Mufti Menk – Make this Promise to Yourself Before Ramadan

			We also need to become conscious of our tongues, like I said earlier,
		

			that needs to start from before a man from now start making a plan and say, I'm going to become
conscious of my tongue. I occupy it with the remembrance of Allah rather than with the remembrance
of shavon. So what is the remembrance of shape man?
		

			When you swear, you deceive you lie, you're vulgar, you're hurtful. That is the remembrance of
shape. Because shape pattern is actually just taken over. Imagine being abusive with your tongue, no
matter who it is. Starting with your wife, your children, your mother, your sisters, your in laws,
whoever they may be. Watch your tongue. There is no need to say a bad word or an evil word. A true
believer does not utter dirty words or bad words or hurtful words. Are you really a true believer?
You want to welcome Ramadan make this promise of Allah I'm not going to swear. No more swear words,
no matter what. Today we have a trend of these F's and Bs and you know, m word and whatever else it
		

			is. It's really terrible people, young people say that, like salt and pepper as they're talking,
especially in the first world countries and even elsewhere, actually. It's become a trend where
people have become so
		

			you know, forget not forgetful, but it's just
		

			so Subhanallah I don't even want to use a disrespectful word, but they've just changed and to them,
it means nothing at all. I'm just speaking Come on, how can you say that? It is terrible. It's
written against you rather say a good word. What does it cost you to speak upright? To speak
beautifully? What does it cost you to abstain from a vulgar word? What does it cost you to express
your disagreement in a respectful way? Even the scholars are beginning to be disrespectful when they
express their disagreement. And that's how you distinguish between the one who's actually wise and
the one who's not. Because the wise person doesn't ever do that type of thing. A wise person doesn't
		

			stoop so low. But a person who's not wise would actually just come and vent their frustrations and
say what they want and think about it later. SubhanAllah let's not do that.