant us the ability to follow him to understand his Sunnah, the ability to learn it, to put
it into practice and to convey to others. I mean, my beloved brothers and sisters, yesterday, we
took a look at the beginning of slaughter. And I made mention of the fact that humankind all come
from one human being, and that is Adam alayhis salatu salam. So Allah subhanho wa Taala makes
		

			mention of this. In order for us to fulfill each other's rights, we are all part of one family. As
we said, however, we become close family, with those who we know, although we are related to
everyone else, and in order to fulfill the rights of your relatives, you will need to know who they
are. And this is why lineage in Islam is sacred. You need to know your father, your mother, you
cannot cheat and lie regarding who you are and who your father is. We ask Allah subhanho wa Taala to
protect us, if we would like to save ourselves from the Wrath of Allah subhanho wa Taala and the
punishment of breaking ties of kinship, we need to know who these relatives are. So with the new
		

			generation, we spend less time knowing who our family members are, we don't even want to mix with
them. We don't want to interact with them. We don't want to say hello to them or Salaam to them, for
example. And in fact, like I said, we don't even know who they are. You meet a person every day, but
five years later you find out that your uncle Subhana Allah, that's not good enough. So my brothers
and sisters, Allah subhanho wa Taala tells us this, and Allah subhanho wa Taala makes it quite clear
in the opening verses of Surah Nisa and immediately after that, he makes mentioned in verse number
two of the issue of the orphans and the wealth left behind by the parents of the orphans more so the
		

			father and the fact that we are not allowed to usurp the wealth of the orphans. This issue of
inheritance is something very sacred. The wealth belongs to Allah, you had custodianship of it
whilst you are alive, the minute your eyes closed, that wealth belongs to someone else. It's Allah
subhanho wa Taala, who chooses whom that wealth will go to after you die? To a great extent, he only
gives you a limited, say in where you want that money to go. And I'm sure a lot of us would know the
rules and regulations in detail. If you don't, please go out and learn the laws of inheritance. It's
one of the only subjects that are discussed or that is discussed at great length in the Quran. In
		

			surah, Nisa, named after the women folk, do you know why a lot of us cheat our women regarding
inheritance, a lot of us do not give the right amount and portion and the right quantity to our
women, for we cheat our sisters, we cheat our daughters, we sometimes even cheat our mothers and
those who are related to us in terms of female May Allah subhanahu wa taala safeguard us this is why
Allah says, Why
		

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			give the orphans their wealth, and do not deceive them by changing their good wealth for your bad
merchandise. Sometimes there is stock that is left behind by a person they have often jubelin and
you are a person who happily looks at the stock. And you see this is good stock, let me swap it. Let
me change it with mine. So now you change it and you give them that which is bad. Now Allah subhanho
wa Taala. Protect or save yourself from the fire of jahannam by fulfilling the laws of inheritance
correctly. remember Allah subhanho wa Taala makes mention of all these laws of inheritance, and he
instructs us to do it as soon as possible without delay.
		

			People have passed away. Don't wait for a generation to generations before you sort your matters
out, sought them out immediately in order for you to achieve the mercy of Allah and be protected
from the fire or from the punishment of Allah in this world and the next Do you know after he makes
mention of all these proportions in Surah Nisa, he says verse number 14. Why May
		

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			Whoever transgresses against Allah subhanho wa Taala and His Messenger and goes beyond the limits
regarding inheritance for them will be a severe punishment in Hellfire forever. He uses the term
harlot and fee her or Holly Dena fee which means they will dwell there in forever everlasting. This
is in order to show us how serious it is when we do not distribute the inheritance according to the
law of Allah subhanho wa Taala my brothers and sisters, a few dollars, a few rains a few pounds,
what are we going to gain by it, we will actually earn the Wrath of Allah subhanho wa Taala if we
are usurping the wealth of someone else, may Allah subhanho wa Taala Forgive us, and may He save us
		

			from this punishment that he is making mention of? He says one of who
		

			they will have a disgraceful punishment. May Allah subhanho wa Taala not do that to us. So what
about seeking forgiveness? We all seek the forgiveness of Allah subhanho wa Taala. But the question
is When? When do you seek the forgiveness of Allah? Allah says Toba and repentance is not for a
person who constantly commits sin and waits for the time when they become old. And then when they
see the angel of death when death comes to them, then they quickly say, Oh ALLAH forgive me now. Now
Forgive me, you know, it's like you're throwing in the towel? May Allah subhanho wa Taala not do
that to us. Allah says in verse number 18, regarding how we should be repenting to him, regarding
		

			the fact that we should not be delaying up to the point of death, while I set a
		

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			Toba is not for the one who constantly committed sin upon sin, up to the point of death when the
Angel of Death comes. Then he says now I'm turning to Allah subhanho wa Taala. No, repent as soon as
possible. seek the forgiveness of Allah in order for you to be saved from what from the day you will
die perhaps without having sought the forgiveness of Allah then one wonders what will happen in the
hereafter all these warnings have been issued, we can indeed protect ourselves by asking Allah
forgiveness. So Allah subhanho wa Taala says, thereafter, regarding business matters, don't deceive
each other. When it comes to business. Be open, be clear. The Prophet Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa
		

			sallam speaks about the business people and the Prophet sallallahu Sallam says for in sadaqa,
verbena barakallahu Murphy man, if the two of them are truthful, and if they are open regarding the
commodity that they are selling, then Allah will give them Baraka Baraka means blessing, you may not
have the best of deal but you will definitely have the best in terms of in the eyes of Allah
subhanho wa Taala you will have Baraka blessing, you have a little bit, you are honest, look, I'm
selling you this car, it's damaged it used it was damaged here, and I repaired it it has a little
wobble the wheel, perhaps we might need to change this and that, but this is it. We hear we use the
		

			term foodstuffs. I'm sure you've heard that before, right? Which means take it as it is don't come
back. But you tell them exactly what is wrong with the vehicle. Then there is a price that you put
forth they will be able to bargaining and you sell it but never ever knowingly tell them nothing
wrong with the car. Never been in an accident. Absolutely perfect, absolutely unique. I always serve
as cheap, as per the book and you can see in the book is forged and it was damaged and everything
happened. You might earn a little bit more in terms of rands, but what law he you won't achieve
anything, you will never have saved yourself from the torment. Listen to what Allah says verse
		

			number 29 of Surah Nisa Allah says
		

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			coo oh you who believe do not consume the wealth of one another, do not consume the wealth of one
another deceivingly unless it is through the happiness of both of you that is the only time that
this deal will be blessed by Allah subhanho wa Taala both parties are happy. I am happy with the
fact that I sold it you are happy with the fact that you have purchased it and at the same time you
go away praying for me and I go away praying for you. I go home and say what a good deal and you go
home and say goodbye Mashallah.
		

			That's how it should be. May Allah subhanho wa Taala grant us an understanding. So in this way you
will save yourself from dispute from hatred from split amongst you, and so on. If you were to cheat
someone in business, it will catch up with you at some stage and your name will be spoiled. The
whole world will begin to know this person is actually a cheat. If you go to their business, they
will rub you don't do business with them. May Allah subhanho wa Taala save us from this. And then
Allah says in the same verse towards the end
		

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			Never ever. Allah says do not kill yourselves, for Indeed Allah is very merciful upon you. Some of
the scholars make mention of the connection between business and suicide. Sometimes people because
of financial difficulty and hardship, they feel You know what, it's the end of the road. Now there's
nothing I can do. I'm on the street at last this last that. Take a look at the credit crunch of the
United States A few years ago, so many people committed suicide because the bank came along, took
back the house, then to back the car, then took back the television then took back so many other
things that were on the street anyway. And the person had lost his job retrenched. He couldn't pay
		

			back and he had absolutely nothing yet five days earlier, he was leading a luxurious life. So Allah
subhanho wa Taala says, Be honest in business in your dealings, live according to your means. Don't
be shy to downgrade when you cannot afford when you are shy to downgrade you will definitely throw
yourself into destruction. May Allah subhanho wa Taala protect us from debt and at the same time May
Allah help those who are in debt to fulfill that debt. My brothers and sisters ask Allah to help you
to fulfill the debt and work towards it. Allah will open the doors alone will open your doors, but
at the same time also my brothers and sisters what we do need to know suicide is never an option to
		

			run away from your problems never an option. Allah says here clearly do not kill yourself it is
prohibited to commit suicide. And Allah says in Allah can become Rahim Allah is definitely most
merciful upon you. How can you do that? May Allah subhanho wa Taala protect us May Allah subhanahu
wa taala safeguard us from being punished for doing the wrong things rather than May Allah subhanho
wa Taala Have mercy on every single one of us. Then some people have more than others in terms of
virtue in terms of power and authority in terms of wealth, in terms of so many other things. It is
Allah who chooses who has more, who has less, some people have less, but remember, everyone has
		

			something special and unique from Allah subhanho wa Taala that is not shared by others or shared by
very few. You need to search for them. You need to look for them, even the beggar on the street who
might not have anything in terms of a home and a car and so on. But he will be having a certain gift
that Allah has bestowed upon him. If he is prepared to search for it, he will find it. You thank
Allah for that. Sometimes they are healthier than those who are wealthy and in the hospitals. May
Allah grant Shiva and cure to all those who are sick and Ill I mean, so my brothers and sisters,
Allah says, Allah.
		

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			Allah about verse number 32, speaking about the male and female, Allah make some into male and some
female, it was the decision and choice of Allah, I cannot belittle a female and a female cannot
belittle me just because I'm a male and she's a female, I need to realize Allah has given virtue, to
one above the other in certain aspects and to the other above this one. In certain aspects. Allah
says, don't wish that which Allah has bestowed upon others, don't wish for him. Don't become envious
in the wrong way. No, don't become envious in the wrong way. Don't become jealous of one another.
Allah has given that person Alhamdulillah make dua for them. In fact, if you look at verse number
		

			54, so to Nyssa Allah asks the question clearly, are you a jealous person?
		

			Are they the ones who are jealous regarding the favors that Allah has bestowed upon some of the
people? Allah says don't do that don't it will harm you the Hadith says in al hacer de hacer una
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			indeed jealousy will eat away your good deeds in the same way that a flame eats away at a dry log.
May Allah subhanho wa Taala safeguard us so this is something we need to learn. If you want to
protect yourself. You want to protect your heart from being damaged from being dirty from being
blackened for example, it is important for you to make sure that it is free
		

			From jealousy, from envy, and from wishing in a wrong way for what Allah has bestowed upon others.
		

			Then Allah subhanho wa Taala speaks about something extremely important. Remember, this is sort of
Nyssa. It starts off with mentioned being made of inheritance, laws of inheritance, don't cheat the
women. Then it goes into verses regarding dispute between husband and wife, marital discord, no one
gets married, in order to divorce. No one gets married in order to have problems. People get married
because they love each other. So panela because they want to marry each other, because they would
love to, for example, live together. But sadly, sometimes when you do get together, realized, you
know what, I made a mistake here. May Allah subhanho wa Taala help us understand, when we have used
		

			the wrong criteria, that's when we start scratching our heads. When you use the correct criteria.
And we spoken about it, you select the spouse based on the deen and the character. That doesn't mean
you marry someone that you don't like to look at. No, they need to be reasonable, at least in terms
of looks Alhamdulillah they need to be reasonable you need to like them to a certain extent you
there needs to be as we say a little spark Mashallah. And it's assumed that to look at them, but at
the same time, your criteria your deciding factor, you might want to compromise a little bit in
terms of looks, you might want to compromise in terms of wealth. In fact, that is something that is
		

			secondary, but when it comes to character, conduct and Dean commitment to Allah, you don't
compromise them. That's what we're saying. You don't compromise them. That's going to be the parent
of your child. But then if a problem does happen, Allah says in verse number 35, of Sugata Nisa,
what if Doom Shiva babine Mahabharata who hakama Min wahaca Min, Neha a
		

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			when you fear that there's going to be a split now between husband and wife, you don't just issue
divorce. Today the sickness we have young men they get up and something is wrong in the home they
enter and you forgot to turn on the heater you know, Mashallah, we are now you know, passing through
the coldest days of this winter so far today Mashallah freezing cold Alhamdulillah. But if your wife
or your husband forgot to turn on the heater, it does not mean it's the end of the world. People say
right, go back to your father's house, you will not caring for me. You didn't know anything. And I
divorce you it's over stopzilla Well, lucky people are as petty as that, that will result in the
		

			person being cast into the punishment of Allah The Wrath of Allah, how can you treat someone's child
like that? How can you treat people worse than animals worse than dogs and cats? If it was your dog
and your cat, you would, I suppose you care for it much more. You don't do that. If you really have
a serious matter. Number one, you try and resolve it between yourselves in a good way it will be
given take Mashallah. Sometimes you know, a person who is violent, a person who is abusive, who is
vulgar, there is a limit beyond which we cannot take it, we can't take it anymore. Don't tell us you
need to just make your house make your home. You know, you you got married now you need to live
		

			here. No, if it is really abusive, and nothing is happening, and we've given it a period of time, we
need to go to the next step. What's the next step, you involve a responsible member from her family
responsible member from your family, you explain to the two of them what has happened, either party
explains, and then those two will sit together as per the injunction of the Quran, they will come up
with a solution. And if you really want to resolve the problem, you will definitely be able to come
up with a solution.
		

			You will definitely be able to come up with a solution because you want to solve the problem. But if
you are not prepared to resolve if you want just to prove who was right and wrong, you're never
going to get anyway. But you need to sometimes even say Look, I'm sorry. Let's start again and
inshallah we make things work and hamdulillah things will happen. And by the will of Allah if you
are really sincere if both parties are sincere. Allah subhanho wa Taala says in Eureka is Lohan if
both of them The intention is that they want the solution. Allah says Allah will grant him that but
if one goes in with the wrong intention, and the other one goes in with the wrong intention, and the
		

			friends of one of them are convincing her or him You know what, get out of this marriage. You know
what, it's not good enough. I'm sure you can do better. That advice is not always valid. It's not
correct. No.
		

			Some people have not got along they have been through bigger problems than you and I and they have
got back again after that and become closer than you are with your spouse or I am with mine. It has
happened but it requires dedication. It requires sacrifice. May Allah subhanho wa Taala help us then
Allah subhanho wa Taala says
		

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			worked and you try. And really at the end of the day things happened to break beyond repair. You
know, it was irreconcilable, we could not reconciliation at all. Then verse number 130 says, what he
		

			says, if the two of them decide finally and ultimately to split, Allah will bestow from his favor
upon both of them. Allah indeed is broad in favor, he will bestow upon both of them, protect
yourself from mudslinging those who, after a divorce speak about their ex spouse in a negative way,
they are opening a can of worms, and they are making themselves prone to the punishment of Allah
subhanho wa Taala. You don't have to go into all those details. You don't have to tell the world My
ex husband was like this, and like that, and like this, and like that, and I fixed him in this way
and that way, and this is what I did. And ultimately, now I'm divorced and unhappy, and I'm excited.
		

			You don't have to say all of that, that will come back to haunt you in this world first, and then in
the next, people will talk about you as well. People will say the nastiest things. I don't know why.
What happens in our communities and societies is after the divorce, people become so ugly, so ugly,
they utter the worst words that are unacceptable, untrue. And it's only to justify that you know
what, we were right. They were wrong. That's all. There's no point in doing that. There is
absolutely no point get on with your life. It's too short for you to go and talk about other people.
May Allah subhanho wa Taala bless you with the best of spouses. And today we dedicated to our May
		

			Allah subhanho wa Taala bless those who have gone through divorce with spouses who will be the
coolness of their eyes, but whoever is divorced, protect your tongue. Save yourself by not speaking
negatively about your ex. Save yourself from the broth in this world and in the next by protecting
your tongue don't say bad words. Someone asked you said you know what, we didn't get along. And he
was a good person in his own way. He had his weaknesses. I had my weaknesses. We didn't get along.
And we decided to part ways May Allah bless him and May Allah bless me. That's the way I'm what men
should be speaking. The difficulty is we don't do that. We want to prove no he was like this. She
		

			was like that. We don't see why that should happen is mean in fact, we are instructed to protect
ourselves in that regard. Then Allah subhanho wa Taala speaks about something else. Allah subhanho
wa Taala says, we all need to be honest when it comes to fulfilling the trust that has been
entrusted upon us. If you are entrusted with something, fulfill it correctly. Make sure that you
return the thing that you are trusted with to the rightful people. Allah says in verse number 58, of
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			Allah instructs you to fulfill that which you have been entrusted with to the right person upon it
being requested or asked upon it being given it should be given to the right people at the right
time, fulfill the trust, whenever it is required of you may Allah subhanahu wa taala help us in this
way, we will be able to build a beautiful society, a beautiful community, we trust each other. We
know your goods are safe with me. Your dignity is safe with me, Your Honor, for example, anything
else you may have entrusted me with it safe with me? May Allah subhanho wa Taala safeguard us we
have complaints of people who come sometimes for a problem, to find the solution to their problems,
		

			and they confide in you that confidence is actually a trust, when they tell you, you know, I've got
this problem. I went through this, for example, someone says, You know, I was affected by a drug
addiction at some stage. And I was addicted, for example, or I went through a spate where I used to
visit the nightclubs and I used to drink and so on. And then you find the chef that was spoken to
that evening. His whole family knows what happened. And guess what the neighbors now know and
everyone in the mosquitoes. So what happened to you? You're so embarrassed, you upset? I went to get
guidance and to get this the whole world now knows, be careful. If we are advising I know I use the
		

			term shape, but it can be anyone. I'm using it because it's important for us to be careful. You need
to have this confidentiality. That really is sacred May Allah subhanho wa Taala help us a person
coming to you. They've told you they've laid bare everything in order to seek help, not for you to
make the problem worse.
		

			So don't go around spreading tales or even if it's spreading the truth, because that was a trust
fulfilling properly. You might break society community you will earn the Wrath of Allah the anger of
Allah, people will start creating rumor about you because you went around speaking about people. Yes
if they've allowed you to give their example, I have had cases where people have come to me for
help. And later on they say you can give my example in your talks and so on. People will benefit
from it no harm, no problem. May Allah subhanho wa Taala guide us and Allah says when you are
judging between people be just don't favor people based on something material. May Allah subhanahu
		

			wa Jalla protect us and safeguard us. Also, when we are judging, it's important for us to consider
what was revealed by Allah subhanho wa Taala as the point of justice, this is something important
Allah says, verse number 61 of Salatu nissa
		

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			Casa de la, when they are told to come to the judgment of a lion is messenger, you find the
hypocrites running away from it, they turn away from it in a big way. They are hypocrites. Yes, the
solution that Allah has provided that Rasulullah sallallahu Sallam has provided here is the share of
a solution. Would you like him? They say no, we don't want him. So Allah subhanho wa Taala says such
people they may be punished in this world first punishment might overtake him verse number 62. Allah
says, Okay, if I eat
		

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			so, do you see if a calamity befalls them because of what they have done?
		

			Because of what their hands have earned, if a calamity now befalls them, they will come rushing to
you O Muhammad Sallallahu Sallam swearing oaths that you know what we only intended goodness, we did
not really mean that Allah subhanho wa Taala says those people Allah knows about them. And Allah
subhanho wa Taala knows what they intended and what happened. So the lesson is, if I want to protect
myself from this punishment, that would be earned because of the doings of my own hands. I need to
be a person who realizes when I have disputes, I must resolve them in the proper way. I must choose
the method revealed to me meaning revealed to us as muslimeen in order to find solution to that
		

			problem, whether I like it or not, whether it is in my favor or not. Some people when it's in their
favor, they are quick to run into a solution here. And when it's not in their favor, you are the
last person they want to greet May Allah Subhana Allah Allah forgive us. Then Allah subhanho wa
Taala tells us verse number 82, of Sugata Nisa to ponder deeply over the verses of the Quran.
		

			We read the plan, you will get a reward. We recite the Quran, you will get a reward. We read through
the meanings of the plan, you will get a reward, but there is a great reward to ponder over the
meanings of the verses of the Quran. Allah subhanho wa Taala tells us that quite clearly, verse
number 82.
		

			Will they not ponder very deeply over the verses of the Quran over the score and it is very, very
powerful. There is no conflict or contradiction in this book, had it been from someone besides
Allah, you would have found a lot of contradictions unless you go swim deep into the knowledge of
the Quran and you will find yourself growing in terms of closeness to Allah subhanho wa Taala May
Allah subhanho wa Taala help us all and guide us I want to end on one note. When we greet each
other, we need to make sure we realize it's an act of worship salaam aleikum, and we respond while
in como salam, and you may add if you want greater reward Watashi wa Taala. And you respond better
		

			than that greeting or equivalent. So Allah subhanho wa Taala tells this to us, and in this way, we
will save ourselves from a lot of harm. The Hadith says if you want to spread peace, then you must
spread the Salam correctly and you must know what it means. Verse number 86 of Surah An Nisa Allah
says what either
		

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			enhancing Eva, when you are greeted with a greeting, then respond to it with a better greeting or at
least respond equally. For Indeed Allah is taking account of absolutely everything May Allah
subhanho wa Taala bless us inshallah, we will continue from there tomorrow. If Allah gives us the
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