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Mufti Menk

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A lecture delivered in Ghana at the Central Masjid in Kumasi as part of the national tour.

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salaam aleikum wa Rahmatullahi wa barakaatuh

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smilla Rahim In the name of Allah subhanho wa Taala Most Gracious, Most Merciful Alhamdulillah All praise is indeed due to Allah subhanho wa Taala blessings and salutations upon Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam.

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We thank Allah subhanho wa Taala for everything that he has bestowed upon us, we send blessings and salutations upon Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and his entire household. Do you know the meaning of household, his whole family, all of them his wives, as well as his children, and his grandchildren, and every member of his family? May Allah subhanho wa Taala bless them all. And we send blessings as well to all the companions of Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam starting with Abu Bakar

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his name was up to like numerous men, and this man was his father. His father was also known as a vocal halfa. So that is why they called him Abdullah NaVi who have

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we call him

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that is the common name, but it's important for you to know that his actual name is Abdullah Hebner is man.

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They are often

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with men.

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All the companions of Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wasallam are champions. They are superheroes, they are people who were chosen by Allah subhanho wa Taala to be the companions of Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and we ask Allah to make us his companions in the Africa. We ask Allah subhana wa Taala to make us his companions in the archaea.

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Hello, my name Allah, Allah, Allah.

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Allah, Allah, Allah.

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Allahu Allah will be coming in Milan.

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Indeed, we have no knowledge besides that which Allah has granted us We ask Allah to benefit us from the knowledge he has granted us and to grant us beneficial knowledge and to be able to put it into practice and to convey to others. That is what is of ultimate importance. My brothers and sisters in Kumasi in Ghana.

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I think a lot to give me the opportunity to visit you here to witness the warmth and the rich history of Islam in your part of the world. Very rich history. It is important that we preserve this beautiful history. May Allah subhanho wa Taala grant your goodness and growth, May He grant you positive growth, and may He make your offspring steadfast on the deal up to the end of time. I mean,

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once again my brothers and sisters, there was a young boy just before I got up here to deliver my tall who imitated word for word, a lecture of mine.

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So now there is no point for me to speak.

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Now there is no point for me to speak for others. I think the sound was like we are going too high and we are spoiling it we can go back to where it was when I started. So listen, I'm just your brother You can excuse me. I don't mind saying things I don't want to hold it in my heart up to the end and then I go away and I say in Kumasi the sound was not good. I'd rather drop the sound a little bit better to make it such that we cannot even hear each other melas forgive me and me Forgive us all.

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Thank you You see me the difference. Imagine if I was quiet. I would actually end my talk halfway. I would not be myself I will go away almost half crying thinking to myself that I should have said something. And this is why you just need to be genuine. If you are a person. Just be what you are. That's it you don't need to show something that you are not. I arrived in Ghana and guess what happened?

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My bags did not come so panela so I came in without my clothing. Well obviously I was wearing some clothing.

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But I came in without my bag. The clothing was gone. My robes were gone. Everything was gone. My healthcare is gone. Everything was not there. And the bag is lost without trace. Nobody can tell me where that bad is. But I say Alhamdulillah if I did not tell you you would not know right?

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May Allah subhanho wa Taala forgive

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The reason I made mention of it is when you come to people who warmly welcome you when you come to people who are, have hearts that are close to Allah subhanho wa Taala inshallah, then forget about what happened during the journey. You are just a happy men and hamdulillah May Allah keep us happy. And may we not become upset for small material items of this world. Sometimes we get angry because of material things of this world. Well, I hate my brothers and sisters, those material items, Allah knows sometimes that it was better for you to lose something. Sometimes when you lose your mobile phone and you don't have it anymore, maybe there is someone on that phone Allah does not want you to

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communicate with so you lost the number because you had a haram relationship. Allah subhanho wa Taala love you enough to make you lose your phone. Just thank Allah Alhamdulillah Allah.

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Today I want to talk about peace. And I want to talk about a certain angle of peace. You know, when we speak about peace, many people think that we are going to talk about the physical peace. Yes, we have discussed that topic. I've been speaking about it. I touched on it when I was in Kenya last week, when I was in Nigeria the previous week. I touched on it yesterday when I was in Accra, as well. Today I want to touch on another angle of peace. The most important piece is the inner peace, that peace which I need inside myself, no matter what happens. I'm happy. I genuinely am the most

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amazing are the affairs of a true believer, for indeed all the affairs of a true believer are good for him. They are good. When goodness comes in his direction is thanks Allah. He's grateful so that is good for him, he will see growth.

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Allah says if you are going to show gratitude, that indeed, if you are going to show gratitude indeed I will grant you increase, you will have more and more. But if you are going to be ungrateful, Allah says remember, my punishment is very, very severe. May Allah subhanahu wa taala make us from those who are grateful and may protect us from being from amongst those who show in gratitude. So one might ask, how does a person show in gratitude? How am I ungrateful? How can I be ungrateful Allah has given me so much one ma he my brothers and sisters in gratitude and ungratefulness is when you turn away from Allah Himself, the one who gave you everything you have,

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you don't want to fulfill prayer for him, you want to worship that which is besides Allah or something with Allah subhanho wa Taala let me give you this beautiful example, which will be the theme of my lecture today. Look, man, may Allah subhanho wa Taala be pleased with him. Look, man, I'm sure you've heard me right. There is a Surah An entire surah in the Quran named after this man who was looking man and Allah says, some kind of love when a

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man and a

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woman

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Hameed verse number 12 of Surah lukeman

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Allah says, and remember when Allah subhanho wa Taala bestowed upon lukeman wisdom, he was known as Al Hakim, the Wise

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remember when Allah bestowed upon Luqman the wisdom I want to stop there for a minute because Mashallah, when I got here, I asked brother say fula How much time do I have? He says, unlimited, which means I can finish inshallah, with Salah Is that correct? I can finish with the next Salah because the word unlimited is restricted to what Allah has stopped us by, isn't it? If the alarm goes off, we have to stop. May Allah subhanho wa Taala guide us. Look man was wise. Allah mentions his name in the Quran because Allah gave him wisdom. It shows us that wisdom is something very high. It is over and above knowledge. Some people have a lot of knowledge but they don't have wisdom. So

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you know too much information but you don't know how to relate to the people. Allah says.

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Whoever has been granted wisdom has been granted goodness, tremendous goodness, a lot of goodness, abundance and goodness. My brothers and sisters when you learn something, become

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They come down to us learn to interact with people learn to relate to them, learn to greet them, learn to smile with them, learn to interact in a way that your knowledge becomes beneficial to them. Because when money if you are arrogant, nobody wants to take your knowledge from you, they will throw you on one side because of your arrogance. How many of us we learn from those who don't know too much but they know a little bit their character our change the character of others, so they are pleasant to interact with. So we learn from them. Am I right? Subhana light so my brothers and sisters as you learn the difference between the true knowledge of the deity and the knowledge that

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is besides that of the deen the knowledge of the deen comes with humbleness, humility, softness, when you if you are a person who knows your character is soft, what is the evidence of it? Allah says Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam who was more knowledgeable than anyone who existed. Allah says

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Fatima

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morning how Monique

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was

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washer with room feel.

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So Pamela says it is only by the mercy of Allah subhanho wa Taala the mercy of Allah subhanho wa Taala that you are lenient towards them. It's only by the mercy of Allah subhanho wa Taala that you are lenient towards them. If you were harsh and hard hearted, they would have dispersed from around you, they would not be around you. They would run away, they would go away. That is the evidence when we speak about Dean the knowledge of the deal makes you soft, soft in what way towards people, soft towards people. When the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said with me Jamal

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and Abu Salah Sharia law run to Yemen in order to call the Christians to Islam. Do you know what he says? Firstly, he told me I live in the jungle. On another occasion, Yama in Makati, Coleman and Nikita been for the room Illa Shahada de la ilaha illallah wa ne Rasulullah. Omar, if you are going to go to a nation of people of the book, the Christians you need to call them in a beautiful way towards worshiping Allah alone.

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to witness to bear witness that Allah is one and Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam is His Messenger. So in the other direction, he tells the two of them when he is giving them the farewell advice. He says Bashir wala tuna Villa, the two of you are going I want you to give good news. I don't want you to give bad news. Don't chase people away. Don't give bad news where you do the people, my brothers and sisters, if every day I tell you, you are going to burn in the fire, you're going to burn in the fire you will be burning in the fire. Now jahannam is waiting for you. If you head to the right you will see the fire if you go to the left you will see the fire if you look this

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way you will see the fire you are going to burn you are doomed. You are cursed, etc. What will happen? The people will become depressed. They will be depressed. I've seen young people whom when they hear only about the fire every single day, what happens to them, they start thinking you know what? I'm already going to the fire. So what's the point? I'd rather now commit adultery I rather steal I rather gamble do as much as I want because as it is my destination is john Savonarola.

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But rather than that give them good news.

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The deal is based on mercy. When Allah opens tubercle Fatiha he opens it was mercy when you want to stop beating on you start off with the mercy of Allah you say Bismillah his

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name in the name of Allah.

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Most Gracious, Most Merciful. Ar Rahman AR Rahim Bismillah In the name of Allah, He chose the qualities he wants to be mentioned. When you are starting off with his name. He did not choose another quality. He didn't say In the name of Allah who is going to punish and throw the people into the fire. Did he say that? No. He said In the name of Allah who is forgiving, Most Merciful man or Rahim the difference between the two is of Rahim is a special mercy for the believers and our Rockman is a belief is a mercy for everyone believers and non believers also, Allah has mercy.

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It is the mercy of Allah that the sky has not crashed down to the earth and destroyed us. It is the mercy of Allah that the earth is carrying us upon Allah help me.

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When we start to look at how we see, and hamdulillah your beloved me a last minute, he looked at the beauty of it. All praise is due to Allah, Lord of the worlds, the Most Beneficent, the Most Merciful Subhanallah these are the first qualities of love chose to tell us, yes, we will also remind people of the punishment because it is in the Quran. It is a revelation. Definitely. But when we remind people of the punishment, make sure that you don't allow them to feel that they are doomed but rather they should understand and realize that Allah is waiting for them.

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To fill

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in

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me, say oh my worshippers who have transgressed against themselves, tell them that Allah has mercy encompasses everything, Allah will forgive them will forgive every single sin, tell them not to lose hope, in my mercy Latina to millrock Mattila he do not become from among those who despair regarding the mercy of Allah, Allah is most merciful. No matter what you have done, he will forgive you But seek the forgiveness no matter what you have done. He will grant you gentlemen, but work towards gender agenda, but I'm working towards Johanna I want to go to Kumasi but my flight is heading towards Accra. Where am I going to go? May Allah subhanho wa Taala help us? May He grant us goodness

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Try, Try your best. Wherever you have faltered seek the forgiveness of Allah subhanho wa Taala that is how you will attain peace inside you. Many people today they are not at peace. They are searching for peace. They are hunting for happiness, but they are hunting for happiness in that which is going to come to an end. For example, money, money, wealth, material items, will that bring you happiness? It can never bring you true happiness that evidence of it is we have seen wealthy, wealthy wealthy people they cannot sleep without a pill. Do you know that they need to pop some pills before they sleep sleeping pills whereas there are some who barely have some money. But when they sleep, the

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wife writes a letter to us this man is snoring so loud.

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This man is snoring so loud. And nowadays the husband writes a letter My wife is snoring. Allah subhanho wa Taala help us the point being raised is the song is never connected to how much money you have. Never.

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The sound sleep is connected to the condition of your heart by the mercy of Allah subhanho wa Taala and the blessing he has bestowed upon you. You are not worried, not worried at all. Subhana Allah you are content you are happy. That is the favor of Allah subhanho wa Taala people are searching for happiness in so many other things. Do you know what?

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In many countries, you find

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that the women are searching for happiness in makeup.

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It's a reality, they will stand in front of the mirror. They are not happy with what Allah gave them. gave them the best. So they start saying I need to cover my face. I need to look like someone else. I need my nose to belong. I need this to be this way. I need my eyes to look like a kitten. I need for example, my legs to look like plastic and so on. While

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there are women who put makeup on their knees because they want their knees to look somehow a little bit different than they are. That is ridiculous. Did you know that? May Allah subhanho wa Taala forgive us. Islam is the only religion on Earth. That tells you we want you to dress in a way that ensures that people will judge you based on your dedication, your service, your character, your conduct and your deal. Not only your appearance, your complexion, your color your looks. Never that's why Islam says cover yourself. When you don't cover your hair. You're worried about what people will say regarding the hair that Allah has given me how you will never achieve peace. We are

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talking about peace you will go for this dress and you will go for that extension and you will go for the other planets and you will go for those braids and you

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will continue going and spending all your money on your hair on your money on your head to show who to show those who are not allowed to touch it. Those who are not allowed to come near those who are just saying, Wow, when I was a kid, they used to tell us that the dog say bow.

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Why do you want people to say wow, when you know it's not going to help? The day your hair is not according to the standard of some other person who's next to you. They won't look at you anymore. They look at the new style from Brazil. Han Allah, May Allah forgive us. It's happening in society be happy with the decree of Allah. Allah says, You need to just done the job. That's it. You need to done the job. Nobody will judge you based on your hair. Nobody will judge you based on how short or tall or dark or light you are, etc. Or whether your nose is this way or that way or whatever else. They will judge you based on your dedication, your character, your conduct your deen This is why

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when it comes to marriage, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam makes it clear you want peace? Do you want peace in the future, you need to think about who you are going to marry. The Hadith speaks about either a document on bernadina hula hula hoop as a widow.

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If someone comes with a proposal, and this address is to the Olia of the females, this address is to the guardians of the females. If someone comes to you with a proposal, and his level of deal is satisfactory, his level of character is satisfactory. Let him get married. Don't say no for no reason. Obviously, the girl needs to say yes. If the girl is not interested, you're not allowed to force her. Remember that. In Islam. It is hard to force your daughter to marry someone she does not want to marry. Remember that? Did you hear what I said? I'm repeating it because people don't realize in Islam, it is haram to force your daughter to marry someone who she does not want to

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marry. That daughter belongs to Allah before she belongs to you. So you cannot force her. But you need to understand if she is happy. Someone has come up with a proposal and the men's Dean is okay. The men's Suppan alized character is okay. You're not allowed to say you're too dark in complexion for my daughter. She said.

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You're not allowed to say you belong to that tribe. I belong to this tribe. No. You're not allowed to say you come from the north. I come from the south. No. You look at the deal. And that is how you will achieve peace. That man will be the father of your grandchildren. Subhana Allah, that man is going to be your husband Subhan Allah, That woman is going to be your wife. They are going to look after your children. If you went after someone who had 12 inch heels who couldn't even walk on their tiptoes just because they had a skirt, they showed their behind and they showed their breasts and they showed everything to do with their legs and nudity, etc, etc. If that was the reason you chose,

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I want to let you know it's a last plan that that will begin to diminish and disperse. As time passes. It's gone. It's gone. You marry for beauty alone, beauty goes away. I am not saying don't look at the beauty. But I am saying it is not a primary points of decision making. Remember that you look at someone you you might want to compromise a little bit when it comes to looks. When it comes to wealth. You compromise a little bit, Dean and I don't compromise. You don't read Salah. That's it. You're not fit to be the father of my children.

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You're not

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you're not fit to be the father of my children because I want my children really and truly, to grow up seeing the father fulfill the Salah before he even instructs them.

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Well, he my brothers and sisters, if you choose a spouse, say a wife who is covered correctly, properly, your children two years old, three years old, your daughter will want to dress like her mother. Without anyone saying anything. She will fight to wear clothing just like the mother whereas if the mother was nothing, the child will move around naked. It's reality. So you want peace in your future generations. Choose correctly your spouse choose correctly your spouse. I see the older people are just looking at me. I've already made the mistake. What can I do now?

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What can I do now we can turn back to Allah. We can always make Toba we can go back to Allah subhanho wa Taala. If we have made mistakes, there's no harm. Allah always says it's never too late. You are still breathing.

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You are alive. So go back to Allah. ask Allah forgiveness. seek His forgiveness many ways your children can still improve who kind of Allah? May Allah subhanho wa Taala strengthen us you want peace, you need peace in your home, you want peace in your home, you need to choose the spouse correctly. You need to be a mother who's the role model of your children will you want your child to forget about sin, you need to stop adultery. Firstly, you need to stop Zina. Firstly, to begin with, you need to stop gambling and drinking and drugs and smoking and everything else, then you can expect your children inshallah to be guided in a similar way.

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How can we expect our children to live in peace when we are living in pieces?

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how

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everything is broken? why he's fighting with a husband because he's having an affair and you want your daughter to be straight?

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Would you be happy when the Prophet sallallahu Sallam was confronted by one young man who said oh prophet of Allah salallahu alayhi wa sallam, I have the urge of committing adultery. I want to commit Zina. You know what they will open people and they knew they could communicate with him. Imagine how many of our Allah can someone come up to you and say, I want to commit Zina?

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What would happen?

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This is how the Prophet sallallahu Sallam says listen, listen, listen. Would you like it for your mother? He says no, would you like it for your sustenance is new. Would you like it for a daughter of yours? No. Would you like it for your own? No. Well, all the women out there, there are some bodies, daughters, some bodies and somebody mothers, etc, etc. He thought for a moment he said, Well, I don't want to commit it at all. Never ever again. No. hikma wisdom, spoke to him. He convinced him in one small moment to say look, whoever you are committing adultery with is somebody whose daughter, you want someone take them with goodness, In the name of Allah, protect them, give

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them honor. Islam teaches you not to use and abused the women

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in a way that there is no connection between you and then you use them.

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You have done whatever you want to do. And goodbye now you don't know them. Goodbye. That's it. Islam says if you want Yes, you need to be honest. You need to be honorable. You need to do it in a halal way, permissible way. Allah made it easy. How long does it take to do Nika? I don't think more than 35 seconds the last time I did it was a few seconds to Pamela.

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Why not? May Allah help us attain peace in our homes? Remember, as I said, be correct role models for your children. Oh my dear sister, be a role model for your children. And Allah will bless you.

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Let's move on. So the man Allah is Salam is being mentioned because he was wise because Allah gained wisdom. And part of the wisdom is gratitude. Those who are wise they show gratitude when you do good to me, I thank you. The minimum I say is

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you did good to me. I am wise to thank you, when I say thank you correctly, you will inshallah next time be even better by the will of Allah subhanho wa Taala

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imagine a beggar, someone gives him $1 $2 $5 and he just walks away. That is one beggar. But if there is another beggar you give him $1 and he says, I appreciate it. May God bless you, etc, etc. He gives you a lot of praise. He looks thank you so much You have made my day. Maybe there is a tear in his eyes. What will happen?

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Almost immediately you might take $5 and put more.

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Almost me Why? Because he's showing you gratitude, gratitude. What about Allah,

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Allah, you cannot get a for Salah, my brothers, my sisters and he gave you your life. You cannot fulfill your Salah you cannot dress appropriately when Allah subhanho wa Taala has bestowed you with everything you have. You are breathing, you are eating you are drinking you are seeing so Pamela Your eyes are seeing so clearly

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amazing. And you cannot fake Allah you did not read the Quran one month has passed the last time you read the Quran was in Ramadan. Ramadan because they say

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it does not mean it's the only month where for our needs to be read. No. You want to show gratitude to Allah show it. It is part of wisdom.

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So Allah says whoever is ungrateful, Allah doesn't need you. Allah is independent. When you say Alhamdulillah Allah, did you help Allah? No, you help yourself when you says I'm getting up early for salah and you gotta do

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Help Allah. Allah says, What?

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If you are going to turn away? Soon we will replace you with others and they will not be like you, they will be better than you.

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So don't think if I am not a virgin, there will be no one at that machine is full, but you are missing.

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Do you think if I am not a Juma, it's okay. You won't be there. Everyone else is there. I don't think if I do not put on a job, it's okay. There are so many others putting on the job as a result of you taking it out. Remember that? Whenever I visit countries in Africa, I think Allah subhanho wa Taala I see people in the West abandoning that job for everyone in the West who abandoned Egypt, they are killed in Africa who were that Egypt?

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So thank Allah, we won't abandon it. No way. Your identity is being snatched away from you. Don't let it go. Hold on to it. That is your agenda. May Allah subhanho wa Taala bless us all, May He grant us goodness and ease, to fulfill what he has asked us to fulfill. So

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Allah says he was wise, he was thankful, whoever is thankful. Definitely it is for himself. And whoever is ungrateful, Allah does not need him at all. So because Allah makes mention of this man being very wise, Allah now talks about what he said. What he says, if I if I tell you this man is very intelligent. You want to hear from him, right? How is he intelligent? Maybe you can share some intelligence with us. So Allah makes it clear that look man was a wise man. So please share some wisdom with us before we ask that question. A lot already says what you call a local man.

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I start off by saying this look, man, Allah is Allah, Allah. May Allah be pleased with him. What happened? Allah says, remember the time when he was guiding his son, when he was lecturing his son when he was giving some words of guidance to his son alajuela it words of guidance, a speech of goodness, to his son, stop. What do I learn from this? The relationship between father and son is so good that father can say anything to son in a beautiful way? How many of us have relationships with our fathers or with our sons such that we can sit them down beautifully? Tell them Look, my son makes sure that you don't associate partners with Allah. Do you have a relationship with your

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children? The problem is no father comes into home like a lion.

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roaring everyone runs away Why daddy's who saw the law change that change that? Well, I come home with a smile. They look at you They must have you they must embrace you alive.

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You tell them I love you my son they need to hear this. Some people think when you are a good Muslim, you cannot say I love you those words.

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Were show me where they have.

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where

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some people say I love you.

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The hubby says when you love someone for the sake of Allah, you tell them I love you for the sake of Allah that is the Hadees so to tell your children I love you will love it, you will get the big reward, isn't it? shorting many children write to us saying my father doesn't love me my mother doesn't care. Why?

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Allah blessed you with children.

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And you are saying there is no relationship between me and my children how to please my brothers and sisters developing learn from the man. He could sit with his sons over the sun and talk to him openly about matters. Today there is a problem of pornography. Do you agree? Very big problem because it's on your phone? Well it my brothers and sisters if it is on your phone deleted today, deleted for the sake of Allah that is showing gratitude to Allah. Allah. I heard a talk in the central Masjid in Kumasi, and I was told to delete it and I will delete it for your sake. It's gone.

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Well, I don't be ashamed.

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Today is the day the one who's ashamed will be shamed by himself. He's the only one who will be ashamed. I was saying there is a problem of pornography. How many parents can talk to their children

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About pornography. The problem is parents themselves are involved in pornography. That is a problem. It's a reality.

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So that's why we can't even talk. Because your son has already seen what's in your phone. Your daughter has seen what's on your phone.

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It could not have been more embarrassing, but for you, it's nothing. For you, it's nothing you like, Oh, that was just a message from someone I don't know who sent it to me. Stop giving excuses deleted. C'est la. Bella, you want to protect yourself and your offspring, cut off that pornography, chop it off. We don't need it. It will not bring about happiness. It makes you disrespect your wife and your husband and the opposite sex. It makes you start becoming an animal in your head. Your peace is gone. Because you are watching things that are dirty. You start looking at animals in a dirty way. because your mind is dirty. No peace, no peace. If you want to take someone's peace away

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within one minute. They just need to witness a pornographic clip. Then peace is gone. It's gone. seek Allah's forgiveness. May Allah forgive us all. seek Allah's forgiveness. It is an age where the mind is being tempered with people are becoming such that they engage in sexual behavior. That is unacceptable. totally unacceptable. But who taught them? Where did they get it from? They got it from pornography on their phones, they are hooked on to it they see things that are dirty and filthy. Yet to fulfill intimacy with your spouse is an act of worship. Do you know that the Buddha had become sadaqa? The Hadith the prophet SAW Selim says to fulfill your intimacy with your spouse

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is a sadaqa How can it be a dirty act? How can we stop wanting to do filthy things when it is a Santa? It is something you will get a reward for the Sahaba was surprised?

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How can we get the reward?

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Shahada can one of us reach his climax and he gets a reward for that.

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The Hadith, the Prophet sallallahu Sallam was open. He says, Do you see if he did it in a way? Would he get the sin? They said yes. Well if he did it in a halal way he would get a reward to Panama. My brothers and sisters is enough.

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We need to have a good relationship in our homes. Build your home you will see peace. Develop your character speak nicely to your family members. I said when you go home It should not be a cat and mouse story. It should be a loving story when you die. Your children can say my mother my father. They were the best of people alive, Mr. camara Bona Oh, come on.

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So do

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you know the drought that Allah makes mention of insurance? We've got one

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man Come on.

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Oh Allah, Oh Allah have mercy on them the same way they brought me They are the ones who brought me up. Have mercy on them.

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salon says to his son, the first thing what is the first point? Allah could have mentioned so many points, but he started off? Yeah, wanna yell at me like, Oh, my son, do not engage in shift. shift. shift is a word.

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You must never get tired of listening to it. When you hear the word shoot, you must think Allah someone is warning you about something that Allah has warned you in the biggest way about?

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don't associate partners with Allah worship Allah alone. That is the difference between Islam and the other face. I give you an example.

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In Islam, when someone comes to you with a powerful message, do you worship the person who was carrying the message? Or do you worship the owner of the messenger is Allah, you worship Allah.

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Myself, I came to you, I cannot forgive your sins. You do not confess your sins to me. I am a mortal just like you. I am a person who needs forgiveness just like you. I'm a man just like you. So you cannot say Forgive me, you cannot come to me and seek or try to confess your sins Who am I? Your confession is made to the one who made you alone in the darkest hour of the night or at any time of the day or night, you confess to Allah azza wa jal, he will forgive you no one else no other creature of Allah deserves that you confess to them. Not at all.

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Can I forgive you? No, not for a sin you committed between yourself and Allah? No, you will go to Allah to seek forgiveness. Yes, if you have wronged a human being you stole his well you deceived him, for example, you were backbiting about him, then you can seek forgiveness from that particular person for the sinew committed against them. Remember this last wish you need to be learning, don't associate partners with Allah. I was in Accra last night.

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And the excitement in the crowd was such that when I entered the hall, they began

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to do that. and various other sounds so loud that I was embarrassed. I was embarrassed because what I am just a human being, I am a human being will lie. I don't deserve that I don't at all deserve even a fraction of that.

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It's the message that is powerful. It is the Quran I tell you a fact is the message I was carrying was not from Allah tala rasuluh, you would not know me, do you know that? Is the message I am carrying was not from Allah and His messenger. You will not know me there are millions of other people you don't know. I don't know. We don't know. Because there is no common factor. You know me and I know you because of Allah. That's all. Not because of me.

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Subhana light so be careful. When you honor people do not let that honor or respect become an act of worship. Remember that.

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We will honor our Allah we will respect our scholars, we will benefit from our leaders definitely. But worship is to allow remember that. Yeah, hula, hula to chick fil a, oh my son, you want peace, don't engage in shift in the shilka laluna. When shift is indeed the worst type, the greatest type of oppression you have done wrong.

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In the Arabic language when you speak about linguistically it means what a shame if you lay my hand to put something in a place that it does not belong. To put an act of worship in a place that it does not belong. Be careful. You want peace you will be at peace by the will of Allah subhanho wa Taala on conditions that you wish him alone. And in order to worship Allah alone you and I know that Allah sent messengers to show us how he wants to be wishes.

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Allah sent messages to us to show us how he wants to be worshipped. So the messengers came one after the other mouse and now Solana.

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Then we sent our messengers, one after the other. One after the other many messages we don't even know the number. But Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, the final messenger

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he came to the school to teach us how Allah wants to be worshipped. So when you worship Allah, make sure you are doing it according to the teaching of Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam so

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I cannot choose to worship Allah according to my head. For example, I think I love Allah Allah. So I look up in the sky, and I start waving my hand is that worship? That's not worship.

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People will look at me and they will take me to the mental hospital. Right? I don't think you have one in Kumasi because all the people here are intelligent Mashallah.

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May Allah bless you. So, this is called achieving inner peace, the first step, so can worship Allah alone. Yaga May Allah, Allah, Allah

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after that, after Allah speaks about worshiping Him alone, he says,

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with semi lemon Allah, Allahu Akbar, Allah says, And Allah has enjoined upon you to be kind and dutiful to your parents.

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After Allah speaks about worshiping himself, he talks about kindness to parents. Be kind to your parents.

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Why? Let me explain why. Who created you Allah? Who did he

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Choose to bring you onto the earth via your parents who chose your parents or law? Did you choose your parents? No.

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If we had a choice, every one of us would want to be born somewhere else somewhere. Allah says, No, I know what is best for you. I know what is part of your test, you will have certain parents, the parents are a test for you and you are a test for the parents.

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The parents are a test for you because you have no choice. Those are your parents, they might be bad people. Sometimes they might instruct you to do that, which is how sometimes don't follow that. You follow that which is correct and upright. If they tell you to do something evil or to commit a crime, you will not commit a crime simple.

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And you are a test for your parents because as you grow up, your parents need to release they need to release by the will of Allah. What does that mean?

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When it comes to marriage, for example, they need to get you married not according to their whims and fancies, but according to what Allah has asked them to do. That's your test. My dear parents, when you are getting your children married, it is a very big test for you. What is the test? Allah is watching to see, do you allow them to get married? where Allah has allowed them to marry? Or do you have your own tribalism, nepotism, racism, and all the other wrong isms that are there? If that is the case, you have failed.

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It's a reality. Many, many, many of our children are suffering because of parents who do not follow Islam. When it comes to marriage, and they think it is Islam. They blame Islam in order to block a marriage that is Hello, it's permissible. My brothers and sisters, you want to protect your offspring and progeny from committing adultery and fornication you need to allow and facilitate and make easy the marriage the more marriage becomes difficult the easier Hara becomes, and Xena

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you're making one difficult, the other one becomes easy. You make Nika easy. Who wants to commit adultery? No one.

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May Allah subhanho wa Taala. Guide us. May Allah guide us and open our doors.

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We are talking about peace. This is how you achieve peace. Respect your parents and fulfill their rights, respect your children and fulfill their eyes. It is not one way. Many times we only talk to the crowd, oh your parents, your parents, your parents, but we forget to say my parents, your children, your children, your children. It is two way traffic, not one.

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We don't achieve peace because the man is a tyrant in the home.

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He wants to control himself, his sons, his daughters, his sons in law, his daughters in law, his grandchildren, his great grandchildren, every one, every single decision must happen. According to him while he has money. He's a big man, how

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how

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the wife of your son is not under your control, she is under the control of your son.

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Meaning their relationship is between them.

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She will be kind to you as a father of her husband, or a mother or husband. You cannot control the whole home Otherwise, the peace we are talking about today will will leave your house you will never see peace while you want to control everyone.

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You need to know where Allah told you to stop you stop. Now the territory is someone else's. Imagine the president of another country coming to this country and he wants to rule here there will be war.

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That's what we are doing in our houses. Your jurisdiction you have crossed it. Why?

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Don't cross it. Give them their freedom. Yes, you can guide them, you can advise them. The president of one country can advise the president of another country no harm, they will welcome the advice they create a block of many countries together they call it ECOWAS. Have you heard that?

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Why? Together they want to see how they can benefit each other. It's good. But nobody can say right? I'm ruling your country from tomorrow. No, not at all. Not at all. We are doing that in our houses.

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Don't my mother's my father's Remember, your children are married. respect those who are your daughters in law and sons in law, respect them. Don't expect too much respect them. Speak kindly to them speak good about them to other people. Not when we leave on my my daughter in law is very lazy, very lazy. Why do you have to say that there will be no peace. You're going to take away the peace from your heart in the hearts of others. They will live with you but every day they will say

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When someone says Allah, Oh Allah, you know what that means? May Allah give them a long life, they will say, nah,

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Allah take this person away ASAP. As soon soon soon, soon, soon,

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as soon as possible, why? Why do I want people making sure that I die? Why

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May Allah subhanho wa Taala bless us. So this is lukeman Look what we learned from him, we learned the relationship between parents and children. And on top of that, the issue of shields, and on top of that, we issue of parents and children, respect them, the verses I read, they say if your parents are not Muslim, and they are asking you to associate partners with Allah, then that particular instruction, you don't follow it. But you keep on living with them with kindness and goodness, just excuse them.

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Imagine that shows you the relationship we should be having with the kuffar with the disbelievers. What is it?

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We have a point beyond which they will worship something we will worship something else we will Subhanallah not be forced to worship anything besides Allah, we excuse ourselves, but we will still fulfill their rights. We will still fulfill their rights and we will still continue in a beautiful way. So kind of like

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to see they said five minutes.

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But you are my witness at the beginning when I asked the question What did they say?

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unlimited. It reminds me of the mobile network. When the data they say it's unlimited and after 200 Mb they want to stop your phone No, no, no, my brother. This was supposed to be 10 gigabytes one time. Shall Allah subhanho wa Taala Bless you. Oh,

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do you allow me to go above the five minutes?

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Did you hear that? I don't know whether I had yes or no.

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Mashallah, okay, we'll end in five minutes or

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so my brothers and sisters, let's understand something. Allah subhanho wa Taala thereafter makes mention of lumen and Hakim's advice to his son regarding Salah, the prayer

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yagoona Kimmy salata, watermarble Mousavi, one handle moussaka. Oh my son, fulfill and establish your prayer. If you want peace, establish your prayer, find yourself in the masjid fulfill the Salah, fulfill it five times a day in our case, because our Sharia is the charity of Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, fulfill this and you will find peace. If you don't have peace, you are missing out on your Salah you want peace? Forget about materialism, to have the latest mobile phone will not make you happy to have the latest of this and that will not make you happy. That is temporary. It comes with its own problems. It comes with its own difficulties.

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It comes with its own challenges, but to have a law on your side. That is what will make you happy. Fulfill your Salah, fulfill it in a beautiful way in a way that you consider it an honor to fulfill then you will get closer to Allah subhanho wa Taala

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as my son, encourage people to do good and discourage them from bad, I think many of us will stop doing that. encourage people to do good you see someone who seek a better life. I asked you to be conscious of Allah. My brother Don't do this. My sisters don't do that. You know what happens today? When we say my sister, please don't do this. You're judging me. You're judging me not being judgmental. Have you heard that? Yes. There is a difference between advice and judging. I didn't judge you. If I judge you I would have said my sister. You are going to jail for two weeks. That is a judgment. I think it says that.

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My sister You are going to the fire that is a judgment. I didn't judge you but Am I not allowed to say my sister Please don't do this. It's not good for you are judging that is advice that is beautiful. That is asuna that is what allows you to do our best

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to ask people to do good will not

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discourage people from bad

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so inshallah we will we will make sure that we don't feel bad when someone encourages us to do good and discourages us from bad and we will also do likewise to the rest of the people as best as possible but do it with wisdom with tech if you see someone smoking you don't go and punch him know you tell him my brother You don't want cigarettes are bad for you. It's better you develop the habit. You see what the boxes cigarettes kill cigarettes kill. You know, I was in an airport recently and I saw something it was a Muslim

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At the duty free I saw so many cigarettes, and it says they're smoking,

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harms smoking harms. So when I was passing quickly I thought it says smoking Haram.

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I thought it says smoking. And I look twice and

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then I thought to myself look, the word harm and the harm they're very close right or wrong. The difference is one day because what is how harms Did you hear it? And what happens is same thing to Panama. Have you thought of that? I didn't think of it last week. Amazing. So now, when they are cigarettes, it says smoking harms you need to know it also means smoking haraam. May Allah subhanho wa Taala guide those who have that bad habit to quit it say Amin

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Amin was very loud it means there are very few smokers in Kumasi.

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You see I know it because when the smoke is in front of you, they don't say I mean quickly. They are quiet when you say that loud you to leave it they just

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so my brothers and sisters remember this Allah subhanho wa Taala then says inshallah will end no problem inshallah, by the will of Allah I have been speaking for 56 minutes. So according to my clock, I have four minutes remaining. So Allah says, regarding what Look man, he told his son, Allah says Yamuna in

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Kala

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TB Allah in Allah halabi fukami. He's showing his son Oh my son, no matter how small no matter even if it is the size of a mustard seeds, weight, width of a deed alone will bring it forward. Even if it is under the rocks, no matter where it is. You cannot hide from Allah. What is this teaching? He's teaching his son, you are answerable to Allah, everything you do. You are accountable to Allah, nothing can hide from Allah, you have to answer to Allah.

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Whatever you've done, Allah will take a record he knows and he will ask you.

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So I have done things I might be embarrassed about. You have done these you might be embarrassed about what is the way forward? The way forward is seek Allah's forgiveness, it is wiped out a lot. Did you hear that? If you are embarrassed about something you say, Oh Allah, forgive me, I admit myself, I will not do it again. And I regret it. Allah says I've forgiven you, your sin is wiped out, forget about it, it's gone. It's all of a sudden you leave Don't do it again. Carry on. Simple as that. So Allah is teaching us through the story of Luqman Hakim, to say Allah knows everything no matter where it happens. And the last part that I want to mention is character conduct. yahoomail

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Oh, my beautiful son. You know the word used is una una is a sweet term.

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And Allah subhanho wa Taala speaks about how the father tells his son, Walla.

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Walla

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Do not turn your cheek

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against people. You know, you turn your cheek and you want to walk like you are higher than everyone else. know who

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you are just like everyone else. You are just like everyone else. Be humble. speak about character again, notice, and when you walk, walk with humility, don't want with haughtiness, no walk with humility, and a lower blesser.

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And then, when you speak well,

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Allah subhanho wa Taala speaks about

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the eyes and the voice. When you speak, don't scream and yell in a way that no one can understand what you are saying. You know, when something bad happens

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a lot of the times people start screaming, they scream and you don't know what happened.

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What happened?

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But what happened? Come on, please tell me what happened.

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So unless you speak say something, there is no point in yelling in such a way. Allah says in non Kerala Swati.

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The West sound is the sound of a brain donkey. When the donkey prays, do you know what he says? No. When the donkey makes the noise? Do you say why they come with Salah? Not at all. Because you don't even know what has been said. May Allah bless you all my brothers and sisters, my time is up. I spoken exactly for one hour aku kolyada sallallahu wasallam

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was Salam aleikum wa

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