Mufti Menk – How Do You Get Married
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The speaker discusses how people are used to being "monkeyed up" by others and not being able to see the person they want to meet. They also mention that people are used to being "monkeyed up" by others and not being able to talk about their feelings or situation. The speaker apologizes for the lack of clarity in their approach and assures their audience that they are sad that their feelings have not been met.
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And that's why I believe that you know
what? You wanna get married, meet the person,
see the person, talk to the person. It's
no longer like it was before where everyone
had
an uncontaminated upbringing waiting for their person of
marriage. And then when you come up you're
so clean and pure to go, good to
go. You're not contaminated by the social media
of the world because it didn't exist. The
word social media was non existent. So it
worked. It worked. Because you know what? People
grew up, boys and girls grew up, and
they would they grew up with the qualities
required for someone to get married to them.
And when they when they grew up, no
matter what it would work because
even if your father or mother, like what
happened to me, and they said, you know
what? We suggest you marry this person. You
sure? If that makes you happy, I'm gonna
do it. That's it. That's what I said.
That's what I said. Such a good boy.
Wouldn't you like to have a son like
me, guys?
I regret having said that, man.
In the sense that I should have said,
no problem. Let's consider it. Masha'Allah. Well done.
Let's meet. Let's talk. Let's it could I
could have avoided
the things that may have happened later on
my life that I regret it. But it's
okay. It's okay.
Allah wanted something.
But my brothers and sisters, look at how
when Allah blocks something, we get upset not
knowing that, hey, I've got a plan for
you. Do you know this person I'm talking
of today, right?
You're madly in love with them because that's
one crisis
is we already
more than married to someone without the nikah
and now we want to halalize it with
our fathers and mothers. That's it. That's it.
I'm coming in and telling my dad, you
know dad,
and
dad says, I know. Do you have someone
in mind? Yes.
Tell him the truth.
I don't have him in mind, I have
him on my bed.
Astaghfirullah.
That's what's happening.
Tell him the truth. It's a fact of
life.
That's how far we've gotten. There's no point
in
being ashamed of what's happening in the sense
that to talk about it. But we are
sad that that's a it's a reality. I
know I deal with young boys and girls.
Many of them way beyond what you would
do as a husband and wife. And then
they're saying, can I get married to him?
Hey, you should have come and said this
5 years ago, man. 5 years ago.
And don't be ashamed, Tell him exactly what
waters you're in.
He says, no, you can't. You know why
they are Pakistani
and you are Bengali. Have you heard that
before?