Mufti Menk – In A Family, It’s About Give And Take

			As you learn
		

			you teach you lead if your if your
		

			spouse knows more than you then she can
		

			teach you insha Allah as well Is she,
		

			born Muslim or revert as well? Born Muslim.
		

			So she can teach you, and as she
		

			teaches you, you can lead the way, you
		

			know, and perhaps,
		

			within the family, it's just a matter of
		

			give and take. You are the amir, but
		

			it doesn't mean that all the decisions come
		

			from you alone. You could choose to to
		

			let your your wife help in so many
		

			different things, and, mashaAllah, that happens.
		

			So congratulations,
		

			my brother.
		

			And, just a quick one, just a quick
		

			one. As a father figure, how old are
		

			you, brother?
		

			I'm I'm 30 1. Oh, 31. Okay. Slightly
		

			older than my eldest child.
		

			But I tell you one thing. A lot
		

			of the times I mean, I noticed some
		

			of the sisters, some of the brothers,
		

			when we get up, don't be afraid to
		

			say.
		

			It's okay. Don't don't be afraid.
		

			It's okay. Sometimes we take it for granted,
		

			and sometimes we forget because we're used to
		

			the highs and hellos and all that. It's
		

			it's fine.
		

			You the
		

			is a proper way of greeting. Right? It's
		

			it's a prayer for someone else.
		

			And then you can say all your good
		

			mornings, good afternoons, good evenings, hallows, and highs,
		

			and so on. That follows the assalamu alaikum,
		

			inshallah. So that was just a piece. But
		

			but regarding what you asked me,
		

			as as you learn, inshallah, you you put
		

			into practice.
		

			You you won't know everything. I do not
		

			know every single thing. I might know a
		

			lot more than you, perhaps, but I don't
		

			know every single thing. If there's something I
		

			learned today
		

			from evidence, my life will change
		

			regarding that particular matter. That's how it works
		

			in Islam. So it's a learning curve right
		

			to the end, right to the end, inshallah.
		

			Barakala fiqh.