Mufti Menk – Ramadan 2007 – Day 4

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The transcript describes the importance of women in protecting their husbands and parents, as well as the use of "has" in the title of Surah Nisa. The speaker discusses the importance of learning to forgive and avoiding scams in order to achieve success in Islam. They also emphasize the need for forgiveness and learning to forgive in order to avoid violence. The transcript provides examples of outcomes and advice on finding a solution to avoid split behavior.

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			We'll be learning Amina shame on the mean.
		
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			Man era
		
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			excellence presents jewels from the Holy Quran. A series of lectures by Mufti is mine even Moosa
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			lecture for two, three and three quarter to five. Salam Alaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh
		
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			Rahman Al Rahim al hamdu Lillahi Rabbil alameen wa Salatu was Salam O Allah Muhammad Ali Al amin,
Nabina Muhammad, Allah Allah He was happy.
		
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			All praise is due to Allah subhanho wa Taala creator of entire creation, complete blessings and
salutations be upon the masterpiece Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wasallam and all his companions and
those who have followed and shall follow May Allah subhanho wa Taala makers also from amongst them
honor the rule among beloved brothers and sisters and dearest listeners. Tonight we commenced the
recitation of Surah Nisa a very, very important surah because it deals with the women folk, it is
named after the women.
		
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			And Allah subhanho wa Taala mentions in it certain regulations and rules and highlights certain
issues that are very, very close to the hearts of the women. May Allah subhanho wa Taala make them
close to all of our hearts. Allah subhanho wa Taala starts the surah in a very, very interesting
way. He begins it by telling us how he created women.
		
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			Taco Bell como la de cada
		
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			Oh people look at this, the address is not just for the believers or people. Be conscious of your,
of your Creator, who has created you from one man. And Allah subhanho wa Taala had to speak about
Adam alayhi salatu was Salam. Because through him, the woman was created. So Allah subhanho wa Taala
says, Be conscious of your Creator who created you from a single being from a single soul from one
human that is Adam alayhis salatu salam, and from him. Allah subhanho wa Taala created the woman. So
it is the duty of the menfolk to look after the women. Amalia salatu salam was alone at one stage,
he made a dua to Allah subhanho wa Taala Allah I'm the only one of my species I am lonely. Take away
		
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			this loneliness, he continued making the dua until one day Allah subhanho wa Taala gave him a gift
in the form of a woman. So a woman is to be treated as a gift to a man. May Allah subhanahu wa
taala. Grant us that understanding.
		
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			And over and above that, the women are meant to be handling themselves in a manner that they prove
that they're actually gifts to the men, sometimes the way they handle themselves, they become a
burden. May Allah subhanho wa Taala protect our women folk so that they are not like that. So Allah
subhanho wa Taala tells us firstly how he created the woman and he makes it clear that look, a woman
was actually a gift, and a woman was created from the robe of man. So that man should protect this
woman. May Allah subhanho wa Taala grant us the ability to do that. And then Allah subhanho wa Taala
speaks about something very interesting again, he warns us all and he says Be conscious of your
		
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			Creator and be conscious of the womb that gave birth to you. That means be conscious of the women
focus well and all your relations, those who are related to you through the wombs of the women. So
Allah subhanho wa Taala says,
		
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			Be mindful of Allah subhanho wa Taala be conscious of him. That is the Allah whom you seek items by
don't we use the name of Allah when we want certain things. Sometimes we use one law when we promise
meaning we make oaths and so on. And Allah says and be conscious of the women folk be conscious of
your relations through the wounds because each one of us was given birth to but we come oblivious of
the status of our own mothers at times May Allah subhanho wa Taala not do that to us.
		
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			We are meant to understand that
		
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			Allah subhanho wa Taala chose mothers for us, we should fulfill the rights of those mothers at all
times. And we must understand their value, the one who loses track of the value of women folk and
the value of their own parents, his or her own parents, that person is a loser. So here are our
allies drawing our attention to that. And then Allah subhanho wa Taala starts off, mentioning one of
the most important things close to a woman. How many women have been cheated out of their wealth,
especially after someone has passed away? The wealth of inheritance and the menfolk come along, and
they deceive her, they cheat her they undervalue they don't want to give her they tell her you have
		
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			been given in the lifetime of our father, now that our fathers did you have nothing here, go away
and get from your husband. Allah mentions that here
		
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			to leota.
		
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			hobby.
		
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			Give the orphan child, his or her do more so the female child and Allah speaks about the helpless
child, the orphan child, Allah says, Don't change, there are good wealth with your bad wealth.
Sometimes you find an orphan child might have some belongings, and we tend to replace those
belongings because we feel this child doesn't really know much, undervaluing items that we are meant
to be giving these children and Allah subhanho wa Taala starts off with that. I'm sure that women
folk would have a smile on their faces to say, look in Surah Nisa, the opening verses Allah subhanho
wa Taala saying, Don't cheat me when it comes to wealth. Don't cheat me when it comes to
		
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			inheritance. May Allah subhanho wa Taala protect us. One might say that well this is speaking about
the orphan child and here you are saying that it's referring to the women more so it refers to those
young girls who are more cheated than anyone else. The most vulnerable is mentioned in these verses,
but it obviously includes every single person may Allah subhanho wa Taala make us from amongst those
who can uplift this Deen then Allah subhanho wa Taala mentions another very interesting ruling. Very
interesting ruling. What is going on today in the world? Let's be honest, let's be fair.
		
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			Many people are engaged in affairs, sexual affairs, extramarital affairs, Allah subhanho wa Taala
knows how he has created a man and he knows how he has created a woman. So here Allah subhanho wa
Taala is making mention of what is to be given preference over affairs. Firstly, if you like
someone, marry them, get married to them propose and when the proposal is accepted. Alhamdulillah
Nika has made so easy. There is no excuse to commit Zina. But if the proposal is rejected, go away.
Try try elsewhere. Allah subhanho wa Taala grant us understanding also, Allah subhanho wa Taala has
made nica so easy. And Allah subhanho wa Taala has addressed parents through Rasulullah sallallahu
		
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			alayhi wa sallam saying that when someone comes to you, proposing for your child do not reject it
without a valid reason. Sometimes we rejected just because I had a fight with the father of that
man, or I had a fight with the father of that woman and so on. So I don't want my daughter or my son
to go into that house. So I say over my dead body, may Allah protect us. Those statements are an
Islamic, if there is an Islamic reason for your rejection and refusal. Alhamdulillah if not make it
easy for the people to marry because if you don't do that, you will be encouraging Xena, may Allah
subhanho wa Taala safeguard us, then Allah speaks about those who are married, if they happen to
		
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			incline and they still would like to marry more. And remember here we are neither encouraging it,
nor are we discouraging it. We are just making mention of a permissibility which is in the Quran. So
please make sure that we understand I am neither encouraging it nor discouraging it. I am making
mention of a verse in the Quran. It's not my ruling. It's not your ruling is the ruling of Allah
azza wa jal, sometimes we are guilty of preferring haram over halaal and we don't even want to give
halaal a chance. And sometimes the menfolk are guilty of secretly engaging in certain relationships
in a manner that then they use Islam to * allies if I can use that word, they use Islam to *
		
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			allies, their illicit relationships, that is also wrong. But here is a person who would like to do
it. Allah says come out clear, speak to the people be open about it. And he says,
		
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			Ki Whoa, ma Bella mina meenan Nisha
		
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			Wafula
		
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			for in tune
		
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			guillou
		
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			Allah subhanho wa Taala says if you really want to, you may marry two, three or four and it is not
barbaric. What is barbaric is when you have mistresses up to 20 and 30. And that is the norm in the
Western world.
		
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			May Allah protect us all? And may Allah make us from amongst those who can uplift his Deen. And now
we shouldn't go home tonight and use this verse to say, you know what, I'm getting another wife, we
were told in the masjid, that we are allowed. No, Allah says if you have reason to do so, and you
are going to be just and you are doing it for the correct reasons, then you may do so bearing Allah
subhanho wa Taala in mind, giving this halaal relationship preference over that which is haram and
illicit, then you will be turned the gentlemen and you will be termed a good Muslim. May Allah
subhanho wa Taala make it easy for our women folk to digest this more than the menfolk And may Allah
		
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			subhanho wa Taala make the menfolk from amongst those who will understand that there is a huge
responsibility. It's not just the past time, and it's not just something you can have fun about. Go
and ask those who have more than one wife, they will tell you brother, stay away from it, may Allah
protect us.
		
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			So this is the ruling that Allah subhanho wa Taala has kept in the Quran, and we must understand it
as I said, I am neither for it nor against it. But here it is a verse of the Quran, if someone is in
need of it, Allah subhanho wa Taala has shown you a permissible way out, don't engage in secret
nacoss which no one knows about because the day that comes out, they will be a bigger disaster than
anything else. Socially, it is absolutely incorrect to do that. May Allah protect us? Then Allah
subhanho wa Taala after telling us and after giving us the permissibility of that and warning us to
say look, if you are unable and incapable of being just then you'd rather stick to one. Then Allah
		
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			subhanho wa Taala says, when it comes to inheritance, let me give you the details. And Allah
subhanho wa Taala gives us all the details of inheritance, the laws, no act of worship has been
mentioned in greater detail than the laws of inheritance in the Quran, one third 1618, a quarter 25%
and so on. Everything is mentioned in the Quran. But there is just one clarification I want to make.
		
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			Nowadays, a lot of people are looking at the Quran and they say, you know, it's unfair, it is
prejudiced against women. Why? Because women get half of that of men. That is absolutely absurd. A
person who says that does not know the Sharia, a woman gets 10 times more than a man. Let me explain
to you how Allah subhanho wa Taala says
		
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			that men who is related to the deceased in the same way that the woman is related to the deceased
gets double that of a woman.
		
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			So now it sounds in numbers that Oh, yes, she got half. Let me explain to you. The wealth given to a
woman by Islam is exclusively hers, it belongs to no one else. She can use it for her luxuries. And
that's it. She can buy her cosmetics and all her extras with it. But when it comes to a man's
wealth, say for example,
		
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			75,000 rands has been left 50,000 will go to the men and 25,000 will go to the woman, it sounds like
she got less, isn't it? But let me explain to you in that 50,000 that man has to look after that
sister of his who got 25 and that 25 of hers is solely hers, nobody has the right to claim even a
cent from there. But this 50,000 he has to look after his wife, his children or his progeny, those
who are under his guardianship, including that woman, because he happens to be the closest male
relative to her. And in Islam, he has to look after her needs the basics, food, clothing and
accommodation, Allahu Akbar. So if people don't want to follow the religion, it's not my fault. It's
		
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			not your fault. It's their fault. But no one no one can say that Islam prejudices against women, if
we would like we could say No, those who are saying we share half half and you've got to put in when
it comes to the house and you responsibilities and so on. Those are the ones who are
		
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			putting a woman far below where Islam has put her. May Allah subhanho wa Taala grant us the
understanding. So don't be deceived by the statements of the age where people are saying you've got
less no in actual fact you've got more and you've got the right even in that which you did not get
in your hands. May Allah protect us all your portion you can invest it and it can go far beyond his
portion. He can't do that with it because he has to look after you with that as well. May Allah
Subhana Allah Allah grant us understanding. And after mentioning these rulings, firstly telling us
about women telling us about where they come from warning us in their regard, warning us about our
		
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			relationships, informing us about the ruling about polygamy in Islam, telling us the details about
the laws of inheritance. Then Allah says till
		
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			those are the rules of Allah the limits of Allah subhanho wa Taala
		
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			Feel
		
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			free to add me
		
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			He can focus on loving those who fulfill the laws of Allah who understand them, who accept them who
obey the instructions of Allah subhanho wa Taala, they will be granted
		
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			in all these rules and regulations that we mentioned more so the laws of inheritance,
		
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			we will grant them and they will be from amongst those who will be successful in a great way. And
Allah says immediately after that
		
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			one of
		
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			those who go beyond the limits of Allah, those who reject the laws of Allah subhanho wa Taala
whether it comes to polygamy, whether it comes to inheritance, whether it comes to the status of
women, whatever it is regarding Allah subhanho wa Taala says, For them, they will be a severe
punishment. In fact, he uses the term Harley then they will dwell in torment for a long, long time.
That term Harley then is hardly used for the believers when it comes to hellfire. May Allah subhanho
wa Taala grant us acceptance of the laws of the Quran and the laws of the Sharia, the laws of the
Sun of Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, sometimes we might be weak, but rather than rejecting
		
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			say, for example, the law of polygamy, if a woman says no, i that is not Islam, then she loses her
Eman. She's questioning her own faith, but rather she brought the answer saying you know what, I
know it's permissible, but I'm weak. I cannot get digested. I might be weak and I may not be able to
digest it. I may not be able to live in that particular situation. But I do agree that Allah
subhanho wa Taala has permitted you and allowed you that's a better way of wording it than to reject
it outright. May Allah subhanho wa Taala grant us acceptance once again, I clarify, we are neither
for nor against it, but we are just mentioning what Allah subhanho wa Taala spoken about, and I am
		
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			just presenting the message. Allah subhanho wa Taala. After that speaks of Toba? Why does he speak
of Toba? Immediately after that, not a coincidence. Allah speaks about it because there might be
some people who already transgress the limits of Allah subhanho wa Taala. They've gone far beyond
they've already cheated people when it came to business and inheritance and so on. And they've
already said so many things from their mouths and made so many meaning actions that are an Islamic
and Allah subhanho wa Taala is giving us hope here, but that hope is explaining how Toba is accepted
and from whom it is accepted. In
		
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			una
		
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			una.
		
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			Toba is for the one who commits a sin and repaints immediately thereafter, regrets after committing
the sin. He does erotica has Anna to Kawasaki, sciatica Phantom amin Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa
sallam when your good deed makes you happy and when your bad deed makes you regret then that is a
sign of Eman because now you know you are answerable to Allah subhanho wa Taala The same applies
when a person commits a sin intends to Allah immediately terracotta Allah they will be forgiven
inshallah, but not for the one who keeps on committing sin and says you know what, I'm still young.
Let me commit sin because I still haven't performed Hajj. Let me commit sin until I go for Hajj. Or
		
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			let me commit sin until I'm old and one day I'll turn my hands one of the Ramadan's when today's
comes to our Masjid, then inshallah I will turn to Allah subhanho wa Taala that might never happen.
Allah protect us I might die now whilst I'm standing here in front of you. So Allah says, Allah Isa
Titova Tony la Vina Yama, Luna say
		
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			moto Allah.
		
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			Allah says, Toba is not for the one who keeps on committing sin until it comes to the person then
they say oh, now let me repeat that is like the round. Remember around what happened to him. He
committed sin until he saw Malakal mode when he saw the angels of death he said hey, I believe in
Musa alayhis salam is God. And Allah says Alana is it now. Yet you have been transgressing all along
and you are from amongst those who are corrupt. We don't want to be resurrected amongst meaning with
the with the people similar to Freetown and so on. May Allah subhanho wa Taala grant us the turning
now here, it is not difficult for us to say Allah forgive me, Allah, I am repenting. Allah, I'm
		
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			promising you that I will turn in every single way towards you Yama and I will leave my bad ways and
habits Yala. I'm going to be an asset to my family members, y'all I'm going to be an asset to my
community to the Muslim Omar at large to myself more than anything else, yeah, Allah.
		
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			May Allah grant that to us. So Allah subhanho wa Taala gives us that hope. Then he makes mention of
the fact that you know the, the the rules and regulations and the laws of the Sharia are very, very
simple. We make them difficult for ourselves sometimes. Allah subhanho wa Taala says, You read
Allahu I
		
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			You have FIFA.
		
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			Come, well holy.
		
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			All these laws are not placed in order to make life difficult for you. Allah says, we know that man
has been created very weak, man is weak. So Allah says we want ease for you. We don't want
difficulty for you look at the laws of the Sharia. When you are traveling, your Salah is cut. If you
can't reach standing, you can sit down and so on.
		
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			If you are enabled and incapable you can give a video instead of fasting under certain circumstances
and so on. Islam is so easy. It is not very difficult and the laws that Allah has dictated upon us
are very simple, but sometimes we don't understand them. And sometimes we intentionally make them
difficult because we add in a lot of add ons which are an Islamic May Allah protect us and may He
make us understand and realize that really the deen is very easy. And Allah subhanho wa Taala says,
Look, I want to forgive all of you. But shaytan makes you lose hope. shaitan makes us lose hope. And
that is why a person who loses hope in the mercy of Allah subhanho wa Taala has automatically
		
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			worship Satan because Allah subhanho wa Taala says, You read
		
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			what you read Latina, una chahatein
		
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			Tommy No, my Elena Lima, Allah wants to forgive everyone. Allah wants to forgive you. He says many
forgive us all.
		
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			And he says, those who are astray, they want to turn a complete ending and shape and makes people
lose hope in the mercy of Allah subhanho wa Taala May we really feel the closeness of Allah. And may
we really get closer and closer to Allah subhanho wa Taala as the days passed, and Allah subhanho wa
Taala tells us Don't be envious of what we've given other people. Don't be jealous of what we've
given other people, what can a person be jealous off? There is a lot but Allah makes mention of
three things. He says, Well, people become jealous of Well, someone has got a lot. Allah is the one
who's given. When a person becomes jealous of someone else they are questioning unless decree Allah
		
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			says, I want to give them so much. He's the one who decides how to distribute whatever he wants to
distribute. And we say no Yala. Why did you give that person it means Yeah, I disagree with your
distribution. Now. May Allah protect us? We shouldn't be thinking that way. Be happy for them. So
Allah subhanho wa Taala says
		
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			sudo Nana sala de como la mina Falcone, speaking about certain people, Allah says, Are they jealous
regarding what virtue we have bestowed upon some others? Allah says, Wait, there is wealth, there is
knowledge, and there is wisdom. Sometimes people will become jealous of knowledge, someone's been
granted a little bit more, and others become jealous to say, well, that person doesn't know
anything, you know, that is what shapen did. Adam alayhis salatu salam was given a virtue and
shaytan said no ways that that person is lower than me. I will never ever bow down to that virtue.
So that is the quality of shaitaan that pride that jealousy, that arrogance. So Allah subhanho wa
		
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			Taala says, Don't be jealous, neither have the wealth. No have the knowledge nor have the wisdom.
Sometimes a person is very wise they know how to speak, when we don't know how to speak to others,
and we become jealous. Why is that person getting away with everything all the time? No, we need to
make dua to Allah subhanho wa Taala Allah increase them and give me a little bit as well. For cada
attina
		
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			Lima, Allah says the family of Ibrahim, we gave them everything you can think of. They had kingdom,
they have knowledge of the book. And they also have lots of wisdom. Allahu Akbar, may Allah subhanho
wa Taala grant us even a little bit of that. So Allah subhanho wa Taala says, Why Allah?
		
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			Allah Allahu
		
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			Allah, do not become envious of what we have granted in terms of virtue for some of you above the
others don't become envious of it, especially when it comes to the laws of inheritance mentioned
here. A woman must not say no, why did I get so little and why did he get much No, remember if you
go through these verses, you will see that in the case where a woman does not have an equal male
relative who's there to look after her after the death of that particular deceased person, meaning
after the death that has occurred, then Allah subhanho wa Taala gives her half of the wealth or
sometimes two thirds if there are more than one amazing let's go through the verses and we will come
		
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			through the secrets of the Quran and the law of Allah subhanho wa Taala. So rather than objecting
it, we'd rather learn it from sources that really we will feel thereafter that no we've learned
something in Alhamdulillah. So Allah subhanho wa Taala then tells us you know what, be just stand up
for justice. Because obviously, if you would like to achieve the pleasure of Allah subhanho wa Taala
you need to be just, and as we said in the Quran, and I'm sure every Friday we hear the verse in a
la jolla movie Aladdin even Sani Allah commands
		
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			And instructs us to uplift and uphold justice at all times. And then goodness, why justice and then
goodness, because sometimes a person says nevermind, just leave them. It's alright. But what do you
mean? It's my right. And they are trampling all over me. So they say no, just be good. Don't worry,
forgive them. Forget about it. Forgive forget, forgiveness and forgetting has a limit to it. At
times, we need to be just and we need to serve justice so that people do not get away with murder
just because they will then feel Don't worry, this person will forgive me and they'll forget about
it. Let me trample all over them as it is, don't you know they forgiving others one and that one? So
		
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			Allah says first be just then you must know goodness will come thereafter. Do not try and claim to
be good. And pay as a payment for that justice. So you are giving up justice and you say no claiming
that I'm good. I'm good. I'm actually good. There's no goodness in giving up justice. May Allah
subhanho wa Taala make us from amongst those who are just when it comes to rulings and in these
verses and I would suggest that everyone pick up sooner to Nisa especially those who are married,
read what Allah Subhana what Allah says, And Allah subhanho wa Taala has mentioned how to solve
family disputes here. And Allah does not use the term Palak in this surah he does not use the term
		
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			divorce here.
		
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			He says, what he taraka if the two separate, if the two decide that they want to part ways, after
what after having tried what type of trials are mentioned in these verses in this surah Allah says
when there is a problem between husband and wife, the two must sit together Firstly, they must
discuss the problems they must come to a solution, not based on what she wants, not based on what he
wants, based on what Allah subhanho wa Taala wants.
		
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			If the two cannot come to a solution, then they must involve senior family members from either side.
		
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			What if to machico by any further ado, heikkinen Min, Lee waha cannon min and Neha, a reader his
law.
		
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			Allah says, when there is fear of a split, then each one should appoint a senior member of the
family on his or her side. And if they really intend to solve the problem, Allah will bring them
together. But what is the problem with us when we have arbitration, each one wants to prove I was
right, that one was wrong. So I was always right, forget about who was right and wrong. Learn when
it comes to a husband and wife, learn to forgive and forget inshallah, and learn not to bring up the
past. The minute The past is brought up, we are destroying whatever we've built, and whatever we are
planning for the future. So what happens sometimes you have a one hour two hour arbitration, and
		
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			people have forgiven and forgotten and as they walking out, the wife says, You see, I told you, it
was me who was right, everything is finished. Then the screaming starts, the shouting starts once
again and everything we should not go in with the intention of proving who was right and wrong.
Allah says in ooida is not if your intention is Islam and rectification you will come out with
solutions and results. But when your intention is to prove who was right and wrong, you will prove
who was right and wrong, but you won't come together in marriage. May Allah protect us all. So
that's the solution mentioned in Surah, Nisa.
		
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			And Allah subhanho wa Taala then says that if you've tried that you brought the parties together,
you've tried the various means of pressurizing either side into coming to the law of Allah subhanho
wa Taala. Then still you find that that is impossible. Then what you've got to do, then you separate
in goodness, you don't keep a woman hanging as we mentioned, it is also in this particular surah.
Again, if it is going to work, it's going to work if it's not going to work. Release her with
goodness. That is why it is reported that alley, Ravi Allahu anhu has said, Zoho Egypt netta. Katia,
in Omaha, we're in Lima. Get your daughters married to those who are fearing Allah subhanho wa
		
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			Taala. If they love them, they will honor them. And if they disliked him, at least they won't
oppress them, they'll send them home in one piece. May Allah subhanho wa Taala grant us the
understanding that when a divorce occurs, don't become too bitter about it. It has happened it's not
the first divorce. Nor is it the last divorce. Don't become too bitter. Understand. If that girl has
come back home in one piece without being oppressed, we thank Allah subhanho wa Taala that our
daughter is back home. It might not be the ideal situation but at least she was not beaten to her
bones broke. And remember why is bashing his arm here in these verses? The issue of the beating is
		
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			mentioned in these verses but the understanding is not my understanding, nor is it yours. The
understanding of the Sahaba of the Allahu Allah. That does not mean right. The Quran has told me I'm
allowed to bash a woman bring my baseball bat. Let me better. No, that is absolutely Haram. Do you
know that a marriage can be nullified by the group of Allah
		
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			If a husband has bashed his wife, if that was permissible, why then would he be allowed to nullify
the marriage? Just through him having beaten her? May Allah subhanho wa Taala grant us
understanding. So those people who are going around saying the Quran allows a woman to beat a woman,
they don't know what they're talking about. The Quran says
		
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			that, when as a last resort, a woman is not listening and she does not want to look at you when you
are talking to her, you may draw her attention by tapping her. That is the term Barb does not
necessarily mean to go out and beat and thump. In fact, if that was the case, we would have read so
many a Hadith of the Sahaba. Having done that, not the Allahu anhu they didn't do that. But when we
read the Hadith, they use the Syriac, do you know what is this? A small stick, which is used to
clean the teeth, compared to the baseball bats that we are using today. A small stick that is used
to clean the teeth that was only used to draw the attention of the women. That was how they
		
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			understood what the boonah that is how they understood it. So why should we then try and say no, the
Quran doesn't have that verse, when we go and speak to those modernists. And those people who want
to now delete verses of the Quran, don't deny, say, look, the understanding is the understanding of
the Sahaba and also over and above that a woman who's been bashed you have the right to apply to the
whole Ummah, to the bodies to the authorities in the Muslim countries to the courts, and that
marriage will be nullified on those grounds. If it was permissible, how could it have been
nullified? So let's understand the Sharia there's no loopholes in Islam. And there is nothing
		
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			barbaric in the Sharia. That is the law of Allah subhanho wa Taala. So Allah subhanho wa Taala then
speaks about learning the Quran understanding the Quran, if Allah tada
		
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			voila, okay.
		
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			Why don't they want to understand the verses of the Quran, the mufa serien have said from here, that
it is far upon every Muslim to do his or her best to try and understand what the Quran is saying. We
need to pick this person up and learn it and we need to understand the verses of the Quran. It's
fairer than me and fair upon you to do that.
		
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			And that is why we are seated here solely to listen to what Allah subhanho wa Taala has said in the
Quran. So Allah says, Do you know that if this book was revealed by anyone besides Allah subhanho wa
Taala, you would find it a lot of contradiction. But there is no contradiction in the Quran. May
Allah make a strong so that we can actually learn this one, and we can understand it and we can
practice upon it, and we can teach it to others. And Allah subhanho wa Taala after that speaks about
the hypocrites, and we know the qualities of the hypocrites and Allah says, it's amazing how people
can actually be friendly hypocrites. It's amazing how people can different hypocrites, and people
		
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			can say, No, don't worry, nevermind, it's okay. They are light. It's okay. When a person clearly
starts objecting the Quran and the hadith of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and they are
claiming to be Muslim. If they are non Muslim, it's another issue. But when they are claiming to be
Muslim, they become very, very, very dangerous. So therefore, we should not be friends such people
we should try and help them and assist them. And we should make dua for them as well. Allah subhanho
wa Taala Grandis understanding. Right at the end Allah subhanho wa Taala makes mention of two
issues. The first is he says, you know the secret meetings you have those secret meetings, they are
		
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			of no goodness, unless there is some form of positiveness that is coming out of it. La Jolla Rafi
Kathy remin Naja home in Monrovia sada Omar Rufino Islam.
		
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			There is no goodness in those secret meetings that the people hold unless in it they are ordering
commanding good commanding charity and solving problems between people. A lot of times when we have
clandestine meetings, it is in order to backbite in order to deceive in order to plan and plot the
downfall of someone. as Muslims that shouldn't be the case. When we speak behind people's backs. It
should be good. When we speak in front of them. We must be candid and straightforward. May Allah
make us from amongst those that Allah says, warning us all telling us listen, I don't need you. You
need me. So many of us we know that actually, so many of us are guilty of forgetting that
		
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			he shot you will he become
		
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			to
		
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			listen very carefully.
		
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			If he wants, he can replace you with other people. He can cause your complete destruction and
replace you with some others who will then worship Him. So don't think you are doing a favor to
Allah subhanho wa Taala by standing in taraweeh by fasting we are doing ourselves
		
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			As a favor, really we are helping ourselves and we inshallah We ask Allah to accept it from us
allies, showing us his independence and he is telling us if I want I can destroy you and replace you
with others. That is not difficult for Allah subhanho wa Taala May he not do that to us? May we be
from amongst those who are grateful at all times, and may we be from amongst those who can use this
month of Ramadan, to change and to turn to Allah subhanho wa Taala to be happy at the laws of Allah
subhanho wa Jalla wa Salatu was Salam ala nabina Muhammad Subhan Allah Subhana Allah Hamada Hamdi
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