Nikah in Mangalore India

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This is the officiation of a Marriage in India lead by Mufti Menk. The Khutbah is in English.

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wash. Mohammed Abu Rasulullah sallallahu wasallam Oh Baraka Allah. Allah He was happy. Woman salat

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But in

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my beloved brothers, my sisters, the first thing we do is praise Allah. We start off by saying Alhamdulillah we thank Allah for this beautiful day, wherein a couple are getting married, united in the appreciation of what is known as Nika. The matrimonial bond and connection that is indeed, destined by Allah subhana wa Jalla. We are very proud of the bride and the groom, that they have chosen that which Allah has made easy and hard on my brothers and sisters, as it is a happy occasion for us. There are so many others also getting married today. And perhaps during this beautiful season. We ask Allah to bless them to and to bless those who are coming together in our presence as

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well.

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The first point, as I mentioned, is the braising of Allah. Many of us forget to thank Allah, he has bestowed upon us so much favor, he has given us a lot. We are very quick to complain when things go wrong. But we are not quick to thank Allah when things go right. And a lot of things actually go right. We have more right than wrong in our own lives. But sometimes it feels to us due to the weakness of our Eman that we have a lot of wrong happening in our lives. May Allah subhanho wa Taala give us the ability to thank him like

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Chicago.

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Allah says, if you are going to be thankful I will grant you increase and more part of gratitude is to say Alhamdulillah Alhamdulillah May Allah subhanho wa Taala help us to repeat the praise of his throughout our lives. I mean, thereafter we send blessings and salutations upon the one whom Allah has chosen to be the best of creation. The most noble of all prophets has been the final of all messages. Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. No gathering would be perfumed and scented in the correct way without the blessings and salutations upon Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, it would be at a loss we would be at a loss. If we did not mention Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa

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sallam, him being the best of creation and the most noble of all prophets of Allah. We thank Allah for making us part of the oma of Muhammad Sallallahu sallam. He is the one who said nica is my way. Getting married is my way, committing, committing that which is prohibited. adultery and fornication is the way of shaytan so we choose the way of Allah and His Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam and we stay away from the way of shavon

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my brothers and sisters

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Is the Prophet Muhammad peace be upon him always seize the opportunity to mention words of advice.

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words of advice to all those who are attending a gathering, such as this one.

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In the gathering, they are those who are coming together. The bride and the groom. To them we say, Be conscious of Allah. Notice the verses that I read it the cola,

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cola oh you who believe be conscious of Allah, Allah He is to develop a relationship with Allah. Do you have Taqwa? Have you developed your relation with Allah. If you have developed your relation with Allah and you are improving in your relationship with Allah, then your taqwa is improving, and your consciousness of Allah is improving. May Allah make it easy for us. So the advice that we give to those who are coming together and the groom, and the bride is to be conscious of Allah develop your relation with Allah, Allah, He if you develop your relation with Allah, Nothing will go wrong in your relationship, because you are trying to please Allah, your wife is trying to please Allah,

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all those who are around trying to please Allah. So what will go wrong in such a relationship? It is only when we forget Allah, that Allah subhanho wa Taala tests us with major tests that we find difficult to pass, May Allah not do that to us. I mean, if you notice the first verse, and this is known as cooked, but will have been repeated by the prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam. It says, Oh people, be conscious of Allah, or people be conscious of your other who made you from a single soul. And from that soul, he caused a multitude of male and female to spread onto the earth.

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Sophia Allah, be conscious of him, develop a relationship with him and be conscious of your relatives, that will or ham or those who are related to you, those who are connected to you, we ask Allah subhanho wa Taala, to grant us the capacity to fulfill the rights of those who are related to us, those who are connected to us, because that is part of our duty. When you get married, you have a new relationship. If you notice, we have the father of the bride seated on my right, we have the groom himself seated on my left, there is a new relationship that is about to take place. And this is a blessing of Allah subhana wa Tada. Allah is telling us be conscious of this relation learn to

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respect people learn to give them their freedoms and rights. We are not getting married for people to interfere in our lives. But we are getting married for us to provide and to give something positive to all the relationships that have been created as a result of that. Not just your wife, not just your husband, but the families we respect them. We consider them we make sure that we are not a burden, may Allah subhanahu wa taala help us and grant us ease. So that's just one piece of advice that I delivered to those who have come together in nica today.

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As for the parents, I asked you also to be conscious of Allah on both sides, we must learn from the teaching of the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasallam, we will respect our parents indeed. But the parents also need to live their lives in a way that they are respected. What is the point of someone who swears and shouts and screams, and they asked you to do that which is wrong. And at the same time, they ask, they expect you to respect them. We cannot expect our children and our children in law to respect us when we don't respect ourselves. We need to understand this kindness to parents is very important. But my beloved parents learn to respect yourself to begin with, develop your own

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relationship with Allah and be soft in your words, become Be kind, learn to help as well to develop this relationship in a good way. That is a piece of advice for the parents. And even for every one of us thereafter. Those who are seated from amongst us, some of you are already married. Some of you are already married. The piece of advice that we have in the Quran, Allah subhanho wa Taala says and I read the verse a little bit earlier, who do

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say that which is studied, studied means straight. That advice is for all of us say that which is straight when you talk talk straight language, don't speak bad words, hurtful words, abusive words, lies, etc. That is all prohibited and banned. When you say bad words you will pay the price of those bandwidth

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When you say good words, Allah subhanho wa Taala will bless you. When you say good words alone bless you by accepting your deeds and forgiving your sins. But if you say bad words, you will pay the price for those bad words within yourselves within your children. This is the meaning of Oulu, colons and Eden, oh you who believe be conscious of Allah and utter that which is strange that which is good and that which is beneficial, that which is filled with love with care that which is filled with that with with uprightness May Allah subhanho wa Taala grant us the consciousness of what we attempt. Many of us we read five Salah a day,

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many of us we give charity, many of us we read for an hour, but our tongues are dirty. Our tongues are hurtful, we say bad words we lie, we cheat we deceive with our tongues. Allah is saying don't do that. Be careful. I'm also advising the bride and the groom and the families coming together. speak to each other with loving words. Your tone your voice needs to be loving and caring. Remember when you speak Don't shout at each other. In

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girl Swati, let

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me see Rockman Allah says

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that you need to lower your voice and don't scream and yell because definitely you will sound like a brain donkey and the worst of sounds is the sound of a brain donkey. When a donkey makes a noise. It is screaming loudly. No one knows what it is saying. So Allah is saying, We are human. We should not do that. Lower your voice. My advice to all of us at home Calm down, don't scream Don't yell. Don't get angry. Anger is something that is very dangerous. Many people divorce their spouses in anger. When they come to ask what is happening please I'm sorry, I regret. It's like shooting someone in anger when they are dead. What is there left for you to regret? May Allah subhanho wa Taala grant us

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an understanding. So please, my brothers and sisters we are suffering in a lot of cases across the globe because of anger because of temper because of bad words. Here is the Koran telling us to control telling us it's all about discipline. You read Salah you fulfill your duty unto Allah on one side, remember to develop your method of speech. How you speak to your children, your parents, your in laws, your spouse, how you speak to your wife will determine the type of person you are the Hadith of the prophets of Salaam, he says

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best from amongst you is He who is best to his wife, or she who is best to her husband, or those who are best to their family members. Those are the best. If I want to be the best. I am the richest. I'm not the best. I am the one who reads most Salah I'm not necessarily the best. But when I have developed my character, my conduct I treat my wife with so much respect no matter how many years I'm married for that makes me the best person. May Allah subhanahu wa taala grant us from this goodness. Then the last piece of advice I have.

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Marriage is a very big rabada it is an act of worship. It is not just fun, and it is not just a pastime. It is actually an act of worship. nikka is the official creation of the marriage. It is called in Arabic nega officiating of the marriage. It is a ceremony where the name of Allah is used. The name of Allah is used. You are coming together with the name of Allah. It's not a joke. It's not something minor. It is a very big thing. The rest of your life depends on the choice of a spouse that you have made. Your nigga is considered half of your deen according to some. So if you are celebrating half of your deen, how can you celebrate it in a way? That is just a piece of advice. I

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always tell my brothers and sisters, the happiest people are those who avoid harm on the day that they were getting married. May Allah make it easy for us. It is only my duty to say this. That keep it simple. Even if it is big, no problem. You can have a very big wedding. No problem. Keep it simple.

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If you are a wealthy person, you can have a big wedding you can invite the whole town the whole city no harm, but keep it simple. May Allah subhanahu wa taala grant us simplicity. May Allah grant us goodness and happiness. So we don't want to anger Allah on a day of happiness. Didn't Allah make you happy today? Allah gave you happiness today. Why do you make Allah upset today when he gave

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Happiness like the day of he, he does a day of happiness after Ramadan or after the 10 days of

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the last days he. So you need to know after goodness Allah gave you a day of happiness. Be happy, make Allah happy, be happy, make Allah happy, be happy, make Allah happy to not make Allah angry on a day when he has given you happiness. Otherwise, how do you expect everything to move smoothly after that? May Allah bless us with offspring? May Allah give us children who will be the coolness of our eyes? So these are some small pieces of advice that I decided to deliver as a as a be appreciation talk because that was the Sunnah of the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasallam.

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My brothers and sisters, these words are simple, but will lie they are very important. I really, truly respect those who are always thinking about Allah is Allah happy? If Allah is happy? It's okay. If the Prophet sallallahu Sallam came to you today, would he be happy? If the answer is yes, you are doing the right thing? If the answer is no, you are doing the wrong thing. May Allah subhanahu wa taala grant us that small understanding because truly, we are desperately searching for happiness. The owner of happiness is telling us how to get happiness, but we are going in another direction. May Allah subhanho wa Taala grant us ease and goodness, may Allah open our doors.

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I want to continue inshallah. Now. There are four or five different ways of officiating the niqab. I will use a very simple way. So I have been tasked by the army to officiate this nikka I have on my right side, the father of the bride, I will ask him a simple question. I will ask him if he has given his daughter in nica to the groom and he will respond and thereafter that is the job and I will ask the groom if he has accepted it. And that is the caboodle we have the witnesses who are here as well. And all of you are witnesses. The Maha I know it it has been agreed upon. We don't need to mention it in Vegas because it is not a competition. Sometimes when you mentioned Vegas, it

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becomes a competition. Someone says I gave 25,000 oh I will give 50,000 another one says I will give one leg another one says I will be one core, it is not a competition. It is Baraka so I don't mean to say exactly what it is but the witnesses know, we know and the people know they have agreed upon it. So inshallah we'll let you will hear my question to the father of the prime.

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Minister, me Brian, model, yourself being the Willie and the representative of your daughter Fatima. No shin. Do you give her in the Nika of Mohammed Shami who is seated in front of you with the Mahara that you have agreed upon? And the presence of all the witnesses who are sitting here today.

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Mashallah, Mashallah, as you have heard,

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Brother Mohammed Shami,

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the father of the bride who is when he at the same time, Mr. Ama Brian Parnell has given his daughter Fatima new Shin to you in nica with the Mahara that you have agreed upon in the presence of all the witnesses who are here today. Have you accepted her in unica and as your wife?

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Mashallah, Mashallah, did you hear the excitement in his voice? He told me earlier I'm nervous, but I don't see the nervous Have you accepted her as your wife in your nikka

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Mashallah, barakallahu li Kumara gallega Ma Ma baina Kumar