Mufti Menk – Parents who blackmail their children

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The speaker discusses the importance of following instructions from Allah during all circumstances, not just when asked to do something against the Command of Allah. They stress that parents and siblings should not blackmail their children by saying they have to do something outside of their boundaries, and that behavior is not acceptable. The speaker also emphasizes that behavior is not acceptable and should be treated with respect.

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			As salam o alaikum, my brothers and sisters, if your parents are alive, it's very important to try
your best to serve them to be kind to them, and wherever they are being reasonable to obey them. Now
the instruction in the Quran is that of kindness. Why does Allah not say obey them under all
circumstances. In fact, when the term PA is referred to in the Quran, Allah only speaks about not
following the parents who are instructing you to do something wrong. Lead to Twitter, Houma or
Sahiba, Houma for dunya. Moreover, if they're asking you to do something against the Command of
Allah, that which entails association of partnership with Allah, then Allah says, Do not follow
		
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			that. Don't follow them in that, but live with them fairly on Earth, according to the norms, make
sure that you respect them, you show kindness towards them. Sometimes parents may not be Muslim,
sometimes parents may not be good Muslim, sometimes parents may ask you to do something unacceptable
in the eyes of Allah, what should I do? Can they use the blackmail that you are my child and Allah
instructs you to listen to me therefore you are sinful if you don't obey my instruction? The answer
is no, that is blackmail. They are not allowed to do that. And it is not valid even if they say
that. They might say Allah will punish you if you don't listen to me, my beloved father, My beloved
		
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			Mother, if You are wrong, and you are asking me to do something wrong, Allah has instructed me not
to obey you, but to be kind to you. And this is why Allah says wobble Valley Dany Sanan. Be kind to
your parents, be good to them. Don't hurt them, no matter what they say. Don't abuse them. Don't say
hurtful words to them. Let Akula Houma off, don't say even the expression of dissatisfaction with
them of you know, expression of disrespect, should I say, my brothers, my sisters, there is a clear
difference between obedience and kindness. Yes, we will obey that which is within the limits of
Allah subhanho wa taala. That which is reasonable, if they are asking you to do something
		
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			unreasonable. Or if they're asking you to do something outside that which Allah has kept for you or
which Allah has ordained, then there is no obedience. Now I tell him looking female Seattle harlot
there is no obedience for the creation in the disobedience of the Creator. Remember that my
brothers, my sisters, those of you who are parents, don't blackmail your children by telling them
you have to do as I have said, or you are sinful. That's not true. That's not true at all. What is
true is they have to be kind to you. They have to speak with respect and Alhamdulillah wherever
possible, they should be serving you in a beautiful way inside the limits of Allah Almighty.
		
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			BarakAllahu li Walakum wa Salam Alaikum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh