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Jumu’ah 25 Dec 2020, Katsina Nigeria

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My beloved brothers and sisters, it is important for us to constantly consider our relationship with Allah subhanho wa Taala.

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For Indeed Allah subhanho wa Taala has bestowed upon us so many blessings, if we were to count them, we would never be able to count all of them. Why?

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Don't imagine log

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in

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if you are to try and count the favors of Allah subhanho wa Taala upon you,

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you would not be able to count them all Subhan Allah

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indeed man is oppressive, and he is ungrateful, Subhana Allah, men is oppressive and ungrateful. So my brothers and sisters in order to combat this we need to realize one thing

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and that is constantly be thankful of Allah subhanho wa Taala.

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constantly be thankful of Allah subhanho wa Taala.

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When Allah has given you something, let it be a means of making you closer to Allah subhanho wa Taala when Allah has tested us, usually we become closer to Allah because we want to make dua we want to supplicate to Allah. So we become closer to Allah when he tests us by taking things away. Someone is not well, they are sick, they are ill what happens they begin to make dua to Allah they supplicate they call out to Allah because they are sick because they are ill Subhana Allah. But when the opposite is to happen where when you are blessed by Allah subhanho wa Taala do not allow that to turn you away from Allah. Let it be a means of bringing you closer to Allah. That is the successful,

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there are many people who have a lot of blessings. But not many of them would actually be the believers who turned to Allah because of the blessings. When you look at the Quran,

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Allah subhanho wa Taala says, Why either

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sanni bawana, visa and Eb when we bless men,

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when we have blessed man you find him turning away from us and he goes on to his side. The minute Allah takes away things from a person, you find that different people do different things.

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But a believer would turn to Allah both in good conditions and in difficult conditions.

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I must make mention that this being the first Juma and the first Salah here in this beautiful messages in this lovely parts of the northern

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part of Nigeria. We thank Allah subhanho wa Taala for giving us the opportunity to attend this Masjid. And to be part of Salah to Juma today may Allah accept it from us.

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And the reason why I say this is masajid are known as the houses of Allah.

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Wa messaggi danila he felt

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indeed, these places where we put our heads on the ground, they belong to Allah. You cannot put your head on the ground for anyone besides Allah subhanho wa Taala so Allah subhanho wa Taala says to us, don't call out to anyone besides Allah, the mastering is by to law, if it is the house of Allah, and if you are connected to the house of Allah, it means you have a connection with Allah. And this is why one narration says from among those who will earn the shade of Allah on the day of Yama, there are those who Subhana Allah,

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those whose hearts were connected to the house of Allah. If your heart is connected to the house of Allah, you are a VIP. Because you are connected to Allah, how can I be connected to your house when I am not connected to you?

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I can only be connected to your house and come to your house often when I have a good relationship with you. So Allah is saying to us if you are connected to my house, you come for Salah you are here for fudger you are here for whore you are here for Salah Tunisia you come for Juma and so on. It means you are connected to me and if you are connected to me, you will be a VIP on the Day of Judgment. May Allah grant that to us.

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Raja roncal boohooman Lacombe masajid but for me there is something more interesting where many of us

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If we take a look at our lives, we want to earn money. When we earn money, we want to do certain things, we will have a good motor vehicle, we want to have a very nice home, we will build a very nice house. And how many years will we be living in that house? To be honest, very few. Maybe our children might live the if we are lucky, or one of them at least, very few are going to live in the house that you built, and very few years will you live in the same house. By the time we usually have a house, that is a house of our dreams, we are already quite old. And when we are old, the average lifespan have been Oh Adam, according to the hadith of Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam

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is between 60 and 70 years. So we will already just live for a few years and go but it is not bad. It is not something Haram. It is not prohibited to build such a house. However, consider have you built a house of the hereafter for yourself? That is more important, what have you done so that you can have a palace in the hereafter? What did you do so that the people Subhana Allah, who are obviously around us have been reminded of Allah such that we are constantly thinking to ourselves, when I pass away, Where will I go? Have I prepared an abode? Have I prepared some House have I built my palace? So how do we build that palace? We build it in many ways, by developing your relationship

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with Allah by doing good deeds, your Salah, yo Tila of the Quran, your car, that decal that we turn away from that is how we will build our Palace in gentlemen for those if there is a vehicle that you fulfill every morning every evening, so behind Allah, He will be handy he saw behind the line of him, Glory be to Allah Praise be to Allah, Allah is the Greatest etc. These are powerful words that would result in the bricks that will build your house of the hereafter. But if Allah has blessed you with wealth,

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and you have humility with that wealth, you are already heading into the right company of the hereafter. If Allah has blessed you with authority, and you have humanity with authority, you will be joining the ranks of Rasulullah sallallahu Sallam if you are a true believer, if Allah has blessed you with anything in this world and you have humility with that, together with your Eman, you are heading in the right direction.

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And if Allah has blessed you with wealth and you have built a house, for the sake of Allah, Muhammad Sallallahu Sallam tells us mungbean Allah He must didn't burn Allahu Allahu beighton viljandi whoever builds for Allah, a house, genuinely for the service of the deen genuinely to bring the Muslim Ummah together, to give them a facility to come together to worship Allah as an oma to bring them together, not to separate them. If someone builds a machine to separate people, the Quran speaks about that separation as being something that will be a driving force for them to lose the hereafter. But if we build a house Lila he man been Allah He must didn't. Whoever builds a house of

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Allah Masjid for Allah. The prophet SAW Selim says, Allah will build for him a house in Jana, may Allah build for us houses in general, those who put up this facility, may Allah grant them, their forefathers and their children and their families, gentlemen, for those and all of us, may we also be connected. Sometimes you may not have the wealth to build a house, you can frequent the house, you will still be getting your pelvis in gender, you can contribute towards the house, you will still be getting your pelvis in gender. When Allah builds for you, let me explain. You need to compare it with the building of the wealthiest men around us. Say for example, you had a friend who

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was the richest of the rich in the world. And he said I want to build a house for you. What type of house do you think he's going to build for you? He's going to build a super place he's going to build something that will not they will not leave a stone unturned in order to make sure you have the latest and the best facility. Imagine when a love builds you the house. So behind Allah Hara Bill alameen May Allah build for us houses in Jana, my brothers and sisters, when we came to this earth we came with nothing not even close. We were closed by those around us one law he when we leave, we will leave with nothing material. We will only leave with our deeds, the deeds, what deeds

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did you do? If you have money and you have a mastic you won't leave with it. You only leave with what you have spent. That might sound amazing and surprising.

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You only leave with what you have spent you don't leave with what you left behind. What you left behind. It is for the ES in Arabic known as the waratah. But what you have spent your name is already written next to it, man. The comb

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Yellow feather that which is with you right now is going to be depleted.

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Someone else's name will be written next to it in a few years

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wama de la Heba for that which you have deposited with Allah, that is use that which you have spent in a good cause. You name is written you have deposited with Allah Allah will give you the reward of it for our chemo salata wa to sakata y la bonne Hashanah, fulfill your prayer, establish it, give alms to the poor, be charitable, Allah says and give that loan to Allah He will repay it to you in a handsome way.

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Why man tucan de Mooney fusi comin

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dejado

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de la, WA fine

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that which you have deposited with Allah, that which you have spent in the cause of Allah, and you have given it to something that will please Allah, Allah subhanho wa Taala says, You did it for yourself, you will find it with Allah multiplied so many fold that Allah says there is no limit to it, it will be better than what you spent and greater in reward. So those were just a few words of encouragement and supplication

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for us, and for those who put up this particular Masjid,

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and all other masajid May we be from among those who at least frequent the houses of Allah subhanho wa Taala. And may we be from among those who always think of what will be happening the minute I close my eyes, have I done something good so that at least Allah will give me genital favoritos me,

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my brothers and sisters, today we will be witnessing the affiliation of a marriage inika

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between two people from blezard Homes.

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And it is important for us to realize that many of us out here

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we are looking for spouses, but sometimes when we look for spouses, we don't know what to look at. People say this is a very wealthy family, I'm going to marry in them. Do they have Dean? Do they have some form of connection with Allah?

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Because to be honest with you, you need to ask yourself, always, and I'm addressing the youngsters here. Ask yourself always when I look for someone, in fact, even the women, they can take a page from what I'm about to say.

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When you're looking for someone we are taught for fun be that Dean Terry Bhatia duck, you need to become victorious by choosing and selecting someone who has a connection with Allah known as the dean. They have the correct faith. They have a relationship with Allah subhanho wa Taala that is when you will be truly victorious. So I had the young men come to me and say does that mean we must marry an ugly woman? If she is religious?

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My brother when I heard that question, I was smirking and smiling. Because I told myself You haven't understood. So I thought of explaining to the young lad when someone has Deen and character

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as taught by the prophets are seldom

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either attack commander Lola de novo Luca who has a widow who when someone comes to propose for your daughter, and they have good religion, and they have good character, give that Daughter of yours in marriage to that person. If the daughter is willing, if the daughter is not willing, you are not allowed to give if she is willing give her

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for as long as there is demon o'clock in that brother. There will be Baraka. That's the Hadith. So if someone has done an o'clock, give them a one, give them a one one point they have one point write down one.

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If they are good looking, give them a zero. What does it make it 10 Okay, if they have a lot of wealth, give them another zero. What does that make it 100 if they come from a good family, give them another zero. What does it make it 1000 if they have a lot of other things, give them another zero. How much would that make it?

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10,000 and so on keep on giving them zeros for every other thing. But for dinner o'clock, what did you give them a one? If they don't have the nine o'clock remove the one What are they remaining with? Zero, they have nothing. That is how we as Muslims should look at it. So the more the merrier. It is better if you have someone who's really good looking Mashallah. They come from a good family Alhamdulillah they might be wealthy and hamdulillah they have something more Alhamdulillah Alhamdulillah but if they don't have Deen and you remove the one, you are left with nothing. You are wasting your time my brother, my sister.

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You will be depressed in that relationship. Na ilaha illAllah

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now Allah Allah remember that example give it to your children tell the others when they ask you tell them look for anything and everything but don't compromise one thing.

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Don't compromise one thing. And I am so grateful and that's one of the reasons why I am here.

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During this time of pandemic, may Allah protect us all from it.

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I believe firmly that in this part of the world, we have a connection with the deen that is unique. May Allah preserve it, May Allah keep it.

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And Allah says, What guru mata manyana income, remember the favor of Allah upon you. Remember that Allah has favored you is to

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become for us by

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Maci,

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remember, when you were enemies before you didn't get along, you were disunited, you are fighting one another but by the gift of Allah He united you and he brought you together. That is the gift of Allah subhanho wa Taala. My brothers and sisters when we come together in marriage, there are two different people from two different families, perhaps slightly different habits, they will have different likes and dislikes to a certain extent, they will come together and they need to compromise they need to sacrifice they need mutual respect. One might like certain things that the other may not like in terms of food in terms of perhaps a conveyance or a home or a color

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preference. Those are minor issues my brothers and sisters, we have to compromise to a degree in order to get along. The same applies in the oma in your communities, in your societies, in your broader families, you will always have to compromise a few things here and there. And there must be mutual respect. Ultimately, we will agree to disagree very respectfully remember that that is the teaching that Muhammad Sallallahu Sallam has given us we may never be exactly the same. there were differences of opinion among the Sahaba

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Subhan Allah, they love each other. We are taught not to say one bad word about any one of the companions let the soup boo, I was happy for one lady in FCB de la and I had to commit

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to him Well honestly,

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don't ever speak ill about any one of my companions says Muhammad Sallallahu Sallam because we're lucky. If you had to spend the mount a head full of gold in the course of Allah, it will not come anywhere near even a handful or half a handful that they spent in the course of Allah. What is he teaching us? Respect? Respect your elders respect others. You are not the only person on earth. Your system of thinking is not the only one on Earth. So can Allah respect each other so much so that Allah subhanho wa Taala speaks about the Jews and the Christians and the others who did not fight you and Allah subhanho wa Taala inshallah to Montana quickly, meaning very clearly makes mention of

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something interesting. He says

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lion Hakuna lawani Naveen Allah musica De Luca de Nuala, mu Fredo komedia recoome Babu moto Cebu Li him in LA he bull Nepal co Queen, Allah does not stop you from being just in kind. Allah encourages you, Allah instructs you to be just and to be kind to those who did not fight you they have not removed you from your homes, they belong to different religions Subhana Allah, they belong to different religions. But if they did not fight you and they did not remove you from your homes, and they did not assist others to fight you be just with them be kind,

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Lacombe nuku. Ali, do you have your faith I have mine. If that is the instruction when it comes to the non Muslims, my brothers and sisters, what about in the Muslim Ummah, surely they should be mutual respect, we cannot allow the wenton fighting and killing for no reason just because we differ in one or two points and differences have been there from the very beginning.

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So let us understand this. And let us learn to respect each other. When you differ when you want to express your opinions do so very respectfully. There is no need to insult others there is no need to fight and kill others not at all. This is where we are failing my brothers and sisters May Allah subhanho wa Taala strengthen us.

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I am seizing the opportunity to mention this because I want to let you know when you are blessed people are jealous. When people are jealous. They plan your downfall in order to create the downfall they create disunity and hatred amongst you for small reasons. Don't allow that to happen. Don't allow that. You are blessed with what I explained to you. You are blessed with the deen you are blessed with beautiful rich cultures.

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That you have that is connected to the deen of Allah you are blessed with wealth you are blessed with so much of goodness you have that which others do not have in other parts of the world will lie IE jealousy would lead to them, inciting you to fight one another. That is why the Prophet Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam says la Taraji Luba de que foreign yo boo boo boo boo Comerica Baba, right at the end of his life. He says, Do not turn away from the deen by killing one another from amongst you, you are all saying La ilaha illAllah Muhammad Rasulullah sallallahu Sallam but you are killing each other hitting each other's necks and swiping each other's throats and next who said

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this Muhammad Sallallahu sallam, I am here today repeating the same thing my brothers and sisters, respect those whom you differ with with the difference?

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I'm not telling you have to give up your opinion if you believe something is absolutely correct and valid, just like I do. Something based on Quran, Sunnah, etc you be if someone else believes otherwise, you may respectfully present and intellectually present your opinion such that you convince them regarding your view, who knows you might be wrong they might be right. And if they do the same, and presented intellectual, you will come to the conclusion perhaps as to who is right and who is wrong. Until such time you will still not just respect each other. We are human kind. When I see my brother going astray What is my duty casselman Bill, Bill bait I swear by Allah Who is the

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Lord of the karma. My duty is to try and look at how I can bring him closer to the truth because he is lost. Do you think my duty is to hit him Bash him and destroy him and his family and his progeny. They are related to me somehow After all, we are children of Adam.

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And on top of that we are from the same region we would probably be connected. Not too far off in our forefathers.

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May Allah subhanho wa Taala grant us goodness and bless us in every way. Once again, I quickly want to recap to say my brothers and sisters, connect yourself to the houses of Allah.

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Don't let anything come between you and the houses of Allah. Secondly, if you can build a machine do so for as long as it is for the sake of Allah. If you contribute towards a machine, do so because your money will be accepted. When you have given one brick. Allah won't just give you a break in the hereafter. He is so so so generous, he will build the whole house for you in return for the break.

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And then my brothers and sisters when getting married, I gave you a beautiful piece of advice because of the fact that some a couple are coming together from a blizzard home or from Blizzard homes. I thought maybe that would be interesting to hear.

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And the last point I raised was please let's learn to respect each other with our differences no matter what. I'm not telling you to compromise the truth. The truth is uncompromisable you believe in the truth we will adopt the truth. But when you believe someone else is wrong, please be careful. Don't let shape and overtake you by becoming harsh, hard, disrespectful, and speak in a tone that will create war. We don't want that. May Allah subhanho wa Taala bless us all barakallahu li walakum Ronnie was sooner in a funny way. Yeah, combi Murphy Hema mean it will Hickman a punto de hada was tofu Lani. Welcome when he said Muslim Manifesto, una mujer. Adam curry