Mufti Menk – How Do You Get Married

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The speaker discusses how people are used to being "monkeyed up" by others and not being able to see the person they want to meet. They also mention that people are used to being "monkeyed up" by others and not being able to talk about their feelings or situation. The speaker apologizes for the lack of clarity in their approach and assures their audience that they are sad that their feelings have not been met.

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			And that's why I believe that you know
		
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			what? You wanna get married, meet the person,
		
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			see the person, talk to the person. It's
		
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			no longer like it was before where everyone
		
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			had
		
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			an uncontaminated upbringing waiting for their person of
		
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			marriage. And then when you come up you're
		
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			so clean and pure to go, good to
		
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			go. You're not contaminated by the social media
		
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			of the world because it didn't exist. The
		
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			word social media was non existent. So it
		
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			worked. It worked. Because you know what? People
		
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			grew up, boys and girls grew up, and
		
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			they would they grew up with the qualities
		
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			required for someone to get married to them.
		
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			And when they when they grew up, no
		
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			matter what it would work because
		
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			even if your father or mother, like what
		
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			happened to me, and they said, you know
		
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			what? We suggest you marry this person. You
		
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			sure? If that makes you happy, I'm gonna
		
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			do it. That's it. That's what I said.
		
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			That's what I said. Such a good boy.
		
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			Wouldn't you like to have a son like
		
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			me, guys?
		
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			I regret having said that, man.
		
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			In the sense that I should have said,
		
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			no problem. Let's consider it. Masha'Allah. Well done.
		
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			Let's meet. Let's talk. Let's it could I
		
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			could have avoided
		
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			the things that may have happened later on
		
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			my life that I regret it. But it's
		
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			okay. It's okay.
		
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			Allah wanted something.
		
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			But my brothers and sisters, look at how
		
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			when Allah blocks something, we get upset not
		
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			knowing that, hey, I've got a plan for
		
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			you. Do you know this person I'm talking
		
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			of today, right?
		
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			You're madly in love with them because that's
		
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			one crisis
		
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			is we already
		
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			more than married to someone without the nikah
		
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			and now we want to halalize it with
		
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			our fathers and mothers. That's it. That's it.
		
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			I'm coming in and telling my dad, you
		
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			know dad,
		
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			and
		
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			dad says, I know. Do you have someone
		
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			in mind? Yes.
		
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			Tell him the truth.
		
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			I don't have him in mind, I have
		
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			him on my bed.
		
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			Astaghfirullah.
		
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			That's what's happening.
		
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			Tell him the truth. It's a fact of
		
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			life.
		
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			That's how far we've gotten. There's no point
		
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			in
		
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			being ashamed of what's happening in the sense
		
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			that to talk about it. But we are
		
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			sad that that's a it's a reality. I
		
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			know I deal with young boys and girls.
		
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			Many of them way beyond what you would
		
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			do as a husband and wife. And then
		
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			they're saying, can I get married to him?
		
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			Hey, you should have come and said this
		
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			5 years ago, man. 5 years ago.
		
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			And don't be ashamed, Tell him exactly what
		
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			waters you're in.
		
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			He says, no, you can't. You know why
		
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			they are Pakistani
		
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			and you are Bengali. Have you heard that
		
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			before?