Mufti Menk – How Should You Deal With People Who Do Nasty Things
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The speaker discusses the importance of protecting oneself from negative behavior and constantly interactions with others. They emphasize the need to take a step back and reexamine one's behavior and approach. The speaker also warns against telling people to be stupid and suggests seeking help from Allah to correct behavior.
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So we work on our qualities. We need
to have, we need to have a feeling
towards others, a positive feeling. Sometimes people do
negative things to you, really, really nasty things.
And
I want to take a moment to address
that today.
People do nasty things. How should you,
how should you process that? Number 1, protect
yourself from that.
So you don't need to keep on, you
know, being in the company of those who
are really causing harm to you. If you
can help them and you're a mentor or
you're a teacher or you're a person who's
trained to help others or you think you
can, by all means keep on interacting and
help them. And help them to come out
of it. That is level 1. That is
the top of all, if you are and
you can.
To a degree
now, I can.
I don't mind interacting with haters.
I really don't mind. But
there's a point because we are human beings,
it starts affecting us.
And it bothers you. And it starts affecting
your health.
At that juncture you need to know,
together with seeking the protection
of Allah from this type of
behavior and these type of people,
you need to step back. Because a believer
is not bitten from the same direction twice.
Why should I keep on hearing someone saying,
you're stupid. You're stupid. And they look at
you, you are stupid. And they keep looking
at you and you're stupid. And you just
say,
tolerating, I'm a good Muslim.
You'll start believing that.
That's why we're taught not to tell our
children such words. Don't ever belittle your kids,
they start believing those words.
They really start believing those words.
So don't say that. Say good things to
your kids. Empower them if you want to
correct them. Correct them by all means you
must, it's your duty but respectfully.
That's what we are taught.
So you take a step back
and there comes a time when you can
cut a relationship because of how
toxic it has become.
What they're saying to me, the harm that
is reaching me is unbearable.
It's affecting my relation with Allah, my mind,
my health. I can't sleep at night and
so on. But
when you go back to Allah, it will
help you remedy it where you start realizing,
you know what? That person's not in the
equation.
It's me and Allah.