Mufti Menk – Ramadan 2013 – Pearls of Peace – 13 of 27

			salaam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato.
		

			smilla rahmanir rahim al hamdu Lillahi Rabbil alameen wa Salatu was Salam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa
ala nabina Muhammad wa ala alihi wa sahbihi wa tabin woman Tabby on BSN in Elijah Medina.
		

			We praise Allah subhanho wa Taala we send blessings and salutations upon Muhammad sallallahu alayhi
wa sallam who was sent as a blessing not only to mankind Jin Karim, but to creation at large. We ask
Allah Subhana Allah to Allah to bless him his entire household, all his companions, may Allah
subhanho wa Taala bless every single one of us and our offspring, those to come up to the day of
piano, brothers and sisters in Islam. We have been reading the verses of the Quran. We thank Allah
subhanho wa Taala for giving us this opportunity. Did you know that there is no book on the globe?
That is read as much as the Quran. And did you know that at this moment, anywhere on the globe,
		

			there are people dedicatedly reading, reciting learning and engaging in all forms of contribution
towards the Quran as well as learning from the Quran across the globe. No matter where we are,
especially in the month of Ramadan. The miracle is all of us dedicatedly open the book, we recite
it, we learn its meanings, we are interested in completing it and we listened a lot to it. It's the
only book that's a challenge Believe me, no book can compete with this Koran as to how much it is
read on the globe on a global level.
		

			So what I would like to say is my brother, if you are not from amongst them or my sister, don't lose
out join the numbers may Allah subhanho wa Taala grant us goodness and may make us from those who
understand if we are not doing it with Allah He The rest are doing it if you are to look at the
millions and the billions I was thinking today at iftaar that there are some people reading tarawih
already as to who they are other still reading tarawih and at any given time, there are people
reading all the five Salawat every single Salah right now there are people reading somewhere on the
globe. There are some readings over right now. There are some reading acid there are some reading
		

			Madrid there are some reading Isha there are some engaged in tarawih and some have just completed
tarawih Alhamdulillah we ask Allah to accept it from us, and we enjoy it and we are earning a reward
from it while it has in it a lot of peace, a lot of comfort. Just to listen to the Koran is the
biggest piece you could have in your heart Subhana Allah just to listen to its beautiful rendition
recitation amazing. We ask Allah to grant us acceptance to make us from those who enjoy listening to
the word of Allah subhanho wa Taala we need to love it. Our hearts need to become happy when we
listen to the word of Allah subhanho wa Taala that shows the connection to Allah because if you are
		

			connected to his word, you are definitely connected to him. May Allah grant that to us. So
		

			verse number 125, Allah subhanho wa Taala makes mention of how important it is to convey the message
with texts with a lot of wisdom and to speak to people in a polite way to speak using the best words
to try and literally sell the product to the people love.
		

			This is when it comes to data when it comes to calling people towards goodness, you need to use the
best possible methods to explain to them so that they are convinced they can understand. Do not be
harsh, do not use hard terms, do not become arrogant and swear people otherwise people may turn away
from you listen to what Allah says.
		

			Becoming a commodity.
		

			code to the way of your hub, with lots of wisdom and with good speech with that which is good,
whatever you want to convey, make sure that it is something good and when you are debating or
discussing make sure that you use the best of debates the best of discussions beyond which there is
nothing May Allah Subhana Allah to Allah grant us goodness, May He give us the ability to use the
best methods to get across to the people so that the word of Allah subhanho wa Taala can be
understood and his message can be adopted, may we all be from amongst those who surrender to it.
This we will achieve a lot of peace by if we speak to people correctly and inshallah we will be able
		

			to convince many people and imagine when Allah subhanho wa Taala sees that we are trying our best to
bring in as many people towards his path definitely our children may Allah make them from amongst
those who are also from those.
		

			Then Allah subhanho wa Taala speaks about something very, very important that a lot of us need to go
back and look at our parents, my brothers and sisters
		

			Our parents, my brothers and sisters, you have a mother, an elderly mother, may Allah subhanho wa
Taala make her the means of your entry into paradise.
		

			Your mother's already passed away you are for her. May Allah subhanho wa Taala accepted, may it be a
dua that will grant her coolness and that will grant an entry into paradise and that will result in
us also entering paradise. You have your father, may Allah subhanho wa Taala make us from amongst
those who can speak with respect. May Allah subhanho wa Taala help us fulfill the role of a father
and may make us fulfill the role of a child towards that father. I mean, Allah has created us, He
made us no doubt. But he chose a path in order for us to come into existence. And we had no say in
that he chose it for a reason. It is a test. Who is your mother? Who is your father? That's a test
		

			from Allah, He chose the two no matter how you were born. And no matter who were the two that Allah
subhanho wa Taala used to get together in order for you to be a result of that is up to Allah it is
a test for you. How do you treat them? How do you react to perhaps something that happened in the
hole? What happens May Allah subhanho wa Taala grant us goodness, all this is part of the test of
Allah. If you understand that test, you achieve a lot of peace, you achieve a lot of comfort, if you
don't understand it. Do you know what in Arabic There is a saying Kamata Dino to Donna as you do. So
it shall be done unto you May Allah protect us.
		

			So if you treat your parents with respect, even though they may be a generation gap, and this is a
problem, sometimes when you have a generation gap, perhaps more than 30 to 40 years between you and
your parents, you might not think on the same level. Your thinking might be slightly different. But
you need a lot of patience, you need tact, you need respect, there is no reason why you should not
respect your parents. May Allah subhanho wa Taala does goodness, I know that there might be some who
are saying, well my father, he is a sort of mismaloya safeguard us. Allah subhanho wa Taala protect
us that Father is an exception to this rule. He is in fact belonging to a group of the devil. How
		

			can a person so the man is his own children? How can a person for example engage in behavior that is
not befitting the level of a father? Now Allah protect us all from such parents.
		

			But we need to make dua for them. We need to pray for them. And we need to constantly ask Allah to
forgive them. Yes, sometimes the heart is so because of bad habits that the parents have, and
because of things they may have done, that really the children are so disgusted regarding May Allah
subhanahu wa taala protect us, my brothers and sisters, this is why I said May Allah make us from
those who can be parents who are upright so that our children can look up to us as role models. Our
children can learn a thing or two good news, too. He or she has given up a bad habit because they
now have children and they are worried this bad habit must not sift through to the next generation.
		

			Law what piece what comes with I know of a person, a non Muslim? In fact, I think a total atheist
I'm not too sure, but definitely a non Muslim. And he met me and he I looked at him and I said, but
have you quit smoking? He says yes, I've actually got a child. My child is one week old. said What
does that mean? He says I'll never ever smoke. What now I've got a child. He says that's gone. And I
thought to myself, yeah.
		

			People cannot quit for the sake of Allah who are Muslim. And here they are non Muslims quitting for
the sake of their children, and they want their children really, to grow up without the cigarette.
Are we ready to give up the bad habit? Because we have children, some people are on drugs, they
introduce their children to the drugs and the two of them do it together. May Allah protect us,
Haley, this type of behavior is very, very bad. However, we are talking about insha Allah the
general masses, may Allah grant us goodness, we have parents, we should look up to those parents, we
might have a few differences if there are minor. Allah had no reason to disrespect your father or
		

			your mother. May Allah subhanho wa Taala bless us all. So Allah says verse number 23, of Salatu
Salam
		

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			sila de PUE lahoma
		

			wakulla Huma.
		

			I invite you to go through these beautiful verses of the Quran, verse number 23. And those verses
that follow of Surah Al issawi. Allah says, Allah has declared dictated prescribe, that you shall
worship none besides Him and you shall be kind to your parents. Imagine the to accompany
		

			Together, Allah says you worship none but me. And you need to be good and kind to your parents. Then
Allah says, If any one of you are fortunate enough to have had one or both of your parents arrive at
old age during your lifetime, never ever uttered to them even oath of meaning Don't utter one word
in rebuke. You know, they say, answer back. Don't even give them that. Remember, that's your father,
no matter what, remember, that's your mother, no matter what it is, and understand you will earn
respect. And on top of that, the mercy of Allah subhanho wa Taala. And Allah says Latin Hama never
rebuked them, don't repel them just like that. And you just toss them away as though they don't
		

			exist.
		

			And Allah says, when you talk to them, tell them that speech which is very, very respectful, full of
honor, honor them, they deserve that honor. And the verses continue, where Allah says, and lower the
winning of humility, which means become humble, when it comes to your parents, show that humility,
become a person really who understands that's my father, may Allah subhanho wa Taala protect it, it
is reported that Abu hurayrah Allah, he refused to allow his mother.
		

			In fact, he refused for himself to be on the top floor, because he said my mother, if you are on the
bottom floor, how can I be on the top? Imagine the respect he had obviously, this is another level
altogether. And this is not only regarding one of the Sahaba there are several narrations regarding
several different companions of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi, wa sallam Allah, peace and blessings
be upon all of them, and the way they treated their parents. May Allah Subhana Allah, Allah grant us
even a droplet of it. Remember, like we say, if it is an act of worship, to resolve problems amongst
Muslims, it is a greater act of worship to resolve a problem amongst family members. And if it is a
		

			greater act of worship, to resolve problems amongst family members, then it is a huge act of worship
to resolve a problem with your parents. May Allah subhanho wa Taala, grant us goodness, and I want
to really direct some advice to parents,
		

			my beloved parents, you need to make sure that you lead a life of goodness as well. You need to make
sure that you don't do that, which will result in your own child disrespecting you, because of your
own actions, become responsible, be a parent that really stands upright. So you deserve the respect.
Sometimes you find the mother, nowhere near doing what she's supposed to be doing. And then she
says, but you're not respecting me, my mom, the problem is you do not respect yourself. That's the
problem. My beloved father, you don't respect yourself, you want your children to respect you start
respecting yourself. And this is why some people say on the globe today, there are children giving
		

			birth to children. The problem is they have not yet grown up. We don't have grown ups have given
children may Allah make us the exception, maybe from amongst those who when we have children, we
realize we are now on a new category, we need to become responsible, maturity, good, all those bad
habits and be a person who is upright. We spent a few moments on this because it's a very, very
important subject. And at the same time, like we need to advise the children we need to advise the
parents as well. And this is why Allah subhanho wa Taala says verse number 26, what our developer
Maha miskeen our bonus serving and give your relatives their rights and their do and the one who is
		

			poor, and the wayfarer, give them the right look out for those who are poor, reach out to them in a
beautiful way, even if it is with a good word. Sometimes you might not give you might not have
enough to give everyone you might have a small amount. So remember, at least with a good word Salam
aleikum, or at least you tell them May Allah bless you or inshallah Allah grant you goodness,
whatever it is, do not rebuke a beggar. Remember that when someone has asked you? Yes, it is wrong.
My brothers and sisters are healthy, it is wrong. You only go out begging when really it is the last
last resort and there is no other way. May Allah subhanho wa Taala protect us. But to encourage
		

			begging is wrong and to go out begging without that valid excuse is also wrong. And to rebuke a
beggar is also wrong. Look, we are trying to tackle all sides of the coin. May Allah subhanho wa
Taala bless us when I was young. We used to say both sides of the coin as I grew up, I found out a
coin has three sides. Yes, the top they call it hits the bottom they call it tails. And you know the
little side of it the circumference of the coin that is another side go and have a peep take a
magnifying glass and you see May Allah subhanho wa Taala bless us. The reason is, one day we toss
the coin. It neither landed on the heads nor on the tails but it stood like the wheel of a car. So
		

			we found out it's got a third side to it. So
		

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			Allah subhanho wa Taala protect us from just goodness. So brothers and sisters, Allah says, What?
		

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			what can a shavon Honiara Be careful, do not be extravagant and wasteful, for indeed those who are
wasteful, extravagant, they are the brethren of the devil, and the devil is ungrateful. So when you
are extravagant, it is a sign of ingratitude to Allah subhanho wa Taala Do not be extravagant. What
is extravagance, when you have more of what you need less of that is extravagance, the quality is
not necessarily extravagant if I can afford the motor vehicle, and I have the best motor vehicle
because I afford it. But I have one car or perhaps if I need two types of vehicles, I've got two of
them. That would not actually be a waste or extravagance for as long as I'm making use of them. But
		

			when I've got three, four or five, even if it is a low model of something cheap, more than what I
actually need is waste. It's a waste. You'd rather reach out to someone else with that. And you'd
rather build your paradise with that than for you to just waste it. You know, they say one man, I
don't know how true it is. But when I was studying in Medina, they said, you know this rich Adam
Schiff, he's got seven different houses. So I looked at him and I said, but you only allowed to have
four wives. So they said no one for each day of the week, believe me. I didn't buy the story. But if
it is true, that is really a waste. May Allah subhanho wa Taala protect us imagine with us, we can't
		

			even afford seven beds to sleep on one day, every day.
		

			Allah subhanho wa Taala grant us goodness. So let's not be wasteful. Do you know why you become a
person who is very close to the devil? And then you start boasting, you start bragging, and it takes
you to a whole different level, you lose the plot, and you lose focus. And our focus is supposed to
be upon paradise and nothing else. May Allah granted to us and this is why Allah says,
		

			Now we know there'll be some people going home and when your wife says we need bread tomorrow,
didn't you hear Don't be wasteful. Then when they say but we need milk for the morning Didn't you
hear? Don't be wasteful have water. So this is why you find the next few verses Allah makes it very
clear. Verse number 29, while da da da da kamalu Latin illa anaka Allah
		

			Allahu Akbar Allah says neither should you hold back your hand close to that neck of yours which
means you so stingy that where you are supposed to be spending you're not spending Don't be like
that either. And don't what we call don't blow you know what don't actually take that money and
throw it away. But choose the middle path you spend where you are supposed to be spending and you
have to what is the point of earning you spend on your wife your children Mashallah your offspring
there is food accommodation clothing, and Mashallah whatever you have to some people, they amass
wealth, and they are so stingy to use that word, that when it comes to necessity, they don't spend,
		

			they don't spend and when it comes to their family, they don't spend but they can go out weekend
with their friends and Mashallah so many 1000s of rands are just literally, as we say, blown in the
wind, and that was for their friends. And when it comes to their family, they say No way. Not at all
I earned this money hard earned. To be honest, the Hadith says the best spent money is that which
you have used for a morsel of food for your own family. May Allah subhanho wa Taala, grant us
goodness and open our doors. And this is why Allah says like we said, when you when a person becomes
extravagant, it works on their, on their attitude, they become haughty. And this is why Allah says,
		

			Where did so powerfully while attending she fell out of the mirror, ha, don't walk on the earth,
with arrogance, haughtiness, don't walk on the earth. Do you know how powerfully Allah has waited
this verse number 37, and 38 of the same Surah Surah Surah. Allah says, In
		

			Jeeva tuna, you want to stamp your feet and walk, you are never going to tear the earth. That's
never going to happen. And you are never going to reach the height of the mountains never. What
Allah is telling you is we have created creatures far higher than you. And that is in the mountains,
which means taller, higher than you. So even if you want to stick your nose up, it will only be one
inch or two, not more than that. And the mountain go and look at it. It's far, far higher, far
bigger, and unless you understand your feet, whatever you do, you're not going to be ripping the
earth the earth will still remain the earth May Allah subhanho wa Taala not make us from those who
		

			stamp their feet when they walk in arrogance. No from those who walk with their noses up in the air
becoming little Pinocchio's May Allah subhanho wa Taala protect us and May He grant us goodness. So
Allah subhanho wa Taala
		

			Allah warns us, and He warns us again and again so many times this verse, verse number 53, of the
same Surah Surah Surah. Allah subhanho wa Taala tells Muhammad Sallallahu Sallam to inform the
worshipers, while only anybody who know nothing he acts in a shape on.
		

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			town, my worship is to utter that which is the best, when they talk, they should say that which is
the best, they are my worship as we are not worshipers of Allah we are. So we should be uttering
that which is the best you want to say things. Remember, as a believer, you've got several elements
to consider. Allah gave you a turn. But on top of that, he gave you a brain. And on top of that, he
gave you a heart. And on top of that he gave you a man.
		

			Amazing. So consider all four factors and then utter say the word you want to, you will never go
wrong. You know why? The very next verse, Allah says, because shavon can create dissent amongst you
very easily, just because you did not say things properly. You want to tell someone whether it's
your child or your brother, or even the one who works for you, or anyone else you want to say
whatever you want to say, my brothers and sisters, if you really believe in Allah and the Last Day,
which means the answer the ability of the last day, you will think for a moment before you open your
mouth. And you will consider what the other person will or how they will take it how they will
		

			react, and you will consider how you are going to answer to Allah because of the utterance from your
mouth when you will talk. can you go wrong? No, that is a true believer. This is when we will
achieve peace speak to people with respect no matter who they are. Search your life. I'll tell you
why. I sat with one of my friends. And I watched him speak to some people, some some of his
colleagues. And then I told him Brother, please do me a favor. You speak to me with so much respect.
These are your colleagues. And you speak to them with no respect at all. He said no, no, no, no, you
probably have just noticed something else. I told him please do me a favor and record yourself.
		

			Because brothers and sisters sometimes we don't realize how we come across. record yourself. You
know, sometimes you find yelling and screaming in the house those intelligent children of today with
their iPods and iPads. You know what they do? They record mom. And later on at night when she's in a
good mood. They replayed say, Mom, look at what you were doing.
		

			And she doesn't believe it. She says no, nowadays, you get this editor and all that you must have
edited. No mom, that's how you were talking. May Allah grant us goodness, the dads are equally if
not more guilty. May Allah subhanho wa Taala make us from those who can say Goodwill's in order to
avoid the devil creating descended from amongst us because Allah says the devil is indeed an
outright open enemy against men. May Allah subhanho wa Taala open our doors. Then again, Allah
repeats a certain verse using slightly different wording to remind us of the condition of men. Verse
number 83. So today, what
		

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			hear referring to those who disbelieve obviously, when we have granted him some goodness, he turns
away very far from us. He turns away he forgets us completely. You find the disbelievers when they
have a lot. Sometimes it happens to the hypocrites May Allah protect the soul, when they have a lot
and they've been given so much. They tend far away from Allah, they live a life of Do whatever you
want. May Allah subhanahu wa taala protect us and Allah says, Then, when a little bit of evil or
difficulty touches the person, he becomes totally in despair, completely loses all hope. So Allah
says, amazing how Allah subhanho wa Taala says all this is a test for you to realize that your
		

			wealth and your children and whatever you have, you're going to believe in it all here it's only
your deeds that you will take with you and Allah subhanho wa Taala will grant you goodness, may
Allah protect us. Then we read through Ratan Tata. I'm sure you heard the end of it today.
		

			And we ask Allah subhanho wa Taala to grant us the reward of having listened to the words of the
Quran for every letter, there is a reward. This Surah Surah will have has a lot in it. We need to
read its meaning we need to understand the examples and parables grown by Allah subhanho wa Taala.
He speaks of some youth youngsters who were worried about the condition of the environment and the
tyrant ruler. And because of that, they decided to go away into a rural area. They went into a cave
and they made a dua to Allah. Listen to what the two hours they wanted peace. They wanted peace in
the dunya and in the afternoon, they wanted to be away from tyrants.
		

			And people who were calling them towards that which was wrong, and they wanted to earn the pleasure
of Allah. So they went into a cave, imagine and they asked Allah subhanho wa Taala
		

			Oh Allah, this is number 10 of surah.
		

			Allah Oh Allah, we asked you Milligan, Cara met and we want from you mercy. And we want you to help
us. We want you to create for us within our affairs that have guidance, which means guide us in all
our affairs. Yeah, Allah subhanho wa Taala. And we want mercy from you. So Allah says, We answered
their prayer, we answered their core, we gave them the guidance, and we will merciful upon them by
doing what
		

			da da da, we sealed the ears in the grave for several years. From this, we learn that whatever you
hear sometimes can * away your peace. When you hear things that are bad, when you hear stories
of immorality, when you hear swear words and when you hear that which is few times, it can affect
you very, very badly. This is why they say secure no evil See No Evil, do no evil May Allah subhanho
wa Taala grant us protection. If you are going to look at it, your mind interprets it, you know the
the brain you have is far more sophisticated than a computer. So it processes what you have seen. It
processes what you have heard within a flash and you don't realize it stores it in the in the mind
		

			and it affects the heart straightaway. So when you see it once, twice, three times the processing
changes depending on your level of spirituality because spirituality is affected positively or
negatively depending on whether you have seen something good or something bad when you see 200
people crying reading the Quran, Allah have you watch it one day, two days, five days after that
there'll be 201 because you will be joining them. Your mind will process it and you will feel like I
need to be one. You come for example to a program of this nature once twice, and you see 1000s of
people you won't want to miss out even when you're outside you're going to say let me go there even
		

			if I catch the five minutes of it. You want to feel it because you know something good. I am seeing
it's affecting me positively I'm hearing something you hear it once, twice. 10 times it affects you
positively or negatively depending on what it is. So if you go out with a group of people who are
drinking, the first day you say the
		

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			the fifth day you look at them and say very bad decision. Do you see these friends of mine? No way.
And the seventh day One week later you sitting with them and laughing You forgot to say you forgot
to say anything and now you're watered down, completely watered down one wonders. A month later, a
new friend might come and look at you and say Allah, Allah protect us. Really it can happen because
you are watching things you are hearing things Allah says we bless these youngsters you by blocking
their ears. So my brothers and sisters do not listen to that which is evil. Do not watch or see that
which is evil. You know there are some newspapers on the globe. We have to say this because it's a
		

			reality. Some websites as well full of gossip. What they do they promote voice whether you know it
or not, whether they know it or not. They have juicy stories people pay 10 grands for a normal paper
they will pay 20 for that one Why? They want to hear the juiciest stories. This person had that they
broke up with this that one did this this one committed adultery in that way this one stole this way
that one wore this type of clothing. This one that happened that one this happened and everyone
wants to know everything. So what happens? Our life automatically degrades itself, our spirituality
drops because we look at things and we start thinking everybody's on this low level. But brother
		

			you've been reading a paper that probably depicts only 10% of society.
		

			May Allah protect us. This is why the best thing read that which is going to be beneficial. Read
that which is good for you. And then Allah subhanho wa Taala will have mercy on you. And remember
one thing you really want the peace look at these youngsters. They didn't just go there and say
okay, now we're away from all this you know, whatever negativity there was they made the dua, Allah
Allah Allah, we want your mercy. So let's also make the drop. Oh Allah, we want your mercy. Oh Allah
we asked you to grant us the mercy the peace Allah guide us, protect our ears, protect our eyes,
protect our children, our offspring, Allahu Akbar, continue making the dua. There are people better
		

			than us who did not suffice by merely sitting away from that which was bad, but they made a dua to
Allah regularly to protect them from that which was bad, so it's not good enough for us to just stay
away, stay away and on top of that, ask Allah to keep you away. Allah subhanho wa Taala bless us
all.
		

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			What we learn from the Quran, then Allah subhanho wa Taala tells us that whenever you say you would
like to do something in the future tomorrow later on, always uttered the term inshallah. inshallah,
by the will of Allah, I will inshallah come back here tomorrow like we say until we meet again
tomorrow inshallah, don't worry I haven't ended. What I mean is that's what we always say by the
will of Allah because tomorrow I might not be here. Now Allah subhanho wa Taala does goodness. So
Allah says verse number 23 and 24 of Soraka while
		

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			Allah says do not say that you are going to do something tomorrow or in the future except after
saying insha Allah or saying inshallah with it which means by the will of Allah and whenever you
have forgotten, remember Allah subhanho wa Taala so inshallah at this time I'm serious. We until we
meet again inshallah we say was Allah, Allah Allah Subhana Allah Subhana Allah,
		

			Allah La Land