Mufti Menk – How to Control you Temper

			Salam Alaikum, my brothers and sisters to control your anger and temper and effort is required. It's
not just going to come like that you need to make an effort. So firstly, you need to know that when
you're getting angry you seek the protection in Allah from shaitan the accursed because anger is
from the devil are all do bIllahi min ash shaytaan regime I seek refuge in Allah from Shaytaan, The
Accursed that is Asuna to our which means it's a supplication taught by the Prophet Muhammad peace
be upon him. And then it is actually mentioned in the Quran as well. And thereafter, you may drink
some water, if you're standing, you sit down, you drink some water, if you're sitting you may lie
		

			down. But my brothers and sisters an effort is required become conscious of your temper. That's what
it is. Become conscious of your temper, and swallow it, gulp it, take it in, smile, break into a
smile, but you have to be very powerful to do that. You have to be extremely strong, just like when
you want to build your muscles, you lift weights, and you start off with two and then four and then
10 and then 20 and then 50, and so on. And you and you practice every day in the same way. Your
temper you need to practice every day. Whenever you are getting a little bit angry quickly change
your tune and your tone, change your attitude, break into a smile, just say a good word. Turn away,
		

			go away. Don't involve in that speech that's making you angry. When someone misbehaves on the road.
Do not show that road rage from you. Don't let it come from you. And if someone else has displayed
their rage on that road, remember, calm down, smile at them or ignore them. But if without an
effort, you're not going to be able to help yourself. Similarly, keep on asking Allah Almighty to
help you extinguish your anger. Keep on asking Allah Almighty to help you extinguish your anger.
It's a very, very important prayer and supplication. So you ask Allah, you sought the protection in
Allah from shape man.
		

			You sat down if you were sitting, you drank water, for example, you walked away if you were getting
upset, or you just said a good word, or you broke into a smile, you become stronger, and then you
start ignoring things. And slowly but surely, over a period of a few weeks to a few months, you will
be able to calm down, especially with your children and your family members. Remember to calm down
especially with those who work for you, under you remember to come down because the Prophet
sallallahu alayhi wa sallam clearly told one of his companions, if you think you can vent your
frustrations on this person, remember, Allah has greater hold over you than you have over this
		

			person, which means whatever you've done, Allah will probably do something to you. And that would be
equally damaging or even more if you don't turn to Allah or seek forgiveness from the person you
have wronged because when you're angry, you start saying things keep quiet. You know, people divorce
their spouses, people swear they scream, they shout, they actually say things they regret later, too
late, too late, it shattered, the glass is shattered. Now what? So therefore learn to control your
temper, become conscious of it and be powerful enough to actually just gulp it and extinguish it.
That's why the Hadith of the prophets Allah salAllahu alayhi wa sallam he says, A person who has
		

			extinguished their anger, knowing that they could have vented it on the Day of Judgment, they are
called and given a special prize, may Allah Almighty grant us ease. A Salam aleikum wa rahmatullah
wa barakato.