Islam, Kindness and Benevolence

Mufti Menk

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From Kota Kinabalu in Malaysia. This lecture touches on the qualities of a believer relating to kindness and benevolence.

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smilla rahmanir rahim al hamdu Lillah wa Salatu was Salam ala rasulillah Allah Allah he was having

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a lot of Muslim he was suddenly modbury Guan imala Abu decoda zuleika, Mohammed enough

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of Allah homophonous Sahaba the edge Marine One one ma homea Karim

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We commence In the name of Allah subhanho wa Taala.

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We praise Him we thank him upon all conditions. We send complete blessings and salutations upon the best of creation, the most noble of all messengers, Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam

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May Allah subhanho wa Taala bless him his household, his companions, may Allah subhanho wa Taala bless all those in the chain of the people who brought the goodness to us from that time up to now May Allah bless them all. If it was not for their effort, we would not have had the goodness today. So it is our duty and responsibility to pray for all of those whom we know whom we do not know who have struggled and strived over the generations in order to preserve the beautiful teachings of Allah subhanho wa Taala given to us to Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wasallam they learnt it, they put it into practice, and they conveyed it to the next generation in a way that it got to us. Now it is

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our duty to learn it, to put it into practice and to convey to the next generation so that when we are gone, when they say Allahu Allah him, then definitely we will be included in that.

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So we ask Allah subhana wa Taala to bless every one of us to and to bless our offspring goes to come up to kiama Mela keep a steadfast on the dean and make us from among those who can please him at all times. My brothers, my sisters, honorable dignitaries, and one and all those who are listening now those who may listen later on May Allah subhanho wa Taala indeed grant us the softening of the heart. When a heart is softened, it is ready to accept when it is softened towards Allah subhanho wa Taala and his Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, it is ready to accept, it is ready to change. Many of us myself included, we have some bad habits sometimes some are serious, some are not very

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serious. Some people have bad habits that go beyond the level of being acceptable and some people it does not affect others, but it is a personal bad habit. We are human beings. It is only normal and natural that we will have imperfections but the struggle towards perfection shall remain up to the day we die so that we please Allah subhanho wa Taala therefore, it's up to us to give up some of the bad habits. I've been speaking in the last few days in your beautiful country of Malaysia. May Allah preserve it, may Allah protect it. May Allah subhanho wa Taala grant you peace, stability, security, and May Allah Subhana Allah be pleased with you. I mean,

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and I have said over the last few days, that it is important for us to develop ourselves. It's not good enough for us to lose ourselves. We have rules and regulations from Allah subhanho wa Taala, governing how we should behave. And to remind one another about these duties is an act of charity. It is an act of charity. We speak about Islam being the religion of kindness, Islam being the religion of benevolence, it commences with knowledge, because without knowledge, we won't know what is kindness, we will know what is benevolence, we won't know what is goodness, because we have not learned when a person does not learn. How would they know what is halal? What is haram? How would

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they know what is good? What is bad, if they have not learned? If a child does not know what a snake is, the child might innocently walk towards the snake and start playing with that snake without realizing that this is a dangerous reptile or a serpent and the child may be harmed. But if the child were to know from a young age that Be careful of this particular creature, then the child would be able to cry for help once a snake comes in its presence. That is obviously a tough example. But the reason I gave this example my brothers and sisters is to show you that without knowing what is right and wrong, we may fall into that which is wrong and we may lose the opportunity to engage

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in what is correct. So this is why in the Arabic language, there is a beautiful saying out of two shall tea woman Lamia artificial coffee

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out of two shambolic key woman lemon

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Artificial taffy, I have learned or I have known what evil is so that I can stay away from it because the one who does not know what evil is will fall straight into it so panela I learned that there is a hole here. This road is not good you know when you're driving with your vehicle Mashallah you have beautiful roads in Kota Kinabalu. I come from Zimbabwe, our roads are not as grand as yours. When we are driving we know on this road that this place there is a pothole on this road the other place there is a hump on that road this this place here The road is actually very bad. You need to slow down and stop. So a person who does not know what happens to them is they bash straight

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through these holes and they destroy their motor vehicle. What's the point of buying a beautiful verifier and you don't know that the road ahead of you is going to destroy your God. May Allah subhanho wa Taala grant us an understanding. So we have the path The path leading to Jelena I want gentlemen you want Jenna and inshallah by the mercy of Allah we will be in gentlemen say amen.

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Make us meet today. You know when I saw Kota Kinabalu from the air and I landed here I put it on Instagram I put it on social media saying Mashallah beautiful place, you know, it looks a little bit

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people say it looks a little bit like gentlemen.

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And I said Subhana Allah, if this is the beauty of the dunya I'm sure Allah has something much better in store because gentlemen, Allah describes it you know what he says fie harmala Walla.

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Allah says

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we have for you in Paradise, anything that they would wish which means it is actually in third person for them is what ever they wish in gentlemen. And we have something extra more than what they wish. Imagine if Allah subhanho wa Taala tells you what do you want and you have your list, you draw your whole list of things. And after that he says anything else? So you think and think and you draw another list and you give it to him? And then he says anything else? You say No, that's okay. So he will say you take that and I will give you more and more and more and more. I quickly want to make mention of this is very interesting. This evening. We have a lot of time I was told to speak for

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long Is that true? Okay, so I can quickly make mention of this. You see my brothers and sisters, we are all here to be inspired. We all want to feel good Muslims, we all want to go back with a powerful message. We will want to change our lives in a positive way, even if it means by one centimeter inshallah. So let's talk about Allah subhanho wa Taala plan. Allah says, and this is true, the hadith of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he says that, in general, there is that which no AI has ever seen, no ears have ever heard. And no mind has ever thought of no one has ever thought of it. So if you have seen something beautiful, you need to know in general is way beyond

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that. If you have heard about something really amazing, you need to know in general is way beyond that. If you have thought about something you need to know in general is better than that. That's generally true. So the worst person says the last person to enter gender. Now what that means is some people will enter malkia Rami Bharara, man Nabina was Dina was shuhada he was solid him some people will enter agenda to fill those with the prophets and with the pious and with those who are close to Allah subhanho wa Taala they will just go in May Allah make us from those through His mercy. I mean, don't be lazy to say I mean, it costs you nothing and it can get you straight into

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Gentlemen, I promise you. So my brothers and sisters,

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some will go to general very quickly some they will go a little bit later some they will have to pay for their bad deeds in jahannam in Hellfire first when they are cleaned, then they will have to go to general filters. So the last one to get out of jahannam. And to go into gentlemen, there is a beautiful narration which makes mention of when he comes out. He is so happy. And he says you know what, if I were to come out of this jahannam and I want to be just outside

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jahannam I'm a happy man. So Allah takes him out and puts him just out. And a little while later he sees a tree. He sees a tree at a distance and he thinks he says, You know what? Oh Allah. He already promised that if I were to be taken out there is nothing more I want so he was taken out. He was not supposed to want anything else. But you know the nature of men. Man is such a lie. I tell you ask the business men and women here that when they started up, they told themselves when I earned the first 100,000 ringgit, that's if I'm going to retire 100,000 came they wanted 1 million when the million came they wanted a billion when the billion came. I don't know what happened but it will not

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stop. So man is like that. So this man he says, Oh Allah subhanho wa Taala

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I want to ask you one more thing. The last thing I just want to go to this tree you see there is a shade day. I just need to go near this tree here. So Allah subhanho wa Taala says, okay, after that, would you ask for anything? He says no, that's the last thing so he's taken to the tree and after that he is thankful to Allah subhanho wa Taala he gets a scent. There is a smell smell of water coming from gentlemen to fill those because he's not yet inside gentlemen, but he's out of jahannam so he says Oh Allah, if you take me closer to the center, I will really be thankful and Allah says but Weren't you the one who said this is okay. Anyway through my mercy I will give you that he gets

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there and he sees the door genda from a distance he says Oh Allah take me close to the door last thing that is nothing close to the door. And that happens and then after that, he says, Oh Allah, just inside the door just inside the door, you know, right inside the door. That's man so Pamela inside so Allah subhana wa Jalla says, Oh, my worship, oh, my worship, I want to ask you one thing. If I were to give you now who are we talking about the last one to come out of Hellfire to go to Jerusalem? So we all who are seated here. Maybe it can be us if we are the worst, but

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it would probably be someone worse than us. We would be better than that. inshallah. Why do I say this? Because this hadith says that is the last person so it has to be one person. The others are all in front of him. So inshallah we will all be in front have hope. May Allah make us even better. So Allah tells this last person that you know what, if I were to give you what ever the whole dunya dunya meaning this world, whatever the whole world had, would you be happy? Now think about it for a moment. What does the world have? It has everything in it. It's got gold and silver and whatnot all inside all yours everything yours whatever it is all yours just for you. Only you. So he says for

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Imagine now he is going to be offered something grand. And then he says okay, yeah Allah I will take that. And I will be happy with it. And Allah says, you can have that woman blue, blue, blue, eyeshadow Marwat.

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You can have that multiplied, multiplied, multiplied 10 times only for you Subhana Allah, this is a powerful narration. I start with this as an introduction to give you hope in the mercy of Allah. Allah. Allah, Allah.

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Allah is most forgiving allies most merciful. Allah is magnificent allies loving allies, Karim. Allah is looking for any excuse to forgive us. So develop a relationship with Allah. Have your link with Allah, my brothers and sisters, something very serious comes to my mind. Now, when we commit sin, we do it privately. Right? When we do something wrong, we don't want to be exposed. You know today we have the mobile phone Mashallah. Ever since this smartphone has been invented, and it has spread on the earth, we are all journalists. All of us. We have become professional photographers.

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I promise you

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amazing. Everything is recorded when someone is dying.

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Sometimes the people are busy taking photos instead of helping the person still zillah someone is drowning and instead of us going to help we say hold on hold on quickly. Take out my phone. Let me take a picture picture. Yeah, and when when later on you sell that to the newspaper. I saw it I recorded when he died. What you recorded when he died, where is your mind? Throw your phone and dive into hell man may Allah subhanho wa Taala give us good guidance because Islam is a religion of kindness, benevolence.

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We are not selfish. Don't think of your own little five minutes of fame. No, it is five minutes of fame after that it will be something else. Think about a life you save a life. Allah subhanho wa Taala says, woman,

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whoever saves a single life is equivalent to the one who's similar to the one or It is as though they have saved humanity at large. So let us work towards that. It is absolutely important for us to realize the value of the so I was saying we've all become journalists and this is something shocking with Allah subhanho wa Taala. He has promised us goodness and he has promised us that if you do good, I will give you gentlemen to fill those. Like I said earlier, Allah is Allah is Rahim Allah is most forgiving allies, Most Merciful have a good perception of Allah because he says in a hadith footsie, footsie means the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam is saying that Allah subhanho wa

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Taala has said, and in the one near Abitibi

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I will treat every one of my worshipers according to the manner in which they perceive me. In Simple English, I will treat everyone how they think I will treat them. So if you think Allah did not forgive me, who knows? That is an insult to Allah, maybe he won't forgive you. You know shavonne when a person commits a sin shapen

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he does two things.

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The first thing he does, he does not want you to do Toba. He does not want you to repent. That's the first thing he does. And if you if he fails, and you repent. The second thing is he makes you think that that repentance is not accepted. These are two plans of Allah. Guess which one is worse? Subhana Allah.

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The second is an insult to Allah subhanho wa Taala because Allah says,

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Allah Nina has

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seen him lead up on a boom

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a journey,

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Mohammed, he was telling my worshipers who have transgressed against themselves, never, ever lose hope in the mercy of Allah. He forgives all your sins. That's what the verse says. So if Allah is saying, never, ever lose hope in my mercy and you are losing hope in his mercy, You are insulting him. He is telling you I am forgiving. You say no, I don't think you are forgiving. What? How can you talk to Allah like that? How can you think about Allah like that? So I want to correct the perception of every one of us. Remember, Allah is Forgiving, no matter what you've done, he will forgive you when you make Toba. You need to feel with the change within yourself that Oh Allah, I

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have asked you for forgiveness. I admitted my sin. I regretted it. I sought forgiveness. I promised not to do it again. Those four conditions now Yeah, Allah, I'm convinced I'm forgiven. It's forgotten and it's in the past. I will not let it bog me down. If you want to repeat the

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seeking of forgiveness. It's important to repeat every day, so many times in a good way. But don't think Allah did not forgive you know, that's a lot of the devil. It's a plot of shape. And so

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this assumes that are committed by a person.

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shaman tries his best shape and tries his best to make us lose hope in the mercy of Allah subhanho wa Taala This is something we need to be very, very careful of, don't ever lose hope in the mercy of Allah subhanho wa Taala. So Allah subhanho wa Taala has told us in so many different words in the Koran, and in the Sunnah of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, that indeed if you want to achieve the mercy of Allah,

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you need to be merciful.

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You need to be merciful. Law, your Hamdulillah, whom Allah amoenus

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Allah subhanho wa Taala does not have mercy upon he or she who is merciless to the rest of mankind.

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You don't have mercy to mankind. Allah says I will not have mercy upon you. So remember this today there are people who misinterpret Islam, they want to harm everyone, any small thing they want to create a problem. No. Remember, do not create problems for indeed, you are answerable to Allah subhanho wa Taala and in the same way you are answerable

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To Allah, The others are also answerable to Allah. If a person is committing a sin, you can guide them in a beautiful way. You cannot go and start punching them up and start saying, right, because I saw you in the nightclub come here, I'm going to whip you, you cannot do that. You can guide them. My brother, my sister, you know, I saw you in the nightclub is not a good thing. If they are clever, they will tell you well, what were you doing in the nightclub?

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That's a good question. You know, one day there was a man. And he came

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to this gathering. And he was telling everyone that, you know, I went to this wedding of these people. The people were naked. The women were like this, there was music blasting like it was a nightclub. And there was smoke screens, and the the groom came in a helicopter. And the bride came in a Porsche. And this happened and there was so much alcohol and it was haram things happening and what what what what? So someone said, Uncle, what were you doing there?

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He was very fast. You know, you know, some people are very quick to be. He said, Well, I went there to gather information to tell you.

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If I didn't go there who was going to inform you about all of this?

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May Allah subhanho wa Taala not make us from among those who find excuses. The reason I give you this example is we are quick to look for excuses for ourselves. Quick, very fast like this. But for another man or another woman, we won't find any excuse to Panama we will not find an excuse. So let us learn if you want to be saved. This is the plan of Allah Mensa muslimin satara hula hoops.

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If you cover the faults of your fellow brothers and sisters, Allah will cover your faults in the dunya and the archaea. If you love to expose, you shall be exposed. This is why Be careful of your phone. Social media has made it easy for us to harm people instead of being kind to them. We we forward messages without authentication, we actually forward something and we right there forwarded as received, have you seen that forwarded as received as though that is an indemnity in front of the angels are in front of Allah subhanho wa Taala that if I put forward as received, I can bash any brother or sister or anyone and I can say what I like and claim No, I was only forwarding it. Will

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it go back to the Quran surah to know, Allah subhanho wa Taala says you don't do that you don't spread the tales of immortality. You know why?

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If a person commits adultery, if a person is consuming alcohol, if a person is a gambler, if a person has been caught stealing, if a person, for example, has committed some crime, and we tend to talk about the crime and how it was done, and the adultery and what exactly happened, and so on and so forth. What happens in people's minds, when too many of these stories start spreading their morals, the level of their morals drops automatically, because they start thinking when everyone is doing this, who am I? I'm just one I'm a figure. Everyone is doing this. So it's okay let me do it. So this is why we are taught to be careful what you spread even if it is true, you cannot say

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things. Do you know the meaning of the word Reba. Reba means backbiting, right? backbiting actually means what? In fact the Sahaba they asked Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam

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he says Do you know what is Viva? Viva Do you know what is leavin? They said align his mission you know best. He said the cuca Huckabee maka

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to mention about your brother or your sister. That which had they been present, they would have not liked it.

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To mention behind their back that which is true, not false. It's true. But you spoke behind their back in a way that they wouldn't have liked it. It is true.

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So the Sahaba asked him what if? What if it is really true? You know, some people say when they are backbiting and someone says don't back by the excuse they use they say no, no, no, I'm telling you the truth. telling me the truth will mean that is backbiting that is exactly what backbiting is the Prophet sallallahu wasallam says in kanopy matapalo First of all,

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if if the person has in it what you are saying which means it's true, then it's backbiting if it is a lie, then it is a fabrication. It is a slander. It is a tan. That's what it is. So if you go back to the show to know Allah subhanho wa Taala says

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the true believers are those who when they hear a dirty story about someone else, they say, we should not be talking about this. This is a lie, leave it. That's the first response of a true believer. today. The world has changed. When you hear something, you know what people say, Oh, I wouldn't put it past anyone. That's what they say. I wouldn't put it past anyone. Why don't you have a good feeling so that when you have the rumors spread against you, other people will defend you. They will say, you know what, I don't think that this person could have had this because they are not worth doing that. For example.

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At the time of Rasulullah, sallAllahu wasallam. He stood up to defend Ayesha,

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they were, they were accusing her they were spreading rumor about her saying that she was immortal. Allah, Allah cleared her name in the Quran. And Allah makes mention of people like Abu Bella, I'm sorry by saying Luna semirara doe one.

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To be

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moving, if actually means a lie, a fabrication. So this verse means have you as believers? So panela had you as believers when you heard the tale or the accusation for good by comparing it with yourselves and saying, if we cannot do it, she definitely did not do it. So about you, but I'm sorry.

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When the wife said, Did you hear what they're saying? Did you hear what they're saying about Ayesha? immediately said, Look, would you ever do something like that? She said no. I would never do it. He said well I Isha is purer than you.

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The story is closed.

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How many of us are ready to defend others that is the kindness of Islam, learn to speak good about people

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learn to say good about people behind their backs. And you will find in an amazing way people will talk good about you behind your back. The problem with us behind backs we talk bad in front we smile

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you know when there is a smile that goes like from ear to ear sometimes something is wrong you know especially person who you know there is something like your long lost friend you know, and they come and Subhanallah it's a different thing if they are genuinely your friend and you know them but sometimes people who you know a this person here you know they are a little bit dilly dally look at how they are greeting like Mr. Long lost buddy. Be careful. SubhanAllah it is better for me to have someone tell me on my face. Look, brother, look my system. This is not a good idea. I heard this head that I'm not going to tell the people I'm going to tell you

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you know in the houses. I don't know the system here in Kota Kinabalu. It's a beautiful name and where to save a few times in the lecture.

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The last time I came I didn't know how to pronounce it properly. So this time I learned you know before I came I repeated it a few times Mashallah. I even know that if you don't know how to say just say Kiki and it's okay.

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SubhanAllah So,

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sometimes in the home, the issues we have unnecessary. You know, a man gets married. Okay. When he gets married, what happens is mother feels that you know, this man is now going to another woman and he's going to his wife, not realizing that the love is different. The love you have for your mother the love you have for your wife, two totally different loves, right? But the mother feels it sometimes you know, now he's not coming home. Now he doesn't eat here. Now. He doesn't ask about me. He doesn't visit me and so on. So who does she blame? She cannot blame her beloved son. She blames the wife. It's true. It happens. So then she says you know your wife has taken you away from me. No,

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the wife will be sitting saying you are coming to me. What can I do?

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So it creates sometimes small form of

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friction, a little bit of friction.

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will lie one of the solutions of this is to praise your mother in law or your daughter in law behind their backs. Whether you like it or not, when you go to sit with your friends you must say my daughter in law is a very good girl. She looks after my son. She's a nice person. She speaks well she is pleasant. Say nice thing. If you have a problem. Call her call your son say

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To them only, that is Islam you are being counted. This is actually benevolence in your home. When we talk of kindness we only think that it is monetary. We don't realize in Islam, so many points of goodness, Allah says sadaqa for a smile. Do you know that? Jabba suka? Jia HCA? sadaqa. You have to smile in the face of your brethren is actually an act of charity. Normally the word sadaqa is used if someone says, Can you give us a duck? What are they talking about money. But Allah says no more important than your money is your character and your attitude. Because if you have an attitude, we don't even want your money. We don't want your money. Imagine the person gives you 1000 reengage as

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a poor person, but he swears you abuse it. You tell him Hey, brother, keep your 1000 keep it. I don't want it. So Panama. Someone does you a favor. And every day they tell you no, I did you the favor. You know, I tell you, it happened to me once. It happened to me there was a brother who did a favor to me many years ago.

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And he kept on reminding me and he kept on telling me you know what I did? I said, Brother, please, let's calculate what you've done for me. And I'll pay you back in cash. Stop it.

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Because that's not a favor. That is actually something bad. So you see when it comes to in laws,

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there's nothing wrong. We make it wrong. Imagine if you were to phrase your indoors, like I said, Your daughter in law or your mother in law.

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You know, why don't we talk about fathers in law and sons in law? Why is it always mother in law daughter in law? So Hannah law, it reminds me of

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something on a lighter note. They say some of you may have read this, if you heard the live stream a few days ago.

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They say a father becomes a father in law. Okay?

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A son becomes son alone, the mother becomes a mother in law. The daughter becomes the daughter in law, the wife.

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She is the law. That's the thing.

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That's why they use the word law. If you ever thought of it, what is it to do with law in marriage? What is it? There's no connection? I've always been asking people, where does the law come in? Now I understand. It's the wife. That's the law, you know.

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And I always say we are supposed to be, you know, you marry your wife, you're in love with your wife. It's supposed to be love. That's the mother of my love, as the father of my love, so she is my mother in law. She He is my father in love. Why do we say law? It's supposed to be mothering love, so inshallah from now we will say that's my mother in law. So

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May Allah increase our love say amen. May Allah subhanho wa Taala grant us harmony in our homes? Why am I seeing all of this? Because charity begins at home. That's why I'm saying this charity begins at home. It's not good enough for us to talk about how to be kind to the rest of the world when we are brutally

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misbehaving in our own homes. abusive. The way we use our mouth, we the worst words come out for our children, our wives, sometimes our husbands sometimes our family members, our children, our parents, our parents, sometimes the worst words possible. Come on, and when someone knocks the door,

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attitude, you should have had it before you open the door. Subhana Allah, it's reality. What's the point of the whole world thinking that you are a tough person when your family says you are a rotten individual? May Allah forgive us? That is the reason why Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam when he said the best from amongst you. What did you say? Is Who? Who? The best to your family the best to your wife. Why? Because your wife sees you. When you're happy when you're sad. When you're okay when you're not okay, when you're healthy when you're feeling sick. 24 seven, she sees you.

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She knows you. She knows everything about you. You have shown her exactly who you are. Because you live with it. You cannot hide. But when you go to work, you're only going for a few hours. How are you What's going on? You know, you are smart. Everything means you don't know the food was brought from home or I'm going to eat some. It's a different environment. If someone sees you a few hours a day, they really don't know you.

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They only see what you show them when they live with you. Yes, they know you with those who live with you the most or your family when they say that you are a good person. Trust me. You are a really good person. If your wife or your husband has to say well, I have

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Beautiful spouse, really lovely person. How long are you married for 17 years? 20 years? Well, I'm married to someone who's Alhamdulillah thank Allah.

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Do you think they can be lying?

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Do you really think that that person can be evil? No, they know because they live with you. But if you just see someone on a daily basis for a little while you met them you're greeted them. Solomonic piece of pleasantries, it's easy to show a face You know, it's easy. So this is why we say charity begins at home. Make sure before you leave your house every day, you have given out charities by saying a good word by smiling by showing a good expression on your face. Today we are depressed because everyone is blooming. We're looking at our phones, everyone. The whole house is on the phone. The whole house is on the phone. Turn off the Wi Fi. Put the phone aside. I have a new rule

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in my house. new rule What is it

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for the phone is not on the table, leave it out. Otherwise you're not going to eat. I promise you you know why? That table and the table manners and the bonding that happens on the table with you, your spouse, your children is priceless. It is worth 1000s of rings. Trust me

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to have a meal with your family without distraction. You look at your children, you talk to them. They talk to you about their day there is interaction no one is busy with their phones or anything else. No.

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I know sometimes one or two of the children in a rush they will quickly eat fast and go back to the phone. But you know what? When they are on the table, there must not be a phone there's no distraction, it say the name of Allah.

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A lot of us if we could we would eat with one hand, one hand the phone in one hand we just eating online that's that's where we are today. Now Allah subhanho wa Taala grant us forgiveness. So we need to change this we need to change it in a beautiful way when we want to correct things in a lovely way. Sweet way. Like we would like to be corrected nicely correct. Others also in a nice way. So like I said charity begins at home thereafter. My brothers and sisters, those who work for us.

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Remember to be kind to them.

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One of our lucam gyla Humala data Id come from Anaconda who add value to me Maya, will you be for me my Albus wala token lifou Maya available for Inca left to home for a normal,

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amazing, these servants who are serving you, these people who work for you, these people who are below you, because they are serving you. The haddie says Allah has put them beneath you in authority, but they're your brothers.

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They are your sisters. If Allah once he can change the table, in the next generation, or two or three generations down, their children will be the bosses of your children. It will happen it can happen and it has happened.

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What do you mean can

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we know?

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The days Allah says we rotate them around for the people, the one who is ruling will be the root and the root and and vice versa. over generations things have to change. The rich become poor, the poor become rich, Allah says that's my plan on Earth, it will not remain the same people will get a chance for everything. But it's a matter of generations. It's up to Allah. Therefore treat people with respect. I have known of people who were cobblers before for a nation and they became rulers Subhanallah later on.

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It's amazing. So be careful. When you treat someone well the day he gets a big position, you know what happens? He will treat you well. It was all to do with respect you are good. That's it. The same applies to wealth. When you have wealth, Allah says we will rotate it you will not remain wealthy forever. So therefore be kind when you have give, so that when you don't have you shall be given.

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And it's not like we are waiting for handouts. But what we mean is people will acknowledge there is kindness, the best person, the best person is He who has authority. He who has wealth, and he who has the best character and conduct after a man and the one that's the best person. When you see a man you know he is powerful, and you know he's wealthy, and he's come and he greets you and he smiles and he reaches out to you and he's not arrogant. That is the best person. You know the Hadith says the people going into gentlemen, the Prophet sallallahu Sallam was asked the question, what are the characters and features of those who will end

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The gentleman

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he said two things that koala he was known for two reasons that people will go into general

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consciousness of Allah and good character.

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One duration says that with your good character and conduct you can reach the level of the pious and those who are close to Allah subhanho wa Taala because of your character and conduct, that's why I've always repeated my brothers and sisters,

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the pious, who are really close to Allah,

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the character shines, shines. They are wonderful people, beautiful lessons to talk to. They respect it is a sign of closeness to Allah. When you are close to Allah, you're suffering. You're not hard. You're not harsh. If someone comes to you and they are harsh, they are not close to Allah. That's just hypocrisy. That's just a show. It's not closeness to Allah, close to us to Allah is depicted by being kind to people. It's the mercy of Allah fabby ma

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Mina LA,

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de la. Indeed.

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It is only by the mercy of Allah that you are lenient, you are lenient towards the people around you. The rest of the verse, Allah says, while

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boom in howling, if you are hard hearted and harsh, they would have dispersed from around you, no one would want to listen to you, because of your hard heartedness, your harshness, it shows us that the characteristics of a true believer calm, lenient, benevolent

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at all times, that is a sign of pirate. Sometimes we have people who read Salah five times a day in the first song, sometimes you have a female maybe assistant reading a lot of Quran and you know, she reads Quran the children are watching, everyone is watching she perhaps she may be on a very high level according to her. Because she's doing her salon she's leading her prom, she dresses appropriately everything else same applies to a man sometimes, you know, you see him outwardly very biased, but if the character is not up to standard, they are not pious. They are not pious. That's why ask yourself how's my character? A sign of the acceptance of your deeds is that it shows in your

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character and your conduct. The two go hand to hand

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when someone is hard and harsh, voila, they are not close to Allah subhanho wa Taala they cannot be and this is why some people are surprised they see but you know, I know this man breeds a lot of Salah Okay, he has a temper. Okay, he swears now and again Okay, he does this and that no, all that Salah the reward of it is going to go to someone else. The Hadith says at Luna many Muslims do you know who is

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Do you know who is a bankrupt person? So the companion said yes, it is a person who doesn't have the coins dyrham and dinar the Prophet sallallahu Sallam says no, that's not the bankruptcy that I am referring to. But a bankrupt person is he or she who will come on the Day of Judgment with a lot of good deeds, a lot of good deeds. Oh,

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how are they bankrupt? But they cheated this one they backed with this one they deceived this one they abused that one they ate the wealth of that one so their good deeds will be paid as a payment to all of those people because the currency in the US euro is known as deeds. The currency in Malaysia is known as a ring game. I cannot bring a Zimbabwe dollar and use it here. It won't work the same way. I cannot go and take my US dollars and say oh, I'll pay you 90,000 It's fine. Give it to him. It's I'm so sorry. There is nothing like that is your deeds. That's the only thing you go with. So you pay in the currency. How many salad do you have? Give us 20,000 salad of yours. You

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have to go into this man because you harmed him. How much Zakat Did you give okay give us X amount of your circuit you have to owe it to this sister because you harmed her. You went for Hajj we need the reward of that hatch because you ate the wealth of this person. That's that's the that is the justice system of Allah subhanho wa Taala Be careful of the system. Because on that day, Allah says yo Malay

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de la.

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Selling that day, when your wealth and your children will not avail you. They won't help you in any way.

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The only thing that will help you is a heart that is pure and clean that will help you so my brothers and sisters, clean your heart, keep it pure, read it of jealousy, hatred, envy, all that throw it away. It's not for us. We are believers, we are worried about our gentlemen, we cannot afford to have a dirty heart. We have to have a clean heart. Good. We have to try our best to be clean to the people reach out to one another, have a good feeling for people have a good feeling for people. Remember Now you may know had to come.

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He may have seen the Prophet peace be upon him says none of you are true believers until and unless you love for your brother, what you love for yourself.

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I want goodness I don't want to be deceived. I want kindness I would love to live Subhana Allah so

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be kind to them as well. honor them, respect them, give them dignity.

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See what Allah will do to you. There was once a Sahabi May Allah subhanho wa Taala make us all from among those with a clean heart. I mean, there was once a Sahabi the prophets Allah Allah Allah services, you want to see a person from gentlemen look at that man. Anyway, he walked off. Someone followed him.

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And they asked him,

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the prophets of Allah Salim said that you are a man from gentlemen. What is it that you do? What's your extra deed? There must be some extra thing that you have. What is he thinking? He says,

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I just do my follow. Imagine I just do my follow up.

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There's no extra beats spoken about. He did not get up for the 100 as well. He just did his follow up is compulsory. And he said, oh, there's one thing every night before I sleep, I make sure that in my heart there is no hatred or ill feeling for any other meaning I remove it completely. Then I sleep. That was the quality.

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You want gentlemen, take out hatred, Ill feeling from your heart you will get the agenda to fill. In another narration the Prophet sallallahu Sallam was asked a question about a woman.

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She prays and she fasts and she's charity and whatever else but she harms the neighbor. You know what he said? It was a very, very serious response. He said she is in hell.

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Wow. But she prays and she fasts, but she harms a neighbor. She's in hell. That was hard.

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It was tough because if we needed to think about it, and when he was asked that there is another woman, she just does have basic, you know basic meaningful, because remember my brother sisters, for we cannot compromise that which is compulsory. We don't compromise more than that. It's up to you to get close to Allah through that SubhanAllah. So, this lady doesn't do too much extra but she does not harm her neighbor. The prophet SAW Selim says she is in gentlemen. Well, these were prophecies, why? To show you that to harm people is dangerous, you need to be kind.

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Now as we

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progress, we will notice that in life, we are going to see the underprivileged. We will see the disabled. We will see those who don't have children, we will see those who don't have parents known as orphans, we will see those who have lost their husbands known as widows.

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What is your treatment towards this? I want to remind you by asking you a question, who was the best of creation? Can you say a name?

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Say loudly? Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam.

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He was the best of creation, the most noble of all prophets. sallallahu alayhi wasallam. Guess what?

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He was an orphan.

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He was an orphan.

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He was an orphan. His father died before he was born. His mother died when he was still a child. He was looked after by his grandfather, the grandfather passed away two years after that. And after that, he was looked after by his uncle for several years. So para la, he was an orphan. Why did Allah choose for the best of creation, the one he whom he loved the most, to be an orphan, and still give him the greatest success, to be a comfort to the rest of the orphans and to raise the rank and the honor of the orphans, to see if you are an orphan. It does not mean that Allah does not like you. Perhaps he loves you more. Many people, they lose their parents. They say maybe Allah does not

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love us. Look what he did to us know. My brothers and sisters when you suffer a loss when you've lost something when you are sick and Ill when something bad has happened. According to you.

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is not necessarily a sign that Allah is upset with you. It is not necessarily a punishment from Allah, it depends on your conviction and your closeness to Allah. If you are content,

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then it's the mercy of Allah. If it brought you close to Allah even a little bit, then it's the mercy of Allah. But if your problem drove you to the club and to the bar, and you started drinking, and you went on to drugs, then it was a punishment.

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You following what I'm saying? We are not meaning when we suffer a loss and a sickness. What do we do we read extra to record, right? We call out to ally have a problem. Maybe you did not call out to Allah before that. But Allah loves you so much. He gave you the problem. When he gave it to you, you came to him, Allah says, Hey, I love you. I know how to bring you to me, I know what to do to you. I just give you the doctor made a mistake, wrong diagnosis. So between the one test and the second test, you did not know that this test result was wrong, you became so close to me. So parallel, our problem is when we find out the next test that we are not.

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We go back to our old ways, forget about Allah subhanho wa Taala. That's what happens to us. So what does Allah do? He keeps you seeking sometimes, because if he keeps you sick, he keeps you at a loss. He keeps you in a disadvantaged position, according to the world they live so that you are humble, you still fulfill your Salah, how many of us we changed our lives because someone close to us passed away, like give them

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how many of us we became close to Allah after them that was the mercy of Allah. Allah loves you don't think of it as bad. So I was saying the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was an orphan. Hence, he says very clearly that when you take care of an orphan,

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you will be resurrected with me. With me. What's the common point? Why me? Why did he say our cafeteria Timmy cotton in general? Why did he say myself and the one who takes care of an orphan shall be like these two fingers in general. Why did he show these two fingers together? Because he was an orphan himself. The rank he has, if you took care of someone who was an orphan, it means you have taken care of someone who has been through a similar situation to Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wasallam you have on this particular child, you've given them opportunities many times in our lives, when you see an orphan people stay far and this often is now wasted. No education, no proper

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upbringing, no nothing. What happens there on the street.

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change that. You have to go out reach out to an orphan in Islam.

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We all know that often. You know what the Hadith says. When you stroke when you caress the head of an orphan, Your sins are forgiven.

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So Pamela, how come so much of importance, I tell you, Muhammad Sallallahu Sallam was an orphan.

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show kindness, be compassionate.

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Subhana Allah.

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When someone passes away, you need to make dua for them. You need to seek that Allah subhana wa Taala from Allah that Allah gives them to us, no matter who they were.

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Allah, may Allah grant him mercy, may Allah have mercy on them. And it is only normal and natural that if they were closer to you, you might cry. It's normal. It's okay. Crying is very good. To be honest with you. Crying is a way to deal with your emotions. And it actually helps you sometimes. I'm not saying crying for nothing, no reason. You know, sometimes food is bad and you start crying. No, no, no, relax. Don't worry about that.

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We don't cry for small reasons. You know, they say there was a man and he was getting married to someone.

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And he was a very soft person.

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So they say his friends told him you know, you are too soft. You are too soft. We are we are really fearful of what's going to happen to you after you're married. You know, there's going to be absolute control. So he said, Oh, so what's the solution? The solution is they said the first day. The first day when you get married.

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We will leave

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cats in your room.

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And and a big pattern behind the curtain.

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So as you enter this room, and your wife is there.

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When the cat comes out, you beat that cat.

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So anyway, he came out

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The cat came out and his bride is there. And his bride knew from her friends that this guy is too soft. You're so fortunate. You're so lucky, you know. So, as the cat came, this man started hitting, and he he was really serious. Anyway, the cat ran away. There was one operation that I stated many years ago that the cat died, but now we we will be a little bit more merciful, let's say didn't die. Okay.

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after that, she was worried. This man is so energetic, he's ruthless. He's brutal.

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Now, when he says things, she listens quickly, because she knows there's going to be a problem. So for example, he says, You know what, you'd better get my tea ready otherwise, so she she doesn't want to hear otherwise, what she quickly says, okay, okay, okay, she loves you. Do this, make the water hot, or else Or else Or else Oh, she quickly ran away. According to her. That means there's going to be drama, isn't it? So it happened a few times. Then she met her friends. She said, you know, you guys were predicting wrong. This guy is actually brutal. You know, this is what happened. They said, No, no, no, no, call his bluff. now call the bluff. So the next day, when he says, I want

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my breakfast to be ready, by eight o'clock, you better make my breakfast or else. So she says what else what?

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He got a shock. He looked at he says what else I will make it

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may Allah subhanho wa Taala blesses May Allah grant us ease is the softness of the heart. Your predominant nature always show it always shows some people they are soft at heart they are kinda that's predominant is prevalent, it will show always some people are ruthless, no matter how hard they try to be sweet. It always shows we need to work hard. If you have a bad habit. Like I said right at the beginning of this talk. When you have a bad habit. ask Allah to help you and work hard to eradicate it. without working hard. It's not just going to go away on its own. You have to work very hard. So anyway, my brothers and sisters, the Prophet sallallahu wasallam had a son. His name

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was Ibrahim.

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And what happened is something very strange also, Allah wanted to show us something.

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Muhammad Sallallahu Sallam lost a child.

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How did he lose the child?

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You know the parents at the time.

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They used to send their children out into the desert in order to be brought up in that natural a and suckled by foster mom.

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So like haleema to Saudia

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took Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wasallam when he was young, so the Prophet sallallahu Sallam gave His Son, Ibrahim to some people, the man was a blacksmith, blacksmith meaning you know, he used to blow into the iron or a lot of smoke coming out and so on. So as a result, perhaps as a result, this child developed respiratory disease and the child passed away. When the child was passing away the last few breaths, Muhammad Sallallahu Sallam was there, and he carried his child

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the child was suffocating and passed away. So tears roll down the eyes of Rasulullah sallallahu Sallam

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tears rolled down his eyes, meaning his cheeks

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so the Sahaba the Allahu was surprised because you know you talk of the deal. That means good and bad fate is from Allah you need to be strong, you need to be strong.

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But my brothers and sisters the Prophet sallallahu Sallam himself shed tears they looked at him or messenger you are crying. He says in number here Moto G Allah Allah Fie Bahama. He says these tears are actually mercy that Allah has placed in his slaves who have mercy.

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If you have mercy, you will cry.

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So when you see things when someone passes away, I was saying that was the point that you cry. It's okay if the Prophet sallallahu Sallam cried, remember, it cannot be something that is totally wrong. No, you can't. You don't wail you don't scream and shout and start tearing your clothes. That's not for a moment. No.

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But what do you do? You can cry, make dua do something good. Try and help the deceased through the ways that were taught by Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wasallam and inshallah you will see it will give you comfort to

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when a woman loses her husband she's known as a widow.

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Her rank

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is higher than an ordinary woman.

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Remember this

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Why? Because Allah took away from her the male figure,

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widow. That's why the Prophet salallahu Salam says the one who spends his time

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serving the orphans and widows,

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is equal in reward to the one who stands in prayer throughout the night.

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And who fasts during the day.

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SubhanAllah widows and orphans, it's not only about orphans, it's about the widows.

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Like I said, the rank of a widow is very high in terms of the reward that we would achieve, if we were to serve them, for the sake of Allah subhanho wa Taala. When we serve a widow, it should never be with an ulterior motive. You know, sometimes you find the men, and this is happening more and more on the glue. In so many communities where you have someone they see there is a widow, she is in need, they help her not for the sake of Allah, but for the sake of their own play, and pastime. They want to blackmail, they want to cheat they want to live, they want to seize the opportunity of the need of this person to fulfill their own haram desire. That is absolutely unacceptable, it is sinful

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The reward goes to the one who helps for the sake of Allah, you can help without even people knowing it was you. That's a good way of doing it.

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No one needs to know that Hadith is when you give as a believer. The best charity is that which your left hand does not know what you're right. And

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that's the best charity

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Subhanallah because you know that for the sake of Allah, I just gave it and it's fine, I'm going I owe it to Allah subhanho wa Taala. So the widows we need to be kind, we need to reach out to them, do something for them, help them with a little project, a business thing, perhaps sometimes some Tech Shop they can run or maybe a sewing project, or you can help them by giving them a job and that job needs to be with utmost respect.

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This is reaching out to people. Then we have another category of people who we as muslimeen reach out to the needy.

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The needy are a gift from Allah had they not been there. Who would you have given your charity to?

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The Hadith says one of the signs of tiama is they will come a time when there will be no people

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who will accept Zakat everyone will be rich. In one day I was mentioning the signs of the AMA. So I spoke about this and I said the Hadith says

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you know wealth will be so much that everyone will be rich. No one will accept zakat. You want to give your money. They'll say what are you giving? Imagine going to a wealthy man, and you didn't know he's wealthy. You say, I've got some soccer today.

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I've got soccer. You have given me the soccer, you know? So anyway, I gave this narration, one young boy put up his hand. So I thought What's going on? I said yes. What would you like? He says, When is the time going to come?

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Why? Because he's thinking if everyone's ready to be rich, I'd rather be separate and that's a sign of DRM. It's actually a sign of the end of times. May Allah subhanho wa Taala help us it will come with a different fitna. It will come with another problem because you know when everyone is wealthy, and everyone is powerful, it becomes a competition according to the Quran.

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It becomes a competition. You have to hear the verse where Allah subhanho wa Taala speaks about it.

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In a Lambo.

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dounia Allah,

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Allah gives the example and Allah says you should know that the life of this world these are the various stages higher to dunya you should know the life of this world is last one was the natural law even one lakh one was the natural that is how it starts. If you know Arabic, you will know that the word live means to play the word lotto is amusement, slightly more sophisticated than play. Why? Because you are now older, when you are born, you play you have a game you have a rattle. When a child is born, you can take a little rattle and you just make the sound you know.

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And the child is so excited. He why I know I've got a children of my own Subhana Allah May Allah subhanho wa Taala grant us ease. I promise you the child is so excited.

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They are playing playing with you. But when the child gets two years old, three years old, no, I need a car. No, it's a must be a car. You can't just do this to me, you do this, they will throw it away cannot do that. So from life it becomes, at a certain age, they want remote control helicopter, have you seen it, they want to fly it without them. Now they want the iPhone, if you don't give the phone there is a tantrum in the house, I promise you, they have to have your phone. And nowadays the kids know how to take better selfies than you and me.

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I promise you a few minutes ago, we were with the brothers. And we were taking a selfie. Now I have a habit. Sometimes when someone is taking a picture, if I know something, I'll teach them I tell them. So I say you know, when you take a selfie, make sure you wipe the front camera before you take your selfie every time. It enhances the image by 50%.

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Why? Because we speak with the phone, that I'm honest, I'm teaching you something maybe you might want to pay me when I'm going away because it's worth money.

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We speak on the phone, the ear and this region where the hair is it's sweaty, there's a bit of grease, sometimes grime. So the phone normally has a little bit of sweat in the front. And we just take a selfie not thinking that you didn't like this come on. Every time I look at the screen. I've looked at so many of these screens, I can actually tell you, brother, you just need to wipe your camera they look at me what what I'm honest with you wiping wiping and you see a beautiful image come out. So panela anyway, we learn something tonight inshallah, I promise you, when you now wipe it, you think of me make a draft for me inshallah.

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So you wipe the front camera, and then you take the pitch. The kids already know this somehow they know about a selfie stick because they are short and small. They have the phone ready. And it's done. And I promise you that is level

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it is live on and then it goes too low. They want to play with your phone, they want to make sure they know the code, you know, they know that this is your code. That's what it is. If it's your finger, they say no, put the finger finger put the finger Subhanallah Put your finger well now you have kids mode, but then they know that this is no this is not what you do. These are the children the point I'm raising to for you is to show you that when Allah spoke about it in Nepal and Allah says the stages of life, it starts off with life. It goes to law. Now it's up to what age you get to the early teens, maybe 910 before just before your teens when it becomes Xena john, what is Xena now

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I need to check my hair you know

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and make sure I'm okay put my glasses put my nice shoes I'm walking out smell nice. Have my buttons open my everything well, I must walk down because now it's no longer just level in life. When you when a child your mother used to give you clothing. As you grew older you are worried about toys and things now you're a little bit older you are a mom says well this No no, no, no, I'm not wearing that. You can give it to me. I want to wear this and this and this. You know if it doesn't say boss Yeah, I'm not going to wear it. So it becomes Xena. You become a person up to the time you get married

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and even slightly beyond. It's all about Xena to you know beautification, we are beautifying ourselves we are beautifying, making sure that everything is prim and proper. We want to draw the attention of those around us May Allah subhanho wa Taala make it in a good way and not in a bad way.

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So z net and after that what happens you get your job you you now graduate from school you get your job the whole the

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whole you start compete you start

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to fall for actually means to compete with one another. Who is who has more you're boasting the far the far what is your boasting? What are you boasting about? You're bragging Subhanallah I'm bragging.

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bragging about what I have what I learned where I work, what I do, look at my car, look at my house. Look at this. Look at that the VA home now what happens?

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There comes a stage when you have your children.

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You have your car, you have your house. You now a massive a massive means what you're getting, you're building you're getting more and more. So Allah says that can fill a morning well.

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Two things after

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you start amassing your wealth, and your children two things. That's why when old man when he introduced himself, what does he say? I've got four grandchildren.

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I've got 17 grandchildren. So what is he doing?

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He won't stop there. He will tell you three doctors, for lawyers to politicians. One is a CEO of that company. What is he doing to you? He's just, he's just, you know, he's talking about his wealth and his children. That's it.

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Allah subhanho wa Taala tells us you see all of this here, there comes a stage, when a person has so much of wealth, so much of children, it becomes a competition with one another. That's what it is. Because the words used in the Quran, are actually referring to that which happens to more than one.

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You know, when when someone says,

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when we use the term to argue, you argue with more than one so we say,

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We argued it's more than one. It's not just customer customers one person, but her summer is when you are when there are more than one person. When you say, Taka Bella, you're talking of two people. So that's why Allah says Tafara notice is the same way in the Arabic language, those who know the language, but let me not make it too complicated for you because it will become boring. Rather, I tell you that there comes a stage when we compete with each other, without realizing we're going closer to the grave. Now, we're getting closer to the grave. There comes a time when people become ugly, because they have too much, absolutely too much. You know what Allah subhanho wa Taala says,

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Allah subhanho wa Taala says, had I given everyone wealth,

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men would have been fighting each other, and they would have actually sought the brunt of one another. If everyone was wealthy, they would have been chaos on Earth. But Allah subhanho wa Taala says, some are wealthy, some are not some are in need, and so on and so forth. This is why when everyone has will have wealth, it will be a sign of the end, it will be a sign of the end. May Allah subhanho wa Taala grant us ease. So whatever wells Do you have,

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than to give when you give your name is written next to it.

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For as long as you have not given that wealth, your name is not written next week's.

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Did you know that

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when you've given us the spanking, and it's no longer with you, your name was written next to this man. And this man's painted that the circle is closed.

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But if you have ended, and you have not spent it.

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It's not written next to your name. Because if you die there, and then without spending it, whose name is it the next day,

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someone else the heirs, your heirs will take it, your children's name, someone else's name will be written next to it not yours, because you didn't spend it. When you spent it, the circle was completed when you did not spend it the circle was not completed before it was completed. Someone else's name was written next to it. They used it, they spent it and you know what happens when you leave too much of wealth, the chances are the children fight for that particular wealth. And that's why the Prophet sallallahu wasallam says the best wealth that you can spend is that which you earned with your own perspiration, its value in your eyes is very different from that which you just got

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without sweat.

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Although it's good, the hadith of Saddam

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he was a wealthy person. And he when he was on his deathbed, he says oh messenger, I have lots of wealth and I only have one daughter so can Can't I give all my routes for charity. The prophet SAW Selim said no. He said okay. So then can I give two thirds to charity said no. He said can I give half to charity? He said no. So then can I give one third to charity, he says as follows was too loose, okay. He says you give one third, and not more than one third one third is enough. From that we actually have a ruling in Islam that states that a man is not allowed to bequeath more than one third, at least two thirds needs to go to his heirs. SubhanAllah It's amazing. These are rules of

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Islam. Allah subhanho wa Taala help us be people who are charitable and who reach out to others through our kindness in character and conduct as well as our wealth. When we give you know how much it grows.

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It grows so much Allah says methylone Latina

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visa de la cabeza de have

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been fee

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To have what Allahu Akbar he fully many.

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Allah says the example of the one who spends in the course of Allah is like the example of V. Corn

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Do you know the corn the ears of corn where they have seeds, so many seeds? It is one seed the example of a seed that grows so many corns

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and on each one

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you find 100 embedded savasana you will have seven different codes and on each one they will be 100 of those seats handler which means multiply that by 700. You spend in the path of Allah minimum return 700 for

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you spend it in the dunya you buy your property, you do this you invest it, minimum return, only Allah knows but it's not going to be 700 times imagine I put in one ringgit, I get back 700 rupees I put in 700 tickets, I get back 4900 Subhan Allah

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that is amazing. But it requires a believer to understand.

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And you know, we have a month of Ramadan.

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That month of Ramadan is a month of charity, it's a month of giving. It's a month of the Quran. It's a month of generosity. The Hadith of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam says, the companions are describing him and they say Karna Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam.

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The Prophet sallallahu Sallam was the most generous of all people he used to give his to give everything whatever he could, he would give it away. And he would make sure that people take and people are okay and people are taken care of, because he knew when you give you get Allah will provide.

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So the Hadith says, When I say Howdy, I'm talking of the Hadith of the Sahaba of the law on describing Mohammed salatu salam, they say conda he was the most generous of people. What can I add you under my akuna Fiamma ban? He nailed tahu jabril for you.

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Subhana Allah. And in the narration it says kind of a jwala meaning Minar v Hill masala

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the meaning of witches. He was the most generous in Ramadan when gibreel Ali Salam used to come to him and they used to read the Koran to one another. He was very generous. So the Koran alone, when you recite it, it makes you generous. It makes you closer to Allah what is a sign of being close to Allah, I said it earlier, it is that you become closer to the creatures made by the same Allah.

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What's the link between you and I?

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Who ever made me made you?

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Whoever made me made you That's why you are my brother, you are my sister in humanity. I need to reach out to you. If you are making a mistake, if I'm making a mistake, we would expect each other to correct in a beautiful way because we are part of one broad family known as human beings. When you share one mother, one Father, you are siblings. But when you share the Creator, you are brothers and sisters as well in humanity, even if you're not a Muslim,

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you are still my brother and sister in humanity, we reach out to them we are kind to them. If they are not coming to us that does not mean we must not be kind to them. We still should be the Prophet sallallahu Sallam was kind to those who harmed him. He made it to our for those who came to war with him. He prayed for those who made his blood who made his blood hits the ground Allah look at what happened in five when he was able and capable to do something about it. He chose not to because that was the kindness that's what Islam teaches you to have to look at the positives. If I'm going to make a dua to destroy these people they'll be destroyed then once then once I say all my guide them

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if they are guided Mashallah we will benefit Allah, we will you know, huge benefit for the deen that's what happened in life. So the Prophet sallallahu Sallam was so generous that Hadith says he was like the blowing winds you know what is the blowing wind? When the wind blows now all of us here will feel it

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without exception if the wind were to blow we will all feel it and did it decrease it in any way? No, we all felt it. So the prophets of Allah Salaam his generosity was such that everyone felt it.

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Definitely that was not solely monetary. It was also character conduct kind of loophole or on his character was the foreign. My brothers and sisters, I've spoken for

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Long time, one hour and 25 minutes Do you realize that Mashallah

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one of the longer speeches maybe not the longest, but it's very long, I can't recall the last time I came here perhaps it was a little bit shorter. But this time I'm well rested and hamdulillah I feel a little bit more at home. At least I know some of the faces I recognize from the last time so Han Allah, may Allah subhanho wa Taala bless you all, may Allah grant you goodness and ease. May Allah subhanho wa Taala develop us and may we try our best to develop ourselves by the help of Allah subhanho wa Taala. keep on calling out to Allah.

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pray to Allah. And remember that a sign of the acceptance of your prayer is when you become humble, when you are people who reach out to one another. This is why the verses I read at the beginning here

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we're describing at the end of Soto for fun Allah subhanho wa Taala was describing the qualities of the worshipers of

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his worshipers. And one of the things he starts off by saying, Why?

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the true worshipers of Allah when they walk on the earth, they walk with humility, they are humble, they are not arrogant. You know, sometimes a person walks so arrogantly that if you were to everybody would laugh.

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You know, they say when you are too high, when you fall, you get hurt. But when you're low, you fall you don't really get hurt much because you will know anyway. So be careful. We need to understand, be humble. Allah says when you are a true worshiper, you are walk with humbleness and humility. You are very humble and you walk with humility. That's what Allah subhana wa Jalla says. And the last thing that I want to say is the second part of that where Allah says ye the haka Babu, je Luna cardhu, Salah. It is so beautifully worded. When the ignorant address the true worship is when the true worshipers just say peace, and they walk away without engaging them.

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If someone is ignorant, don't waste your time talking to them. If they have a bad intention, and you can see their foul mouth, in order to convince them you might have to become foul mouthed as well. So don't waste your time. Salama, that means you walk away, don't make war with them, make peace with them, smiling. Again, it's happened to me. And I've encouraged a lot of people to do this. Sometimes you have a person screaming, yelling, looking at you just look at them.

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Just smile, they look at you like and then they have to go away. They have no option. Sometimes they start laughing. They say you may I had someone once on the road, we were driving.

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And for some reason, the person felt that I cut them up. So they were so upset when we got to the traffic light.

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screaming and my window was up and screaming and shouting and pointing and whatever else and I just looked at them.

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They just lifted me and said

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they went away. What else if i a lot of people today, they don't do that they will put the window down and start swearing back.

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In South Africa, they take out guns they even shoot.

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I promise you out of something minor, small things people are dead, you can read about it. It's a dangerous place SubhanAllah.

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So this is why we say if you know how to react to those who are ignorant, there won't be any more problems. That this also means that when someone is creating a problem, make sure you resolve it in a way. Make sure you deal with it in a way that does not create a bigger problem.

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If someone sways you by swearing them back, what are you going to gain?

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Are you going to gain you might it might escalate into something huge? May Allah subhanahu wa taala bless us all. May Allah grant us goodness and ease once again. I asked Allah subhanho wa Taala to bless every one of you to bless your nation to grant your goodness everyone who is going through difficulty in whatever way they are going through it. Allah knows what is happening to you. May Allah grant us ease in whatever you are going through amin And may Allah subhanho wa Taala bless you and bestow upon you His mercy May Allah take care of you May Allah grant us all genital filters the day that we leave a poodle Tony holla masala Allahu wa Sallim wa barik ala nabina Muhammad Subhan

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Allah Subhana Allah home we'll be handing the shadow Allah Allah

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wa Salatu was Salam ala nabina

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Mohammed hamdu Lillahi Rabbil alameen