Mufti Menk – Life Hacks & Why Previous Nations Were Destroyed

Mufti Menk
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The importance of being patient and not toxic in counting the time is discussed, along with the need for respect and humility in treating people with respect. The speaker emphasizes the importance of shaitan's actions as a way to get up early and stay up early, and stresses the importance of respect for Islam, community, and forgiveness in achieving justice. They also stress the need for patient and balanced treatment, and warn of irritation by beggars. The speaker emphasizes the importance of being patient and treating people respectfully.
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The year is almost over.

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1 might wonder, what are you talking about?

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We're talking of the Hijri calendar, which is

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the original

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Islamic

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calendar. The

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lunar months.

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Allah Almighty has

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prescribed for us a certain way

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of calculating the months.

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And at the time of Umar ibn Khattab

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they decided we're going to have a cutoff

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from which we're going to be having

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year 1, year 2, year 3. So he

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went back to when the hijra happened and

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he said the Muharram of the year that

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the hijra happened, we will be counting it

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as

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year 1 and then year 2. So at

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this moment we are in 1445

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Hijri, which means 1445

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lunar years

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after the Hijra of Muhammad sallallahu alaihi wasallam.

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We have just about 2 weeks to go.

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Not even. In fact, 1 more Friday to

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go.

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Perhaps. And then we will enter the new

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Islamic

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year.

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Now, the reason I start this way is

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year in year out, time is clocking. But

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have we actually changed?

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And not just changed, but changed for the

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better.

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Many times,

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we have

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a lot that is going on in our

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lives. And sometimes the interactions

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that we have, the new people we've introduced

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into our lives,

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Or sometimes due to the challenges we're facing,

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we don't realize. We become people

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that are not actually the best

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of people. And as Muslims, we're supposed to

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be the best in character. In fact, if

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you want to actually

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gauge

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how close you are to Allah

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over and above your fara'iv and your duties

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unto Allah,

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just check your character. And Insha'Allah,

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you'll be able to tell whether you're really

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a pious person or not. Piety is not

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only to fulfill your 5 salah and to

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do your your song, your fasting

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and you know, charities and so on. Stay

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away from this and that. Piety is closely

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connected to your character and conduct as well

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because Allah has kept 2 major types of

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rights.

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1 is the right you and I have

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to fulfill towards him, and the other is

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the right you and I have to fulfill

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towards the rest of the creatures, the, the

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creatures, the same Allah has created.

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So how I treat people I interact with

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or I pass or I come across.

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Actually, Allah planned and calculated

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that you're going to interact with this person.

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Whether you know it or you don't. Allah's

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planned and calculated that you're going to pass

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this person at this time in your vehicle

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and he's going to cut in front of

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you. Allah planned it. He knows it's going

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to happen. And why? Why? If you understand

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the why, it changes you as a person

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to a much better person.

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Why? Just to test you, to see. Tick

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or cross. Nothing else. Nothing else. You actually

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have to pass. Someone cut in front of

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you. You can deal with it. You can

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actually Well, you're gonna have to apply brakes,

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isn't it? Because you can't just say I'm

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a good person. Let me just bump into

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him. But you you don't swear and abuse.

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You're allowed to

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perhaps hoot. In our language, we call it

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hoot. Hoot at the guy,

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but you have no right to make signs

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at him that are derogatory or to get

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angry or you now step up and show

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him, let me show you I'm gonna cut

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you too.

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All of that, it just goes to show

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that, you know what? You haven't really understood

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why this was designed by Allah. A believer

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believes that

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Allah has

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created

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a a set of tests for him or

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her that are already chosen by Allah Subhanahu

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wa ta'ala. And indeed, there is a slight

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shift depending on the way you look at

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destiny.

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When you make dua, when you give charity,

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there is a certain type of change that

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can occur in what was destined for you

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in certain matters. That's a discussion on its

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own. But the point I raised today is

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as I'm becoming older,

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you have to keep looking at yourself and

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you have to keep asking yourself, am I

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a good person? You have to be a

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little bit hard on yourself. How did I

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treat this 1? How did I interact with

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this 1? What happened with this 1? For

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example, someone is toxic.

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Toxic meaning it's so difficult to interact with

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them, you're allowed to keep away. No problem.

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But do you keep away in a beautiful

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way or do you become ugly about

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it? You've got to understand on earth there

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will be some people who are impossible to

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deal with because perhaps they may not have

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a fear or a sense of fear of

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Allah.

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Subhanahu wa ta'ala.

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But how do I process that? We need

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to become better people as we grow older.

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So Allah Almighty wants us

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to keep

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a beautiful distance at times. In fact, when

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he speaks about patience in the Quran,

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he tells Nabi Muhammad

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You see he says, bear the patience that

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is beautiful.

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What's beauty got to do with patience? It

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means don't become toxic about it. Don't mess

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yourself because someone else is negative.

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And don't lose your goodness because someone else

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is not good and so on. All of

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that is included in the jamil of it,

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the beauty

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of being patient. I'm patient.

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People face huge challenges. Sometimes they become

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on edge with their family members without realizing.

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So you have a problem at work which

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is major.

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You come home, you're snapping at your children,

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you're snapping at your spouse, you're snapping at

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everyone else, and you don't realize it. And

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if anyone says, hey what's going on? You

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get even more angry.

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So you have to introspect

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every so often and ask yourself, am I

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actually doing this? If so, please change it.

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The year is coming to an end. The

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years are clocking. I don't want to die

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a death way. When I pass away, people

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say, that guy died. Alhamdulillah. You know, we

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want them to say,

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and

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pray for us. May Allah forgive the person.

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May Allah grant him Jannah and so on.

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We need to effect positive change. Now,

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when I said the person whose character has

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improved

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and becomes beautiful with others

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is actually a real pious person. It's because

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true acts of worship genuinely made for Allah

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after understanding

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who Allah is,

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soften you. They don't make you hard and

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harsh.

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When you have a person who has a

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lot of knowledge and they have a lot

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of actions of worship or acts of worship,

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but they haven't really truly understood who Allah

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is. So even if they know

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at the back of their minds who Allah

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is, but they haven't sat and thought about

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it, Sometimes they become very ugly in their

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character. They they they look at all others

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as though they are all inferior. These who

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are these people? They are nothing. They are

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nobodies. I'm the guy. I know. I'm pious.

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I make my I get up for tahajjud

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in the morning and so on. That type

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of attitude is

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actually indicative of the fact that shaitan has

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got this person in a net.

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Don't allow that to happen. Together with all

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of this, shaitan becomes jealous of your acts

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of worship.

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Very jealous. He firstly doesn't want you to

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pray. This morning I read an article,

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an Islamic article which said,

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Allah only gets up for salatul fajr, the

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1 whom he loves. Okay. It was somebody's

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comment.

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But in a nutshell,

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I can word it a little bit differently,

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agreeing in principle that yes, indeed, Allah grants

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you the acceptance to be bothered about getting

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up for a fajr when he loves you.

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Because you can't just say, look, I'm gonna

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see if Allah gets me up or not

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and go to bed. No. You've got to

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put a clock, you've got to do something

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about it, you've got to sleep early to

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ensure you're gonna get up early. And then

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when you get up and you're fresh and

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you, subhanAllah,

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you're doing your salatul fajr, and you're thanking

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Allah. Oh Allah, I thank you for giving

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me this opportunity to worship you. What happens?

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You understand that shaitan

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exists as well. And had it been

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Had it not been for the mercy of

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Allah, perhaps shaitan would have gotten hold of

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you. Now that I fulfilled my salah,

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what does shaitan do? He's not just gonna

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sit and chill.

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He is going to come to me and

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make me think, wow. I'm pious. You know,

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I did my prayer. And what about these

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guys who were sleeping? You know, what about

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them? They are nothing. And then you start

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coming and you think you're the only guy.

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That is problematic. May Allah humble us, grant

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us humility and goodness, and may Allah Almighty

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help us to treat each other

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in a nonjudgmental

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way.

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And when we say nonjudgmental, I quickly want

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to say, if someone advises you, it doesn't

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mean they're judging you. Someone says, my sister,

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you need to dress more appropriately. Inshallah, I

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pray for you. I don't mean to belittle

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you, but Islamically so so respectful. That's not

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a judgmental statement. That is a piece of

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advice that they have a right to say,

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especially when they are closer to you. Scholars,

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for example, parents, for example,

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elders and so on, no one's just gonna

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come to you on the street. Well, they

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may just come to you on the street

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and say, you know what? This is wrong.

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Process it correctly.

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Understand you don't have to snap back at

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them and so on. Some people, that's how

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they behave. But nonetheless,

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people have a right to tell you,

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consider it a gift of Allah.

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Because 1 of the very, very scary verses

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in the Quran is when the people of

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hellfire will be entering hellfire,

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the gatekeepers will be asking them, did a

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warner not come to you to warn you?

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Did no reminder come to you? Did people

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not recite to you verses? Or in the

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case of those who lived in the midst

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of the messengers, did the messengers not recite

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to you verses reminding you?

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On that day, you can't come and say,

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well, they were judging me and I didn't

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like judgmental statements. They advised you. They told

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you. They warned you. They gave you what

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it what you need to to take.

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So let's understand this.

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May Allah Almighty make us from among those

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who are fair, who are balanced.

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And you know,

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part of being balanced is to treat everyone

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with similar respect. You offer them respect. People

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you know, people you don't know. A gift

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that we have

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is the prophet Muhammad sallallahu alaihi wa sallam

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teaches us to sallim

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alaqullimanaraftawamalam

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tarref.

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You should greet all those you know and

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those you don't know. You greet them. I

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think we're lacking.

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We're lacking to the degree that even those

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we know, we look at who they are

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before we actually go out of our way.

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You

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see a guy who's wealthy, you see a

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guy who's influential, you see a guy who's

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powerful, what do you do? You say, Assalamualaikum.

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How are you my brother? And you see

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another person, poor,

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perhaps a different race, perhaps lower income, you

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ignore them as though they don't exist. What

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happened to you?

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Alaqullim an araftawamallam

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tariif? What happened to that?

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So when you become conscious of it and

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you realize you're going to clock a reward,

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Great reward by treating people with respect.

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Then you realize Islam preaches fairness

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and justice.

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Islam preaches that everyone should be treated in

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a similar manner

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and all of them in a respectful manner.

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Yes. You may respect your parents

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upon their level.

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You will respect your teachers upon their level.

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But that basic respect that you offer everyone,

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should be of a very high standard.

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May Allah make it easy for We have

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people working for us. We have people who

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might,

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you know, bother us. We have beggars

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who may irritate us because we are human.

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You see someone

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I've seen it happening here in Zimbabwe on

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the streets

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where someone comes with a cloth, and you

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know, you you just washed your vehicle, and

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the guys have a cloth in their hands.

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And as you stop, they come and start

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wiping, wiping you like you wanted any wiping.

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And then they want a dollar or 2

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from you. I wiped your car. I cleaned

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your car. Instead they messed it. And sometimes

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they'll come to the window.

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I don't even want to say what they

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may or may not do, but the car

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is missed and you feel so irritated. Do

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you know what? Allah says it in the

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Quran.

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As for the beggar, the 1 asking, don't

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rebuke him. In a nutshell, don't abuse them.

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Don't insult them. You don't want to give,

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don't give. Be respectful about your not giving.

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Don't be insulting. That's all. I don't want

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to encourage this type of behavior. I'm not

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going to give. Fair enough.

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You you can either make a sign or

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you know,

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greet them or whatever or ignore them completely.

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That's not so bad either.

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But if you are going to do the

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opposite, you've lost it because

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it could have been the other way around.

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May Allah protect us.

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It could have been the other way around.

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And this is why look at the issue

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of justice when the prophet sallallahu alaihi wasallam

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was faced

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with a person who had

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stolen.

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Her name was Fatima Bint Al Mahzoum.

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She had pinched something and it was

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worth more than a certain amount

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taken from a certain type of a place

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that warranted that she be punished. And you

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know the punishment for stealing in Islam is

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severe,

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especially when it is beyond a certain amount

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and taken from a certain type of a

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place considered secure for that item. And the

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person is sane.

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So the people had a little meeting and

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a discussion to say, you know what? Who's

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committed this crime? Well, it is Fatima from

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the Mahzoum tribe.

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Bani Mahzoum was considered the elite, the top,

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you know. You think of community. Who are

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the top people in community? You might think

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up some names. That's a top family. This

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is a top family. Not to The prophet

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sallallahu alaihi wasallam

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was faced

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with

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the situation where the companions had a discussion

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and said,

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who is most beloved to the Prophet, peace

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be upon him?

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Send him to talk to him, to say

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because she comes from a tribe that is

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very, very

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well known and influential.

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Don't punish her. Leave her.

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Now do you know when you want something

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from someone?

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A youngster came to me and told me

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For example, just an example.

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He says, I'd like to get to married

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to so and so, but the father's being

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a little bit hard. I said, who are

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his friends? Talk to 1 of his most

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dear friends. Or

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talk to his boss. Or talk to a

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scholar who's close to the person.

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And convince that person, please can you speak

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to them? Why? When a lot of the

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times people are worried about community. So they

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say, no. I don't want you to get

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married. They're worried, what will they say? What

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will this person say? That person say? But

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when you get community to come to them

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and tell them, why don't you let this

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thing happen? It changes in a lot of

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occasions.

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A lot of times, it changes

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the person's heart. Okay. Let me consider it

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to see it. Because of the person talking

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to you. An influential person comes to you

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and says, you know what my brother? I

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have a good proposal for your child. Why

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don't you think about it? Because I work

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with the I look up to this person.

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I'm gonna say, okay, zakalakheir. But when you

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find someone coming and say, hey, you know

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what? I wanna marry your daughter. Say, keep

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quiet. Get out. You know, who are you?

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So similarly, it applied where

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they chose Usama bin Zayd

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who was so loved by the Prophet sallallahu

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alaihi wasallam, go talk to him. So he

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goes to the Prophet sallallahu alaihi wasallam and

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he says, Oh Messenger, sallallahu alaihi wasallam, you

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know the makzum and whatever, and so so

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so he came and do shafa'a

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to say, can I intercede on behalf of

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this

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lady who actually stole, supposed to be punished,

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but you know, she comes from an influential

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family and, you know, please don't punish her

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in a nutshell?

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Let her off. It's okay.

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He was so upset.

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He went red. He went cross.

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She is from a very respectable,

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you know, part of

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the

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of the people, the community, a tribe and

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a clan that is really very respectable.

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But she did something wrong. She must face

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it.

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He says, waaimullah.

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You know at the top of his voice,

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he swears by Allah.

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He says, I swear by Allah.

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If the daughter, if Fatima today it's Fatima

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bintin

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If it was Fatima, the daughter of Muhammad

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sallallahu alaihi wa sallam, who committed this crime,

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I would have served the punishment

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to her too. My daughter, so what?

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If she did something wrong, she did it

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wrong. She must face the consequences of it

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in this world. Don't be. In fact,

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prior to that statement he says,

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Are you trying to come to me

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to intercede

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in 1 of the limits of Allah?

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A transgression that is beyond a certain line.

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Subhanallah.

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Look at the justice.

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How do you think the downtrodden

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felt?

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He continued, he didn't stop there. He says,

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He says, Do you know what destroyed the

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previous

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nations?

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When the elite from among them committed crimes,

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they were let to go. They were the

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criminals.

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And when the weak and downtrodden committed crimes,

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they were quickly punished. Totally you see the

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double standards?

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This is why we say going back to

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what I was saying earlier, be fair, be

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just, treat people respectfully. You never know

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which

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portion of your politeness

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to which person

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might be the tipping

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of the weight

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of the scale

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on the right side

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of your scales of justice on the day

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of judgment, that you needed to get to

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Jannah.

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And why we say this? You know when

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you and I are going to Jannah, listen

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to the mercy of Allah.

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Notice how I said when we're going to

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Jannah without even doubting. InshaAllah, we're going. Say,

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Ame.

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There's a scale.

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There's a scale of justice.

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Allah says we put the good on 1

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side, we put the bad on the other

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side.

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If you have more good than bad, we'll

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ignore the bad. You can carry on. Allahu

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Akbar. Allahu Akbar. Sounds like 5149.

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Right? Allahu Akbar. May Allah make it easy.

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You and I don't realize that's the mercy

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of Allah. He didn't say you're never going

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to commit sin. He knows you and I

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are gonna commit sin. But are you a

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bad person? Are you predominantly an evil person?

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Insha'Allah, no. We're not.

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I try. I have my flaws. I seek

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forgiveness. I'm not proud to go to someone

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and say, please forgive me my brother. Things

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you may know, you may not know. Forgive

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me. You know, there is retail and wholesale.

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Sometimes you're too embarrassed to go to someone

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and say I did this, I did this,

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forgive me. Go for wholesale. My brother, forgive

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me. Whatever's happened, just forgive me. You know,

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let's start a new leaf. They say okay.

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But if they knew the details, they might

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have said, hey, retail is a bit more

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in price, you know. The wholesale is cheaper.

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So basically, it's good to just seek, forgive

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brother. Forgive me, please. You know, may Allah

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for you and so on. In South Africa,

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they have even here, they have a statement.

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They hug you and they say, maaf, maaf.

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You know, maaf. And you wonder what's maaf?

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Now you know what maaf is. Maaf means

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listen, just wipe it out. It's okay. So

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they believe and people do believe when someone

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says maaf as they're hugging you and you

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say maaf, it means everything's wiped out. Allah

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knows best. Rather be a bit more sincere

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and say, brother forgive me. May Allah subhanahu

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wa ta'ala bless you. I have stood on

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the pulpit and I'm standing again saying, my

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beloved brothers, my

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sisters, be you here or elsewhere. Those who

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may hear this later. If I have wronged

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you in any way, shape or form, Insha

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Allah, it's not intentional. And if you if

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it were something that hurt you, forgive me.

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Forgive me. For genuinely, we try our best

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to be as

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positive and as genuine as possible. We may

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not be able to give some people time

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or something the way they want it. We

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are human. We are weak. We also have

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weaknesses, but generally, let's forgive each other. May

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Allah Almighty grant us goodness and help us

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to uplift and uphold justice,

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goodness,

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fairness. Every week in the khutbah we hear

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in Allah instructs you to be fair, to

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be kind and good, and Allah Almighty

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instructs you to maintain

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family relations.

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He's the 1 who chose your family members.

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He knows why. Some of them are tough

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to get on with. He knows it. You

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navigate through it, inshallah, with the will of

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Allah Subhanahu wa'ta'ala. May Allah not make us

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the tough ones. May Allah make us those

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who are a little bit more easy going.

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That doesn't mean you forego

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the justice.

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In fact, I end on the note where

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I say, mark the words of the verse

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very carefully. Allah says Allah instructs you to

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be just and kind because justice always comes

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before kindness. You can't use the excuse of

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be kind, be kind, be kind to oppress

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people and expect them. Don't worry. Just forgive

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them. No. There's a limit beyond which, listen,

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I need my right. You owe me a

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$1, 000, 000. I'll be kind to you,

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but I need my million. May Allah

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grant us

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all

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ease of

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